Dealing with body dysmorphia

look4wolfpack · 2016-09-04T02:54:58+00:00

Stop judging yourself by your standards for yourself, which will always be unrealistically high. Stop judging yourself based on what you assume are other people's standards for yourself, because those will always be unrealistic. Instead, judge yourself based on your standards for other people.

If an otherwise cute and fit girl with some facial acne was flirting with you, would you take her home? Probably, so why would you be afraid of having facial acne? If she had a weird birthmark, would you still sleep with her? Probably, so why should you worry about having a weird birthmark? I think one of the worst mistakes people make in judging their own appearance is that they shoot for some form of perfection because they want people to "love them for who they really are, and not be second best." That's non-sense romantic fairy tale bullshit. Get it out of your head. People will only ever love you because you are their best option IN THAT MOMENT and nothing more. When you understand this and accept it, you will be able to overcome great insecurities through simple economy-market logic.

If you haven't started hitting the gym and changing your body, then you aren't doing everything you can do to improve yourself and that's a flaw. However, if you're in great shape and you have some weird stuff going on that you can't control, let it go and stop worrying. Everyone has weird stuff they can't control. You're selling a whole package, not a la carte, so as long as your personality, career, and fitness are in order, chances are you'll get more offers than you know what to do with. With or without the awkward little flaws.

dumstick · 2016-07-26T19:11:24+00:00

In Danish the word for a models or the perfect -body is roughly translated to "beauty ideals". Because it is just that, an ideal. A best case scenario. What you need is a best use scenario. You could possibly achieve a body you're comfortable and even proud in, because it defines the ideals. But this ideal is a lifestyle, a lifestyle that dies at 30. With no future, no education, no income. You don't want to be a model and achieve the ideal. You want to try your hardest to become so but without sacrificing the values that make you a man.

throwabcdaway2 · 2016-07-26T13:36:31+00:00

there's multiple video of rsd tyler complaining about being a balding ginger :) it's funny and you should check the channel, maybe it would resonate to you.

Title	Dealing with body dysmorphia
Author	tsunamus7
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	July 26, 2016 12:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4uoawa/dealing_with_body_dysmorphia/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/dealing-with-body-dysmorphia.108891 https://theredarchive.com/post/108891

Comments