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Refreshing, a woman is talking herself out of dating a guy who put in all the effort so far because he’s waiting for her to move, and most of Reddit is actually telling her to just grow up and text him

Mycroft033 · 2022-03-25T07:11:09+00:00

Crosspost "Should a woman send a thank you text after first date" from /r/dating:The date went well, he (32M) kissed me (32F) multiple times. Dropped...

Mycroft033

March 25, 2022

67 upvotes

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Title	Refreshing, a woman is talking herself out of dating a guy who put in all the effort so far because he’s waiting for her to move, and most of Reddit is actually telling her to just grow up and text him
Author	Mycroft033
Upvotes	67
Comments	15
Date	March 25, 2022 7:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/AntiFeminists
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/antifeminists/comments/tngdea/refreshing_a_woman_is_talking_herself_out_of/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/AntiFeminists/refreshing-a-woman-is-talking-herself-out-of.1107636 https://theredarchive.com/post/1107636

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[–]ExMuzzy 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Mycroft033[S] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Puzzleheaded-Heat174 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[+]earathar89 -8 points-7 points-6 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

[–]DevilishRogue 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

[+]earathar89 -8 points-7 points-6 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

[–]DevilishRogue 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

That sounds like your interpretation.

It is what she said happened.

I really didn't get that from this.

I imagine you don't get a lot of stuff if you didn't even get this after she literally said it is what she did.

She seemed like she felt like she got ghosted.

Because she is too stupid to understand that she ghosted him.

She could have messaged him sure.

But she didn't, hence the ghosting.

Since none of use actually know her or witnessed the situation we can't really say we know everyone's motivations.

No one is, we are strictly talking about the objective facts - which are that she ghosted him.

I've met and befriended feminists that were not timid at all and specifically state that they wanted something.

No one has suggested this woman is a feminist, just that she is a victim of feminism's effect on society.

[+]earathar89 -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]DevilishRogue 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]earathar89 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]DevilishRogue 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You really like making stuff up don't you?

No.

Now because I don't agree with you I must have no social skills.

No, you have no social skills because you cannot understand the social interaction that took place.

You just make fallacious statements and arguments and keep repeating that she ghosted him.

It isn't fallacious, it is the name for the behavior she engaged in with him of waiting for him to always instigate and then ending all communication when it was well beyond her turn to do so.

Do you even know what the time frame here was between the date and her assuming he ghosted her?

3 days. Nearly four now as of the time of writing. It is fully addressed in the post.

You also said he initiates conversation all the time. Where did she say that?

In her description of how he organised the date.

If you can answer at least one one these questions by using (and this is the important part)WORDS SHE WROTE

If you can't read between the lines that explains your lack of social skills, but she does actually say all of this too so that is moot.

[–]earathar89 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]DevilishRogue 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Mycroft033[S] 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

She said she “didn’t know if he was interested” but he literally planned everything, paid for the date, kissed her several times, and even drove her home. He literally put in tons of effort and now the ball is in her court to see if she’s interested, and because he’s willing to wait and see if she takes any initiative at all, she wants to say that he ghosted her when the onus is on her because she hasn’t even tried to initiate any conversation after the date to let him know his efforts weren’t in vain. The guy’s not being stalker-like, he’s letting her make her own decisions, and she’s too entitled to see that he literally did everything the last date, and is not actually asking, just looking for people to tell her that he’s ghosting her, despite this being obviously a case of him waiting for her. Feminism tells women that things should be handed to them on a silver platter. This guy made planned and executed an entire night, and she’s willing to throw it away and completely ignore it over the lack of one text. From her comments, it was not a cheap date either.

[–]earathar89 -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link