Guys before you blast on anything related to FDS remotely is pure trash hear my story: I am married female since age of 25, husband and I are financially on par UMC professionals live in left coast, (me currently pregnant with 1st kid),he treats me well (took me to dinners , bought me gifts, helped with mechanics at home) I treat him well(I cook clean 70% of time, I bought him Xbox etc.) , we are both fit,healthy, making mid 6 figures in tech,and bought 1 house together splitting down payments(although he is somewhat more successful and physically stronger). He is neither a cuck nor a RP, me neither a weak nor radical FDS. But I have had bad experiences dating or just observing men before I turned 25, which made me a believer that vetting and set boundaries for men is important (Which is part of FDS). Besides the classical-never-settle-30-something-y/o man in New York City who asked his ex to abort his baby (I am sorry for the girl because I know this guy gets angry when asked to wear a condom), who is a lot worse than west elm Caleb (but that’s some Wall Street assholes for ya in nyc , they are confirmed to be actual exploitative piece of shit girls should avoid), I have another subtle example: when I first moved to left coast , I was just 23 , and tried to be nice to everyone .There was this barista/writer white guy in late 20s/early 30s who I know as an acquaintance because I visited the coffee shop often. He would make some weird comments that I didn’t treat seriously but definitely cringed: “All Asian men are ALL trash.” (I am of central Asian ancestry, what do you mean by insulting my dad?)”my friend is hitler wet dream” “ why are Asians try so hard? You have no life.””Asian and Latino women are traditional they want my cock” “ I have guns do you wanna see that?”” A UMC girl in my creative writing masters degree is a slut（shit he has a masters degree and lots of student debt on English major)” “Ben Shapiro is god” and he hit on every single girl in the shop but struggled to get laid. I was sympathetic to everyone but eventually avoided the coffee shop ever since. (I did appear to be agreeable to avoid conflicts) fast forward 2 years later he got my number from a mutual friend , stalked me on my social media , kept negging me telling my life is pathetic because “try hard” when he was jobless at the moment and he also sent me sexually explicit requests and want my money by entering my house(?? I never knew some pseudo intellectual Ben Shapiro worshiping writer with no job and English degree can belittle and want to take advantage of somewhat more functional professional woman at the same time) , disregarding the fact that I am married, then I blocked him and didn’t rant about this ridiculous story until now. I actually wished I was meaner and bitchy-er earlier , to avoid such caricature of a figure often appearing on FDS forum. Yup he is a troll , but I was really trying hard to respect him and people like him earlier because I really wanted to see better in him or people like him. Is this really my fault letting this happen ? If I practice the boundary part of FDS, this will never happen again. I agree that there could be exploitative delusional women who cannot bring much on the table (I have met narc bitch who I can’t stand , who literally blackmail her bf for lots of stuff) but part of FDS to fend off shitheads is important. It’s also important for men to fend off female shitheads. Just don’t label all of FDS as trash. Peace. I made my point.