Crosspost "Straight men: want to know how women feel being made to feel unsafe and overly-sexualized by men? Imagine if a man did it to you." from /r/dating:

A man who was much larger than you. At least a few inches taller and 50lbs heavier. Maybe he follows you around, stares at you, or tells you dirty things. Maybe he asks you out over and over again or suggests that you only got your job because you gave your boss a blowjob. How comfortable would you feel?

You can't compare it to as if women were doing the same thing to you because you're imagining a scenario where you'd like that attention. Women don't like it, so imagine a big, hairy, sweaty, older man who is much larger and could easily hurt you at will doing it to you. Imagine how you'd feel then. That's how women are made to feel.

So when you're dating, please be empathetic and kind and understanding as to why some women have such strong boundaries.

Little things like not giving you her phone number or wanting to wait a few extra dates to go over to your place may not seem like much to you, but it could be to her. Try to be understanding and put yourself in her shoes and not make her feel pressured to lower her guard earlier than she's comfortable with. I promise you, most women find nothing sexier than a confident, secure man who respects their boundaries.

Edit: I typed this quickly and realize I should have said men or men who date women and not straight men. Apologies!

Posted by WolfmansGotNards2 | 24 February 2022 | Link