My guys, thank you for this great sub. While it not always perfect, it’s been a huge help for me navigating the process.

Basics:

-Married 12 years -Unfiled- want to skip the lawyers if possible -3 kids under 9 - both work but she makes 2x as I’ve made sacrifices to be with fam and she wanted to be lead -California -No cheating, etc- both want to move on with joint custody ASAP -Sticking point is P-Unit (profits interest) representing equity in PE-owned private company. P-Units are governed by separate 3rd party LLC

On to the technical stuff: My STBXW and our fam live in California. During the last 3 years of our marriage, she receiving “P-Units” as equity compensation for her role as CxO of a Private Equity owned company. Nelson formula would prob apply if these were plain RSUs.

Happy to get into details privately, but if these were traditional private shares that gain value over time and then vest, it’s a likely Nelson calculation (https://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/the-difference-between-the-hug-and-nelson-formulas-as-applied-to-intermediate-stock-optionsrsus).

Free lawyer consult isn’t too familiar with them, shock.

They hold zero value until the company gets sold, and she thinks as long as she files before the P-Units gain value (aka the company gets sold), that I would have 0 rights to any value it may have in the future (the company is going to sell before the summer, it’s a huge eventuality) as they never held any value while “community property” in CA.

I would love any understanding, experience, or precedence on handling this type of equity in divorce. I don’t want 50% but definitely want what I feel is equitable so I can not harbor hate post divorce around the kids. This mid 7 figure consequence. We agree on everything else and if I can get her some precedence she believes, this whole thing goes real smooth.

Thank you to ANYONE that has some experience with this.