Recently hit a rough patch with three straight dates that didn't go well. Looking for advice/ encouragement.

A little background:

27 years old. I have been on my "red pill journey" for about a year now, ever since I broke up with my last GF. Since breaking up, I've been lifting more, meditating, approaching women, working hard on my career, and I finally moved out of my parent's house. (Rent where I live is some of the highest in the US, but I realized the money I was saving living at home wasn't worth it anymore.)

I should also mention that I am over 4 years clean and sober. My life has improved greatly since I got sober, but it does make the dating world a little tricky. I still go to bars and clubs occasionally to try to meet/ pick up women, but I obviously don't want to bang a drunk girl whilst totally sober. Also, on first or second dates, I usually explain to the girl that I'm sober. Usually this hasn't created too many issues.

In 2016, I have made some improvements with my interactions with women. I have had sex with a few different women this year. Most I met on dating apps, one I met at a concert. So I am not a "hopeless virgin" by any means. I am more outcome-independent than I used to be. I currently have one girl who is down to come over and have sex pretty much whenever. However, I still have a lot of struggles.

I recently quite jerking off for a month, with hopes that it would help improve my energy and body language. Not sure if it really helped too much, as I have hit one of the worst rough patches of my year so far.

Last week, I went on 3 dates with 3 different girls. One was a second date, the other were first dates. Kissed one, didn't kiss the others. Long story short, this week, I got two "Lets just be friends" texts, and one no response.

I'm frustrated and discouraged a little because I've also had streaks of dates that went great, and now it's hard not too feel like I'm getting worse or something.

The dates were all dinner dates, as that's pretty much all I can do on a weeknight. (Just getting drinks doesn't work for me being sober.)

I have been focusing on eye contact, trying to touch them in a non-creepy way, teasing them, sexual jokes and flirting, moving them to different venues, and trying to kiss if I feel the timing is right.

Sometimes I struggle getting the conversation from a normal friendly conversation to a more flirty conversation. I also struggle sometimes to maintain eye contact, especially when I am trying to think of something to say.

Other areas I know I can improve are: posture, getting in better shape (I have lost 10lbs but would still like to lose another 20 lbs), meditating more regularly, approaching more women in real life rather than relying on the dating apps, identifying and handling shit tests better, worrying to much, over analyzing texts, comparing myself to others, keeping my energy up during a date, not being "too nice," improving my social circle, getting too needy once I've slept with a girl.

Anyways, I just received one of the LJBF texts and I decided to write this. I'm not giving up, I'm just frustrated and wish I could jump into the girl's head an see exactly what I am doing wrong. I know pickup/ dating is a skill that can be improved, and I'm focused on still becoming the best version of myself.

Any advice or encouragement would be great. Thanks.