Good afternoon RP. Alright, so today we are going to cover a controversial topic and that is LTRs and marriages. I know a lot of dudes on here are adamantly against these types of relationships, but the reality is a lot of dudes on here want to be loved and cherished by a woman. It is simply a relevant topic that should be open for discussion in the manosphere because men as a whole still have a desire to have a family, and as a man who is married and has a family, it is incredibly fulfilling. I want the same things for you if you want them.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a wife and kids, and IT IS something you can attain and keep. Understand though that today’s culture makes it a lot more difficult than it used to be. So I will recommend to anybody reading this, DO THE WORK FIRST. Take 6-7 years of practicing and self-improvement to get to a place where you can read women’s attraction levels like it is second nature and be good at plating and having abundance.

LTRs ARE RP ON HARD MODE - Do not try and do LTRs if you’re new to RP. Period. You will set your progress back years by doing so. You will get run over. You will run head first into shit tests that are beyond your level of experience. You will get dumped and you will get mad at yourself for not understanding what happened even though you’ve read the content. If you’re new to this, anything under 6 years of game, focus on plating and dating and upping your lay count. Many men get into LTRs without ever fucking more than 4-5 chicks and they’re forever slaves to the one pussy they have in their lives. It is imperative that you have lots wild sex with women before you settle down with one. If you’ve never had that, you have no business dating long term or being married.

CHOOSING - Having a choice is absolutely essential to finding a woman you are compatible enough with to have attraction that doesn’t die out. Any chick you decide to get into a LTR with should be a plate who is head and shoulders above the rest and consistently in your life for a very long time. They should take good care of you, know your likes and dislikes, and be able to read you without you having to say anything.

They should say they want to be exclusive with you and still be fine when you say you aren’t interested. And they should be okay knowing you’re fucking other women (don’t rub it in their face though). And most importantly, she should embody EXACTLY what you want in a woman. Again, head and shoulders above the rest to the point where she gives you NO REASON NOT TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH HER. She outfucks all your other plates, you have a better time with her, she’s the hottest, she spoils you more than they do, etc. It needs to be a woman like that that you consider becoming exclusive with. To find a woman like that, you have to be really fucking good with women and that takes years of practice and internalizing all of this stuff.

POWER – The difference between spinning plates and exclusivity is your level of exposure. Spinning plates gives us the advantage because it gives us choice. Plate starts acting up and no longer fun to be around? Cool, 6 other chicks I am talking to would love to take her place. When becoming exclusive, THAT DYNAMIC DOES NOT CHANGE. Women don’t mind sharing alpha dudes, and whether you’ve been exclusive with a chick for 3 days or 10 years, that reality should never change in the context of your relationship.

Women want men that other women want to fuck. You should always be a man other women want to fuck, especially when in an LTR or a marriage. A lot of men get divorced because they stop taking care of themselves and sacrifice their manhood as the stakes of the relationship (having kids, being marriage a long time, etc.) increase. Understand, WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE MARRIED TO PUSSIES. Period. They fucking hate it and they hate the weak men they are married to.

YOU HAVE AN OBLIGATION TO KEEP BECOMING MORE ATTRACTIVE AS THE RELATIONSHIP PROGRESSES OVER THE YEARS. YOU SHOULD BE EVEN MORE CONFIDENT, DOMINANT, AND PHYSICALLY FIT 8 YEARS INTO THE MARRIAGE THEN YOU WERE WHEN YOU FIRST HOOKED UP WITH YOUR GIRL. You should be going out with your friends a few nights a week and leaving her wondering what you’re up to. You should still be talking to women and gauging their attraction levels. If you’re smart, you’ll marry a bi chick who is down to have threesomes and you bring other women home to play with. Which leads into the next section…

PUNISHMENT – Understand, LTRs and especially marriage is Red Pill on Hard Mode. With kids, it’s even crazier. With that, it is insanely rewarding to be loved by my wife and kids. I wouldn’t trade 1000 plates for the experience of raising my 5 kids. But I only get to enjoy it because I am a fucking maniac. My wife gives me no ground to be a pussy. Which means that I am an absolute savage with her and she loves me for it. The idea of PUNISHMENT in terms of an LTR is interesting. Because as you get more and more comfortable together, you find these insane boundary pushing levels of power spark as a result of the tests you run into.

Women want you to put them in their place, period. And they will push further and further if you don’t keep them in check with some hard ass finality. Do not ever, EVER let a chick take your balls from you, or there will be more hell to pay. That means being a man of your word when you rise to the challenge. To the point of doing some grossly unnecessary shit to show you’re not the dude to fuck with. Say, for example, you’re on your way to a date and she starts complaining about the restaurant you’re going to. You can cut that interaction off by saying “Well if you’ve got a problem with it, we can just go back home.” If she starts to escalate the situation even more, simply turn at the next street, drive back home, leave her there, and go out and eat at the restaurant by yourself. In the moment it will seem crazy to do some shit like that and she will likely talk shit to you all the way home. But when she is sitting at home by herself, she will know she is with a man of his word, and most importantly, YOU AIN’T A FUCKING PUSSY.

Another thing that can help with this is learning how to Dom in a BDSM sense. You’d be shocked at the amount of women who crave consensual physical abuse and will bend over backwards for men who are good at it. If you’ve never taken a journey down that road, it is a lot fun and will definitely help to shape the power dynamic in your relationship. A big part of that is being physically intimidating so if you’re a scrawny dude or a fatty, do yourself a favor and stop being those things as quickly as possible.

WHEN IT FALLS APART - Understand this. If you are genuinely an alpha male and maintain that dynamic with your woman, she will not leave you. She may test you and threaten to, but a woman will NEVER LEAVE HER ALPHA. Not truly. If you’re in a relationship long enough there will be a time where you WILL get complacent and your woman sensing no change will try to drop a nuke on you. She will say she is leaving and taking the kids, or give you divorce papers, etc. Again, if you’re an alpha, she WON’T BE ABLE TO STAY AWAY FROM YOU. You are like a drug for her. A few days will go by and if you’ve read my breakup article, you’ll have followed it to a T and just been silent and waiting for the inevitable call or text as your unbreakable spirit will redefine what strength is to her. And in the end, she will love you harder for it.

Final Thoughts - A lot of guys are probably thinking that all of this sounds miserable but for me, it is everything. My wife’s energy is a reflection of mine, so if I’m getting shit, it’s because I’m being shit. I don’t like being complacent, I don’t like being weak. I want to face those challenges because being a man is all about rising to the occasion. My family brings out the wolf in me. I have to be big and bad for them as well as for myself. If not, my people could end up hurting and there are no greater stakes that will drive a man to greatness than the idea of failing the people that he loves. Men have an obligation to do things even if they aren’t easy when it is worth it. Having kids and raising them is the epitome of the human experience and if you throw that away because women are a little shittier today than they were 50 years ago, I’ll just call it like I see it and say you’re being a fucking pussy. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. That saying has been a defining part of my life and it’s why my journey doing this shit has paid off. I endured a lot of pain, failure, anger, frustration, and disgust, all to say fuck it, I’m going to get what I want out of life even if it kills me. Life has a way of rewarding men who get after it like that. Just my two cents.

I’ll probably expand on this article later down the road, but hopefully this provides insight for all stages interested in finding love and keeping a family together.