I have made a lot of changes in my life but I am still being seen as a beta male.

SunnyFoxes · 2016-07-15T09:39:51+00:00

If you can move to another city and make new friends. Start over.

This happens more than people realize. Your so called friends don't want you to change the social order, they want to keep you below them in the pecking order. They want you to stay a beta boy that they can control.

But you are becoming unpredictable and that will upset the Apple cart. They will start trying to shame you with things like "You are acting weird!"

It will esculate after that till they start trying to give you orders like, "Don't be such an asshole!" Even when you are objectively not being a prick.

Followed by threats and altumatums.

If you have to stay for whatever reason make new friends, alpha freinds. You will be judged by the people closest to you. Choose wisely.

metallica11 · 2016-07-15T15:06:33+00:00

Lost faith in post after reading "deadlift 700 pounds"

FoxhoundBlack · 2016-07-15T07:14:48+00:00

Are you still hanging out with the same beta losers?

Don't get me wrong, I still hang with a lot of my friends from high school, but I've found that the ones who appreciate me the most are not those people. Only 1 of my friends from my teen years has remained one of my closest friends and he's the only one who has unplugged with me.

Calm your mind. Be okay with who you are and what you are doing. You are living for yourself.

Take up boxing or mma (learn to actually fight). It's a rewarding experience that empowers you like nothing else, surrounds you with like minded individuals (usually men) and of course you'll learn the most alpha and valuable skill: being confident that you know how to fight. Also, if it comes down to it, YOU will be the person people look to in fearful situations.

The first time you spar, record it. Then after a few months of more sparring, record yourself again. You'll be embarrassed at how shitty at fighting you were to begin with and how foolish you looked. But the humility is important. It's important that you look good in the ring or cage for YOURSELF, and no one else. You'll be in an environment where this is encouraged.

Be patient, but if you are angry, use that as your motivation to hit the gym. Get in there and work out in front of the mirror during those times. Even if you don't feel like it, step into the gym and just get a good pump (light weights, lots of reps).

You'll feel like a jackass for bro-lifting, but who cares? You'll realize during your sets that you're really there for you. If you can get in there and lift and not care about what others think in the gym, it'll be the first step to not giving a fuck outside of the gym too.

In your writing I can tell that you still yearn for the approval of others. That's okay, you'll get fed up with looking for the approval of others and eventually start competing with only yourself. learning how to fight or going to the gym for a pump are great self-esteem picker uppers. Personally they help me maintain my frame and put me in a place that reminds me that my goals are for ME and no one else.

oldredder · 2016-07-15T08:56:48+00:00

alpha is the leader. Alpha does not need validation. Alpha needs obedience. Everything else is beta.

Beta is NOT an appearance. Glasses are NOT BETA.

Obedience & following is beta. Needing validation is beta. This is hardwired and can't ever be turned off. You can only fake your way around being alpha but you can never be. It's born only.

GreatWhiteCuck · 2016-07-15T09:33:55+00:00

How long exactly have you been lifting for and what's your bodyweight?

Refigerator1043 · 2016-07-15T14:29:52+00:00

I suspect this is a troll but if not, and you really can pull 700 and dunk a basketball, you have excellent genes. So you're not objectively beta.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-15T16:01:58+00:00

People respect a natural alpha more than someone who faked it

Well that's your problem, you're faking it and people are not buying it.

All good changes you've mentioned about yourself are pure physical, physical is good because it's your presentation card, but if you don't have decent game and personality, it won't work.

People don't care about the path you had to take, they care about the results, stop judging yourself for what you're worth to others, judge yourself for what you are capable of.

Title	I have made a lot of changes in my life but I am still being seen as a beta male.
Author	mananimal1
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	July 15, 2016 6:48 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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