Hey RP. Good evening.

Today I'm going to cover my time in SOF (Special Operations Forces) and what I've learned from the crazy shit I've done and seen working with some of the baddest men on the planet.

For reference, I'm not an operator. I'm an enabler, what people outside the community often call the support component. We are the roadies to their rock stars and like the road crews of legend, we also get to do and see some crazy shit. My job affords me the opportunity to be farmed out to different teams, and within those teams, my job requires me to become embedded with a platoon of operators during the work up and deployment cycle.

I live with them, train with them, hang out with them, go out drinking with them, go shooting with them, go out on ops with them, everything. I've also been extremely lucky by going through some of the coolest and most grueling training the military has to offer including SERE and becoming Airborne. Spending time with these dudes and earning their respect is literally an avenue to learn the dynamics of what RP is trying to get you to become.

A lot of these dudes are naturals, winners from the day they were born. Others came from shitty backgrounds and used that pain to will themselves into battle hardened soldiers who demand respect any time they walk into a room. What none of them are are fucking posers, and if you have an ounce of weakness in you, they will find it and put you through the gauntlet for it (even in a joking manner if they like you, which is how dudes at this level often are).

Today I'm going to cover some of the realities of what it's like to work with these guys, and how you can start to do the work to find the danger within yourself, and how when women SENSE that danger, it will become like a drug for them.

  1. There are levels to everything - One of the first things I learned the first time I cut over to a team is the reality that while all these dudes are in the 1% of pipe hitters in the military, and ALL of them are in the top 10% of men in a RP sense, there was a very distinct hierarchy amongst their ranks. The most senior operator at our command was a small, quiet 5'4" with kind eyes like a grandpa. But when he walked down the hallway EVERYBODY, even the biggest, most jacked and wild eyed operator, moved out of his way. He didn't force it. He didn't say anything when it happened. It simply was. Why? He was revered and was a legend in his own right. He'd done more than 20 years at a Tier 1 (think CAG or DEVGRU) command and was rumored to have more than 300 kills to his name. And this reality worked its way down to the lowest ranks. The newest guys fresh out of the training pipeline did all the shit work and said "Thank you" when they got it. Even though they had proven themselves to be amongst the toughest men on the planet, when it came to the team they were now attached to, they weren't shit and weren't gonna be shit until they deployed. And then they'd be 1 pumpers who didn't know shit about what a hard deployment was. So with that, understand that as you grow in your RP journey, there are never ending levels to this shit, even at the highest levels of masculinity.

  2. Competition creates friendship with men who have value - You think you're competitive with other men at work? Try working with fucking operators. Competition starts in the training pipeline and never stops. The goal during every evolution is to WIN, and humiliate those faggots over there trying to keep up with us. That means if you fuck up and they have to pay, you better own up to it and suffer the consequences worse than everybody else. But with that comes a constant pursuit of excellence. And the mental barriers you place on yourself on a daily basis are eroded quickly as you watch these dudes fucking CRUSH whatever it is that they're doing. As an example, my OIC on an op got bored while we were waiting for something to pop off and decided on a whim he was going to run 100 miles in 24 hours. And the next day he DID IT. On a treadmill, with no headphones or anything, while staring at a wall. Just put it into his head and then did it. And then did 10 evolutions on a caving ladder the next day in full kit (which can weigh 80-100lbs). Because fuck you, that's why. There are dudes like that at EVERY DESK in SOF. Absolute skull crushing warriors that don't have time for excuses or “I can't.” And when you spend enough time around them, you realize you can do a lot more than you think you can, outright. Want to learn how to make friends easily? Learn how to be comfortable being competitive with other men.

  3. Strength is a currency - Operators are notoriously finicky when it comes to the support personnel that they accept and respect. Some they treat like absolute shit. Others they would die for in a heartbeat. The first time I deployed with a platoon, I had never met any of them as we were boarding the plane going to our final destination. I was expected to keep track of, maintain and program a lot of their equipment. So what was the secret to my earning their trust in the short amount of time I needed to? When we landed and after we got the initial check in process done, we all hit the gym. My PRs are as follows - Deadlift: 475lb (no straps, no belt) - Squat: 375lb (ATG, no belt) Bench Press: 315lb (no straps). I could lift more weight than some operators and when they saw that, they immediately started to rag on those operators I was out lifting. For guys in this community, your strength and spirit are currencies. If you're a fantastic enabler who is fat and dumpy, they'll still choose the buff guy who is decent at their job over you. Why? He can be trusted because he can keep up. This reality applies in life too. If you’re competent and big, people in all avenues of life simply treat you differently. When these dudes go out anywhere, you can see this reality play out, even if the people they are dealing with don’t know what they do. People can sense it.

  4. Danger is like catnip for women – Speaking of sensing dangerous men, want to know who has absolute no issues talking to and bedding women left and right? Operators. Any time we would go out, every single dude would line up the 9s and 10s at the bars consistently. They wouldn't need to mention what they do or qualify themselves. The WAY they approached women said everything, and THAT IS THE REALITY OF WHAT A TRUE ALPHA MALE EXPERIENCES. If an encounter wasn't going their way, they'd simply walk away from the chick mid-conversation and talk to her friend right next to her. And one way or another, word around the bar would spread and the general vibe from the women would only get crazier. Why? Because women LOVE dangerous men. Want to know the fastest way to become an alpha? Become dangerous. There is no fronting with dangerous men, you either are one or you aren't and it is the purest form of alpha that exists on the planet. Can you fuck up other men and take their possessions? Can you exude that energy? You can be famous and you can be rich, but nothing will get a woman wet like the presence of a dangerous man. Operators are as real as it gets and the women they encounter reflect that reality.

So with that, I'll finish with a brief discussion about what you can do to become more dangerous.

If you're young and have nothing really going for you, talk to a recruiter and get an 18X or BUD/S contact. Seriously, the life that operators live is something to behold and the suffering you go through in training is worth every second of it.

If you can't join the military, find a local MMA gym and sign up for classes. Learn how to get hit in the face, learn the pain of being out of breath with a dude trying to choke you unconscious. MMA gyms are brutal and you'll go home at night feeling like a bitch but what you'll eventually realize is you're doing what 98% of other men are scared to do and that is directly working on becoming TOUGHER and more DANGEROUS.

And obviously HIT THE FUCKING GYM. I can't say this enough. If you're in denial about how effective going to the gym is in regards to RP results, I challenge you to give 9 months of serious effort at the gym and see if you notice a difference in how people treat you.

That's all for today. Thanks for reading :)