One basic Red Pill idea is the concept of not losing your frame in front of your significant other. But a constant we all have seen everywhere is what happen to a couple after they have children.

When you have a child, this became the most important part of the relationship and at the same time, is a task mostly women deal with. But because of changes in the society, the man is supposed to help with the million tasks around having a baby (cleaning, feeding, playing, etc).

At the same time, the woman always became the expert in the child, so she really knows how to feed it, what to do when he starts crying etc. Both parents get very stressed but I see usually the man lose his frame because of his apparent inability doing the most important thing (raising the baby).

The woman is all the time telling how to do things the right way, correcting mistakes, etc. and I see in their faces how they disrespect the husband: being bad at something is totally unattractive.

So a common scenario is the woman divorce after a few years (3 seems to be the magic number), just because the man - who usually were the only one working full time - lost his frame.

So I would like to know your opinions in how to deal with this situations the right way. Personally I am a fan of not having kids (successfully achieved so far) but I know I am an exception and I think it would be very helpful to point out what are the mistakes those men are doing on the first years. Being divorced with a 3-5 years old kid is an horror story no one deserve.

Thank you for your comments.