How can I try to heal from the pain of hurting my ex

Anonymous_fiend · 2022-03-31T06:40:55+00:00

You just carry on. Take it day by day if you need to. Time heals all wounds if you allow it to. Work on yourself and don’t focus on the past (which you can’t change). You’re young and immature I’m sure he’ll forgive you with time. He just needs to process that pain just like you do. Relationships are learning experiences that you’re supposed to grow from. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re remorseful for your previous actions no need to suffer twice. Just improve from it. Dwelling in guilt won’t fix anything. The best thing you can do is offer him closure, apologize, let him go, and give him the space he needs to heal. It will take a weight off if your chest too. Who knows maybe one day you’ll reconnect after you guys mature more but don’t get stuck on him. Lol you gave him experiences and character development it wasn’t all that bad. It was a learning experience for him too. Most first loves don’t end well. Besides maybe it’s better for him that he has a good excuse why his first love didn’t work out. And he had more of an idea of what he actually wants in a gf now.

To move on and heal focus on yourself. Get more into your hobbies, hang out with family or friends, make self care a habit, exercise, eat healthy, books/yt vids/podcasts/etc of self improvement (doesn’t have to be mental health or relationship oriented can be things like how to dress well), get plenty of sleep, journal, and be kind to yourself. Put some music on and dance or watch a funny movie. Basically do anything to distract yourself. Being fake happy leads to real happiness more than focusing on misery does. Accept that you’re human and make mistakes. You’ll make more mistakes in the future. And that’s ok.

It can be addicting to suffer. It’s easy to stay stuck. So just keep moving. Also work on those underlying issues that caused you to feel the need to control him, get drunk, etc. Becoming a better person is the best apology you can give

red31415 · 2022-03-31T09:56:20+00:00

Set yourself a timer for an hour and plan to do nothing but feel the feeling and sit with the emotion in the way it needs to be sat with.

After you have done that, come back and report what you have learned about it.

We have a habit of keeping our distance from our pain and that makes it hurt more. When you go towards it, it's never as bad as you think. It's bad but you can handle it. And make peace with it.

Leg_Mcmuffin · 2022-03-31T12:36:13+00:00

Leave him alone and be better for yourself. When you become a better person, he will know through your actions and what people say about you. That’s all you can do.

LateralThinker13 · 2022-04-05T18:58:33+00:00

Write him a letter. Maybe write him several. Lay zero expectations upon him of waiting or forgiving, just give him closure. By doing that, that's where you'll find yours as well.

Title	How can I try to heal from the pain of hurting my ex
Author	hannahfloyyd
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	March 31, 2022 6:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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