When a person subconsciously views themselves as beta, they have a natural tendency to put others on a pedestal because our subconscious minds impute magical powers to the person we determine to be the alpha of our tribe. Our subconscious minds love the feeling that our alpha is all-powerful, has all the resources we will ever need, and loves us. Therefore, if we subconsciously categorize somebody as the alpha, we impart these characteristics to them and ignore facts that contradict this image. If the alpha treats us badly or ignores us, we subconsciously assume we deserve it and all we need to do is “correct” our behavior to get back in their good graces. We ignore the alpha’s flaws, make excuses for their behavior, and blame ourselves for the alpha’s shitty behavior. This is why abuse victims justify and rationalize what their abuser’s actions – they subconsciously see their abuser as the “alpha” so even when their logical mind realizes he is being abusive, their subconscious mind still thinks he is acting with right.

To make matters worse, humans evolved to feel like there is only one relevant tribe in the world, and therefore only one relevant alpha, so we subconsciously feel like there is nobody else capable of making us happy and if we lose our alpha we will be alone in the jungle forever. This fixation on “one” person to the exclusion of everybody else causes people to become desperate and stalkerish, even when they have lots of options. I have seen very attractive men who could fuck lots of women still lose their mind over one particular girl who did not give a fuck about them. It is wired into our DNA. To make matters worse, popular culture validates and reinforces this irrational emotion with wacky concepts like soulmates and the idea that love is a mysterious, magical force you cannot control and must give into.

Rationally, pedestalization is obviously stupid because there are plenty of fish in the sea and no one person is the source of everything we could ever want to be happy. When you take a woman off the pedestal the “magic” around her disappears and you see her for what she is: a limited human being with strengths and weaknesses, whose only value to you is how she can make your life and emotional experience better. Her pussy is just a wet hole, and while sex is fun, you can have enjoyable sex with lots of women.

Pedestalization is also repulsive to the person being pedestalized. When you subconsciously designate one person as the source of all the good in the world you emotionally overinvest in them, causing you to act beta, needy, and creepy. When you see a woman as the alpha, you supplicate to her, treat her like she is better than you, do things for her she does not deserve, and let her get away with bad behavior. Pedestalization also causes you to be anxious because humans evolved to feel anxious around the alpha so they do not say or do the wrong thing and get rejected from the tribe. This anxiety causes you to censor yourself, which is unattractive because women want a transgressive guy who does not give a fuck what anybody thinks. You cannot read a woman’s mind, so when you fear offending her you become generally boring and dull because you eliminate ANYTHING that could possibly be edgy, transgressive, or interesting. Pedestalization also puts pressure on the person being pedestalized. When you put a woman on a pedestal, you do not appreciate HER, but rather a weird character you created in your brain which is a combination of her and the archetypal alpha. Women do not want to be the alpha and do not want the pressure of being responsible for your happiness. The most common trait I see in men who are terrible with women is that they have unrealistic expectations of women, and they get angry and resentful at women for not living up to the magical image they have in their head.

To not pedestalize women, you must 1) realize that pedestalization is an irrational emotion, and not an accurate representation of reality, 2) stop treating her like the alpha by doing things she does not deserve – the more you treat her like an alpha, the more your subconscious brain assumes she is the alpha, and 3) maintain abundance with women. A man with oneitis is like a drug addict; his brain focuses on one particular path to pleasure because it feels there are no other paths. You must rewire your brain to realize there are many other paths to pleasure, and the best way to do this is to have abundance, which I explain more in the mindset chapter of this book.

Women have the same subconscious desire to pedestalize men so you must talk and act like you are already on the pedestal to appear as the alpha to her. You must act like you are the most awesome guy in the world, you have tons of options, you can make her happier than anybody else (by a long shot), and she is only fortunate enough to be in your presence because she did something significant to deserve it. You should not act like you are just one valuable guy among other valuable guys, but that you are the golden child, the special, uniquely attractive man she cannot live without. Of course, this is totally irrational – you are not that special – but by acting like the alpha you can subconsciously make her feel you are the alpha.

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