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| 22 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small. | ADVICE | Anonymous_fiend | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 03:07 AM |
| 5 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission over small things for his benefit? | ADVICE | Anonymous_fiend | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 03:10 AM |
| 3 | How to be less reactive/sensitive? | ADVICE | Anonymous_fiend | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 12:56 AM |
| 1 | 90% comments are of women saying it's healthy for them to have a porn addiction and rarely fuck their s/o bc they have "trauma" | Damaged Goods | Anonymous_fiend | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 14/02/22 04:25 AM |
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| 2 | Capable husband, but doesn't do thingsLol yeah that will technically fix the gopher problem but will cause an even worse problem | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/26 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Capable husband, but doesn't do thingsTrue there’s nothing that kicks a man into action faster than someone else doing it. But that person can be yourself and instead of hurting his ego you have an opportunity to give him genuine appreciation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/26 07:35 PM |
| 2 | What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On?I don’t like it but I’m better suited for it so it ends up my responsibility. It’s why I like to thrift or get for free things. Not only is it cheaper it saves me a lot of time and effort. But I do like the feeling of accomplishment when I build something lol. I get less anxious around roughhousing, climbing, and health concerns. Painting the house and mild home repairs are usually up to me. Although he knows how to do them too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Lower rank in social group causing rejection of opinion?I’m thinking a little bit of both. This is a kind of behavior you need to set boundaries with in the moment. My bff with adhd does this and she isn’t trying to be rude. If she says what I like has too much sugar for her I joke about my sweet tooth and the fact her house is a sad ingredients house (she raids my snacks and thinks I’m a much better cook) or “good that’s more for me”. She’s just less agreeable than my other friends. If I brought up her behavior many days later she’d get defensive an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/25 06:51 PM |
| 1 | women, do you find other men attractive?I’ve known some autistic men who do look but yeah they’re probably less likely to. Demi sexuality is the term for what we have and it’s on the ace spectrum. Although a man doesn’t need to be Demi to have no interest checking women out if they have aphantasia. The lack of visual ability (more common in autistics) usually causes men to not look as they can’t sexually fantasize in their head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/25 01:12 AM |
| 9 | Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!!Most men DO like well applied makeup that lightly enhances. However most trendy makeup isn’t that as it is too “makeupy”. If you notice the makeup before too much you’re doing it wrong.(exceptions- nights out or any occasion that would require to dress in cocktail attire or above). While you shouldn’t dress in frumpy clothes it’s also odd to wear a prom dress around town. Same with makeup. The best clothes and makeup shouldn’t be to attention grabbing as it can detract from your natural beauty. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 12:04 AM |
| 1 | I (24F) found out the guy I'm dating (28M) has a severe ED, what should I do?Sex is much more than just penetration. Does he try to explore and be intimate with you in other ways? Penetration with sex toys, oral, foreplay, and fingering can be just as fulfilling. I don’t know how the pump works but even without he should still try to make you feel desired and sexy. Sexual intimacy isn’t only physical. This is only an issue if he’s making it one. Even a man without ED young can still develop it later on. IMO it’s not a dealbreaker on its own. However, if it causes severe … | /r/RedPillWives | 23/04/25 12:46 AM |
| 2 | What does an average woman look like?Just more info for the small details on what the average woman looks like. Although feminine beauty is highly controllable and small things like this add up. They can make you look more put together or downgrade you. Most men don’t like gaudy long fake nails, chipped polish, or jagged/bitten nails. Younger women usually do their nails for themselves as a creative expression or for other women as part of a trend. Younger women focus more on sex appeal instead while older women tend to have a more… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/25 05:04 AM |
| 2 | What does an average woman look like?Depends on her age. An average young woman is considered more attractive physically than an average older one. Part of that is because it’s easier to be slim and fit when younger. And well the other half is other fertility markers. The average woman is attractive to a majority of men just not necessarily the men they want since women prefer to date up/hypergamy. Location matters too. A California 7 is a Midwest 10. Areas that have higher income tend to be fitter and more attractive as they inves… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/25 04:17 AM |
| 2 | women, do you find other men attractive?Visually attractive but not sexually. Like I can appreciate a pretty painting or a flower for being pretty but I have no desire or lust for it. For me sexual attraction needs an emotional connection but then again I’m autistic (diagnosed 10ish years ago) and I can’t visualize (aphantasia). I’ve never been into porn either as I just don’t get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/25 06:32 AM |
| – | RPW from 8-10 years ago was of much higher qualityI have never seen divorce encouraged unless there is multiple accounts of infidelity or actual abuse. Or when there’s major incompatibility and the woman is young and childless. Marital rape is viewed as marital rape. Infidelity is still considered bad. Low N count is ideal but you won’t necessarily be a spinster without. While you should compromise for family that doesn’t mean settle for an abusive situation. Rpw is different than TRP as it focuses on what benefits women, the family, and societ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/25 12:32 AM |
| 134 | Women do really become invisible when their youth and beauty are gone. Thoughts on this?To some extent yes but it’s more so losing pretty privilege. An unattractive poor man is quite invisible to most people too. While youth will eventually fade beauty doesn’t have to. Many women age gracefully and have an attractive demeanor that makes them beautiful in their golden years. Most of feminine beauty is controllable although as you get older the choices you made in the past catch up to you. This is why it’s important to work out, eat healthy, limit sun exposure, stay hydrated, sleep w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/25 05:56 PM |
| 33 | Can someone tell me what this thread is about?At first I thought you were a troll but your post history says you’ve been dealing with this for while. While there are herbal supplements that will help with low libido (and I highly suggest taking them since it’s negatively impacting your marriage) rp is a philosophy towards gender dynamics and thus relationships. It takes into account our biological nature. Women have 2 dating strategies: Hypergamy- having sex/babies with highest value man you can. This causes problems like harems/only top 20… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/24 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Did you use ovulation trackers when trying to get pregnant?https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mucinex-fertility-pregnant_l_662bade4e4b0bd041d7780bf/amp Take orally 5 days before ovulation | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Did you use ovulation trackers when trying to get pregnant?Yes | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 01:44 AM |
| 5 | Low effort on dating appsNot being able to compromise might land you alone. Watch Kevin Samuels videos on yt. He’s helped a lot of women like you get married or at least have realistic expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Did you use ovulation trackers when trying to get pregnant?OTC Guaifenesin- thins mucus to help with coughs and colds. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Low effort on dating appsNot shaming you, just saying that’s a dealbreaker for a lot of men so your marriage pool is small. But it doesn’t mean you’ll be single forever it just means you’ll have to sift through a lot of hookup messages until someone with potential comes along. What about divorced men who don’t have much custody or kids are adults? Honestly you don’t need to be so anti children in your dating profile. Even men who don’t want kids do value a woman who comes across as warm, feminine, and nurturing. At 36 t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Did you use ovulation trackers when trying to get pregnant?No I went by discharge (gross I know). Also I used the mutinex trick and got pregnant in 2 or 3 months. Mutinex is thins the cervical mucus which makes it easier to conceive supposedly. There’s some really good TikTok’s about it. You can also track your cycle. Your fertile window is about a week after your period ends. Are you wanting a boy or girl? Female sperm were found to be slower, fitter and would live longer than male sperm so making love earlier in the fertile window meant they would sti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:14 AM |
| 5 | Low effort on dating appsMost traditional or masculine men want kids. Being very upfront about being childfree is great but it does eliminate most men from viewing you as marriage material. However, it doesn’t mean they’re not interested in something casual if you’re attractive. You put yourself in most men’s fuck box but not marry box. There are child free men who would be interested-it’s just the dating pool is smaller so you’ll get a lot of casual sex minded men messaging you with only a few more serious ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 11:09 PM |
| 6 | Low effort on dating appsWhat does your profile look like and the type of men you are matching with? The common denominator is you so if you want to change your results you are gonna have to change what you are doing. I agree with others- you are going for men out of your league or are attracting men who are looking for hookups. I’ve always preferred meeting men in person vs apps. The illusion of more options than there is makes people put less effort. It’s hard to get to know someone over days of messages while even a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 04:09 PM |
| 3 | How to overcome attraction to physical appearance?Attraction can grow over time but there needs to be some initial desire. That’s one thing that separates friends from romantic partners. For men attraction has a very physical component. Women do too but many other factors go into attraction. Status (financial and respected he is), height, facial symmetry/structure, muscle/low bf %, funny, charismatic, competent, hygiene/grooming, and clothing choices matter. There’s a reason men with a wedding ring are more attractive to women. Sounds like this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 07:50 PM |
| 6 | He’s not planning our weddingTypically the bride organizes the wedding or atleast starts the process. I don’t know why you are waiting for him when he told you what he wanted (small family ceremony) and you agreed to it. Does he even know that you expect him to be the one planning it? You said you’d rather travel over a wedding ceremony and that was non negotiable for him so you guys compromised on something small. If you truly want to marry him why are you making this a test? It’s not enough that he proposed now he has to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 10:04 PM |
| 2 | There is no such thing as unconditional love to menAlso pregnancy as a whole is quite painful. And then there’s the pain of post partum. It’s definitely not a couple of minutes of pain. Ligament pain, heartburn, shortness of breath, rls, vomitting, etc. is quite common. I had a relatively easy birth with no tearing or complications and yet it still hurt down there for months. Breastfeeding and uterus contractions hurts. Men without children tend to be quite ignorant of how pregnancy/pp is. They aren’t ever really taught about it and only see wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/24 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Taking care of your appearance when you’re a screen-free stay at home mom to toddlers?While my 16mo isnt screen free I do try to limit it. Interactive toys like her water table and story pod are great to give me a sec. But usually I have to play and include her when I do my beauty treatments. She takes a shower with me and I do most of my beauty upkeep there Things I do myself: Hair- trims every couple of months, treatments as needed, ipl weekly, shaving in shower, eyebrows are microbladed and I just keep tidy as needed Nails- I’m a nail tech so everything lol. She loves to look … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/24 05:17 PM |
| 22 | Are My Hobbies Too Masculine?Honestly as long as you present femininely and have a feminine demeanor having masculine hobbies isn’t going to turn men away. It’s not like you don’t also have feminine hobbies too. What turns men away is trying to one up and be competitive about them, acting like a “not like other girls” girl or “one of the boys” girl, or using them as an excuse to keep orbiters/entertaining male attention. My guess is you are talking about your hobbies too intensely for a first date. Try asking them more ques… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/24 05:06 PM |
| 1 | To B or to DD: Where do you draw a line for your partner’s preference regarding your appearance?I don’t have to ask him 😅😭he gives unsolicited opinions. He’s gotten better at not being too honest/being tactful about it. And yeah it’s totally for my self esteem. It helps we live in an area where I’m a minority too. Like sure a man is into blondes dye your hair blonde. But if he’s super into busty petite women and you’re a tall supermodel type then every time you pass a women who fits his ideal are you gonna pick a fit or feel insecure? Especially when there’s a ton of men into supermodel ty… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 04:03 PM |
| 3 | To B or to DD: Where do you draw a line for your partner’s preference regarding your appearance?The main reason I’m not getting plastic surgery is because my man would find me less attractive after. I’m his ideal type and wouldn’t be comfortable marrying someone who didn’t feel this way. Although if a hvm had offered to pay for plastic surgery and I viewed it enhanced my looks then I’d take him up on the offer. I wouldn’t do anything that messed up my facial or body harmony. And I wouldn’t get tattoos. Obviously this is minus things like hairstyle, clothes, weight, etc that can be easily c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/24 01:56 AM |
| 4 | Advice needed to save marriageHow often is there no sexual touching? And what does foreplay look like to you? If you don’t use lube and toys now is the time to start. When I’m not in the mood and struggling to get turned on physically I use foria’s awaken arousal oil/quicky kit. Have him use a vibrator on you to get you used to deeper penetration. The rose is really good for getting turned on. If he’s having issues staying hard the whole time try rubbing him against your clit, oral as foreplay, or a hand job. A sensual massa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/24 07:48 PM |
| 2 | I don’t want to be fat anymore.Wellbutrin and ssris are both prescribed off label (not FDA approved for it) for it. Both target the emotional dysregulation aspect of bed but weight gain is a common side effect for ssris so if it doesn’t help it makes things worse which sucks (unlike Wellbutrin). Funny enough the appetite suppressant part isn’t what helps with bed. it’s quite common for people with bed to eat normally all week and then binge on weekends or like op not eat all day bc not hungry then binge at night. It’s not alw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | I don’t want to be fat anymore.Sure and they often like a little bit a belly chub, thighs, a crooked smile or nose, or beauty mark. But obesity is a big deal to hvm as it is a medical risk, shows you don’t respect yourself, and won’t properly take care of your children. It’s harder to conceive and have a healthy birth when obese. Being obese when young isn’t as problematic but extra weight when older puts a lot of stress on the body. She’s already experiencing back pain from it. She deserves to be as pain free as possible. Se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/24 10:05 PM |
| 5 | I don’t want to be fat anymore.Wellbutrin is prescribed for binge eating and depression while ssris often make binge eating worse. It’s a hard cycle to break out of but wallowing just feeds the depression and makes it harder to escape. I know it kinda feels good in a way to give in to negativity but you’ve gotta distract yourself at all costs. Fake it til you make it. Tell yourself you are content with how things are and are eating healthier until it becomes true. What you think becomes what you say and do so you’ve gotta cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/24 09:52 PM |
| 26 | I don’t want to be fat anymore.I just see a lot of excuses here. At rpw we take accountability for our behavior and try to correct it instead of feeling bad for ourselves. Being a healthy weight doesn’t take a gym membership (or even working out), more money than being fat, or even more effort. You don’t need to know how to cook but it helps. Counting calories is extremely helpful but not always necessary. You need to make lifestyle changes not diet for it to be sustainable. Don’t rely on motivation because you may be waiting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/24 09:26 PM |
| 6 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really isYes, but only you know whether it’s a fair and balanced divide. If that’s the lifestyle that you guys both want then there’s nothing wrong with it- especially as you don’t want kids and it makes financial sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 04:54 PM |
| 20 | I know 50/50 in marriage is bad, but I’m having trouble understanding what that really isKeeping score is the dangerous part of 50/50. That leads to resentment which is a killer of relationships. Instead of appreciating a partner who does 50% it becomes owed since you do your 50%. Entitlement instead of appreciation leads to contempt and disrespect which causes more issues. And this is if the partner is actually pulling their weight. Most of the time 50/50 splits aren’t actually 50/50. Women do a majority of domestic work and childcare regardless of how many hours they work. And the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | “I love you”There’s a possibility he’s just not that into you. Men know if they’ve found the one vs one of many rather early on. Work on your girl game to become wife material. You can’t demand he say it but you can inspire it in him. Being together for 4 years at your age with no real plans is just wasting time. Even stoic men can verbalize affection. After 4 years he should be able to say he loves you. He says he will work on it but doesn’t actually do anything about it. He knows how much this means to yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 07:43 PM |
| 12 | How can I tell my friend that she needs to change her bad habits to get a boyfriend?She’s not mature enough to be able to handle a relationship. She doesn’t need a boyfriend she needs to be a functional adult first. And therapy. Idk this seems more executive dysfunction from mental illness than just general laziness or immaturity. Also she’s likely to get defensive and feel attacked if you bring up how to improve her life. Just don’t. She knows what she needs to do. If you really wanna help her bring her some healthy no cook foods. It’s gonna be hard to go from eating candy to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 06:15 PM |
| 8 | I broke up with my boyfriend because the relationship isn't progressing and I don't think I will ever be able to give him my full trust in the future the way I should. Now I'm having second thoughts on if I overreacted and wonder if this is fixable.Biggest mistake women make is thinking a man will change. You can try to inspire him but can’t control him. Many men don’t grow out of this and get drunk/high regularly with their friends. It may not be as big of a deal now but when you have a kid or a few it causes problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/24 02:27 AM |
| 2 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.Masking as a high functioning autistic is a catch 22. Especially as a woman. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has adhd as many people with adhd tend to marry others with adhd or autism. Ah so he only brought up the unemployment period as a response to being called stingy- despite him trying his best. Name calling will generally get someone to respond defensively. Men are very sensitive to criticism. If you want him to be more generous instead of throwing a fit treat him as if he was a generous man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/24 02:03 AM |
| 2 | is my gift too much this early in a relationship and can it scare him away?“Analyzing his fashion style”- if it’s not compliments he’s gonna take it the wrong way Some men might find this cute but it can also be viewed as creepy since things are still new. Since your friends reacted the way they did I’m guessing it comes across as creepy. If his friends were to see this they’ll probably make some comments/give him sh!t. An anniversary gift is excusable to be cheesy or over the top. But honestly just save this for a marriage gift to show at your wedding and joke how you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 07:56 PM |
| 2 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.Sounds to me like some deeper marriage issues that make you feel afraid to rely on him. Instead of empathizing with you or trying to understand, he made it about his feelings. He’s the one who is invalidating you. He signed up for it- in sickness and health. That doesn’t mean if you stay in sickness you can bring it up every argument and use it against them. He’s being very manipulative. There’s a huge difference between autism (developmental disorder) and mental illness. ASD has much higher rat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 07:33 PM |
| 10 | I feel as though tradwife content has rotted my brain and my marriage is struggling.Having an autistic burnout where you are too disabled to work isn’t a “break”. It’s part of having a disability. Don’t feel guilt or shame because you were struggling. Instead be grateful you pulled yourself out and now are doing better. I mean it’s not like you were a dead weight. You still contributed at your low point. If he wasn’t with you then he’d still be paying rent plus cooking, cleaning, and errands. Will taking on more work to make things easier for him result in another burnout? If s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 01:12 AM |
| 14 | Woman tries to set man up for false rape.True but a scar can be excused. 3 ex names is a pretty big warning label and will make any man in a culture like this not want to be alone with you. She’s predatory and dumb. I guess it makes sense with her life choices. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 29/03/24 09:25 PM |
| 17 | Woman tries to set man up for false rape.And couldn’t she just get the tattoos removed? Also who would date her after 2 exes tattooed on her? Like isn’t 1 ex tattoo already a huge red flag? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 29/03/24 08:50 PM |
| 6 | How do I address my boyfriend's weight without being disrespectful?Just don’t. Instead encourage healthy behaviors. Bring up places you’d like to go now that it’s getting warmer- hikes/trails, beach/lake, amusement park, etc. When he eats healthy and workouts praise him. Suggest healthy restaurants or make him a healthy meal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/24 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Concern about SaggingI never said rich men like small tits or that large perky tits are men’s fave. I don’t use broad generalizations like that for a reason. Large and small size is very subjective and based on location, year, etc. Richer men prefer smaller than non rich men and socioeconomics influence preferences is my claim which is exactly what the study shows. The 3rd study goes into the sociological factor of it. Rich men also prefer slimmer women which is correlated to smaller size. I’m not claiming correlati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Concern about SaggingMen prefer firmness over size. Larger breasts are more desired by hungry and poor men. Huge breasts tend to sag fast but breasts that would be large before 2000 (34dd) can be firm. Look at Marilyn Monroe. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513816302847 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3590195/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3210352/ It also depends on breast tissue and shape. Some breasts remain firm because more dense breast tissue. Bottom heavy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Modern wimpy menSorry to tell you it’s your personality. You have high sexual market value but low relationship market value. Men favor a pleasant feminine acting woman. How you make a man feel matters. There’s a reason they all come crying back to you but no one chose you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Modern wimpy menYou sound bitter. A sahm does work it’s just from home. If she didn’t provide childcare then daycare would be needed. Daycare for 2+ children is often more than 50% of take home salary. Domestic work is still work. Household management, cooking, and cleaning is way more work for a family than a single person. A college degree doesn’t mean you’re intelligent or capable lol. Doctors are one of the very few that almost exclusively date within the field because there’s often no work life balance. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Concern about SaggingLarge perky breasts signal fertility. Saggy ones still show lower fertility. Small breasts have a higher risk of not being able to solely breastfeed. Being obese and severely underweight lowers fertility. Malnutrition in adolescence would lower fertility and breast size. Large non perky breasts are often found in older and heavy women (not as fertile). Women are growing breasts and getting their menses much earlier. It was rare for non overweight 13 year olds to have 36d+. A 20 year old with lar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Concern about SaggingSo yes, they do care it’s just not a dealbreaker. Just because it’s not the top 5 things a man looks for in a woman doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. Most men aren’t that picky and vain that they’ll stop seeing a woman based on their boobs. A beautiful woman with saggy tits is still a beautiful woman. Any man worth dating views a woman as a whole not just individual body parts. But that still doesn’t mean they don’t care. You don’t get to tell men what they find attractive. Men are naturally wired t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/24 01:14 AM |
| 6 | Do you think this experience mimics what an attractive woman can go through?Umm no pretty women don’t necessarily have a better life. Pretty just opens the door. Other women get jealous and insecure around attractive women so pretty girls may have these same experiences…especially if they’re insecure, have resting bitch face, or neurodivergent. Attracted people do have some privilege from the halo effect but these things are from good social skills and personality. Your vibes just might be off if people aren’t approaching you. Or you’re overestimating how attractive you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/24 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Concern about SaggingNot true there’s plenty of non surgical procedures that can help. https://www.healthline.com/health/nonsurgical-breast-lift Radio frequency can even be done at home if a professional device is bought $$$-$$$$. Non professional devices are usually gimmicky as they aren’t strong enough to produce results. Men do care about saggy tits…post a picture of the same woman with perky and then saggy tits and men will give their opinion comforted by the safety of anonymity. Men who have been married to the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/24 09:35 PM |
| 6 | Housewives/moms - do any of you work part time (from home)?Yes, before having a kid I would babysit and do nails to help out and for some fun money. My LO is 11 mo and I’ve babysat once. Downtime isn’t a thing. Being a sahm is a full time job while being a housewife was a pt one. I’m lucky if I have time to do my own nails and skincare treatments. I’m getting better at balancing managing the house, childcare, self care, eating right, sleeping well, and having a social life. Instead of earning money to have a fun budget you can reduce other household exp… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/02/24 09:14 PM |
| 40 | Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the timeHe’s not taking care of you yet he wants you to act like he is. If you are paying half the bills, being feminine, and doing domestic work how are you overvaluing what you bring? You aren’t, he is. He doesn’t value you. You’re just a place card. You can’t force him to appreciate you. After 5 years of dating either get married or break up. Even Kevin Samuels (former rp yt personality-may he rest in peace) had said that. There’s no reason to not be married after 5 years, well established financiall… | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/24 04:58 PM |
| 2 | What should I do 32FThat’s why they don’t want her to marry or have kids. They want her to always prioritize them and care for them in old age. I get some serious enmeshment vibes from op. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 01:07 PM |
| 2 | What should I do 32FWhat your parents think of you marrying and having kids is the least of your concerns. Fertility steeply drops at 35 in healthy weight women. Being uw or obese lowers it. Are you even in a ltr? If not why not? You’re at an age you can’t just hope to get married and have kids you need to actively plan it. What’s a “big family” to you? Quite frankly without ivf 1-2 kids may be as big as you get. And having a large family can be expensive. It takes time to conceive and you aren’t currently trying. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 01:05 PM |
| 2 | How/why to become attracted to masculine men?More likely was ftm and then realized women are allowed to be masculine without needing to transition. She still seems to be clinging to gender troupes in an extreme way. Macho men can be insecure bad leaders. And a gentleman who appreciates more stereotypically feminine things can still be a great man and captain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 01:52 AM |
| 17 | What do you consider rich and what do you consider wealthy?Depend on the cost of living in the area. $100k is struggling in places like San Francisco but can be wealthy in smaller cities or rural areas. Also depends if they bought a house before the market when crazy. I don’t look at particular salary. What’s more important is financial responsibility and spending habits. And if they’re generous within their means. If someone is bad at managing money they can be rich and have nothing to show for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Where to find affordable traditional clothing?Eh I prefer SHEIN (but use both) since there’s more product reviews and try ons. Shein has different clothing lines-some are good but yeah unless buying on sale not really worth it. I’ll agree that Temu doesn’t have as much really poor quality trashy clubwear/skimpy clothes as SHEIN. But they don’t have as much cheap basics or crazy clearance specials. But Temu has good coupons for new users and stacks with Rakuten too. Just make sure you check sizing and know your measurements before you buy cl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/24 03:14 PM |
| 65 | How can redpill women be happy?Wife googles are a thing. A man who has been with the same woman for a long time views her still at her best. While beauty does fade to some extent sexual attraction isn’t just based on beauty. It involves things like charisma/personality, feelings/connection, and sexual availability. Men don’t view us on the same way we view ourselves. They’re usually much more forgiving (unless they have issues like porn or sex addiction, repeat infidelity, etc). Those things actually rewire the brain. Look at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/24 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.Men in certain fields tend to have career wives but plenty of millionaires don’t. Usually the religious ones (or ones who want 3+ kids) prefer a sahm since they understand the benefits of it. Yes these women usually have ivy degrees and met their husband in college. What’s most important is they are from the same social circle and have a good/similar upbringing. Which usually means these men marry women who have rich families or have established themselves. Connections and social networking is i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 03:42 PM |
| 48 | Mid 30s approaching - time to settle?In your previous posts you state he is everything you don’t want in a man, promises to change but falls through, and you want to break up. That was a year ago and you are still miserable. Can you live the next 30-50 years with this man without being resentful? There’s a difference between settling and giving up. Most of settling is being realistic. Settling isn’t poor vetting and cost sunk fallacy. If you are going to break up with him do it now. If you’re mid 30s, attractive aka 6/10+, good inc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/24 11:03 PM |
| 7 | Do your redpillhusbands go down on you?If I wanted it he would but I don’t like receiving oral. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/12/23 04:01 PM |
| 7 | Advice for a married womanDefine lacking in enthusiasm? How often do you have sex? He may just be more vanilla and satisfied with “normal not exciting sex”. Also how old is he? Lower testosterone can lower sex drive. You may also have mismatched libidos if he’s always been less interested. Yes, being feminine in appearance and behavior should help. Allow him to lead. Tantric massage and sexual herbal supplements are worth looking into. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 05:31 PM |
| 7 | More betrayal, now what?Yes, she says verbal abuse is something that can be worked through but her line is serial cheating. If even Laura Doyle says you can’t work through serial cheating then really just accept the situation/cope or leave him. Serial cheating is more than just an affair- it’s lack of trust, respect, commitment, communication, safety (stds and such), etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/23 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Worried about potential red flag body countI’m taking him at his word instead of assuming the worst when he said he had no ltr exp. To me stringing someone along requires being in a ltr with them. It’s about wasting their time not just starting a short term relationship under false pretenses. True, women with better options won’t settle for fwb which is why his n count is so high. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 06:53 PM |
| 0 | Worried about potential red flag body countWell he said in between 50-100 over approx 10 years-Let’s say 75 women over 120 months so that’s 1 new woman every 1.6 months. It’s high but it’s mostly due to not being in a ltr which would’ve taken care of that need. If he was too focused on establishing his career to do ltrs and intentionally waited until 30 to settle down this isn’t such a red flag as long as it is intentional. Also how many women did he reject/not sleep with after a date and what caliber were these women? A hvm sleeping wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/23 06:28 AM |
| 6 | I made one comment in this sub and I got banned from other subs wtfWelcome to the club. You’ll likely be banned from more now for posting again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/23 11:41 PM |
| 4 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upBy what you’re saying it sounds like he’s just not a good captain material and she should leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/23 05:09 AM |
| 5 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upIt’s ok to be upset that your gf had posted a pic in a bikini. But then don’t follow accounts of women who post bikini or sexy pics. The problem is he’s holding it against her and giving the silent treatment instead of dating someone who has never posted these pics. If that’s a deal breaker for him he needs to end things instead of being emotionally immature/playing games. And both people in relationships need to enter in good faith instead of making assumptions. If she took accountability and w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/23 04:26 AM |
| 18 | Should I (f18) let my bf (m18) go clubbing?Clubbing isn’t a business thing; he likely got invited by work buddies or thinks this is networking (it’s not). Or he just wants the experience without appearing like a hypocrite. Yes, having drinks can be networking but at places like social clubs, golf courses, events, etc. As someone who has gone clubbing that’s the last place business is discussed. Why can’t you guys go together? While his intentions may not to get girls it’s a slippery slope. You are the product of your environment and who … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/23 10:51 PM |
| 8 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upThe problem is they’ve only been dating for a short amount of time, he doesn’t provide for her, isn’t treating her right, and doesn’t respect her. Vetting is a very important rpw tool. The sub doesn’t advise women to leave ltrs quickly. Advice for a 20 year old unmarried woman is going to be more about vetting and finding captain material. Not every man is qualified. You shouldn’t force new relationships to work. Waiting for someone who isn’t showing good leadership skills is foolish. Dating is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/23 03:08 PM |
| 5 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upThey aren’t sex pics they’re “promiscuous pics” which likely means she has too much cleavage showing, in a swimsuit, or in a pose meant to draw all attention to her ass. A majority of young women have posted these before. If she had porn of herself openly posted that would be a very different situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/23 02:57 PM |
| 32 | My (20F) boyfriend (26M) cant let go of my past but doesn’t break upIf he can’t let go then there’s no working this out. If he’s holding it against you instead of trying to talk it out, that’s toxic. So is the silent treatment. Especially since you have low n count, took accountability, removed sexy pics, and tried to show you’ve changed. He seems anxious or insecure and instead of him dealing with those feelings he’s trying to guilt and control you. You want to treat him the way he was never treated and how he deserves but does he want the same for you? Are you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/23 12:44 AM |
| 11 | I want to work part time and focus look after the home , I don’t think my boyfriend will approveDomestic work is work. If you are both working full time it would be lazy of him to expect you to take on 10-20h of additional unpaid labor. When both partners work full time housework needs to be evenly split or outsourced (going out to eat, maid, etc). You need to date with intention instead of hoping he will approve. What kind of dynamic is he looking for? Does he want a wife, maid, cook, childcare, paycheck, and fun time all in one? Or is he open to you explaining the financial benefits of w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 07:40 PM |
| 15 | My boyfriend keeps telling me how attractive other women find him and it’s starting to irritate meThis is time for girl game. This is often a man’s version of a shit test. Or it can be him wanting you to stroke his ego because he wants validation. Either way instead of getting irritated or hurt play it off gracefully or playfully. When he mentions how many other women find him attractive you can: A. Compliment him- Mention how lucky you are to have such a sexy man B. Compliment both of you- be like well duh I’m super sexy and get hit on a lot so I need to be with someone who understands my s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/23 07:06 PM |
| 26 | I discussed asexuality today with therapist & kind of shocked by her response. Thoughts?Women tend to be sexually responsive/reactive. Without the right stimuli it’s normal to not be mentally horny. Libido also varies depending on hormones. Do you notice you get physically turned on near ovulation? If you’re on hormonal birth control that can dramatically decrease libido. So can many medications. If you aren’t ever getting turned on physically or mentally it could also be a vitamin deficiency or medical symptom. Asexuality is valid as a stand alone condition but lack of libido and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/23 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Separation after a failed marriage with children, going no contactIf your children are under 18 the yes no contact is toxic and will impact your children. He is still their father and will always be in their life. You can divorce and handle this situation with grace. No contact doesn’t always help you heal instead it’s just avoidance and shutting down. Put up healthy boundaries and keep your distance but logistically you’ll need to atleast text him regarding your children. It’s not their responsibility to have to tip toe or manage your relationship with their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/23 03:15 AM |
| -1 | How do I help my husband who is obsessed with his muscles/body?Would he be paranoid if you had the same symptoms? Being severely uw, body image issues, hyper focused on appearance, obsessive behavior, refusing to eat others food bc it doesn’t fit macros, hour plus daily gym, control issues around diet/exercise, etc. Many anorexics don’t feel like they have an issue if they don’t look/feel ill and are successful in other aspects of life. Or aren’t the poster child of anorexia (high achieving white teenage girl with middle class or upper class background). In… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 06:21 PM |
| 0 | How do I help my husband who is obsessed with his muscles/body?This actually sounds like he has an eating disorder. Eds are often undiagnosed in men especially if being underweight isn’t desired by the man and he’s higher functioning/successful. Not all anorexics like being underweight esthetically-some are very insecure about it. Going from extremely underweight to gym rat is common in anorexics. There’s a pipeline between anorexia and orthorexia. Eds aren’t just about appearance they have a huge control component. Many men aren’t aware they have one due t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Married women, can you please respond to some questions? It would be very helpful to me and other women in my situationOf course feel free to pm me anytime :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 04:57 PM |
| 0 | Married women, can you please respond to some questions? It would be very helpful to me and other women in my situationNowadays there’s get refusal inclusions where if he refuses to give a get he owes x amount daily. And yes this is in response to the horrible occurrences where a woman is shackled to her husband and he leaves/goes missing. There are circumstances where a marriage can be absolved without a get (like false pretenses or being coerced into marriage). Usually the community and rabbi pressures the man into giving a get. He can be ostracized and his business boycotted. This is more of a concern in ultr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 04:54 PM |
| 9 | Married women, can you please respond to some questions? It would be very helpful to me and other women in my situationNot technically married yet since I have to finish my orthodox conversion first (it’s almost done so we will be married very soon-we have to marry asap after). We aren’t going to get legally married until he gets better insurance and I’ve been in the conversion process for years. A Jewish marriage still protects me as I’ll have a legally binding ketubah/marriage contract that provides financial protection. Yes, but he brought it up and explained he viewed me as marriage material and wanted a tra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/23 02:31 PM |
| 19 | this doesn’t make a lick of senseAt 27 you can meet plenty of men 28-35 who don’t think you were out partying and just getting serious. A man who judges you based on assumptions only isn’t captain material. You’ll have to explain that you got into a serious relationship too early and didn’t see the red flags until it got violent. Then you took a year off to work on yourself instead of rebounding/partying. After that you had 1 more ltr and dates that didn’t workout because your timelines weren’t lined up. Explain how you’ve been… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/23 03:59 PM |
| 12 | How many matches do you get on dating apps each day?This doesn’t really apply to rpw. And there’s far too many variables for this to produce actual info unless you’re just trying to validate yourself/cherry pick data. It doesn’t give accurate smv or rmv. For apps like tinder you both need to match. So someone can be really picky or only swipe on men they’d be compatible with for ltrs and match with few men. Other women may just swipe on any man they find cute. Quality matters too. It’s better to have fewer compatible matches than many incompatibl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 09:40 PM |
| 9 | Whats an argument against men can sleep around but women cant.Who someone’s friends are says a lot about a person. Imo distance yourself from this man. It’s about basic respect and empathy. If he’s religious then there’s that aspect too. Multiple wives were allowed in poly societies only and you had to be able to provide financially and emotionally for them (plus it had to be consensually open). Also he can catch stds (condoms don’t eliminate all risk) and pass them to his partner. Herpes can be transmitted by oral sex. If the culture they live in is monog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:13 PM |
| 57 | DAE think the female delusion calculator is inaccurate?It’s pretty accurate but it’s a generalization. If you’re in a HCOL area there’s more higher earning men- vice versa for rural areas. But if your social circle is lower you aren’t likely to date or marry someone who makes 6fig or even 75k even if you live in a hcol area. Men don’t marry too far down socially and usually stick with someone with a similar background or in their extended social circle. Raising social status is more important than just making more money. Trophy wives often feel excl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/23 01:52 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend comments on how hot other girls are, continually follows other women on Instagram, talks about his past sexual experiences, watches porn whilst being sexual with meNarcissists are insecure which is why cope in such unhealthy ways. They don’t have a healthy ego and overcompensate. She shouldn’t just walk away but RUN! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 07:01 PM |
| 4 | massive guilt and shame after kissing someone, even having nightmares about it.It seems you had a value collision- what you did was not in accordance to your values. It’s important that you forgive yourself and ask G-d for forgiveness so you can move on instead of fixating on the past. You aren’t a slut. Shame and guilt just makes matters worse. Self respect and confidence is what allows you to keep healthy boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/23 04:41 PM |
| 8 | How does the Red Pill Community view men who want their women to be exclusive to them, yet the man can have one-night stands and "friends for sex"? Is such a man considered an HVM?And even then it often backfires when their play things end up wanting more or aren’t discrete enough. Part of the arrangement is usually his indiscretions can’t embarrass the wife. There needs to be plausible deniability. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/23 06:40 AM |
| 8 | Feminine but not girlyTrue, a significant amount of trad fem women don’t wear makeup or high heels as those are too “sexy” and not really practical for a sahm who is cooking, cleaning, and taking care of kids all day. You can’t say menonite or Amish women aren’t traditional. Traditionally feminine doesn’t mean all dolled up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 12:28 AM |
| 1 | How popular is anal really? 😅lol nope ideas haven’t changed it’s just 2 Jews 3 opinions-Unfortunately there’s nuances about which ruling you have to follow and you can’t just pick and choose the most lenient for everything lol. The idea behind it is it’s allowed because the purpose behind marital sex is oneness and not just procreation. I still have yet to figure out why oral or looking down there isn’t allowed. St. Augustine is catholic? so I’m guessing purity culture started back then. I wonder how it’s changed after so m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | How popular is anal really? 😅For women lol. M2M anal is compared to incest and bestiality in terms of sexual immorality. Kosher” sex from an orthodox Jewish perspective is an interesting subject. A married woman receiving anal from her husband when not niddah (period + 7 days after) is ok if he ejaculates in her vagina. But even then it has to be an act she enjoys. Sex in Judaism is a woman’s right unlike most religions. The only time a woman is obligated to have sex is right after the mikvah after niddah. And that’s only i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/23 04:27 PM |
| 9 | Gee, I can't imagine why guys only want one thing from you.There’s a possibility her kid(s) are 18+ and moved out. And now that they’re gone she’s trying to branch swing. She strikes me as the type of woman to have kids much earlier than 30. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/09/23 05:06 AM |
| 21 | I don’t know where to start, but I know I want to understandProblem is these peddlers often say things that have a grain of truth. Which gives their other bs “credibility”. Pearly is an unmarried, high n count, argumentative/critical, unattractive, late 20s woman so she doesn’t even follow her own advice. Unsuccessful unmarried older men who get really into rp are still lvm. Fresh and fit is great for pulling young men out of being blue pulled but it can definitely trigger lvm to be bitter. Many men go through the anger phase before they can pass to the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/23 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Beginning TTC woesThat reduces sperm count and isn’t conductive ttc. It’s great for younger couples who aren’t on a time clock who want a daughter. Are you trying for a boy or girl? Girl sperm can live longer around 5 days. Boy sperm can’t so if you’re trying for a boy you’ll need to time it closer to ovulation window and have him not cum for a few days so it builds up. If you’re trying for a girl have frequent sex 5 days before ovulation and a day after. Are you trying any herbal meds? I got pregnant (at 28) rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/23 11:18 PM |
| 7 | Stuck in a situationship, now 26, is all lost for me if I want children (multiple)?Rented lot-yep that’s gonna cause problems. You’d have to move the house which costs unless you could pay the lot rent (even then if it’s an association you’d have to be approved). That’s why you’d find a woman roommate, do a background check, and use a mix of intuition/common sense. A casita/studio/efficiency/rv in someone’s backyard can be cheap too. Doesn’t matter how good of a man he is if you guys aren’t compatible. Staying after vetting a man is just pushing your problems to tomorrow inste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 05:35 AM |
| 17 | Stuck in a situationship, now 26, is all lost for me if I want children (multiple)?Don’t move in with him!!! Find a room rental or another woman to share an apartment with. He’s not the only one who would want to share living costs he’s just the most convenient right now. During that time you can work on your credit. But no decent man will take you seriously if you’re living with a situationship. Is she super old or dying with no closer relatives? If not it’s super weird to care about inheriting it. Even if she’s bad at managing finances you can put the house in an limited lia… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 04:59 AM |
| 5 | I don’t know what is wrong with me.https://www.verywellmind.com/disorganized-attachment-in-relationships-7500701 This is pretty typical behavior for an avoidant or anxious-avoidant (aka disorganized) attachment style. You’re self sabotaging. You need to look inward and work on yourself. Rn I don’t think you’ll be able to have a healthy relationship since you keep indulging in toxic behaviors. Nun mode can help if you’re early to mid 20s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/23 02:29 AM |
| 8 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.Good you’re catching it now since the slow creep catches up fast when you’re short. If calorie counting isn’t sustainable other methods like volume eating, intermittent fasting, or ww points could be helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 12:20 AM |
| 25 | I want to get skinny to make our relationship better—help.You’ve posted this same question many times. You aren’t going to get a new answer you’ve gotta put the work in. Weight loss is 90% what you eat. Diets don’t work sustainable lifestyle changes do. Lifting is great to tone but to lose fat you need to eat less calories. You don’t need to do anything drastic just look up your tdee and -500 cals a day to lose 1lbs a week but don’t go under 1200 daily even if your tdee is under 1700. Going under 1200 will likely lead to malnutrition or cheat days. Bul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/23 12:14 AM |
| 2 | Date night instapot/air frier ideas??•Fried ravioli w/caprese salad & garlic bread or bruschetta (opt: red wine) •Pot Roast/hearty stew •Pulled chicken sandwiches (bbq/Hawaiian) w/kettle chips •Saag paneer w/naan •Beef pho You don’t need to make a whole meal. Men appreciate when sweets/baked goods are made for them too. Usually a whole meal is made when you’re going steady. I personally wouldn’t make it for someone I wasn’t exclusive with although it could be a nice gesture if he’s been picking up the tabs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/23 04:01 AM |
| 5 | How does a husband balance between his parents and his wife?Really depends what the wants are. A wise man knows to pick his battles. If it’s frivolous things letting go to avoid conflict is a rational decision. A man can put his family first without causing drama. But sometimes keeping the long term peace is more important than being right in the moment. Masculine isn’t macho. Is following a lifestyle he’s comfortable with actually submitting? Is he the one who isn’t happy with things? Or do you expect your husband to change his lifestyle choices to make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/23 10:10 PM |
| 13 | Cold Recipes Needed Please!I got my fiancé a lunchbox that warms up by car cig or outlet. I bought him a cheap version of this- https://www.target.com/p/crockpotgo-electric-lunch-box-31oz/-/A-86266601?ref=tgt_adv_xsp&AFID=google&fndsrc=tgtao&DFA=71700000012806756&CPNG=PLA_Appliances%2BShopping_Local%7CAppliances_Ecomm_Home&adgroup=SC_Appliances_Slow+Cooking&LID=700000001170770pgs&LNM=PRODUCT_GROUP&network=g&device=m&location=1015138&targetid=pla-1460100166249&ds_rl=1246978&ds_rl=1247068&gbraid=0AAAAAD-5dfbBHq0mNqH_hNVgtRt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/23 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Gaining trust after infidelityFor some people but it would require the adulterer to make amends and change. You cannot regain trust without earning it. Apologizing without actually wanting to change is manipulation. It’s not being sorry for the behavior only sorry about it’s consequences. Even Laura Doyle writes about serial infidelity to be a deal breaker/marriage ender. A mistake is different than an underlying issue combined with bad character traits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/23 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Skincare scenarioDon’t dermaroll nano needle instead! At home dermarolling is risky. A micro needling pen with nano cartridges are safer. Dr. Pen is a decent brand but you can also get cheaper ones that work well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/23 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Meal Box Services are Improving my RelationshipsSome are healthier and better quality than others. Yes, you get get flatbread pizza at 1000 cals per serving but you can also get some delicious balanced meals or veggie laden organic ones. They’re great to learn recipes. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/07/23 11:14 PM |
| 29 | Awkward sex questionYour body will adjust. The vagina stretches. I cannot stress this enough FOREPLAY is necessary. When properly turned on the vagina tents and opens up more to make penetration easier. Plus it naturally lubricates. Extra lube can make things easier too. If he fingers you with lube before penetration that should significantly reduce pain unless there’s a medical underlying issue. Also since you’re sore likely due to too much friction have him go gentle the next couple of times at least during the f… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/07/23 12:43 AM |
| 15 | Ignoring wife for awful and disrespectful behaviour. She knows what I am up to is ignoring me back and the disrespectful behaviour isn’t changing. What to do next?This is toxic and playing games. Men inspire submission and respect by being good leaders not by demanding it and acting childish when disrespected. Doing things like this isn’t going to change her behavior if anything it’ll make it worse. You guys need to have some serious conversations about healthy conflict resolution and fighting fair. Ignoring isn’t healthy. You guys are a team and need to act like it. Right now it’s you vs each other when it should be both of you vs the issue. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/07/23 07:24 AM |
| 1 | Cotton or cotton blend housedresses for choresSecondhand/thrift store dresses, thredup, Temu, shein On sale $10-12 100% cotton dresses (they also have rompers): https://www.nyandcompany.com/products/ruffle-neck-flare-dress-city-knits?variant=44394582474939 https://www.nyandcompany.com/products/twist-back-shift-dress-city-knits?size=medium&color=golden%20daisy&vendor=94500 https://www.nyandcompany.com/products/shoulder-button-flare-dress-city-knits?size=xlarge&color=blossom%20blue&vendor=94500 https://www.nyandcompany.com/products/belted-hal… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/07/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Hot men get a gf usually because they like that specific woman. He could sleep around but he chooses commitment. Less attractive men often take what they can get by offering commitment to get sex. Hot men can get sex without commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 11:46 PM |
| 1 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Hot men get a gf usually because they like that specific woman. He could sleep around but he chooses commitment. Less attractive men often take what they can get by offering commitment to get sex. Hot men can get sex without commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 11:46 PM |
| 6 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?IMO men who aren’t used to attractive women giving them attention are more likely to cheat. Cheating is often from not feeling respected/wanted, insecurity, resentment, etc. Men who have options know they can if they wanted to but instead choose to be faithful. So not wasting an opportunity to cheat isn’t a big deal because they can always do it. Men without options may view cheating as a rare opportunity. And they may be more flattered by it vs a man used to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 07:19 PM |
| 11 | When "conventionally attractive" guys seem to regularly pursue "less" "conventionally attractive" women is there a reason behind it or is it just their type?Yep men cheat on 8+s too. Cheating has little to do with a wife’s looks unless she really let herself go the point of unattraction. Even then morals and wife googles. Cheating and being afraid your partner will cheat tend to be personal issues or from unmet needs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/23 05:39 PM |
| – | Should I try to shag hot hulky dude at hostel?No, you should instead invest your time into figuring out why massive azzholes are your type. That, needing to ask for advice regarding a hookup with a man you’ll never see again who grinds on multiple women, plus throwing a drink (no matter the circumstances) show instability. It would be more understandable if you made a dumb young drunken mistake and hooked up but you’re honestly contemplating it sober. Nun mode is needed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/23 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Is it okay to date whilst separated?No, most good men won’t take you seriously. You come with drama and strings attached right now. A marriage minded man doesn’t want a woman who isn’t legally able to be wed. He might worry if you’re husband could come back. And you’re benefiting from him still paying some of your bills. IMO men will view this in a very bad way. If no reconciliation is possible then stop delaying things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/23 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?I’ve gone through narc abuse too and that shreds self esteem and security. Insecurity attracts predatory men. It’s a viscous cycle but I’m glad you’re trying to stop it. Being happy with yourself and the progress you’ve made is great. Keep up the good work. Don’t get too hard on yourself though. It’s a journey not a marathon. There will always be bad days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/23 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?Are you using healing and trauma to not be vulnerable/be avoidant? Because you're only 25 you've got time to dedicate 1 year to therapy and personal growth. You shouldn't hit the wall doing nun mode for 1 year especially since the time you'd put towards relationships could also be put towards increasing smv. The difference between finding a man at 25 and 27 isn't much. Besides a lot of the wall is mental. It's also how you approach dating. Women who have hit the wall are less carefree. You can h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/23 08:41 PM |
| 4 | Where to find a committed man when you’re in your 20s?Yep blue collar is where it's at as long as they're not in traveling positions where they're gone a lot. My fiance supervises at his father's company which allows me to be a sahm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/23 08:14 PM |
| 0 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Yes but I have a very small bone structure so I just look petite at that weight. Bmi 17 may look skeletal for some women. That's just the range that I get more compliments from both genders, hit on, free items, and get checked out at. I live in a hcol city where being uw isn't uncommon. Being super skinny is attractive in places like NYC, California, South Florida, Denver, etc but wouldn't be as attractive in the south or rural areas. I've been under bmi 17 and that's when the fetishist hit on m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/23 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Yes, but I was a chubby awkward nerd from 11-14 and 16-17. Pretty privilege is real. And it affects your personality. You can usually tell when someone has been beautiful their whole life or if they grew into it. At my worst I was about a 4 from poor hygiene, being 5lbs overweight, and bad styling (clothes/hair/makeup). Now I'm 29 and an 8 through softmaxxing. I was a 7 until 25. It took me a while to figure out what suited me vs what was trendy. If I got a bad haircut or dyed my hair an unflatt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/23 06:05 AM |
| 1 | I'm 27 and Never Had a Boyfriend...Maybe you're going for men out of your league? Or are giving off red flags that scare good men away. My guess is a little bit of both. If you don't want to invest the energy in them why would you expect them to want to invest in you? You've worked on your smv but keeping men requires rmv. Learn some girl game to keep a man's attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/23 01:56 AM |
| 4 | How many sexual partners is too many for a 31-year-old womanHigh N count is a red flag primarily because it's associated with a bad decision making/high risk lifestyle. With isn't compatible with hvm. It indicates poor impulse control and low self esteem. And the more sexual partnered the more likely you are to be dissatisfied sexually or cheat. Also the circumstances surrounding n count is important (infidelity, casual sex, sleeping with married men, etc). 5 for a woman in her 30s isn't too high. Guys who are set on virgins or less than 5 partners would… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 02:50 AM |
| 6 | What does 'vet' mean?Picking a good man who is compatible with your values, goals, and lifestyle. If you're looking for a husband, poor vetting is going on dates with men who aren't looking for anything serious, manipulate, low income/financial irresponsibility, etc. Also a man could have bf traits and a great job without being a good husband. And a man could be a good husband to someone but be a poor fit for you. Ex: a husband who is laid back and messy could be difficult for a highly neurotic type A woman. Sure, t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 10:30 PM |
| 8 | Traditional and “Progressive” Men are not mutually exclusiveSlightly off topic but on the other hand, not all conservatives or masculine men are traditional. Some want the perks of traditionalism without providing. Or they want a sahm and think all they have to do is financially provide. Leading the relationship and household is more than just paying the bills. I've seen many conservatives who are raging alcoholics or have anger issues, so the wife still takes on masculine responsibilities because she can't trust him to lead. Macho is different than masc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | success? post - i’m not ugly. i just had low self esteem… and terrible style.Actually, that's how most women are as men's attractiveness isn't based off of looks as much as women's is. Women are hypergamous, meaning they strive for the highest quality man. Looks are a only part of what makes a man high quality/a hvm. Hvm are not only attractive but they are also decently intelligent, charismatic, financially stable, etc. Sleeping with men who won't establish exclusivity first is a high initial risk lower long-term risk strategy talked about in rpw. It's not for suckers i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/23 08:09 AM |
| 3 | Have any ladies on this subreddit ever taken these classes? I was considering taking them. I’m unmarried, but I hope to be married someday.Not worth the $ imo. There's many free blogs (check Pintrest to find them!) and YouTube channels that offer better content. Mrs. Midwest is a well known one. If you're religious, it's easy to find homemaking forums/interactive blogs. Also reddit has r/homemaking. What part of homemaking are you trying to improve in? You can learn individual skills without classes. Easy way to learn homemaking skills Cooking: subscription boxes or 1 new recipe a week using online recipes Mending clothes and laund… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/06/23 06:53 AM |
| 6 | success? post - i’m not ugly. i just had low self esteem… and terrible style.The average woman (even with $$$$) can't be an 8 but most women can be cute/6 if they tried. Yeah I feel no pity for those who neglect themselves yet feel entitled to an attractive partner. Rules for thee but not for me. A 6 smv woman with high rmv and girl game could lock down a 7-8 man. A 6 smv/rmv could lock down a 6. But both of these 6s could sleep with 8+ men. I think many women complain because they can sleep with top tier men but can't secure commitment. And even if they did put effort i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/23 05:51 AM |
| 25 | success? post - i’m not ugly. i just had low self esteem… and terrible style.As a woman a lot of our beauty is controllable. Little things like hairstyle/color, clothing, accessories, posture/body language, etc adds up fast. How you carry yourself attracts men too. Being overly outwardly insecure usually attracts predatory men or men with savior complexes. I'd bet that while those style changes did up your smv a bit the psychological changes made a huge difference. Feminine allure is powerful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/23 10:04 PM |
| 14 | Woman lists her own red flags revealing she's a damaged carousel rider. Dude unmatched.Honestly it doesn't seem like it was written by her. Far too self aware and analytical for a manic episode and too honest any other time. It's too straightforward and direct. There's no emotion or justification for her actions. I guess she could've split or had some bpd symptom to create this if she's not making things up for attention/pity....in that case she needs professional help asap because she's about to ruin a lot of people's lives as collateral in her self destructive ways. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/06/23 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Pilates builds great bodies too! I'm glad you're not pushing yourself too hard anymore. Yeah that's the problem with weights; if your form is off or you do too much it's really easy to injure yourself. I've noticed people with the best bodies tend to have personal trainers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 02:23 PM |
| 5 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.I do aerial lyra so I'm quite fit. And I do weighted squats and hip thrusts when I go to the gym. But everyone starts somewhere. Weights can be intimidating for beginners and not everyone has access to the equipment. Using body weight isn't weightless. Weighted squats are great for glute building. Adding resistance bands to body weight exercises still builds the glutes though. Consistency is more important than lifting heavy for most women's body goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/23 02:05 PM |
| 10 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working.Not everyone should start with weighted exercises. If you have weak glutes donkey kicks are great to build muscle. Then as you get stronger you need to push yourself more. Donkey kicks are also great for glute activation before a glute workout. Activation and proper form is more important than adding weights. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/23 10:11 PM |
| 2 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Well I guess it depends what you find attractive/your type. And if you're in the same league. In some sense high n count is pre selection. If that many women wanted him he must be "good". Imo the quality of women he sleeps with is more important than the number. Being able to sleep with a different 4-6 every week is less impressive than dating 1 8+. I'm pretty familiar with liberal Muslims (compared to the average American atleast) as my fiance is friends with some. They're married, though, so i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Honestly you shouldn't have much issues finding a good man then since you fit what most men want (as long as you have decent smv and rmv too). Finding a good match takes time. Go where the type of men you're interested are. Expand your social circle to meet them naturally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 04:58 AM |
| 2 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Well if he's not super religious, a virgin at 25 might be a yellow flag. I'm highly curious about the men you're around. Hmv have self control and high standards. They could get a different girl each week but they choose not to. Doesn't mean they don't have a ltr or fwbs. But imo really attractive men who aren't ready to settle have plates/soft harem instead of a new girl each week. Really high n count in men shows insecurity, impulsiveness, and commitment issues. Men are much more honest about … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 04:50 AM |
| 2 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Well what do you bring to the table other than sex? If you have low rmv then it's harder to get a man to commit without sex. If you build a connection based on similar values and goals asking a man to wait isn't risky. Men need to feel wanted, respected, and desired. Sexual activities is a strong way for them to experience intimacy. But it's not the only way. If a man leaves as soon as you mention wanting commitment before sex then he doesn't see you as commitment worthy or he's not currently re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 04:34 AM |
| 5 | If you have basically no history but your partner has a lot of relationship/sexual history is it a problem?Not all attractive men are ran through 25+. Some men aren't into hookups, religious reasons, ltrs, focused on career/education, high standards, etc. Maybe you're meeting the more party type of men. Yes, most attractive men in their mid 20s have had some hookups or fwbs plus a couple relationships of various lengths but an n count of 100 would be a red flag in a man. You can make a man wait to go all the way if you're a virgin but you need to be dating with intention. You can gauge marriage compa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/23 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Do men actually care about n count and what is the standard usuallyDo you think men care more about the number or other factors like age, whether it was a hookup/ltr, risky sex, etc? Because imo refusal to take a woman with high n count seriously isn't just about jealousy but rather her decision-making skills and the additional risks committing to her for marriage brings. Less casual sex seems to be more important for long term marital stability than n count alone. And while being promiscuous or having unsafe sex young is a red flag this behavior over 25 should… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/23 01:49 AM |
| 5 | Is knowing your SMV important? Why? And how do you find yours out?Low n count is rmv not smv. Stds can occur from high n count but you can be unlucky and get it from only 1 sexual experience. Most men imo don't care for too crazy in bed unless they view you as a short-term fling. For long term instead they want women to be enthusiastic and open to try new things. They still want to be able to lead sexually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 04:12 AM |
| 5 | How important is it for you to have a partner who has high vetting criteria?At 23 women hold more dating power than men their age. 20s-30s women are at their peak and after that men have the upper hand. A 23 year old woman can marry a rich 30 year old or sleep around with hvm. So his expectations are based off his dating market. He's still young so it's not really concerning. If he was in his 30s he could have low self esteem but at 23 it's not abnormal to not be picky. If he has good husband traits at 23, you're attracted to him, and you're compatible then don't overth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 05:47 AM |
| 3 | How important is it for you to have a partner who has high vetting criteria?How old is he? I met my partner when he was 26. If you're still young he may be figuring out still what he will tolerate and what his dealbreakers are. And while he says those are his "only criteria" that doesn't mean it's true. Would he date someone obese, ugly, mean, incompatible, irresponsible, high debt, etc? If you deem him good enough, why do you need it to be validated? Are you looking for reasons to sabotage things? Imo seems like you're being hypergamous/letting your hamster run. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 05:19 AM |
| 3 | How important is it for you to have a partner who has high vetting criteria?My fiance would've dated someone lower rmv/smv but not married them. He has different standards for casual relationships, gf, and marriage. Marriage material to him requires high smv and rmv. While they don't need high vetting criteria I wouldn't be with someone who had low standards. It shows they don't respect themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 03:34 AM |
| 5 | Is it time to throw in the towel?Yeah, a single occurrence, especially during a rough patch or period of lack of itimacy, can be worked on if both parties want to and has different underlying issues than habitual infidelity. Habitual infidelity can also be a huge risk due to stds and pregnancy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/23 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Some of the things me say to me . Can you give me insight from your perspectiveSidebar on rpw has some tips on girl game. Practice also YouTube. You don't need to be outgoing being coy is considered flirty. A more subtle approach may suit you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Some of the things me say to me . Can you give me insight from your perspectiveYou can be sweet plus shy and still come across as very assertive. Maybe you come across as too independent since you're shy and mind your own business. Plus if you're really pretty plus shy some people misinterpret that as unfriendly/intimidating. Either way those phrases aren't usually used by very masculine men unless in jest/joking. If these guys are just naturally letting you lead/following you they aren't the type of man you should want to marry. Imo learn girl game and use these comments … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 06:17 PM |
| 3 | How do you keep yourself well-groomed on a budget?Nails- Press ons (can be found online cheap in short/med length) or watch yt and practice with dip/gel until you get it down. Or just keep them groomed. Instead of clear you can use a light pink. Whenever it chips just paint over it or remove and paint the single nail. Chipped polish isn't too noticeable on light polish color. Glitter tends to chip less imo. Invest in a quality polish and make sure to prep properly before (inc. Buffing and dehydrating the nail). If you live in a city that has cl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | looking to date again; how to express my no sex (ever) boundary to prospective dates before meeting?I meant you'd be bringing the home stability in an open relationship style marriage. Having a steady companion brings comfort. Sex isn't the only thing men look for in a wife. But taking it off the table without allowing him to have his needs fulfilled elsewhere isn't a reasonable request if he isn't asexual. If anything he'll just lie to you to save your feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 05:19 AM |
| 2 | looking to date again; how to express my no sex (ever) boundary to prospective dates before meeting?Yeah the only way this would work is if the man is asexual and even then unhealed trauma can be a lot of baggage. If she was willing to allow him to have a side piece that would open up the possibility of being a beard or a playboy type who wants to have a stable home life too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/23 03:17 AM |
| 20 | My bf (32M) questions me (25F) on everything and its driving me crazyYeah people who were raised by narcs tend to either become narcs or end up dating them. While her bf may not be a narc his behavior is how many narcs act. There's definitely enough red flags that this man doesn't pass the vetting stage and isn't compatible for her. Unless she is asking for his input and advice without realizing it. If he constantly acts this way even when she doesn't bring up an issue and she's asked him to stop and he refuses to then yeah red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/23 03:57 PM |
| 5 | Women are falsely accusing Leonardo DiCaprio of being a "sexual predator" for dating a 19-year-old CONSENTING ADULT woman. This is part of a disturbing slander campaign designed to equate older men's attraction to younger women as pedophilia.Even if they were dating it could be a pr relationship. Many couples in Hollywood aren't actually together. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/02/23 10:31 PM |
| 30 | Women are falsely accusing Leonardo DiCaprio of being a "sexual predator" for dating a 19-year-old CONSENTING ADULT woman. This is part of a disturbing slander campaign designed to equate older men's attraction to younger women as pedophilia.Some 19 year olds look very young and have a baby face. If he dated a woman who looked underage I could understand the backlash. His gf is a very beautiful young woman who doesn't look 15. Women say they want a sugar daddy/are pro sugar arrangements so why is this upsetting? It's a tale as old as time- rich successful older man with a new pretty young thing on his arm every couple of years. There's actual pedos and preditors in Hollywood. He isn't one of them. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/02/23 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Am I dating out of my league?When you factor in age, not obese, and unmarried on the link that's what reduced the number to <1%. Married men earn more than their single counterparts. And I figured op wouldn't be interested in a man over 15 years older. That's not adding mutual attraction and compatability. Certain areas are more highly concentrated with these men and it seems like she's in one. I don't think it's impossible just bad odds. 1% of all men fitting her criteria isn't that low considering all these factors. Her s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 06:00 AM |
| 8 | Am I dating out of my league?https://igotstandardsbro.com/ The type of man you're looking for is less than 1%. 6fig and 5'10+ is rare. There's just not enough of them to go around. That's why women with Masters degrees who are high earners have issues dating. They priced themselves out of the market. It's not that these women don't have high smv and rmv it's a numbers thing. Meeting these men in person will give you a better chance. Do you go to any social or networking events? Any religious servives? A top <1% man on a dat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Considering not having children bcz I have semi-ugly genes? Thoughts? [21F] POTENTIAL DYSMORPHIA WARNINGThere's more genes than just ones that affect appearance. Traits like intelligence are passed down. Also most of female beauty is controllable so as long as you teach your daughter to take care and respect herself she will have some beauty. Also looks aren't everything. Sure they help but it's better to have children with good character traits. Btw if you're average that's not semi ugly.I'd much rather have a 5/10 daughter who is kind, feminine, cooperative than a hot daughter who isn't. And the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Is anybody here in intercultural relationships?No doubt. I actually told myself I wouldn't marry anyone Sephardic/was looking to marry Ashkenazi because I'm rather sensitive with sensory issues. Well I forgot to add Mizrahi so jokes on me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 07:44 PM |
| 0 | Has feminism fostered a culture where women are praised for mediocrity but men are ignored for greatness? I’ve noticed every average looking girl is “beautiful” and most good looking men are “average.”That's because women and femininity are more beautiful. The average young and not morbidly obese woman is desirable to men of all attractiveness. They may not date her but most men will sleep with someone well below their league. It's nature. Men are designed to view women more favorably to increase the chance of reproduction. Women are hypergamous. A large percentage of men throughout history never reproduced. Instead of selecting a partner within their league, women were willing to share the t… | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/02/23 01:42 AM |
| 16 | My partner has told me to look at this page - He wants me to promise him that I will always look skinny for him and stay in shape. Am I in the wrong for saying that I shouldn’t have to promise that to him?It's a real fear men have that they will become unattracted to their wife because she let herself go. A pretty wife is a status thing. When a man's wife let's herself go he may feel disrespected. Gaining 10 lbs or being a little flabby still 6mo after childbirth is normal. Gaining 50 isn't. If he's expecting you to be a trophy wife/influencer mom who remains a sz 0-4, bounces back from childbirth asap, who does weekly pilates and drinks green juices daily he's going to have to do what the husban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 07:17 PM |
| 15 | Is anybody here in intercultural relationships?I grew up waspy in California/west and went to a private Christian school and he's Yeminite and Azkenazi Jewish from FL/Miami/Israel. I converted so we have similar religious beliefs but we are still very different culturally. The yelling and loudness is something I still haven't quite adjusted to. But he's very passionate and straight forward which I like. I'm used to my family pretending things are ok and pushing skeletons in the closet. It's bred a lot of resentment and we aren't close. His f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 05:23 PM |
| 8 | Question about serving food to your partnerDo you even want him to serve you food or is your mind looking for ways that this relationship is "unfair? No relationship (not even friendships) is everything 50/50. He may give more in other areas. If his love language isn't acts of service he may not even realize that you'd appreciate it. He also may not have grown up in a household where it's normal so the thought may have never crossed his mind. You can't expect him to read your mind. If it really matters just let him know how loved you fee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/23 04:48 PM |
| 9 | Signs a guy is genuinely interested in you?He makes it known. Men tend to be forward with their feelings when they really like someone and don't play games. If you have to question it usually he isn't completely serious. If a man isn't into you he'll play games or leave you confused. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/23 07:32 PM |
| 7 | how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotypeYou're an adult it's time to take responsibility for your life and choices. They aren't going to be around forever and they're not the ones living your life. You seem to be mentally a bit behind for your age group/failure to launch. If self improvement and becoming more independent by yourself is too difficult there's support groups, therapy, and other resources to help you. Medication is sometimes necessary. It's not too late to get better but you have to want to. And take the necessary steps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/23 11:23 PM |
| 15 | how much can a female be a incel typically or that stereotypeAnyone who thinks girls hit the wall at 12-15 is a pedophile. They aren't into women they're into prepubescent teens. Unfortunately some women are born ugly or make poor choices but that's not the wall. Female beauty is highly controllable. Softmaxxing can make most ugly women average or higher (unless deformed which would require hardmaxxing/surgery). Most women can't be incels in the aspect of not being able to get laid. Many women can be femcels in which they can't secure a man for marriage. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/23 11:11 PM |
| 6 | I'm so used of wearing jeans- how do I transition to wearing pants?Jeans can be feminine depending on their cut and style. Also how you dress them up. If you wear jeans just make sure to add some accessories and/or a more feminine blouse. I'm more of a fan of skirts and dresses vs pants. But when I did wear pants flowy linen boho type ones I liked. Look at some pintrest or Instagram fashion boards. There's plenty of flattering plus size trousers that are more modern and trendy. Once you get an idea of what you're looking for try a lot on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/23 07:39 PM |
| 14 | RPW SinglesI'm going to be really honest with you since you've been lied to. Hvm are in high demand you aren't likely going to land one for anything serious with the choices you've made in life. You don't have the dating power anymore even if you use rpw tools. The dating scene gets very competitive after 30. There's just not enough hvm so the ones that are ready to settle down get to be very picky. A hvm (unless an older divorcee...and even then) is out of your league. Why do you expect to marry a hvm aft… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/23 08:05 PM |
| 11 | how do you know if you are dating in your league or out of it?There's 2 leagues- sexual and relationship. If you're under 30, fit/slim, have decent style, good hygiene, with an average or above face your smv is decently high. On the sidebar somewhere there is a guide on how to raise smv. Smv determines who you can pull/attract/have sex with. It's what gets your foot in the door. This is where women get confused. 9/10 men will sleep with 6/10 women but they won't give commitment to these women. Rmv is your dating league. This is who you can get to stay/comm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/23 04:12 AM |
| 35 | Men always leave me when I get sickThen you're picking men who aren't looking for commitment or you aren't viewed as relationship material. Are you dating out of your league? Are you dating men 21 or under? Before sleeping with someone, you should know their intentions. Look at actions, not just words, and have serious conversations if you're looking for something serious. If you're looking to date for a lt, you need to be dating with intention, not just hoping it goes there. If you regularly give up sex without vetting thoroughl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Do I need to be decently attractive to be a stay-at-home wife?Kids are home from school Saturday. And working 6x a week doesn't leave much time for family, friends, errands, self care, gym, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Do I need to be decently attractive to be a stay-at-home wife?Most of female beauty is controllable so if you're average facially, you can become a 6/cute just by styling differences (hair, makeup, clothes, etc). Men and women have different views of what is attractive. You being 25 thin with some curves and an average face is decently attractive. A California 5-6 is a midwest 7-8. Just date within your league and you should be fine. Looks matters more when trying to be a trophy wife or dating above. What matters for the average man is how you treat him an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/23 02:26 AM |
| 12 | The geniuses at TXC think we should stop pro creating cause men bad.And plenty of women 35+ are TTC with no luck. She's only looking at the ones who successfully had kids. Even then they could've been trying for years with IVF. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/01/23 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Traditional, Introverted and/or religious Women: What Type of Places Do You Tend to Go To?Religious service, volunteer work, religious networking/young adult events, friends of friends bday or holiday parties, workout classes, etc. Widen your social circle and let people know you're looking for a wife. Getting set up/introduced is a common thing in this kind of dating. You never know which has an eligible niece. Your parents may have an acquaintance with a single daughter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 07:45 PM |
| 59 | He wants me to lose weightYou can't outrun a bad diet. Small lifestyle changes last longer than restrictive or fad diets. Consistency is key. Depending on your height, activity level, and weight check out r/1200isplenty or r/1500isplenty. R/loseit and r/volumeeating are good too. 3500 calorie is 1lb so -500 calories from tdee a day for a week is -1lb/w. That may be too aggressive of a goal depending on tdee. Tdee is how many calories you burn daily inc movement. Bmr is how much you burn if basically in a coma. Don't eat … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 02:21 AM |
| 33 | He doesn't want them moving inAnd it's a perfectly valid boundary for him to not want them to move in. Having roommates especially family is stressful. That's without them having a dog or being messy. Her stress and depression will end up affecting your relationship. You need to put your family first. He works all day and wants to come home to peace. Respect that. They're adults who made the financial decision to live off of just his income. Opening a business is a risky endeavor. If you want to help them there's other ways.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 02:07 AM |
| 16 | Bad kisserChemistry is important. While you shouldn't rely on tingles especially once you're 27+ there needs to be some attraction. Men want to be desired sexually by their partner. Imagine a man dating you and saying the same things. Forcing a relationship when in your prime is usually just wasting your time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/23 01:47 AM |
| 4 | I've been wondering for years if I'm asexual, and it really bothers my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. Should I ask if he wants to see additional women?If you enjoy making him happy in the bedroom and have a free use policy you might just be a submissive. Not all bdsm is about pain. Only getting turned on my impregnation is a bdsm related fetish. I have similar issues since I'm only reactive to bdsm. Although I can still enjoy regular sex occasionally usually near ovulation. Too much focus on what I need puts pressure on me. It makes it hard to relax enough to enjoy it. Its kinda like how men get performance anxiety sometimes women get stuck in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/23 06:39 PM |
| 11 | Fiancé is jealous. What should I do to keep him calm?Yeah my first guess is he's cheating or is tempted to and is trying to justify it by framing her as atleast somewhat unfaithful, too. 2nd guess is he's abusive or a narcissist trying to control her. The fact that the relationship is so perfect most of the time and then a sudden switch in behavior is a red flag. It would be better to have mediocre relationship that improves over time than this. This doesn't end well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 01:49 AM |
| 2 | How many shekels does this duine lagintinneach bring to the table?She's young, no kids, doesn't smoke, feminine enough, and not fat. While she's rather blunt and demanding these aren't unreasonable expectations. Now if she had these expectations while 30+, a single mom, or fat that would be different. Or if she was expecting this behavior from men out of her league. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/01/23 06:50 PM |
| 2 | How the actual heck do you walk in high heelsPractice. Wear them around the house until they're comfortable. Start with a shorter heel. Everyone has different feet shapes so it's about finding what heels work for you. Ill fitting heels are a no even if they look cute on. You'll end up walking weird or looking uncomfortable. Wedges and chunkier heels are a good option to start with. Also pay attention to how you currently walk. There should be some natural hip sway. Heels will slightly enhance this. Go with the flow- don't fight it or you'l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/23 06:52 PM |
| 15 | the lack of masculinity in my partnerTrue compatability is the most important. Feelings are fickle. If being in love was what mattered divorce rates wouldnt be so high. For marriage the ideal partner has both beta and alpha traits. Idk where having a complete alpha as husband became what women are looking for. An alphas goals usually don't align with rpw and its hard to submit to a full on beta. A mix is needed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/23 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Will plastic surgery harm my chances to find someone instead of help?Fake boobs will likely push away more conservative marriage minded men and attract more flashy men. They look great but a lot of men hate how they feel. Men like boobs regardless of size. Also they need to be replaced every 10-20 years. You don't get implants for men (unless your husband is super into them/after kids) you get them for yourself. Rhinoplasty can be beneficial but only if truly needed. A more prominent nose isn't necessarily bad if it fits your other facial features. Likewise a sma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/23 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Should we be concerned about a lack of big conflict before getting married?Knowing how someone deals with conflict is important but it doesn't need to be a big fight. If you guys are able to have a disagreement without it escalating further that's a good thing. Well as long as you aren't avoiding the issues. But it seems you're both feeling understood and have healthy communication. "Big fights" are actually less about what the fight is about and more about being triggered, emotionally reacting, and the past. It's when feeling rejected, resentful, misunderstood, disres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | How to make frozen vegetables delicious?If you don't like veggies as a side you can incorporate them in the meal. Pot pies are good for this. If even then you can't stand them frozen cauliflower pureed can be added to mashed potatoes or potato soup. Soup is rather forgiving. Frozen chopped spinach works well in pasta dishes. Frozen spinach/kale can be added to smoothies. If all else fails what about the preseasoned ones? They make ones that are supposed to be baked/air fried which some prefer over the microwave type. Easie peasie and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/22 05:51 AM |
| 15 | Upper class men marry educated womenUMC marry educated while UC marry into good families/within their social network (which is educated but also more elusive). Family background and who you associate with are important for UC. Marrying into UC isn't a realistic goal unless you have family ties into that lifestyle. It's extremely hard to socially climb into the UC unless coming from UMC. It's not just what you know it's who you know. Your network is everything. Women typically marry in their class or slightly above. Going from MC t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/22 04:54 AM |
| 3 | My partner has “Peter Pan Syndrome” and I feel guilty for wanting to leave because of that.Adhd can look like narcissism but the mechanisms behind the actions are different. But yes marrying a narcissist is extremely masochistic and unadvisable. Personality disorders are an instant deal breaker for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 05:43 PM |
| 10 | My partner has “Peter Pan Syndrome” and I feel guilty for wanting to leave because of that.He may need a med increase and some outlets. A good diet, sleep schedule, and exercise are extremely important. Mental illness isn't an excuse, especially when it's been this long without him actively trying to get better. Would he agree to something like betterhelps online couples therapy? He can talk to someone on his own and then you can get some advice on how to deal with this. He needs a support system that won't enable him. Does he have any male friends that will call him out on his bs/kee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/22 09:48 PM |
| 26 | My partner has “Peter Pan Syndrome” and I feel guilty for wanting to leave because of that.It's not a phase but it could be adhd or another mental health problem. If so treatment may help. But he'd have to want to be better and do the work it takes. Is there anything else going on that could have caused this other than just moving( Loss of a family member/grief or loss of job/stress)? The lack of accountability on his part is the most worrying part. If he was able to take responsibility for his poor behavior this might be fixable but as it currently stands this could end up an emotion… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/22 08:07 PM |
| 18 | Lost in my life and relationshipHe keeps holding this against you in an unhealthy controlling way. Just move on its obvious you aren't compatible. You can't undo the past and he can't accept it. He shouldnt be with someone he has this much resentment for. A relationship can't last with somrone constantly holding something above the others head. Breaking up 4-5x in the first year is a very red flag. It shows you guys don't know how to navigate and work through your issues. The past shouldn't keep coming up during fights like th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/22 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on invasive cosmetic procedures?If done to enhance someone's natural beauty or preserve beauty, is low risk, and within someone's means (without going to a sketchy place) then yes. If the goal is to completely change how you look or for underlying mental issues and insecurity nope. Plastic surgery can get addicting. Many people get work done that doesn't suit them. Plastic surgery shouldn't be noticeable. Often less is more. Small lips or breasts are better than an overfilled or a bad job. Bbls are often deadly and never worth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/22 06:44 AM |
| 26 | Advice for a low-value woman?What's your smv? As a young woman most of your smv is controllable. And even if lower smv a 4+/10 26 woman can easily marry a 5+/10 mid-late 30s man. You have youth so use it. Raise smv and your mmv. And learn girl game/how to flirt. You need to widen your social circle and put yourself out there. Do you go out many places? Not clubs but places for hobbies liek meetup. Also put yourself on dating apps. Even if you don't have luck it's good to get comfortable talking to men. But irl imo is so muc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/22 05:04 AM |
| 1 | resources for red pill husbandsYou can't fix others relationships. They need to do the hard work themselves. If she's not willing to do her half and be receptive to giving new ideas a chance then is this really worth saving. Sunked cost fallacy...it should've ended ages ago maybe it's time it falls apart. He may be happier alone than in a marriage with 12 years of love out of a 32 years and infidelity. Rp is men going after what benefits them. Being trapped in a bad marriage isn't rp for men it's bp. This scenario is exactly … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/22 08:50 PM |
| 25 | Does not feel like a girl/no male attention/disabilityIt seems you need to feel comfortable and confident in yourself. There's men who are disabled and wouldn't want a sexual relationship/kids but want a life partner. Not wanting a sexual relationship does significantly limit your dating circle to ace/disabled men unless you're open to an open relationship. Older doesn't have to mean old just men in your age group are very visually focused or wanting a family. But if you look significantly younger due to medical conditions yeah older men might not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/22 09:26 PM |
| 31 | Does not feel like a girl/no male attention/disabilityThis is an unfortunate situation but your outlook on life is a good one. Many allow things like this to turn them bitter and prevent them from having an otherwise fulfilling life. While you may not get attention from your peers have you tried dating older men or men who also have disabilities? The possibility of the disability being passed down to their children will make most men exclude you. Even if it's not a hereditary/genetic disease. You may need to put more effort trying to meet men than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/22 08:53 PM |
| 12 | Any advice for a single introvert turning 30F next year?Keep it up. The main thing is to not slip into bad habits again. And if you do get back up an keep going. Self improvement is a journey. I suggest putting yourself out there. View dating as a job. You don't need to like socializing but if you want to broaden your circle of potential men its necessary. Even if you don't meet men you're interested in you'll atleast feel more comfortable in singles spaces. Being friendly, flirty, approachable, able to hold a conversation with a man, etc are things … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | What are your views on grooming and how do you deal with facing sudden fears about your relationship after watching RP content?He's not a boy that's a full grown man! He's old enough to be your father and there's a larger age gap than your age. You've been seeing him since 17 and him 38....this is predatory. Some issues with gaps like these are he will likely die much sooner than you will (which can be financially hard and is unfair to kids), not being able to relate to him, mental capacity differences, and power inequality. 20 year gaps are usually only able to lead to fulfilling relationships after 25 (once the brain … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/22 01:00 AM |
| 0 | How do you handle being hit on by strangers?I politely accept the compliment and thank them. I wear an engagement ring so if a man pushes for my number I let him know I'm engaged but flattered. In some situations I engage in small talk but being too friendly can be taken as flirting. As for gas station cat calls just be polite, smile, say thanks, and move on. Don't allow your boundaries to be pushed. These aren't the men that are ltr material. They could be good men but that doesnt mean they're looking for anything more than a feb/hookup.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/22 07:24 AM |
| 12 | Boyfriends timeline is different than mineFertility steeply drops after 35. Most men aren't aware of that. While his mom may be able to have babies that late with no issues you could still have issues ttc and need ivf (very expensive and not guaranteed). I agree a serious straight forward conversation is needed. It's not nagging it's healthy communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/22 11:38 PM |
| 6 | I keep destroying my boyfriends clothes - help?!https://laundry-alternative.com/collections/super-compact-automatic-washer/products/drop-compact-countertop-washing-machine-and-spinner-in-one I full time in an rv and have something similar to this since the commercial washers don't often work. Then I air dry the rest of the way. I have the larger faster spin dryer though. Look at the laundry tags. There's universal symbols on there. I'm pretty bad and mix fabrics and colors and have never had these issues. Even shein and cheap clothes don't br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/22 04:32 PM |
| 15 | Would it be okay for you if your partner follows and likes local girls in IG?No. Unless needed for networking or branding I prefer men who don't use social media much. Privacy is a high value trait. The man I'm with has better things to do with this time than to give other women attention. Also he knows that's a boundary I have and how I would feel hurt and disrespected. On the flip side I don't post immodest pics, use much social media (other than reddit), or like men's photos. I save my attention for my fiance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | My MIL Does Not Allow Her Son to be married before 33 years old.Can you hire a medium to give advice that it won't end in divorce if under 33? Obviously she won't believe a medium who just says the other medium is wrong but maybe there's a "spell" or ritual that can change romantic luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/22 04:18 AM |
| 3 | With the rise of red pill ideas, is feminism doomed to fail?Very impressionable young men who are angry, lost, and confused since they've been mislead and lied to their whole lives. On the outside he seems to be the pinnacle of success and a role model for them. Young men need purpose and direction. Many people try to capitalize on that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Want to be better about controlling my emotions, especially when under the influence.Its an oxymoron to control your emotions under the influence since the point of being under the influence is to let go of your emotions a bit. The only way to control yourself is to not drink as much. Controlling yourself while tipsy is a lot easier than when blacked out. Alcohol is a strong mind altering drug. It should be used responsibly. The line from having a good line to being out of control is a very fine one. For me I've had to limit myself to 3 drinks max because sometimes 4 drinks is p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 04:44 PM |
| 8 | With the rise of red pill ideas, is feminism doomed to fail?A larger workforce is what lowered wages. It's supply and demand. In early feminism 1 income was enough. Also people spent less back then. There wasn't as much commodities. When things broke you fixed them instead of replacing them of possible. Fast fashion didn't exist. People didn't go out to eat often. Houses were much smaller. A lot of people could live on a single income now if they were willing to live like they did back then. When you have 2 incomes you tend to spend extra on convenient m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 07:02 AM |
| 5 | With the rise of red pill ideas, is feminism doomed to fail?An athlete turned "Rp" influencer who made a lot of money and fame with very controversial content. Self proclaimed sexist and misogynist who would said he'd attack women if they accused him of infidelity. He also says things like depression isn't real. Basically a macho man pretending to be an alpha. Either that or very good at acting that way to financially gain by giving advice to directionless young men. He got banned from social media platforms for hate speech and dehumanizing/violent conte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/22 06:50 AM |
| 19 | With the rise of red pill ideas, is feminism doomed to fail?No feminism was pushed for a reason. The gov benefits from 2 income households. Also red pill isn't necessarily on the rise in a good way. The Andrew Tate controversy and fake rp podcasts/media/videos hasn't been helping. The men's rp sphere is actually rather anti legal marriage (unless religious and wanting kids then proceed with caution) since no fault divorce is frequently used to screw men over. Sure there's married rp and women's rp where marriage is promoted but that form of rp content is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/22 10:08 PM |
| 16 | What ideology counts as red-pill?Waiting until marriage would be traditional values. While many rp women are trad it's not a requirement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/22 04:24 AM |
| 2 | It's wholesome AF to see older men dating younger women, and watching Leftovers whine about "grooming" between two consenting adults to cope with their invisibility.It really depeneds on the situation it can sometimes be unethical. In this case he was having late night house parties with this girl (and other underage girls and older men) without her parents present when she was 15-16. If an 18 year old meets an older person and they date that's fine but if there's been years of fraternization before legal age there's a problem. I have the same issue with Jada Smith and her son's friend. Hollywood is corrupt af. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/09/22 11:42 PM |
| -1 | Man's view on IUDsMaybe I'm hyperaware of my emotions but if a relationship is strained due to long term mood changes there should be some investigating. It shouldn't reach a breaking point. This probably isn't the first time he's brought up her change in mood. After the first year after a kid if there's still persistent mood problems it should be talked about. It could've been other things than bc but if there's a huge decrease in baseline mood then actions should be taken. She could've had nutritional deficienc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 08:50 PM |
| -5 | Man's view on IUDsBirth control messes with you hormonally. There's numerous studies that link it to finding more feminine men attractive and being repulsed by masculinity. This actually naturally occurs to some extent from hormonal changes throughout a woman's cycle. When a woman is in her fertile phase she's more attracted to masculinity. When a woman becomes infertile from hormonal drugs it removes that drive for masculinity which can affect a lot of things. If single it affects her partner choices. If married… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Hormones - questions about PMSI'll have to try that out when I'm menstruating again. I'm pregnant so hopefully I don't forget by then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Hormones - questions about PMSI was just about to bring up pmdd. I'm on a med used to treat it (for add though) and it makes a huge difference arpund that time of month. While I have a low pain short period I definitely struggle right before and nothing helped except meds. Ssris are also commonly prescribed. There's herbal blends/non prescription meds too. And any vitamin deficiencies will make it worse. Even with a healthy diet you could need supplements or need to eat more of certain foods. When I wasn't on anything I'd ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/22 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Wanting to learn fiber arts. which one is best to start with?I liked crochet since you only need one hook and it's more portable. Knitting and crocheting things is actually rather expensive though. And takes a decent amount of space. Imo it's more useful to learn embroidery or sewing so you can mend and/or tailor your clothing. You can also make a lot of stuff for the house like couch cushions. Or even reupholster chairs and other diy projects. Instead of needing a lot of yarn which is expensive you can repurpose old fabric. While a sewing machine is opti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/22 07:34 PM |
| 9 | How do you handle your husband's new phases that bring negative behavior and see them through?This is bad advice!!!! It's not healthy to give ultimatum and hold the relationship over him. This is exactly the behavior he's wary of. Her husband is frustrated. He's hurt and angry. He shouldn't take it out on her though. Instead maybe a healthy male space (gym/fitness or hobby group) could be a place to vent. Rp recommends working out so it shouldn't be hard to encourage him to go. He needs to feel this and get it out so he can heal and move on. Men have every right to be angry. A lot of the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/22 11:59 PM |
| 3 | When do I need to start dressing “Mature”?Never. Wear what makes you feel and look your best. And is appropriate for the situation. Look into kibbe type and color season if you'd like to know more about what will flatter you. A denim jacket and white sneakers will make a pink sundress less young girly. Your style may change over time but right now don't stress about it. Your teens and 20s you can pull off more looks easier. Also men tend to love sundresses on women of any age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/22 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Are there more subs for traditional, conserative women?r/redpillwives if you're married/in a relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/22 01:51 AM |
| 2 | I still wasn't enoughMy first serious bf was one and my mom is a covert one. Both are extremely abusive people. Having a parent with narcissism is correlated with a higher chance of dating one. Especially if you have any codependent traits. Unfortunately it took me many years of abuse to be able to spot these red flags so fast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/22 01:02 AM |
| 21 | I still wasn't enoughYeah even a friend would be more supporting and empathetic. There's either some other relationship problems/deep seated resentment that ended things or he's got some serious mental health issues. Him leaving right after an accident and not waiting a week is sketchy. This is way more than being checked out. I doubt he ever truly loved her because if he fell out of love there would atleast be sympathy. Even acquaintances would have sympathy in this situation. Him not caring is a major red flag. Sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/22 12:54 AM |
| 5 | God is greyIf it no longer serves you move on. It seems her content no longer fits your wants or needs. Who knows what's going on in her personal life. There's many other shows/media to watch. Don't let it personally affect you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 11:38 PM |
| 3 | Should you stay friends with someone who rejected you?No, but you can be acquaintances. Most people aren't comfortable with their partner to be friends with someone they used to romantically like. It causes unnecessary drama. It's not insecurity it's normal boundaries. And it might prolong your feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Scared of starting this new stage of lifeRelationship anxiety is common especially if you have fear of commitment or similar anxieties. How long have you been dating? I'd be wary if it's less than a year unless moving fast is common in your culture/area. Moving fast combined with saying I love you after 2 weeks could be emotional manipulation/love bombing. Don't get stuck on an idea or "shoulds". That ideal fantasy husband may look good on paper but you may not be compatible with that type of man irl. You've seem to have built a marria… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/22 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Girl asks a question, I answer kindly and get downvoted.Less competition, to make themselves feel better, to not offend, and a bit of wishful thinking/denial. And some are probably heavier too so they're overly sensitive about weight. There's also some women who are delusional and think that they can control what men find attractive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/22 10:01 PM |
| 3 | I just have no words.New Independent Fundamentalist Baptist And if she's not stuck in a lease she's with him and monkey branching (but since he's abusive that's a "good" thing). If he wasn't abusive it wouldn't be such a red flag staying there while looking for a place. He's either not abusive or she enables the situation by staying (red flag), she's financially irresponsible/broke and dependent on him (red flag), or she's still with him (red flag). Either way a red flag. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 14/08/22 03:13 AM |
| 9 | Wife disappointed that her Husband follows Pence rule at work : discussOf course it's a horrible subreddit. The breakup and divorce rate is sky high. People don't know how to have healthy relationships and yet they're giving others advice. Idk if it's ignorance or if they're miserable and want others to be that way too. Fun drinking game...go to that sub and take a drink whenever post tells a 30+ year old woman to leave a good marriage. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/08/22 02:50 AM |
| 7 | Does.... she know about surrogates?Woke culture is definitely in some drs offices. I mean the whole "birthing person/uterus haver" vs mother/woman and HAES (obesity impacts fertility & is high risk). Some try not to offend and call it "advanced maternal age" and/or are trying to push the cutoff to 40. Oh yeah fertility drops around 35 too. And there's a higher risk for the baby to be mentally disabled. It's a sore subject for a lot of women but facts don't care about feelings. Many push it off thinking ivf is a guaranteed thing b… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/08/22 12:32 AM |
| 9 | Does.... she know about surrogates?I'm a pregnant woman. This info is in most of the pregnancy books and given by obgyns. My midwife doesn't do high risk deliveries. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/08/22 08:59 PM |
| 13 | Does.... she know about surrogates?Tbf if she was a guy she's have a different build and would probably able to play better. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/08/22 07:04 PM |
| 10 | Does.... she know about surrogates?It's considered a high risk/geriatric pregnancy especially if it's the first pregnancy. Having a kid at 36 when you have multiple kids already isn't as dangerous. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/08/22 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend of 2 years told me that he doesn’t see himself with me long term… not sure where to move from hereThis is why it's important to state intentions in the beginning if the relationship. You should gauge compatibility before too much time passes or serious feelings develop. Take this as a learning lesson. If you are wanting marriage it's best to date for marriage not date for fun. You were dating for fun too. If you were taking it seriously you wouldn't be in this situation. It's a completely different process. Vetting is part of the foundation of rpw. You have 2 options: break up and find someo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/22 04:57 AM |
| 17 | Preganet woman wants a man that is not stingy with there money.Hey now she can keep a man happy during sex. I don't think she realizes that's not enough for marriage even if she was childless. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/08/22 05:20 PM |
| 5 | Home cleaning tips for a woman in her early 20’s please!Don't be embarrassed to ask them for help. I'm sure they love to pass that knowledge down. A home doesn't need to be sparkling clean and often won't when you have kids. It should be tidy but don't get neurotic about it. Not that you are but it can be easy to obsess about it. A place that smells good and is visually appealing is more important than dirty baseboards. Part of homemaking is turning a house into a home. Consistency is what's important. And putting things away in their spot. A dump ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/22 03:21 AM |
| 16 | Boyfriend seemed annoyed at me when i had a minor health scareNo, you're not too sensitive health concerns are a very valid thing. You're working out on a hot day. That can be dangerous especially on adderall since it dehydrates you more. If you have those symptoms it's important to stop working out. He should've been more concerned or sympathetic. Maybe he's not upset at this situation but has something else preoccupying his mind. Either way you should communicate how him being distant when you weren't feeling well made you feel like you were burdening hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/22 05:04 PM |
| 21 | Why do some women date/marry guys who aren't good in bed?Sex is a skill, a bonding tool, and for procreation. Yes, it's enjoyable but you shouldn't be picking your husband based on how good he is in bed. Instead what makes a marriage last is compatiblity, trust, respect, and communication. Exploring sex together and figuring out what each other likes is part of marriage. Your husband should be way better in bed after 10 years of practice. No one is bad at sex in a marriage of they try. Bad sex is from lack of enthusiastic, being self centered, intimac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/22 03:29 PM |
| 7 | What do you think about abortion?For condoms sure. But what about implants that last 3 years. Plan b is $10 if you buy it online vs $50 at the store. Like I can understand teens being stupid but sexually active adults have no excuse. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/08/22 04:17 AM |
| 12 | What do you think about abortion?Same with an exception for medically necessary ones. The mother's life should be first priority. With many forms of birth control so easily accessible abortion shouldn't be a huge issue. And yet it is. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/08/22 03:08 AM |
| 7 | In a long distance relationship and worried another woman will steal my manThis is definitely a tough situation but more info is needed. How long have you 2 been together, ages, how far away, and is there there a set date to close the distance? Ltr are very difficult. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 07:27 PM |
| 20 | He enjoys anime and it's slowly killing my attraction.You either aren't into him, being hypergamous, or too immature for a ltr. You're being incredibly judgemental. He deserves better. Seems like you're looking for a reason to "upgrade" or view him differently. It would be different if he had an anime addiction, compared you to them or neglected you to watch, watched hentai, and had sexualized figurines but the dude is just watching a show he likes occasionally. Anime is an art form appreciated by many and isn't cringe (depending on the anime lol).… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/22 04:17 AM |
| 10 | Anxious housewifeFor me cooking and cleaning helps with anxiety. By having hobbies, outside of the house activities, and a social group you can keep yourself busy. Boredom leads to overthinking. A good skill to learn is how to distract your mind. Once you can feel yourself start to worry find anything else to think about or do. Even of that's just putting some music on and dancing. There's natural supplements if you aren't interested in medication. Online therapy services like betterhelp are a good option. You i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/22 09:19 PM |
| 6 | Other women as competitionActually slut shaming should come back. While most men won't marry a hoe they don't look down on them like women do. Slut shaming was used for social control to curb promiscuity. Women don't want other women to have sex with their husband. Now sex is expected early on in dating. Some women have sex without commitment in order to attract a hvm (high risk high reward strategy). If half of single women are willing to put out to secure a hvm and you aren't then you have to overcompensate. A good man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/22 03:06 AM |
| 5 | What do yall think of fascinating womanhood?One of my favorite rpw books. Fascinating Girl is better for young ladies/teens who aren't yet in a serious relationship. Its about how to enhance your innate femininity, attract a good man, vet properly, and dating advice. Same author btw just Fascinating Womanhood is more for married women. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/08/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | hubby said he wants some cologne!No I tend to get most of my perfume as gifts or when there's a crazy deal. My future fil has a friend who owns a perfume shop. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | My bf(20 M) doesn’t like how I dressThis isn't particularly kind or helpful. Why get so defensive and put her down? There's nothing wrong with hating a style that's just a part of fashion...I hate modern insta thot style while many spouses find it sexy. I dress gothic and grunge often but alt fashions don't make many women feel comfortable or like themselves. There's ways she can incorporate some edginess to satisfy him without changing her style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | My bf(20 M) doesn’t like how I dressYeah it's seems like he wants her to be more causal which can still be feminine. She doesn't need to dress down all the time but if she's always dressed to the 9s he may not feel so comfortable around her. Especially if he has a more causal look. He wants her to loosen up. There's many feminine styles (like classic beauty) which aren't too dressy or overly polished. She doesn't even need to change her style just tone it down a bit. Many traditional men don't like flashy women. Imo looking too dr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 08:34 PM |
| 2 | My bf(20 M) doesn’t like how I dressYeah it's seems like he wants her to be more causal which can still be feminine. She doesn't need to dress down all the time but if she's always dressed to the 9s he may not feel so comfortable around her. Especially if he has a more causal look. He wants her to loosen up. There's many feminine styles (like classic beauty) which aren't too dressy or overly polished. She doesn't even need to change her style just tone it down a bit. Many traditional men don't like flashy women. Imo looking too dr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 08:34 PM |
| 4 | Be careful with women these days. There is so much hatred towards men. “Incel” seems to be the standard insultI don't think she knows what incel means. While most incels are misogynistic not all are. Some are lovely men who just can't get laid. Not all misogynists can't get laid. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/07/22 12:38 AM |
| 1 | hubby said he wants some cologne!Sephora does free perfume samples. But that's only good if someone lives close to a mall or goes for another reason. There seems to be a lot of online cologne sample services (microperfume, scentdecant, fragrancex and fragrancenet) for an affordable price. Probably worth it if wanting to invest in an expensive cologne. Also the mini bottles are just too cute. Scentsplit has Oud (my middle eastern fiance's fave) which was surprising since not many places carry that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 11:53 PM |
| 2 | hubby said he wants some cologne!https://www.sephora.com/product/sephora-favorites-cologne-sampler-set-P482069?skuId=2554988&icid2=products%20grid:p482069:product This is the only one in stock right now. They usually start stocking more varieties right around black friday. They tend to sell out after the holidays since they're great gifts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 4 | hubby said he wants some cologne!What about a cologne sampler kit from sephora or ulta? It's shipped to you for free. Then he tries on all the samples and picks his favorite. They come with a voucher to redeem for a travel or full size one. If you pick a more expensive cologne then the kit actually saves a lot of $. Perfume and cologne smell differently on each person since it mixes with our natural scent. I love sweet perfumes in the bottle but on me they smell too sweet. A $100+ perfume can smell cheap on me. So I highly advi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/22 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsThe married red pill sub is different than rp sub. Rp theory can benefit men who want monogamy and ones who don't. So advice is slightly different depends on a mans goals. A lot of men in the og rp sub are in an angry hurt phase which is about them taking agency for their needs/wants with a bunch of locker talk thrown in. A lot if it is them frustrated and venting. Many of them have been burned badly and are trying to heal. Addressing and feeling their anger is a part of that. Spinning plates is… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/07/22 10:09 PM |
| 9 | wtf did i stumble upon on google images? as far as i know girls outperform boys and are favored over boys in schools.There's some truth in this but I don't see anything wrong with boys making an effort to contribute to class conversations. Maybe the boys in this class are less shy and participate more than the girls. Or there's more boys than girls. If there's less girls why should the girls be over represented in class discussions? If boys weren't trying enough then there would be complaints about that. When I was in middle/hs I noticed boys being more dominant in class but that's because boys tend to be more… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/07/22 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Should i , 19 , lose it to a guy i like i met on dating appI'm confused as to what your goal is then and is rpw strategy can even help you? Why do you want to meet different men? What can you get from 5 men that you can't get from one? Are you looking for a husband or just wanting to put yourself out there and develop relationship experience? You can vet and gauge compatibility without dating if you know what you're looking for. Do you not know what youre looking for, want external validation, or want the excitement that comes from meeting new people? I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 8 | The Good Wife Weekly ChallengeI'll tell my fiance what I appreciate about him since I've fallen out of the habit. Hearing outloud what I like about him and what he does for me helps keep the hamster at bay. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/07/22 11:24 PM |
| 29 | Should i , 19 , lose it to a guy i like i met on dating appNo, it's not wise and you'll regret losing your virginity to this man. He's probably going to ghost you after sex (maybe not right after but less than a month). He's made it quite clear he doesn't see you as gf material. He's also fucking women whether you gave him permission or not since you guys aren't actually exclusive/official. He's been leading you on for 6 months just move on. He's playing games. A man who is into you will be more upfront with their intentions and be the one leading. A ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/22 04:58 PM |
| 9 | How to be seductive/sensual without being promiscuous/vulgar?https://usa1lib.org/book/2293988/f02787 The art of seduction. Knowing what type of feminine archetype you are will help you learn how to be seductive. While vulgarity can work for some women it may not be your archetype style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 01:55 AM |
| 16 | First real relationship, don't know what's normal and what to expecthttps://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/better/amp/ncna807466 Good read about relationship anxiety. Oftentimes, the fears causing anxiety are based on past experiences, not the current relationship. Look into anxious attachment theory. 6 months is a common time for people to decide to breakup or go all in and get serious since the honeymoon period is over. You won't likely find someone who fits everything you want. If your man has 80% of the traits you want and has no dealbreakers then that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/22 12:39 AM |
| 2 | I want to feel more feminineSome good resources for your feminine journey Websites: https://www.thefemininewoman.com/how-to-be-feminine/ https://www.thedarlingacademy.com/articles/category/being-ladylike/ Youtube: Dr. Michelle Daf Mrs. Midwest Alexandrasgirlytalk The feminine fancy Books: https://usa1lib.org/book/3397051/6d988b https://usa1lib.org/book/1196433/2c1667 | /r/RedPillWives | 18/07/22 05:53 PM |
| 14 | My boyfriend who makes six figures annually thinks a good budget for an engagement ring is $1,000 or below.Sounds like an engineer to me lol. Send him some pics of ring styles you like. Let him know that you don't care about how much the ring is worth it's about the meaning. But since you'll be wearing it daily you'd appreciate something that fits your style over something cheap. $1000 is an extremely low budget but men don't know how much the average ring should cost especially after inflation. Show him the rings that are under $1000. Also what about getting the setting you love but instead of getti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/22 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Struggling to lose weight.Actually longer fasts aren't recommended for women due to hormonal differences. Men vs women fitness and health is completely different. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.insider.com/guides/health/diet-nutrition/intermittent-fasting-for-women%3famp Also obsessing about it or being too restrictive isn't psychologically healthy. It's actually considered orthorexia. Whole grains aren't unhealthy in moderation. Going too strict like this often leads to yoyoing, binges, and eating disorders (if predis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/22 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Fitness…My advice wasn't influenced by my ed though. Your comments werent helping op with advive on how to lose weight. If you have other recommendations other than calorie counting I'm sure she'd love any tipes she can get. Calories are only a part of weight loss there's hormonal and other aspects you make be able to contribute info on. Many dieticians have eds and are able to help with nutrition without promoting any toxic ideas. I try to be very mindful of not encouraging any disordered eating behavi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 09:18 PM |
| 1 | “Son-husband” ; modern females have absolutely lost it…Oh of course I definitely think there's grooming it just doesn't seem sexual. Any parent that claims their young kid is trans should be investigated by cps. Sometimes it's the school or others pushing that idealology and parents are just enablers but yes it's always abuse. I don't think the mom cares about the kids gender at all it's all for attention and trans is in rn. There doesn't seem to be any care about the physical aspect or pedophilia in her post. Women can be emotionally incestual with… | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/07/22 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Fitness…I never said an average woman has a tdee of 1600...I said it's above 1600 which is true. Restricting to 1200 is perfectly fine if your tdee is under 1600 as you aren't even losing 1 lb a week which is considered healthy not rapid weight loss. If your tdee is over 1600 then yes 1200 could be too fast of weight loss to be healthy. I get that you are in recovery for an ed and calories are a sensitive thing for you but fitness and calories aren't one size fits all. If your doctor says you should be … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Fitness…Look up tdee calculators. The 60 year old overweight woman I have as an example only burns 1250 a day. When I was slightly overweight my tdee was around 1650. If I were to eat 2000 cals a day I'd end up obese which isn't healthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 10:01 PM |
| 4 | Fitness…"average woman"...exactly. I read it and it proves my point. 1200 isn't for the average women. The average woman has a tdee above 1600. My comment specified 1200 for women with low tdees not 1200 for the average women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 08:20 PM |
| 7 | Fitness…While 1200 may not be enough for you that doesn't mean it's not enough for everyone. A sedentary 60 year old woman who is 4'11 and 125 lbs (overweight bmi 25.2) maintains on 1250. If she were to be eating 1400 a day she would eventually become 152lbs which is obesity (1400 is maintenance at 152). How can you say a woman is healthier eating an amount that makes her obese than to be eating an amount that makes her overweight? At bmi 25.2 she isn't too thin or starving. Different people have differ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 06:36 PM |
| 6 | Fitness…For short older sedentary women yes it is. Some women only have a tdee of 1300-1400 even if they aren't thin. 1200 is extremely slow weight loss for them. For people with higher tdees 1200 is way too low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 06:21 PM |
| 8 | “Son-husband” ; modern females have absolutely lost it…Eh I doubt sexual abuse here since it's actually her daughter and it seems like that woman is straight...but there's definitely emotionally abuse (inc munchausen by proxy) and emotional incest. And a shit ton of mental illness. Poor kid doesn't stand a chance and should he removed from the home asap. I'm guessing a single mom who can't deal with the fact she's alone so she comes up with this bs theory. Of course for the right $ mediums will tell you what you want to hear. They're good at observa… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/07/22 02:39 PM |
| 25 | Fitness…Losing weight is 80% diet. You don't need to eat less you need to eat differently. Depending on your height, weight, and activity level r/1200isplenty and r/1500isplenty are good subs for weight loss. R/volumeeating can be helpful if you find yourself hungry while dieting. Since you're busy meal prepping healthy lunches may be beneficial. And frozen veggies are just as healthy as fresh ones. Myfitnesspal is a great tool for tracking calories. I like to view weekly calorie averages instead of dai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/22 02:46 AM |
| 1 | I grew my hair for my boyfriend, and now I cut it shortYou may need to get used to it. It always takes me a couple weeks to feel like me in a new hairstyle. Brown mascara might be more natural. Or get a very light brown eyelash tint and lift (you could do yourself for cheap). If your brows are light yeah a dark mascara would be off. You can also use the same color eyelash tint on your brows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Am I not good enough?You need to be adversarial in dating. Dating is a competitive market especially at the level of men you want. If you aren't proactive women who are will snatch up these men. If the man you want not only has to be tall but good looking, intelligent, kind, and sucessful then he definitely is a prize. That doesn't mean you aren't a prize too. You won't be taking him from short women you'll be taking him from all women. You're young so time is on your side especially if you're ok with dating a littl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 07:29 AM |
| 12 | Am I not good enough?Be realistic or move. If 99% of single age appropriate men who are romantically interested in you are shorter than you in South Asia then you have to accept you'll likely end up with someone shorter or alone if you stay. It's not that you aren't good enough It's that your standards are too narrow. There's just not enough of what you're looking for where you live. There's plenty of good men who are your height or shorter. Requiring that your husband be taller than you is superficial when it elimi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 06:43 AM |
| 23 | My husband doesn’t earn enough to support the family I desperately want.Can you get state assistance? Having a kid raises the income limit to get food stamps, reduced medical care, and other benefits. Assistance is there for a reason. You can use it temporarily to get established and hopefully work on getting off it and financially stable. Your husband needs to get serious. He's not being masculine or leading the relationship you are. That's going to lead to resentment. You aren't having a kid because your husband has a vibe things will go well without any actual pl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 04:17 AM |
| 6 | Taken out of context and made a feminazi issueWhat a joke on REDDIT? How dare they. Yeah I found it funny too. If anything hard-core feminists would be offended at the ad itself. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/07/22 02:08 AM |
| 8 | I grew my hair for my boyfriend, and now I cut it shortMaybe you can make yourself feel feminine and beautiful in other ways. Accessories like headbands, clips, or thin scarves/bandanas can be cute yet not childish. Certain styles of bobs can be chic. While shorter hair may be more masculine/edgy with jeans and baggy clothes when it's paired with a dress or shirt it can look nice. You can get lashes/lash lift and have a more feminine makeup routine to make yourself feel more pretty. Hair is only a part of looking feminine. There's so many other ways… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Is it wrong if I unmatch a man for taking 4 days to replyIt may actually be because of his schedule and job. For me a man who is a workaholic or has a schedule like this is a dealbreaker. Unless it's a temporary thing. So no it's not dramatic for you to decide you aren't compatible with him. It's odd you haven't met any of them yet. Even if they're going on vacation 1 month is a red flag. They're either just not that interested or don't have much availability for dating. A man can say he wants to meet but you need to look at actions not words. If they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/22 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Woman angry because now has to take responsibility for her own actions goes into the HOV lane, gets pulled over by a cop and.. you guess it! refuses to take responsibility for her own actions.What about a 1 year old in a car seat in the back? Or someone in a special wheelchair spot in the back of a van? | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/07/22 11:26 PM |
| 4 | Modern wimpy menA lot of men don't want women their career equal because they don't want a power struggle at home, a sjw, or a masculine women.Men care if a woman is cooperative, smart, caring, responsible, good looking, family oriented, has domestic skills, etc whether she has a degree or not. Sure some career women can still be pleasant and feminine but the workforce usually pushes women to emotional exhaustion. They don't have the same energy to contribute to a relationship and tend to be more stressed, over… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 08:14 PM |
| 10 | GF wants shave her head, BF says no. Feminist = Domestic Abuse ! Comments are full of shite comments from angry females. Beware fellas!When I checked her profile it didn't seem like that. Although there's red flags galore. Obese (yet was skinny in hs), can't seem to make a relationship last, even in relationships seeks external validation/interested in other men, compares current bf to ex in the bedroom, bi yet friends tell her she's straight, and now she wants to shave her head. At this point I think it's mental illness, attention seeking, or self destructive tendencies. I don't think a femcel would make herself sound this bad… | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/07/22 12:54 AM |
| 1 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?Ah ok just ask because hvm can mean a lot of different things (usually it means the top 20% of men but here it's thrown around to mean whatever the woman wants). Those are definitely good captain traits but I wouldn't necessarily say only hvm have them unless you have a narrow parameter of attraction or strict morals. I mean those are pretty basic standards that a majority of average good men pass. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/22 11:40 PM |
| 0 | the dating scene these days is making me feel like I'll never find love and I'm only 21, what can I do ?So if a hvm doesn't want you then you won't find love? What about a slightly above average guy? Also what is high value to you? Is it based on character traits, personality, being able to protect/provide, intelligence, and being attracted to them? Or it it more influenced by superficial things where looks, status, and income are very important (basically an alpha fucks)? It's true most hvm don't want a doctor wife but that doesn't mean all men don't. If your lifestyle isn't compatible with most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.Ah I forget that people view high value as superficial things vs character, ability to protect/provide, drive/ambition, confidence, intelligence, and of course physical appearance does matter too. I think some confuse alpha with high value. An alpha with a lack of beta traits doesn't usually financially succeed and isn't a good husband choice. For women an alpha with beta traits or a beta with alpha traits tends to be the best bet for a happy marriage. At least when men are superficial they ackn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 07:24 PM |
| 8 | Why do so many women go thru "ruts" in their 40s and how can I manage mine better?We have a pretty kinky bedroom life and I have a lot of lingerie+toys, we compliment each other often and sincerely, I dress femininly and only wear dresses/skirts/matching athleasurewear, we joke around/tease each other, we send pics throughout the day (sometimes sexy ones but it's usually cute pics with our pets), he calls me during work to tell me how much he loves me, we make plans and talk about our goals, we cuddle every night, pet names, we hold hands whenever we are out in public, we kis… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 4 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.Hvm have more options/better competition but true not all men feel the desire to entertain them. Unfortunately some women date lvm thinking they'll treat them better than hvm. I learned that the hard way but I've dated some hvm with character too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 05:00 PM |
| 3 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.I'm glad you were able to heal and find a man who treats you better:). She's going into relationships and interactions with men in bad faith. Kevin Samuel's had an interesting video about women who do this. Relationships take emotional vulnerability. Instead of allowing herself to build intimacy through this vulnerability she's controlling the dynamic. It's ok because "she allows it". Controlling a situation can make you feel safe even if it's allowing the exact thing that makes you feel unsafe.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 04:51 PM |
| 4 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.Thanks:) I try to not be judgemental if people want a different lifestyle than me but it has to be completely consentual not self dreadgaming and gaslighting in order to want it... or it would be understandable if he wanted the open relationship while ltr and she accepted that in order to keep him she has to be ok with him exercising his options. I wonder if her belief really changed or if she's just not having boundaries out of fear theyll be broken. Because as the others were saying these kind… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 04:08 PM |
| 17 | Career or Family?Do you expect to have a lower workload in your early 30s? Would it be possible to take a couple years break or at least maternity leave and resume? Or would that jeopardize your career? 70-80h a week doesn't leave time for kids. But 40-60 with a nanny and weekly housekeeping does. Do you want kids because your parents want them and that's what you're supposed to do or do you truly want them for you? It's not your parents life and they aren't the ones who will be giving up their career. While the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 01:19 PM |
| 16 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.I don't think you realize just how unhealthy you still are. If you go to therapy for 8 months and haven't resolved your trust or control issues then no that's not just lingering issues here or there. You're just pretending they don't exist. Instead of healing you decided to use cognitive dissonance. You didn't accept it. If you accepted it and were ok with it you wouldn't be posting this. You wouldn't need to vent, get external validation, or try to justify it. You're the one who is ignorant abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 12:57 PM |
| 22 | I think I’ve completely given up on loyalty.Having a non monogamous relationship takes a lot of trust and communication which quite frankly you don't have. While it make feel comfortable now because of your attachment issues it's going to cause a lot of problems later. Long distance relationships take a lot of work. You guys don't have an untouchable bond or connection if he's screwing someone else on the side. If he really needed a release he could masterbate. Giving up in order to be happy is not healthy. You have some black and white a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 12:34 PM |
| 2 | For the happily married womenI was waitressing full time during the day (college at night...I don't miss those days) at his friends pizza restaurant. I was waitressing at another restaurant but I realized I should be working in an area where the men I like are. He hadn't been there in ages but he randomly felt the intuition to stop by. He was wanting a serious relationship but was ok with being alone and having fwb since he doesn't settle. He accepted that he probably wouldn't find someone he wanted to marry. So when he saw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 04:45 AM |
| 17 | Why do so many women go thru "ruts" in their 40s and how can I manage mine better?What do you do to bring passion and connection? Are you spontaneous or flirty? Do you guys have joint hobbies or things you like to do together? Go on regular date nights where you work on just being in the moment and having fun. Can the oldest watch this kids for a spontaneous weekend getawy? Trying to push for emotional intimacy can be more frustrating than letting it happen naturally. Forcing conversations rarely lead to real bonding. Relationships take upkeep especially long term ones. Also … | /r/RedPillWives | 08/07/22 04:22 AM |
| 3 | For the happily married womenI'm engaged but we're basically married and have been together about 5 years (for religious reasons we have to wait about another 6-12mo unless we do a civil ceremony). He's a very upfront guy. So within 2-3 dates I already knew his ideal relationship dynamic, how many kids he wants, political views, religious beliefs, hobbies/interests, etc. He actually wanted to be officially bf/gf and then engaged before I did. I asked him to take me on a proper date to the fair before I would acknowledge we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/22 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Losing my virginityIf you find yourself I'm a relationship and unable to control yourself sexually you don't need to go all the way. Fingering, using toys, and oral (there is still some risk with oral like stds) are other options. Soaking and the poophole loophole are not good substitutes. Also distract yourself with hobbies, outings, amd friends/family. It's easier to fall prey to hormones taking over when you're bored or unstimulated. I'm pretty antiporn (it will cause you a lot of issues) but if you need to get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 34 | Is it ok to be a childless housewife?Until I got pregnant I was like this. Although I did babysit or work pt occasionally. Maybe you can tutor or babysit whenever you want more stimulation. No matter what you do you'll get remarks. It's not their life. People are judgemental and right now its common to not value domestic work or femininity. A lot of it is resentment. Many women work and still take on a majority of the household work. If your husband wants this kind of relationship too that's all that matters. Well and affording it.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/22 06:31 PM |
| 3 | She is "traditional" yet somehow wasn't taken off the market before 30. What she really wants is a walking ATM.Her goal is to be married...to a rich attractive man who worships her. But she's willing to have casual sex or sugar daddy for the right price $. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/07/22 06:42 PM |
| 5 | You must be "phenomenal" to date this busy mom of 4.Yes there's so many apps like faceapp/facetune so don't need to spend 1h in photoshop anymore. It takes 5 mins to reshape body (smaller stomach and bigger assets), add makeup/lashes, blur wrinkles, thicken hair, add tan, change facial structure, enlarge eyes, make lips bigger, etc. Pretty much every photo of a woman on Instagram has had this done. Some are so bad at editing that they don't even have proper antatomy or look human anymore. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/07/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Surrendered Wife Expressing Desire TheoryDo you have a social circle out of your husband? It's not healthy to put all of your emotional needs on your husband. Maybe see if a friend will go with you to some of these things. And you can bond afterwards sharing your experience with your husband. Also if there a particular reason why your husband fell out of love? Or why he's just with you for the kid? Maybe there's some hidden resentment that can be worked on. If you're still young and only have 1 kid leaving is still a last resort option… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 09:57 PM |
| 28 | Finding men that are virginsYou know a man can be a virgin and still have a porn addiction. Or he may not feel a connection with you so losing his virginity to you was just a physical release. I think you're hyperfixating on virginity. How will you even know if he's telling the truth? Guys can sense this level of crazy so you're going to push away any good provider type men. And if a manipulative man can sense he can get sex just by playing along with your game then he's going to. Also you know virgins don't usually last l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/22 06:55 AM |
| 4 | High Body Count Woman (27 years old)-Advice on finding a decent guy where we can accept one another's pasts?I'd argue that consensual sex in the teen years count too. At some point age is just a number (after puberty and in age appropriate relationships). A 25m year old having sex with an 21f year old isn't much different than 2 16 years olds. N count is about bonding, physical risk like stds, more partners to compare to, more experience, mental effects that increase as promiscuityincreases, higher likelihood they engage in other risker behaviors, etc. A 20 something with a n count of 10 is a safer be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/22 06:14 AM |
| 4 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendShe can't get back the years wasted on a bad marriage but she can at least be compensated. You can't get back those years either but you can learn from them and hopefully have a happier and healthier future. It's better to have been 2 years than 3 or 4. Also make sure you don't become alpha widowed from this experience. That will just lead to misery. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | how do I get the energy to dress up?Donate all your frumpy, stained, ones your husband hates, ones that are super uncomfortable, and ill-fitting clothes. Now buy (thrift store if on a budget-some do 50% off days) some house/casual dresses, blouses, skirts, etc. Get an easy low maintenance hair style and color. If you're natural look into glosses. Paint your nails, use those reusable falsies, or get them done. Create a fast and easy makeup routine. Tinted moisturizer or cc cream, concealer, brow gel or pencil, mascara, cream/liquid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Noncommittal pseudo not boyfriendDid you actually see his ex gf go crazy or his wife act money hungry? Or are you just going by the word of a very untrustworthy man? Maybe he manipulated them to that point similar to reactive abuse. Maybe your only hearing his side of the story. And if he knew before marriage that his wife only wanted him for his $ and married her anyway that's on him. He's playing games with you and stringing you along. Honestly he sounds extremely toxic and has some narcissistic traits. This is the kind of ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/22 05:30 PM |
| 1 | FinallyThere are always exceptions but I'm talking about the average women/women in general. Obviously a 200lb Helga with linebacker shoulders can be on the front lines and outperform men. Phyical strength matters more in physical combat/on the field vs flying a plane. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/06/22 09:02 PM |
| 7 | Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect?Yeah they didn't have the modern appliances that make housework easier. And it was much more expensive to buy clothes and household items so you had to take care of them a certain way. Now we can get a dress on sale for less than $10. There were tips in those booklets on how to get stains out, deep clean, and clean difficult areas...now we have chemicals that do it. There were gardening tips and now we have fertilzer sticks and self watering glass bulbs. And there was no internet to figure out t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 06:37 PM |
| 8 | Division of labor as a SAHM - what should I expect?This is a good division of labor. Most women complain their husband's aren't helping enough because they feel resentful for other things. They're envious that their husband gets to have his social needs met through work/be around adults while they're emotionally drained and lonely. Or they don't feel appreciated. Or there's not enough communication and emotional intamacy. Sex, dates, and couple time to bond is extremely important. It's not that their husbands aren't doing their fair share it's t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 06:19 PM |
| 10 | Living together and the “wife experience”Basically. It's when people are trying to impress each other still. It's when you're more selfless and your needs are likely getting met. You haven't started to take them for granted or grow resentful. And you grow more accustomed and comfortable. After 3 months you can usually see someone more for who they are. You can see all the little quirks, bad habits, traits, etc. It's easy to say you're compatible when influenced by infatuation. There are many views of the stages of a relationship. Attra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/22 05:36 PM |
| 2 | FinallyNot worse but more frequent. And if there's an egalitarian draft the numbers would likely increase. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | FinallyMen on women rape is more common even your source said that. And while you may have inferred that I 100% believe men being raped is bad. Just because it's more likely to happen to women and thus preventative measures should be put in place doesn't mean other measures shouldn't there to protect men. The military is a dangerous place for men but women face more risks not only in combat but also on base. Women getting assaulted can lead to pregnancy. And yes before you say something if a man is coe… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 08:26 PM |
| 0 | Finally“It appears that the DOD has serious problems with male-on-male sexual assaults that men are not reporting and the Pentagon doesn’t want to talk about,” Elaine Donnelly, who heads the Center for Military Readiness. She noted that only 2 percent of assailants are women." It's male on male crime and it mostly occurs on base. That doesn't mean it's not a serious problem that should be addressed. Abuse is abuse and male victims should be believed, helped, and given justice. There's more men than wom… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 07:10 PM |
| -1 | FinallyYou got any sources for that? Unless you're talking about financially like dependas targeting the men who want off base. Don't get me wrong military men get fucked/taken advantage of all the time it's just usually not sexually. Edit: you removed where you claimed civilian women are the perpetrators of these crimes. Which is what I wanted sources on. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 06:47 PM |
| 0 | FinallyTrue men should get non combat roles if they can't pass too. It's just most women can't pass unless given special accommodations. I'm all for taking away those accommodations vs just based on sex. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 06:04 PM |
| 0 | FinallyI'm antifeminist and against this unless women are in noncombat roles. Not only because of how women are currently treated in the military (rapes/violence) but also because most women can't actually pass military standards. Most average man after bootcamp are more capable physically than women who have been in the military for years. They shouldn't need to lower the standards for women. If you can't get in the military because you can't do enough pull ups or a fast enough mile then you're a liab… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/06/22 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Is getting an allowance a good idea before marriage ?It would be best if you guys could get married (or atleast engaged) before since cohabitation increases risk of the relationship not working out. I'm guessing it's too soon for him? Have you guys atleast established a timeline for marriage? I agree with the other posters about this being a trial period so you'll need to pass his tests as well. These kinds of relationships aren't rp so you're not going to get much rp advice. Don't move in if you see any red flags. His communication skills seem pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 09:03 PM |
| 5 | Is getting an allowance a good idea before marriage ?He's basically hiring you as domestic help/compensating for your labor. As a former waitress who basically did what you're thinking of (minus long distance and 6fig) it can work out. I was 23 he was 28. He might be rushing things because he wants kids. Rp wouldn't recommend it because it's risky. It's one of those high risk high reward kind of dating. I wouldn't recommend it normally but since you live in different states I understand this arrangement (and would probably do it too). Just make su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 08:13 PM |
| 19 | Have I finally found Mr. Right?Yep smitten after 1 date when divorce papers aren't even signed is a major red flag!!! It's called love bombing and future faking. It's a common manipulation tactic narcissists, abusers, puas, mentally unstable/toxic men use. The first date a man could be super into you but he shouldn't express it so strongly. He should know that a healthy woman needs to get to know him a little more (this could push her away) and he should be properly vetting her as well. Vs trying to rush into marriage asap. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/22 05:27 PM |
| 2 | How do you shut down questions from people who believe that it’s their way or no way when being a SAHM?Which is why I think its sexist since it minimizes "womens labor". Women's labor is expected and not appreciated by these types of people. It's viewed as lesser work and they feel entitled to it. I made sure when I was vetting that I found a man that appreciated femininity and preferred that I embrace a traditional role. Btw I find men to be less sexist regarding women's work. It's usually women I get snarky comments or judgement from. Or middle class men who are middle age with failed relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 10:12 PM |
| 12 | How do you shut down questions from people who believe that it’s their way or no way when being a SAHM?I usually inquire why they don't view a sahm a job or contributing. It's quite sexist. When did being a sahm become not enough? Domestic work is still work. My labor in the house let's my fiance be able to work longer hours and helps us save more money. The time and energy he saves from not- running errands, cooking, cleaning, taking care of animals, etc. is redirected to his side hustles. If I were to work when I have kids I wouldn't be bring much in after daycare costs, taxes, gas, more car re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies handle conflict with your partner? Display your (justified)anger and frustrations?If there's a brain imbalance treating that imbalance helps more than pretty much everything else. While the rp toolbox is great you can't use it effectively if you have untreated mental health problems. Some mental problems can be treated by therapy but adhd requires medication since there's an actual chemical imbalance. You may know rp but it's hard to put it in practice when overstimulated, impulsive, understimulated, or emotionally reactive. Part of rp is taking care of your health- physical … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/22 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Starting over at almost 30And if you do become more irritable on them (it's technically a side effect) and it doesn't go away after a couple weeks you're switched to different meds. No dr. would keep giving someone adderall if it was making them worse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/22 08:20 AM |
| 16 | Starting over at almost 30As someone with adhd who is on adderall that is not how adderall makes you act. He's not taking accountability for his actions. If anything adderall should have made him less likely to cheat. Adderall helps with impulsiveness. What it doesn't do it make you less empathetic. And it helps you be less verbally abusive because it helps ypu be less emotionally reactive. So this is all an excuse to get you to stay. It's extremely manipulative. Especially since it was before and after the engagement vs… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 09:55 PM |
| 15 | High SMV therefore Low Perceived RMV? Thoughts and advice plsHaving high smv doesn't lower rmv at all. It should actually raise it due to the halo effect. You may not be portraying yourself as well as you think you are. Or going for men who aren't currently relationship minded. Also you haven't listed a single thing that is rmv for women. All those things are what women look for in men- cultured, high income, educated, active, dresses well, hobbies/talents that can be shown off, etc. Men value other traits for relationships. "Women are inclined to appreci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Are women with masculine interests less attractive?Not to everyone. It may limit the type of men into you/put you into a niche catagory. But you're only looking for 1 man so I wouldn't be too worried about it as long as you're overall feminine. Think of femininity as a scale. Sure maybe to the general population of men punk rock music is a -5% femininity. As long as you're >75% feminine you're overall feminine. Just make sure your appearance, vibe/spirit, mannerisms (voice and body language) and attitude isn't masculine. Those affect your femini… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 03:08 AM |
| 25 | Unsure about relationshipHaving an on and off relationship shows he's just not into you. You're convenient and available. He's comfortable with you but that doesn't mean he views you as the "one"/his future wife. He may not be posting you not because he's embarrassed but he wants to look potentially available online. Keep his options open to say. That's if he uses Instagram a lot and posted other exs. My fiance doesn't usually use social media so I never needed to ask him to post me. He asked me to put a pic of us on mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/22 08:45 PM |
| 6 | How to connect more with my partner’s friends?Why do you want to? Eventually if you go to a party, outing, or double date you'll meet them. If they're all women it's probably best if you don't get too friendly. It'll save you from drama down the line. And if your friends are men she shouldn't be close friends with them. Casual acquaintances is usually the group I out my fiances friend's in. I'm friendly and socialize with them but I don't text them or hang out alone with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/22 02:33 AM |
| 8 | Stay at home anyone?Thanks I love passive aggressive snarky responses to passive aggressive snarky posts. The post is unnecessary, condescending, and tone deaf. It sounds like he's envious/resentful since he chose to burn himself out while others prefer a simpler life. Getting triggered since some women found being a sahm emotionally hard is invalidating some women's experiences. Some women find being a sahm hard, some don't. The ones that it's hard for should be allowed to express it without shame. It's not often … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/22 09:22 PM |
| -1 | When my boyfriend drinks, I get anxiety. When I get anxiety, I act weird. When I act weird he gets angry and cruel, I cry, he doesn’t care. How do I break out of this cycle?I agree her panic attacks are not his responsibility to fix. And his problems aren't hers to fix. She's acting like his mom and emasculated him by treating him as if he can't take care of himself. It's his home too. They're both weaponizing their emotions. Granted I don't think regularly getting drunk is healthy. Or that she should stay with someone who does. Or that she deserves any of this because no one deserves cruelty. But telling a man what to do and not do is just going to make him do it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/22 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Another one bites the dusthttps://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTdKN8kTG/?k=1 It's cancel culture. This tiktok perfectly describes why this behavior is common in millennials. Btw this tiktoker isn't rp but she sums up things quite nicely. Even posting in Jordan Petersons sub gets you banned from many subs (inc subs that are normal frontpage subs even)?!? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 05:32 PM |
| 2 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanUnderstandable that's a pretty rough situation. Lol I'd be pretty scared to date older after that too. I don't recommend any woman under 25 to date over 10 years older. Sure it can work if you're not prone to codependency but older people tend to be better at manipulation so you definitely need to be able to vet well with older men-even hv men. Dating older is usually advice given to women who are in or past the danger zone (aka 30s) where time is ticking and may struggle finding a good man in t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 05:25 PM |
| 7 | I feel like such a failure as a 30 year old single womanAnyone who has never married after 40 is a red flag for a ltr but divorced ones can be a catch. The divorce rate is pretty high. Also I don't think they need to be extremely high value just average or higher (depending on your smv & rmv). 30f and 40m is a decent gap but I agree 23f and 40m is too much unless extremely hvm. That man you were with is well below average. It's not shocker he tried to get with someone 17 years younger since his maturity level is closer to yours. He couldn't do well w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/22 04:29 PM |
| 6 | Housewives, how do you and your husband afford living off one income?Living within our means. I used to work pt which paid off my car, paid my phone, gave me a little savings, let me invest in hobbies, and I helped out with bills a bit. Now I just cover groceries, my medical insurance, and my phone payment by babysitting occasionally. I use apps like Rakuten and ibotta to get cash back. I often get free items from them. My fiance does some side hustle for his extra spending cash/fun $. For 2 people our groceries are $250 a month (was $200 before inflation/last ye… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/22 06:33 PM |
| 5 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...Ah sorry I thought you wanted to go without him/girls trip which would be unserious behavior but with him is fine. Yeah nothing good comes from shit testing you just end up hurting your own feelings. You guys need better communication if you are both making plans like this without the other knowing. Ideally you'd ask him if he had any plans so you could do something together like going to Miami with friends vs just inviting him on a trip with you like you were going to. The first one would make … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 10:12 PM |
| 18 | I snooped on boyfriend to find out about potential boy's trip...Men are most likely to cheat while their woman is pregnant or when their child is an infant. And men who love their partner and treat them well still cheat. Him treating you well gives no indication whether he will or not despite what others say since he has expressed that he wants to give other women attention. But that doesn't mean he wants to hurt you or make you feel not enough-he's being self centered. He enjoys you but he wants to see what else is available. While he may not take up any of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/22 06:15 PM |
| 22 | Is it bad to expect your bf to pay for you?Yes, it's a requirement. I don't act entitled with it and I usually offer to pay. Any man that accepted too early in I didn't view as husband material. But honestly it was a rare occurrence that a man ever took me up on that (unless ltr). I'm just as happy on an ice cream date and walk in the park as a fancy dinner. It's not about the amount of $ it's about the mindset. I'm now engaged to a wonderful man who provides for us. If I tried to pay he wouldn't let me. But I give back in other ways. I'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 11:47 PM |
| 8 | Christian single (F) desiring to be a wife and homemaker.Np :) A man isn't likely to turn away from you because of these habits as long as it's in the past and you've shown that you've changed. If untreated porn addiction leads to low relationship satisfaction and sexual issues. It desensitizes you. Which will make it harder for a man to pleasure you and could make you prefer porn to sex. Busying yourself is great since the devil works with boredom. What about a faith based approach like celebrate recovery? Setting up gates are key. Support groups (ev… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 04:47 PM |
| 18 | Christian single (F) desiring to be a wife and homemaker.Don't be ashamed if you need to take meds. Or some herbal supplements. God helps those who help themselves. You may have a chemical imbalance that you can't regulate yourself. It could help you manage your emotional stability. Also if possible get some therapy for self worth insecurity. A lot of men don't care if you have some emotional issues as long as they're under control/you don't take it out on them or weaponize your feelings. You're on the right path though. You know what you want and are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/22 03:29 PM |
| 11 | PornographyThe younger millennials and gen z often are addicted to it (from a kid/teen) even with a healthy sex life. What once was rare is unfortunately being more common. It's a growing problem. But overall yeah they're inversely correlated. Although maybe some of the dissatisfaction is after their wives being hurt/upset when they find out. Aka porn causes problems which causes lack of sex which cause more porn which causes more problems. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 06:05 AM |
| 5 | PornographyWell if it started when dating or before it's probably the porn. If a porn habit started in marriage then it's probably an unhealthy way to cope with not being satisfied. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 05:19 AM |
| 31 | PornographyLook up the studies that show how it effects marriages and the brain. It's linked to lower martial satisfaction rates. No it's not healthy at all. Even in single men it causes problems. Not to be a conspiracy theorist but it quite odd how these studies aren't mainstream/only talked about in academic circles. Research papers are often open for the public to read so I feel like it's being suppressed. I discussed with my fiance before we were official that I wouldn't tolerate porn and why. He's bee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/22 02:17 AM |
| 7 | "Misandry is a justifiable response to perceived misogyny"He’s also probably not used to seeing it so he called it out. If most women he’s around have shaved legs then being around one who hasn’t shaved in a year is going to be surprising. It’s kinda like how kids comment on fat or ugly people. Kids comment on what they observe. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/06/22 12:36 AM |
| 2 | How is this whole thing NOT about being a subservient dog?As someone who has actually been abused that’s quite disrespectful. You may not have to agree with this philosophy but what do you get out of harassing this sub? Women into or curious about red pill aren’t going to leave just because you claim it’s abuse. Maybe provide a cohesive debate against rp instead of just claiming it’s abuse because your don’t like it. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/22 11:36 PM |
| 5 | How is this whole thing NOT about being a subservient dog?Can you please stop spamming this sub the mods are just going to keep removing you. It’s ok that others have different opinions than you. Willingly submitting is different than being controlled btw. Rpw is for women’s benefit and it’s not to obey men as a kink. It’s kinda sexist that you equate submissive (aka cooperative) behavior in women as being a dog. This sub doesn’t encourage being a doormat or enable abuse. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/22 11:31 PM |
| 9 | "Misandry is a justifiable response to perceived misogyny"Idk little kids are brutal. They can find things you’re insecure about that you didn’t even know you were insecure about. They definitely say things like this. Source: nanny/babysitter for years | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/06/22 10:48 PM |
| 34 | How Should I Tell My Partner I Want A Traditional Role?You need to inspire that instinct in him. If he doesn’t see the benefits of a traditional style relationship you can’t make him want to support you (without resentment). You can express that the day you spent embracing a more trad and feminine lifestyle brought you joy and let him come up with the solution. But trying to manipulate the situation so this relationship becomes traditional is not healthy. Also why do you want to do a complete 180 after going through so much school? Why not work and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 10:39 PM |
| 7 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementrmv- good hostess and guest, domestic skills, can uplift a man/be emotionally supportive, loyalty, willing to try new things in bed/let him take the lead, graceful, being able to hold a conversation about anything, has hobbies and friends (doesn’t expect her man to entertain her), takes care of herself emotionally and physically, inner happiness/content with her lot in life, good character, femininity, understands and respects men, financially responsible, nurturing, cooperative, has boundaries/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/22 01:14 AM |
| 11 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementIt’s an excellent post!!! Well all your posts tend to be very well written and informative. They should be read before asking questions since I find they answer pretty much everything rpw. But then there would be like 1 post a day lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 11:42 PM |
| 4 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementYeah 40s is a little old for a ltr imo. At least if you want kids. There’s often a reason they didn’t settle down with a younger woman in their late 30s. Men settle down when they’re ready…and for some that’s never. Maybe vet men who want ltr better? Which is hard because a lot of men are willing to say they are but have no intents of being in a ltr with you. Dating for marriage is rough right now. Imo rmv can always get higher even while married. I don’t mean rmv as just skills like cooking or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 11:31 PM |
| 7 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementWell there you go. Most hvm men on those apps get a lot of attention and have the pick of women. They usually aren’t looking for a ltr right away but will commit to the right woman. They’re just browsing and will make the purchase only if it’s better than the rest/adds value to their life. Irl is the best way to meet hvm for a ltr. Put yourself in their circle naturally. Go to the places they go. Hiring a matchmaker is also an option (they tend to have very high end clientele). How much older ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 11:11 PM |
| 16 | Men walk after they learn about my commitment before sex requirementhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/wiki/index/tableofcontents/decidingwhentobecomeintimate?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 11:01 PM |
| 2 | How do you get over your boyfriend looking at other woman onlineMy fiancé doesn’t and I don’t either. It’s a boundary that was set in the very beginning of our relationship. I would never date someone who does this. We both don’t use social media much (except for me with reddit). We know each other’s passwords as well. In the beginning I didn’t trust him, due to trust issues from previous relationships, so I’ve searched his phone and have never found anything (and I went into hidden website data which most people don’t know about or delete). How old are you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/22 06:56 AM |
| 3 | BF of 1 Year deleted all photos of us together + our trips and funny moments from his IPhone after a fight. What should I do?Well you know what you need to work on so that’s step 1 already done. You can’t fix him but you can fix yourself and how you react. You guys are triggering each other which is making things toxic. Just you removing yourself from that mindset/behavior will help a lot. Individual therapy is more beneficial than couples for these kinds of issues. Also if it’s a huge problem you may want to look into medication. It’s not necessary but it may help faster then learning how to control your anger. Do yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/22 06:31 AM |
| 6 | BF of 1 Year deleted all photos of us together + our trips and funny moments from his IPhone after a fight. What should I do?I just don’t really think this can be saved. It takes two to work on a relationship. He said everything was you fault because of how the fight made him feel. He’s a grown adult who threw a tantrum and refuses to take any accountability. He won’t go to counseling. He hates everyone, the world, and his job. He won’t understand things without conflict and then becomes defeated/dismissive. It’s impossible to solve any conflict without discussions turning into fights and when fighting happens you bot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/22 05:33 AM |
| 7 | How popular is anal really? 😅Yeah tried it not my thing. My fiancé did it without warning and I’m just not a fan of receiving oral at all. If I was with someone who was super into it I’d let them but it’s still pretty gross. And doing that on a man would turn me off to where I wouldn’t be able to view him the same. I’m also pretty certain it’s not allowed religiously but I’m not about to ask my rabbi lol. We aren’t 100% religious yet but family purity laws are a huge obligation for women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/22 07:05 PM |
| 37 | How popular is anal really? 😅I used to hate it (and would never do it with anyone) due to trauma. Eventually me and my fiancé tried it since he’s always wanted to and most women didn’t want to. Turns out it’s actually my favorite when done right. Things like pelvic tilt and other anatomical differences can make someone like it/not like it. I think it’s more popular with millennials and gen z but idk. I mean eating ass is now in… And nope not into that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/22 10:16 PM |
| 5 | EyeMe as a tool for improving appearance?No since it doesn’t offer any constructive feedback. It’s also just not a good idea since you may get a lower score than you thought and then get insecure. Or maybe you’ll get obsessive. Besides beauty is subjective. A woman who is niche may be rated a 5-6 overall but be a 8-9 to men who like that niche. You don’t need to be attractive to everyone (it may actually make it harder to find a man being a plain Jane/5 or basic cute girl/6). Besides attraction varies based on income, age, cultural bea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | This is so random but... where can you even find decent pajamas?My first nice pair was Victoria’s Secret until Sam Edelman and Fredricks of Hollywood had a great clearance sale. Now days if I want any more I buy from Shein. I’ve never had an issue but I read sizing and reviews before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 05:43 PM |
| 16 | How to handle an inconsistent husband, temper and stressHe needs professional mental help. This is abusive behavior. He’s now too comfortable with you that he’s weaponizing his feelings/stress. He may genuinely not mean to be like this and the stress seems to trigger him. But if he can’t control his emotions and takes them out on you he has an emotional regulation problem. Which can’t be fixed with time or being understanding. And obviously it’s too difficult for him to control it if it’s happening this often. In these cases medication is a possibili… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/22 04:59 AM |
| 4 | the picture of how I got banned*.Imo I think this is slightly true especially for women who actually act like women. Women’s power isn’t physical it tends to rely on social and emotional influence. And during things like city conquests and wife taking being more cooperative is a survival skill. I mean look at Sweden and how it’s been overrun by migrants. Being cooperative is great in relationships not so much in certain leadership positions. Men will work together to solve a common goal but other than that men are much more ind… | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/06/22 04:27 AM |
| 55 | Which is better- husband with low or high body count?Do you think there could also be a link that highly promiscuous people are more likely to drink, smoke, have a poor diet, and other behaviors that are associated with higher cancer risk. Someone with good values and sexual control likely makes better choices. Obviously this doesn’t apply to people who have a low n count involuntarily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 07:24 PM |
| 18 | Aftermath of a massive argumentYeah I was like ok this isn’t bad until the part where he doesn’t want her to get better. Enthusiastic consent, boundaries/safe words, and aftercare is important in bdsm so this is just toxic. A dom has certain responsibilities too. He wants her to suffer because it turns him on instead of healing. I mean she can engage in bdsm and explore kink with him. A huge of sex when married is emotional intimacy/connection. And that part can’t be fulfilled this way/actually prevents intimacy. This is pret… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/22 12:39 AM |
| 16 | Giving a stay at home dad confidence?“Treat your paycheck like you’re bringing him money to oversee”- actually it’s great advice!!!! It’s allowing him to fulfill a manager/supervisor role. He may feel powerless financially rn so submitting in this way can mean a lot to him. And it’s one less thing she needs to stress about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/22 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Really want to submit but can’t find HVMAlso it’s very black and white. Drinking a 2l soda a day (impacts health) and playing 2h of video games daily (impacts life) for an extended amount of time isn’t high value behavior. And hvm are still men (flawed and human) so they aren’t always perfect every second of every day. Having an occasional soft drink and playing some video games to connect with friends or decompress occasionally has nothing to do with high value rather it’s a preference. High value is about things like character trait… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 10:44 PM |
| 4 | Really want to submit but can’t find HVMYour standards are too narrow. And the type of men you want wouldn’t want you…you’re too masculine. Most dominant hvm want a submissive wife not a life partner. If you mentally become dominate/view a man like a child because he turns you off over things like playing video games or drinking soda then it’s not him that being disappointing. You’re just impossible to satisfy. I’m guessing you’re highly educated, average to above in looks, and above middle class (40k/year). So you think you deserve a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 10:36 PM |
| 2 | I don’t feel sexual chemistry with my boyfriendIt’s a self improvement sub… I didn’t downvote since I’m a fan of dark humor. But this place is definitely not the right audience for that style of jokes | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/22 03:21 PM |
| 6 | I don’t feel sexual chemistry with my boyfriendOnly if you continue to have that mindset | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/22 12:39 AM |
| 12 | I don’t feel sexual chemistry with my boyfriendI did but mine was from underlying issues that got worked on in therapy. I loved the thrill and chase but also wanted a stable loving marriage since 5 years old. I didn’t want to settle so I worked on why I wasn’t satisfied (it wasn’t him) and found ways to get that excitement/chemistry from him. I just needed more stimulation/roughness. Having a lot more experience even in just kissing does effect relationships since you have more people to compare him to. I also got an adhd dx and went on adde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/22 05:28 PM |
| 2 | I have a question about body dysmorphiaThat’s an average length. Unless the woman is a size queen she will be plenty satisfied with it (as long as you know how to use it lol). Your ex emasculated you. Yes that was poor character of her. But if you hold on to the words that she said and don’t learn to respect yourself you will end up bitter. Which makes it hard to find love again. Also women will avoid you like the plague with this mindset. I mean come on are you really allowing your ex to live rent free in your head? She wanted to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/22 08:34 PM |
| 1 | BF has been texting a office colleague a lot and following exes on instaMen usually put women in those two categories as well: “the one” or the “one of many”. A man who has had many women may end up settling down if he finds someone who inspires that in him. A man may stay with a woman he views as “one of many” for years if he’s comfortable, thinks he can’t do better, is keeping his options open but doesn’t want to be single while finding the one, etc. It seems like he views her like she’s just “one of many”. There’s not really much that can be done about it if so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | BF has been texting a office colleague a lot and following exes on instaThey’re getting free attention from him. It’s very common in bb/af where the woman has an orbiter/acquaintance she gets her emotional needs from and her sexual needs she gets from more “alpha” men. He is the one that shouldn’t be giving these type of women attention. He’s taken so he should set boundaries around his behavior. They have no reason to be nice to you or your relationship-he does. A wedding ring gets a man hit on more. Women like preselection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Quick EngagementsHow old are you guys? And are you religious? Did you gauge compatibility, values, conflict resolution styles, attachment styles, preferred relationship dynamic, religious views, etc? It’s not uncommon on the community I live in for fast engagements like that since sex outside of marriage isn’t allowed. But people date with intent to marry (and know what they want) and often have a matchmaker set them up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | What happens after 'Happily-ever-after?'Np I’m glad you were able to get out of your head :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/22 05:50 PM |
| 10 | What happens after 'Happily-ever-after?'Ah yeah that’ll do it. “Boredom is the devils delight”. I tend to have a problem with uncontrolled overthinking too. I almost ruined my relationship with my fiancé over it :( things are 10x better now but back then I had similar thoughts. Perspective is everything | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/22 05:38 PM |
| 22 | What happens after 'Happily-ever-after?'This seems to be relationship anxiety. Go work on it instead of being your own home wrecker. This is self destructive. What ifs are very dangerous. Your hypergamous hamster is running wild. Maybe your attachment style isn’t healthy (avoidant or anxious). Either way this is your husband and your life. Make the most of it don’t throw it away- you will regret it. Happiness and contentment is a choice. The grass is really greener where you water it. When you read about women who are single in their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/22 04:46 PM |
| 20 | I was a slut in my past, Can I still find a Good Man?You need therapy first. Go into nun mode and heal. If you’re religious turn back to God and ask for his help. High n count is a risk/turn off for men partially because of the underlying reasons that made you promiscuous. If you work on that and can show that you won’t behave like that again then most men won’t hold it against you. At least not the ones you’d be compatible with. I agree with the other commentator who said damaged goods not used goods. You can repair yourself but it takes time and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/22 04:49 AM |
| 9 | Struggling with initiating sex in long-term relationship.Women are sexually responsive not usually the initiators. There’s a huge difference in men vs women’s sexuality and sex drive. Women usually need to be turned on slowly through foreplay and flirting or emotional connection well before the actual act. Even little sexting through the week helps. If your emotional needs aren’t getting met it makes it even harder to want to initiate. It’s not natural for a woman who is stuck in her head and emotionally unfulfilled to initiate (unless she feels dread… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/22 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Bf wants to split finances “50/50”Instead of zelle after every date she can every week contribute $100-200 for shared food expenses. Or offer to pay for the whole restaurant bill once a week as appreciation for him taking her out on the others. That way it doesn’t feel as 50/50 and he doesn’t feel used. I can understand feeling embarrassed to go 50/50 but I think it’s kinda cute if she takes him out on a date/covers the tab occasionally. Or alternatively she pays for all the food at home and cooks it while he’s the one who pays … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/22 05:51 PM |
| 12 | How to help him work out / lose weight without nagging?100% Weight loss is 80% diet. Changes should start at first in the kitchen. You don’t need to eat much less you need to eat differently. Small lifestyle changes are better than diets. I personally like to make sure half of my plate is veggies, I have prepped fruits available for snacks, am aware of serving sizes inc oil, and enough protein/fiber to keep me full. And how to substitute. If I’m craving chocolate ice cream there’s lower calorie alternatives. Trying to eat fruit instead just doesn’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/22 03:50 PM |
| 7 | RPW, remind me of the benefits and goals I should pursue before motherhood/during infertility.Read fascinating womanhood! Don’t be so hard on yourself you’re taking the steps to address this problem. Self care is important. All of those things are great things to dedicate time too. Also start/get back into hobbies. Learn how to be a good hostess. Romanticize your daily life. Play music while you clean. Be able to make some signature drinks. Bake and cook fancier meals/desserts. Start a cookbook of tried and true family recipes that you can pass down to your children. Enjoy the finer and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 05:33 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?Yep and it’s important to know what a diamond in the rough is vs a cz/fake diamond. A lot of women would rather have a cz instead of polishing him up with their feminine energy. 80% women would rather compete for the same 10% of men at the finish line than find someone not done with the race yet but with all the traits of a winner. Marriage is always a gamble/risk. Even a 6/6/6 can become broke and fat in 20 years. Or replace you. He has all the traits of a diamond in the rough which is differen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?I drink Diet Coke/Coke Zero a lot so he got used to drinking diet at home or if we share a soda. Lol he’d be thirsty and not want water and that’s all I had. After a while he started not disliking diet. He switched to iced tea in the morning since after drinking diet half the time full sugar soda was too much in the morning. He doesn’t have a big sweet tooth. He mainly likes soda with meals so it wasn’t a hard habit for him to break. He still has the occasional reg soda with meals outside the ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 4 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?Honestly he sounds like a good match then. Usually women are happier being more attractive (1-2 points max) than their partner (but still in an overall close league-there shouldn’t be a power dynamic problem). Cooking healthy meals is a way to support him without nagging. Or suggesting a fun date like trampoline park, rock climbing gym, kayaking, roller skating, hiking, amusement park, etc. Start small healthy habits together. Most people gain weight in marriage/ltr this is a way to prevent that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 05:07 PM |
| 12 | How do you feel about "settling" for someone?How would you feel if your rejected him and then he lost the weight? And then dated someone else. How would you feel if you dated him and then he struggled to lose it? No one is perfect. Would you consider yourself settling if you found an attractive man who was dominant, kind, and intelligent but not rich? Or rich, attractive, kind and not dominant? Or not kind? Is he not the most attractive guy ever or are you not attracted to him at all? If he’s still attractive to you but you’re used to hott… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/22 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Our conversations devolve into fights so often :/ help.When my fiancé does some mild version this it’s usually because he is feeling disrespected (even if I’m not disrespectful). He feels disrespected by people in the outside world so he wants a safe haven at home. When it feels like I’m challenging him or disagreeing he feels the need to prove himself. And when I get hurt/frustrated/invalidated and react from that it can be emasculating. He wants me to look up to him. I’ve learned to express my opinion in a more playful way. And when it’s not the r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/22 05:04 PM |
| 1 | How can I get more in touch with my sensuality? Struggling with a low libido and I’m concerned it may cost me my relationship.It’s easy to convince yourself you’re not doing enough when you compare your relationship to ones online. You’re only seeing a part of it. As long as you two are satisfied that’s what matters. If you don’t like bjs you can do just for a little bit using flavored gel or throat numbing gel then switch to a hand job or sex. I’m sorry your going through such a rough time right now. Self care and being gentle with yourself might help. Going from not trying enough to trying too hard is likely to lead … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/22 02:52 AM |
| 5 | How can I get more in touch with my sensuality? Struggling with a low libido and I’m concerned it may cost me my relationship.3-4x a week during the honeymoon phase then 1-2x a week is pretty average after a couple years. It’s completely normal. It’s what my sex drive is at too (except during ovulation then it’s higher). But my fiancé has a higher sex drive so I give him bjs when he wants. As for improving libido women usually need to be turned on by small things throughout the day. Like making out before he leaves for work or sending a flirty text. Women’s libido is reactive/responsive. Him taking more of the sexual i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/22 12:07 AM |
| 5 | Any other Fascinating Womanhood wives out there?I try to 😅 it’s easier said than done sometimes. In the beginning of my relationship I didn’t (almost 5 years together). And then I read the books about a year or two in but didn’t fully apply it until the past year. I still struggle with some things but it’s made a huge difference in my happiness and the health of the relationship. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/05/22 04:37 PM |
| 21 | I want to help restore my husband’s confidence after a bad fightThis is a textbook abuse situation. Abuse is about power and control. Do not try justifying it to yourself. Isolation is the first step. Him wanting to be the only one you talk to is 🚩. I’m extremely worried that this could progress into physical violence since he does things like punching shelves. He needs professional therapy. And possibly medication if there’s a mental health problem behind this behavior. It’s highly likely he has a mental illness. If his issues go untreated this will get wor… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/05/22 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Guys How do you deal with the entitlement from guys in various aspects of relLife isn’t 100% fair. Do you expect him to pay only 50% of the bills? Do you plan on being on top during sex 50% of the time? Are you going to take him out/pay for dates 50% of the time. Probably not. Instead maybe you plan on giving more in other areas of the relationship. Besides high n count is riskier for women. It causes problems for men/is a red flag but not to the same degree. Women bond through sex faster, are higher risk for stds, and are harder to please the more partners they have. Wo… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/05/22 05:13 AM |
| 2 | Having male friends while in a relationship: Is it any different if he's gay?Well that’s fantastic! I’m glad he’s taking things more seriously and readjusting his priorities. It’s normal for men to be slightly immature at that age (especially if the men around him are) but it’s definitely a green flag that he’s starting to challenge his views and grow. That’s the good thing about rpw is working on problems/rough patches instead of ditching what could end up a beautiful marriage. If he can see if he can find a good Christian young men’s group/friends. Having accountabilit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 07:47 PM |
| 4 | Why N-Count MattersAh thanks for reminding me to do my kegels. I have weighted ones. They aren’t just for sexual tightness but actually very important for overall health for women. They help strengthen the pelvic floor…which is extremely important. And the pelvic floor is weakened by age, pregnancy/childbirth, being overweight, etc. So all y’all women on here start now!!! If you don’t you risk developing urinary incontinence when you get older or after childbirth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Having male friends while in a relationship: Is it any different if he's gay?That’s not a friend that’s backup. I agree it’s more immaturity rather than malicious. But him being close to some he finds attractive and likes their personality is not ok. I’m glad you set boundaries and he agreed to them. Ugh a year together and just now recovering from porn addiction. 21 may be too young for him to settle down. His maturity seems forced by you/him being afraid to lose you. These are things he should be stopping without your intervention. Usually ltr leading to marriage at 19… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Having male friends while in a relationship: Is it any different if he's gay?Gay is different as long as he’s actually gay and respects physical + emotional boundaries. And as long as you don’t develop any interest in him or put him above your bf. Is there a particular reason you don’t like him hanging around these women? Is he/she ever too nice or flirty? Does he ever put them first or compare you to them/them to you? Is he physically attracted to them? Do his female friends seem sexually interested in him? Do they ever talk bad about your relationship or you? Is there … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/22 02:03 AM |
| 3 | traditional marriage : what if we share the same values but we're not each other's physical type?You can’t force it or you’ll end up resentful. Is he not your type or are you not attracted to him. Those are very different things. Ignoring problems just makes them worse. It’s hard to tell if you’re attracted to someone just by pictures. Some of attraction is how you carry yourself/charisma, scent, etc. On the other hand someone may look perfect on paper but irl it’s not a match. And being overweight is something that isn’t permanent. Especially if you make healthy meals and go on walks/hikes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/22 08:08 PM |
| 11 | "Reformed RPWs": Do you feel bad reading all the stories of other women waiting until marriage when you didn't?Sometimes but I’m happy to hear that others waited. It gives me hope that my lil bro will find a good woman since he’s a bit trad and a high earner. I was saving it for marriage (or at least engagement) but then I was SA’d multiple times. I’m more upset at myself for thinking so black/white. Afterwards I ended up not respecting myself by putting myself in situations where men coerced and/or took advantage of me. I felt there was nothing to lose and it was easier to give up. But then I establishe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/22 02:12 PM |
| 3 | How has birth control, the internet, career focus, abortion, and the hook-up culture affected you and your view of men?That’s why I put it in “”. In this context it’s subtext for partying and causal relationships instead of prioritizing marriage. It’s definitely a healthy thing to do some soul searching, find what’s meaningful, and establish your personal identity. It’s a huge part of nun mode. But most people don’t use this alone time wisely. Even in a marriage it’s important to have goals and not be completely codependent. Someone marriage minded may not find a compatible match from 18-21. But still single by … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/22 04:13 AM |
| 1 | I’m at a loss and really want to changeWhat do you do for yourself/self care? If you don’t take care of yourself it’s hard to take care of others. Do you hang out with any other adults or engage in hobbies? It seems like you’re experiencing a burn out. Often when therapy isn’t enough the next step is to look into medication. It’s not a cure all but it might be able to take the edge off of things. Also enough sleep, a healthy diet, and exercise not only improve mental health but also energy levels. You can include the kids in your exe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/22 10:12 PM |
| 12 | How has birth control, the internet, career focus, abortion, and the hook-up culture affected you and your view of men?I wasn’t an adult during any of those times so it’s hard to say. We do have a lot of luxuries that make housework and cooking easier so modern times are the best for me. And I don’t have to worry as much about infant death, dying from birth, severe poverty, being stuck with an abusive husband unable to leave, or getting tb/polio/typhoid/etc. Women don’t need to work in a lot of places. A young attractive lady can still get married to a provider man. Because of the internet and tinder (gives the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/22 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Decision to work/not work after marriageWhat about bringing up to him working at least pt until you have kids? Or have a side hustle type of income. I do babysitting on the side through an agency for $20/h. And I’m a nail tech/esthetician so sometimes I perform services at peoples houses. There’s also setting up promo events during the weekdays and other gig income jobs. You can find that esteem boost in other areas of life. Like with volunteer work or making your own herb/veg garden. Work isn’t freedom. But having your own savings an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/22 01:45 PM |
| 2 | How would you get back a man that no longer wants you because you made mistakes in the relationship?Previous relationship aka ex I’m guessing | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/22 09:03 PM |
| 9 | How would you get back a man that no longer wants you because you made mistakes in the relationship?Usually you don’t, you cut your losses and move on. Become better and find someone more compatible. Learn from those mistakes. Besides why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want you. Mutual feelings and a desire to work on the relationship is necessary. If he views it’s not worth it to fix things/poor compatibility and he’s better off with someone else well take that at face value. Sometimes through personal growth and development he may see you have changed and give the relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/22 09:03 PM |
| 7 | How do I let people know that I like themYou’re going to need to give us more info here. Romantically like or friendship like? What’s your age/gender? If you’re a woman looking to let a man know you like him it’s best to use girl game instead of being too forward. Signal that you’re interested but let him take the lead. Back in the day women would drop hankerchiefs to initiate a connection with a man she found appealing. So don’t expect men to do all the work but be coy in your approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 11:38 PM |
| 9 | Is this a sign that men aren’t attracted to me?You could improve your confidence, self esteem, and girl game. Those traits make you more attractive to men long term vs just a hook up. Obviously you’re hot enough for hookups so your smv is good but your rmv is lacking. You’re slim, young, pretty face, well groomed, etc so that puts you above average smv already. You’re hot enough for commitment so you’re either going for men who aren’t interested a ltr with you (and sex won’t make them commitment but they’ll enjoy the sex) or you’re messing u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/22 02:38 PM |
| 3 | What questions to ask before you think of marrying a HVM?The difference of dating with intention vs modern dating. Compatibility is extremely important for marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 03:16 AM |
| 5 | The over-functioning - resentment cycleWas he not a leader in the beginning of the relationship? If so I mean you chose to marry a guy like that. People don’t change overnight. Do you love and accept him for how he is right now even if he never steps up? Could you submit to and respect him as your husband as he is? If not you may need couples therapy to address this because that’s a serious issue. The fascinating womanhood has some great passages about getting a man to lead. You can’t just expect or demand them to. It’s also based on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 02:15 AM |
| 3 | The over-functioning - resentment cycleThis right here! 100% men (and women) usually can pick up on resentment. Men tend to usually give women space during this time so it makes sense for him to not make extra effort. Men deal with their problems differently than women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 02:03 AM |
| 6 | The over-functioning - resentment cycleIkr! You’ve got a great man that you should respect. You picked your husband and father of your child. I’m sure he’d enjoy a foot massage after that kiss more than contempt from you. There’s a lot of sayings about honey and vinegar that apply here. Write a list of all of his good traits. Read them daily. You’re putting too much spotlight on his bad traits. What if he did that to you. No ones perfect the dating pool won’t be better outside your marriage so make the best of what you have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 12:57 AM |
| 3 | The over-functioning - resentment cycleSo he works full time, does chores, and spends time with his family…and you’re complaining. You’re taking on the masculine role and not allowing him to lead by doing it all for him. You’ve got to trust him. If he accepts a task and doesn’t get it done on time that’s on him. He’ll learn. He may fail the first time but he’ll figure it out eventually. When you just do it for him not only do you become resentful but it emasculates him. You aren’t allowing him to lead the relationship. Men view that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/22 12:47 AM |
| 6 | " My best friends describe me as the type of woman that can take a mans card away if he's weak because I can do almost everything by myself. " - Single Mother on Tinder looking for a country boy.Brutal. It’s sad because most of female beauty is controllable so collectively they just don’t care about men. I’m in Miami and most of the women complain about being single. Some don’t even hook up or party they just are a Miami 4 (Midwest 7). There’s a lot more women (locals and vacationers) than men. I kinda want to tell them they can find a good tall attractive loyal husband who works hard if they just move. It’s better than them being p&d until they become wine aunts. I doubt any will most … | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/04/22 08:34 PM |
| 7 | " My best friends describe me as the type of woman that can take a mans card away if he's weak because I can do almost everything by myself. " - Single Mother on Tinder looking for a country boy.Emma (32) is actually lifting her forehead here (unflattering mid speaking candid) and the makeup is bad making things worse. All caught on a high quality camera with harsh lighting. This is easily fixed by Botox, being hydrated, and mild weight gain. She can bounce back asap if she wanted to. On the other hand this mid 20s woman forehead is stuck like this even in low quality posed selfies. How does this happen without smoking or drinking?!? Imagine how she will look at 32. Being a single mom a… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/04/22 08:13 PM |
| 17 | I am told that I tend to pick men who are "below" me? Is this a thing?It’s a thing I used to be like that because of shyness and insecurity. It was easier to talk to them (since I didn’t care what they thought as much) and they pretended to be nicer/try harder (at first). I was a prize to them. The put me on a pedestal but I could never be happy with someone who didn’t really like me for me but rather the vague idea of me. And it led me to not respecting them. Also I probably dated them because I wasn’t emotionally ready to date an actually compatible man who I’d … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/22 07:58 PM |
| 13 | I bet she does send nudesOh yeah it’s definitely unfair and rigged against the middle class. If you’re a single mom on welfare you also get free health insurance (everything paid no deductibles), food stamps ($700+ for 4-5ppl), free cell phone plans, college grants, and other benefits. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/04/22 01:42 AM |
| 11 | I bet she does send nudesShe’s probably on medicaid so it’s all paid by the taxpayers anyway | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/04/22 11:45 PM |
| 6 | I'm considering breaking up with my other wise high value boyfriend because of something he said but don't know if I'm being too rashShe also doesn’t seem ready for a serious relationship based off of those | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 02:32 PM |
| 1 | RPW approach on how to navigate around this relationshipI’m not trying to make her feel bad. I was just curious if her not being ready was from outside shame and guilt. And that even if her views change that it doesn’t drop her value significantly to most men. Many women feel pressured in regards to sex (to wait and to have it). And it doesn’t need to be an all or nothing thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstAh so you’re actually a cusper too. Gen z starts at 1997. The mid 90s are considered “zillenials”. Lol there’s nothing wrong with being close to gen z in age. Imo some of gen z is actually pretty smart bc of all the internet access. Its like both genders are turned against each other on purpose. Tbf when both people work more taxes are paid | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstNah I’m in between/cusp of gen z and millennial so it’s not an age thing. I see many millennials against sahm, monogamy, & rp theory and many gen z wanting to be sahm (yet can’t unfortunately). It’s women being told to be/act a certain way. Part of me thinks their jealous or insecure. Women are told they need to work to be of value, men aren’t shit, and other toxic material. So when a woman goes against that and wants something else she’s a traitor. Imo gen z is more anti victimhood than millenn… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstVery true I keep seeing pick me used as a slur all the time now. It’s sad. It’s usually used incorrectly like you stated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Fiancé almost never says he loves me firstThat just may not be his love language. He shows it so you know he feels that way towards you. Maybe bring up how you need him to vocalize his love. Also you should both take the 5 love languages test. You probably rank high in words of affirmation while he doesn’t. He just needs to learn how to show his love on the way you need it. And maybe you’ll learn what his languages are so you can show him your love in the ways he responds best. I’m like your fiancé I don’t usually show live that way. So… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/22 03:06 AM |
| 0 | RPW approach on how to navigate around this relationshipHe may want commitment but he’s still a man. Men are able to compartmentalize. Especially with love and lust. His body is wired differently. Men have much more of a biological drive to have frequent sex. Women tend to want to have sex with the best man possible. So if he’s the best man I don’t get your hang ups around sex at 21. Why do you feel so uncomfortable about it? Maybe some religious or cultural upbringing? I’d take some time to examine your sexuality so you feel safe with it. Sex with s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 08:49 PM |
| 4 | RPW approach on how to navigate around this relationshipYeah ldrs aren’t usually a good situation. Men view sex differently than women do. You wanting him to wait 1-2 years for sex while giving you commitment may feel disrespectful to men. It’s an abnormal request on a man. Navigating being in between a modern and traditional women isn’t easy. You might have to eventually choose which path suits you more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 08:19 PM |
| 13 | RPW approach on how to navigate around this relationshipNo one is worth waiting that long for bc it shows incompatibility, lack of respect, lack of desire, and a completely different view of relationships. Especially if one of both of you aren’t still virgins. Waiting before marriage wasn’t intended for people waiting 2 years to be wed. It’s completely unfair for you to ask that of him. And if you guys are religious how are random hookups a solution to this? I agree it’s dangerous to open things up. Do you want to marry him or not? It really seems li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Red pill marriage…almost…Kudos on 8 kids that’s a lot. It’s common for women to neglect themselves after kids. But taking care of yourself is important not just for your husband but also your children. They see how you treat yourself and it effects them. And you deserve to be healthy and happy with yourself too. If you need external help maybe see if your family can eat healthier with you. Or see if any of them want to join you on a nightly walk. What’s the reason for your overeating? Are you a plate clearer, snacker, c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 29 | Which sites are best for online dating and when is the age when men are looking for marriage?Umm no offense op I just checked your post history and maybe you need to start working on your relationship with yourself before you look for a husband. A man won’t fix or complete you. As much validation as you’ll get from your husband you’ll also get triggered. No ones perfect and relationships are about growth. You’re still young don’t compare your timeline to others. Being too desperate to find a man may lead you to settling down with the wrong man. It’s easy to insecure at your age especial… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/22 10:35 PM |
| 27 | Which sites are best for online dating and when is the age when men are looking for marriage?Depends on the man. Usually men like to get financially established first but religious men often marry before that. I’d be wary at your age looking to marry a man you met online. Usually people who marry young marry within the community and/or have their father help vet the man. Church/place of worship or a religious college is the only place I’d recommend for a young marriage. Or with your community. I met my fiancé when I was 23 he was 26 and we were both looking for marriage since we were te… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/22 09:33 PM |
| 7 | HER MAN: Blast from the past, straight from the mid-early suicidegirls era. Simple drawing and demands for simple-minded butterflies.In Judaism (my fiancé is Jewish) oral on a man is allowed (as long as he doesn’t ejaculate outside of the v) but oral isn’t allowed at all on women. Which is fine by me bc I’m one of these rare women. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/04/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | HER MAN: Blast from the past, straight from the mid-early suicidegirls era. Simple drawing and demands for simple-minded butterflies.Did you tell your wife how unattractive they are to you? Maybe she’d consider laser removal. I mean the main point of a woman’s appearance is to look good for her husband. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/04/22 02:20 AM |
| 5 | (Strong, independent, and leftover) woman wonders what went wrong with wedding wishesTbf she might but that’s only bc women after 25 tend to let themselves go. Sometimes even before that. I’m in my late 20s and it’s really sad to see so many women gain weight, don’t dress well, eat garbage, no spf/poor skincare, etc. Although lol it did help me land a great man in my early 20s since there wasn’t much competition. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/04/22 01:05 AM |
| 1 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?These 2 things separately aren’t red flags but together they are. He didn’t want to take you on vacation with his family (only bc they would want to pay for the hotel) and you aren’t his physical preference…that’s not nothing. Leaving your newlywed wife home on holiday and preferring women who look different than your newlywed wife is sketch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 11:19 PM |
| 1 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?I found a man who I’m 100% his type. Well rn I’m a couple pounds too slim for him but we are ttc so I’ll be gaining soon. I don’t think I’d be able to marry a man whose preference was different than me. And I have 2 types of men in into and he falls into one of those categories. I could never marry someone who wasn’t my type. As for changing for a man idk my views on that. Would you like yourself and how you look if you gained weight and cut your hair? I definitely liked the comment about trying… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 11:15 PM |
| 1 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?Ok I looked through your post history and you’re the same woman who’s new husband doesn’t want to take her on a family vacation…and now this. Umm something is wrong here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 10:58 PM |
| 9 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?Yes it’s the in spite of vs because of argument. Some women are hot even with short hair but short hair doesn’t make them attractive. For most women it’s not flattering. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 10:56 PM |
| 1 | What to do when your husband prefer things you don’t have?Could he be insecure? Or maybe it’s his type due to upbringing/childhood experiences? I don’t get why he didn’t pursue a woman who looks like that though. He could’ve easily found a woman who matches his ideal. Maybe he’s trying to neg her? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/22 10:54 PM |
| 11 | Guidance on relationship & his female friend - any advice appreciated!He’s keeping his options open. Men don’t call women who they’re attracted to a sister. If he liked her before he’s keeping her around because he still likes her. Doesn’t mean he will cheat but if you break up and she’s single/likes him back he’ll go for it. So she really isn’t JUST a friend. She’s just in the friend category right now because she won’t give him the time of day. He may be beta orbiting her. Which is fair because your relationship doesn’t really seem to have much of a future. Ldr … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/22 01:49 PM |
| 12 | I feel like not being rewarded for all the effort I put inRed flag! He’s not active yet he’s telling you how often you should workout that’s sketch. It would be different if you asked for help or were overweight. While exercise is great diet is the most important part of being lean. Everything seems to be on his terms. Make sure he’s not future faking or manipulating you since he seems very controlling. Also what if you move for him and things go wrong? Make sure you have the resources to leave if you need to since isolating you in another country away… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/22 02:39 PM |
| 16 | To have or not to have male friendsNope. I used to but then I realized they’re all waiting for an opportunity. I thought I had male friends but turns out they were all beta orbiters. I’ll be around my fiancé’s friends or my friend’s husbands but that’s it. Occasionally I’ll be around an acquaintance but I’ve been trying to be more reserved around them. It’s about modesty. Also in my religion it’s not allowed to be alone with a man who isn’t your husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/22 02:12 PM |
| 15 | How to resolve an issue that keeps coming up?I’m more concerned that he keeps holding the past against you and is letting it ruin his mood all the time. Hopefully time and consistency with your actions will help alleviate his concerns. He may feel like he’s being used and unappreciated. I never had to pay for anything with my fiancé but I always cooked for him and never asked him for much. Are you giving in other areas of the relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/22 02:03 PM |
| 12 | bf says he feels rushedLook up future faking. It’s a common manipulation tactic to get women to stay in relationships without long term commitment (marriage). | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 07:40 PM |
| 7 | bf says he feels rushedMan plans and God laughs. Yeah sometimes you’ve go to let go of certain deadlines. Getting set on a number can make someone make a rash decision (like having kids before marriage). | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 07:38 PM |
| 12 | bf says he feels rushedWell how long have you been dating? People usually get married before kids but it’s good to establish a timeline. It’s quite a red flag that he has 2 other children to someone he isn’t married to… While you may be pressuring and rushing him it could just be you guys aren’t very compatible. Can he afford another child right now? That may be a huge concern of his. Having 3 children by 27 to two different women is not something a lot of men want to do. Or can afford to do. His timeline for more kid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 03:57 PM |
| 6 | Do you think “female game” is a thing?100%. This is usually the case when an attractive successful women with a decent personality and doesn’t have unrealistic or narrow standards has issues dating. Game isn’t as important for both genders when you’re in the top 10% but it can make a huge difference for even pretty people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 06:35 AM |
| 12 | What careers/jobs should women have before hopefully being SAHW/SAHM?While you need to expand your social circle to include hvm you don’t need to go into a career around them. There’s many ways to broaden your social circle like volunteering, church/place of worship, meetups, religious singles events, social events, etc. I’ve met many hvm at these events. Also go to more affluent single areas to do this. Join fitness classes/gyms in these areas. While nursing is in high demand and is affordable for education there’s a huge emotional toll with it. Med tech jobs li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/22 01:55 AM |
| 5 | Interreligious datingInterreligious dating is a recipe for disaster long term if you plan on having kids. Marriage is about compatibility and similar goals for the future. And this isn’t a problem that can be fixed so you need to accept it or move on. Your still very young imo find someone more compatible. I was raised Christian band converted to Conservative Judaism. Since my fiancé’s family is Orthodox (Conservative Judaism conversions aren’t recognized by them) I’m converting to Orthodoxy before we get married. P… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Easy, cheap meals recipes.R/eatcheapandhealthy Just get used to the basics first. Then maybe add in a new interesting recipe 1-2x a week. I don’t usually cook with recipes unless I’m baking or trying something new. A good basic formula is base, protein, veg, and sauce (opt:toppings like cheese/nuts/crunchy). An example of bases are quinoa, rice, polenta, potatoes, pasta, farro, bulgur, bread, and lettuce. You don’t need to make the sauce from scratch Trader Joe’s has a lot of good ones. And frozen veggies are just as hea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/22 04:13 AM |
| 25 | [55-F] I am HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). I am not looking for sex. I want to find true love. BTW; you must be a minimum 5'11" and a learned man, I have no sensitivity toward men below that markIt’s also the bad facetuning/photo editing. Trying to get rid of all your wrinkles by just smoothing your face often has a plasticy effect. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/04/22 05:12 PM |
| 24 | About Emma WatsonThat’s why it’s important to marry in your 20s. If you find a good husband, keep a healthy feminine appearance, and treat him well there’s usually no issues. Wife googles is definitely a thing. Attraction is more than just physical appearance. A lot of women let themselves go, have dead bedrooms, and become disrespectful. That’s what kills attraction. Most trads reject modern culture so most don’t fear it as much. Women’s value is more than just looks. As an older woman you still contribute to y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/22 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Where do you ladies fall on the trad wife to modern wife spectrum?My bad I got mixed up with Morocco since they have a pretty big community in Israel. It’s right on the border though. He’s still not white he’s Middle Eastern. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 11:42 PM |
| 15 | Where do you ladies fall on the trad wife to modern wife spectrum?Yeah he’s Israeli and his dads side is from Yemen which is in Northern Africa. He’s definitely not white looking and doesn’t consider himself at all white. I could see someone who was Ashkenazi consider themselves white sometime but not always. Just like a lot of people with mixed ethnicities who identify with both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 07:02 PM |
| 23 | Where do you ladies fall on the trad wife to modern wife spectrum?About 60% trad. Been with the same man since 23, religious, husband is provider/protector/leader, trying for kids (we want 4), going to homeschool them, I take care of the house & cook, I work pt as a babysitter, I only hang out with women, I don’t watch any explicit tv shows, modest dress (except for athletic wear), views towards sex, gender roles, fit feminine appearance, into gardening/homesteading/aerial/artsy stuff/etc Not so trad aspects: interracial (he’s Jewish I’m White), we both slept … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/22 05:39 PM |
| 2 | hitting the wall and settling for mr wrongThe father of your kids should be your husband. 7 years as a bf is playing games. And yeah after 2-3 years of living together you should’ve know whether you wanted to marry him and had a serious talk about engagement. A man knows whether he wants to marry someone within the first year. He really might’ve wanted that future with you but changed his mind after not feeling respected/wanted/a priority. If he loved you but realized you weren’t ideal for his wife and mother of kids it could explain ho… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 06:23 PM |
| 12 | Thoughts on cooking for boyfriend?If you enjoy it and he appreciates it who cares what others think. You’ve still got to cook for yourself anyway. It would be different if he was forcing you or not reciprocating in the relationship. I think it’s rather cute that you feel this way towards him. You’re showing him how nurturing you are. While men don’t often say how much they look for that in a woman it’s a trait they look for in a wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 03:19 AM |
| 3 | hitting the wall and settling for mr wrongMany couple with no fertility issues/younger don’t get pregnant within a few months of trying. Don’t get your hopes up too much. Ivf may be the best bet. And even then it’s a geriatric pregnancy. You didn’t prioritize marriage and kids back then you prioritized your career, sleeping around, education, and traveling. Why are you shocked you’re stuck with a career instead of a family? Unfortunately this is a very common story. What about single/divorced fathers? That way even if kids isn’t in your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/22 03:12 AM |
| 1 | CookingMy mom wasn’t a good cook so I learned to make easy stuff as a kid/teen. Meals don’t need to be full on recipes or fancy. Frozen veggies speed up time and are just as healthy. Buddha bowls and well really any bowl is easy. You cook a grain (rice, farro, potatoes, quinoa, cous cous, etc), a veggie or two, a protein or two (meat, fish, lentils, chickpeas, veggie based meat, tofu, etc) and a sauce (doesn’t have to be homemade Trader Joe’s has a lot). Sometimes add toppings like cheese and you’re se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/22 05:26 PM |
| 3 | I'm very confused.Yes a blend of alpha and beta is what we look for. Too alpha and the guy isn’t loyal but too beta it can be hard to look up to and respect him. The ideal blend varies per person. Rp men often use hvm and alpha interchangeably because for a lot of men a hvm is an alpha. They want to be looked up to and respected not just used financially or emotionally. They want to be sexually desired. Since men who are mostly beta are often mistreated by women some think that they need to be alpha instead. That… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/22 04:19 PM |
| 4 | Opinions on arranged marriages?After dating guys that weren’t compatible for me and struggling to end things even though I didn’t even like them I realized why arranged marriages aren’t actually that bad. I used to be against them when I had a super childish view of marriage and love. Love is something that grows over time as you get to know someone and work though challenges with them. Love isn’t just a feeling it’s an action. The more you act with love toward someone the more you’ll love them. A lot of modern marriages fail… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/22 01:40 PM |
| 9 | How to approach boyfriend after brief separationUmm that’s not a separation that’s you just not contacting him and him pulling back lol. He may have not want to be too pushy. Separations are planned and talked about. This relationship is very odd for 7-9 months. Usually by now there’s more emotional intimacy and communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 02:50 PM |
| 7 | How can I try to heal from the pain of hurting my exYou just carry on. Take it day by day if you need to. Time heals all wounds if you allow it to. Work on yourself and don’t focus on the past (which you can’t change). You’re young and immature I’m sure he’ll forgive you with time. He just needs to process that pain just like you do. Relationships are learning experiences that you’re supposed to grow from. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re remorseful for your previous actions no need to suffer twice. Just improve from it. Dwelling in guilt won… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 06:40 AM |
| 15 | How to approach boyfriend after brief separationWhy did you guys separate? That makes a huge impact on the advice I’d give/my opinion. Showing interest is different than chasing someone. Especially since you’ve known him a awhile. He was the one who expressed desire to meet up. Maybe casually bring up your availability to him. Be like hey I’m busy x, x, and x but I’d love to take you up on your offer whenever we are both free. That gives him no pressure, shows you have other things going on/not too available, and makes him still have to make … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/22 03:55 AM |
| 35 | How To Deal With Not Being What He Wants?Oh yeah he’s definitely negging her | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 08:02 PM |
| 6 | Dilemma with fiancéHe can also use a vibrator on her. It does all the work for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 07:49 AM |
| 0 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?Probably. I have body dysmorphia so I don’t often think so though. I’d say I’m a 7.5/7-8 (7 on a regular day 8 all done up). Although my fiancé thinks I’m a 10 since I have all the physical traits he was looking for/I’m his type. When I’m heavier around BMI 20-23 I get less attention and am probably an adjustable 6 by Kevin Samuels standards lol. I don’t hold extra weight well since it goes to my face, stomach, and thighs. I’ve gone through a chubby phase where I was BMI 25ish and how I was trea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 07:38 AM |
| 20 | How to not feel guilty about money in a relationship?He wants to provide and protect. He’s happy to do so. By having issues with it or refusing it, it can feel like you’re rejecting him and not caring about his feelings. Let him show you he appreciates you in the way he wants to. Why feel guilty when this kind of behavior should bring you closer. Learning how to receive is important. It’s a very feminine thing to learn to relax into that. That doesn’t mean you can’t be grateful and show appreciation though. It’s like with compliments. If your man … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?I didn’t read the whole book but from the excerpts I learned a lot. It made me realize how unrealistic I was. I didn’t have high standards but I had narrow ones. I appreciate my fiancé a lot more after realizing how the dating market really is like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 03:43 AM |
| -1 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?Unfortunately 40k/middle class isn’t a livable income for a family where I’m at too. And I think it’s just going to end up getting worse. The average/middle is disappearing. If you’re in similar social circles a higher earning man isn’t out of your league. I just hear a lot of 6/10 50k women demanding tall, fit, and makes more than her. But that doesn’t sound like you at all you actually seem quite realistic. Hmm you’re petite with reasonable standards and you can get men to date you long term s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/22 03:32 AM |
| 10 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?lol “average Joe’s” to women tend to be 6-7s. A truly average 30-35 year old man makes 40k, is 5’9, 5-5.5 dick, and is overweight. Most women look down on these men which is sad. Ah seems like poor vetting and staying too long. Before I met my fiancé I fell victim to those behaviors too. I wanted a husband but I didn’t know how to find a husband. Goals and plans for the future should be discussed early on to make sure you’re compatible. Especially in regards to ideal relationship dynamic and int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 10:33 PM |
| 2 | What would be your suggestions for me?🚩🚩🚩 This is why men don’t date you. You’re not wife material and have some serious issues you need to work out. You come off as desperate which scares men off. You’re a huge liability to men. You’re thinking of- escorting bc your lonely, dual mating , tricking your future husband, sleeping around to help with your emotions…This is the worst of female traits. You’re acting like a femcel. Stop pittying yourself. Sex won’t solve anything that’s a cope. It’ll just make you more broken. Sex actually … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 09:27 PM |
| 16 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?You don’t need the “right person” for a happy marriage. There is no Mr. Right. You find someone compatible that you’re attracted to. Then you treat them well and you grow together. True love is made not found (that’s infatuation). | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 09:12 PM |
| 8 | Ten years a RPW, hit the wall with no loving marriage in sight. Trying to figure out why?How long are you with each ltr? Are these men your age, 2-9 years older, or 9+? Did you break up with any of these men? Men know around 7 months if they would marry you. Around then you should be able to ask where this relationship is going and have some serious talks. Although if you’re actually dating for marriage (and not just dating and wanting to be married one day) you are serious from the beginning. I’m guessing you’re batting above your league, don’t know how to keep a man, or are pickin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/22 09:06 PM |
| 4 | What would be your suggestions for me?No it doesn’t. It’s better to be “unemployed” and gaining skills to build your resume so you can be qualified for your ideal position vs taking any job that you like in the moment. Keeping a job/man is different than getting one. Prepping yourself mentally for marriage is very important. In more trad areas this is done as a teen so by early 20s they have the tools needed to have a healthy marriage/know what to look for in a husband. Look into nun mode (rpw version of monk mode). It’s a time of s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/22 08:39 PM |
| 3 | What would be your suggestions for me?What makes you think you have an std? It’s unlikely to happen from 1 unprotected sexual encounter. Are you having symptoms? And even then it can be things like a yeast infection, bv, or uti triggered by sex. If you’re in the us there’s free/discount clinics for this. Also you’re not really making a valid point here. It seems more like rambling and going down a self pity spiral. Which if you know jps work you should know his views on setting aim. You seem directionless. You may vaguely know what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/22 05:55 PM |
| 11 | DynamicsThis is extremely unfair. You’re not being unrealistic to want him to pull his weight. He’s not a child or a roommate he’s an adult. If he wasn’t living with you he’d have to do these for himself. You’re working full time and doing 95% of the childcare & housework it’s completely understandable to be overwhelmed and frustrated. And it seems without micromanaging things there’s no other way to ask for help and even then it doesn’t get done. You may need to both pitch in to hire more help like a m… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/03/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | ConsanguinityHell nah lol. But cousin marriage isn’t considered incest in many cultures. And technically in the Bible it’s not incest. Unless 2nd/removed it may be illegal where you live though. I can understand why you felt more intimate with him as it’s a familiar bond too. For many people that closer bond makes romantic intimacy creepy. I don’t have any male cousins anywhere near my age so I don’t even know what that bond is like on even a platonic level. But you’re married now and need to focus 100% on t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/22 06:15 AM |
| 173 | Although I would say "I am a little chunky" although that shouldn't matter anyway.Not “morbidly” obese just chunky = obese Despite what modern feminism says obesity is not attractive to most men. Especially not on older women. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/03/22 12:16 PM |
| 18 | [43-F] Why do I only find chads who want to pump and dump me? I don't know, I think there must be normal people here, chads without "a boner..." all day. I just want the embodiment of celibacy to be with me and my catsLol with all the freaks out there that business would probably do well | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/03/22 02:45 PM |
| 12 | She wants to build a life with someone but not her child's father. The beach is her favorite place to be because she's a whale.For an average weight and height woman let’s say 5’4 125lbs going out to eat just once a week can pack the pounds on. Well if she doesn’t eat a little less, work out more during the week, pick healthier options, or take half home. Sharing an appetizer or dessert, 2 drinks (soda or alcoholic), and eating 3/4 of a meal is over 2500 cals. That’s more than her daily needs and usually people don’t do omad before date nights. She’s at least 1500 calories over. Over a year that’s 10+ lbs. And that’s if… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 14 | She wants to build a life with someone but not her child's father. The beach is her favorite place to be because she's a whale.Why would they marry each other? Their welfare and food stamps amount is higher if they just cohabitate. Marriage is about stability and commitment which is something they obviously don’t prioritize. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/03/22 06:15 PM |
| 12 | Reducing Work Hours as a WifeYou’re essentially working 2 jobs. Don’t worry about the social stigma you don’t need to justify not hustling 24/7. You are worth more than your income and $. Your time with your husband and self care time is valuable. Sometimes when you focus too much on the future you miss out on the now. And the future is never guaranteed. When did working 25-30 then coming home to cook and clean become “not enough”. If anyone has issues with that it’s their priorities that aren’t in place. I work pt since we… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/03/22 04:32 PM |
| 27 | Are There Any MEN Left? NO BOYS!“Unmistakable and unwilling to make compromises” So like every other modern marriage lol | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/03/22 06:56 PM |
| 21 | Are There Any MEN Left? NO BOYS!A lot of drs just marry other drs then they split the costs of a nanny, maid, food out, and other help. I often wonder how those marriages go since they both barely see each other but maybe that’s how it works out. At least they won’t have to pay alimony if there’s a divorce. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/03/22 06:44 PM |
| 68 | Moll must make money - missy's meditation mingling meaningless modesty. Marriage may molder. Men's mounted members make merry.6k a month and she only has a couple hundred after bills? I have a feeling she wants to live outside her means any way possible. Cutting back on food costs, budgeting better, and getting a cheaper car is always an option. Or just being happy that bills are paid and there’s $ leftover. But no adultery is the option she’s thinking of…and for what? To spend frivolously on nights out, vacation, displays of wealth? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/03/22 02:58 AM |
| 2 | This article reads like some Chad rejected the writer after telling him she has gonorrhea from her blianta leadhbógach!The worst part is that psychopathy and similar disorders are highly hereditary. Now combine that with the higher crime rate of children from single moms. These women WANT to raise serial killers & rapists. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/03/22 05:37 PM |
| 9 | This weekend meme shows what anything beyond casual with a single mom is like, and is a great example of HOW GIRLS WORK.Just ask a woman’s role in a marriage. Most actually traditional ones will answer that differently than a Christian feminist. Or ask what she thinks of a women job to be her husband’s helpmeet…you’ll be able to read her body language right away. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 10 | How to deal with a secretive husband?Apparently they met and got married in less than 6 months. She married and divorced her previous husband rather recently too. Arranged marriage culture in the Middle East. Which may or may not play a part in this whole thing. The grass is green where you water it. If he was like this just with just sketchy things there’s room for suspicion but this just seems like his quirks. If he’s reserved or distant in other areas it might just be part of his personality. Or he’s not comfortable enough yet t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/22 04:03 AM |
| 2 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).I have asd too. Our brains function a little more masculinely socially and emotionally in some ways. I process emotions by thinking to myself or daydreaming but it’s full length conversations. I’m still talking to myself in my head like I would if someone else was here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/22 12:22 AM |
| 8 | I am not 'redpill', I randomly came across this subreddit looking for fitness advice. I want to know your opinion on something that really grinds my gears with the redpill philosophy. (Specifically on women as homemakers).You can absolutely live on 1 salary. You just have to live within your means and budget appropriately. Maybe that means moving out of the city. Sometimes it’s cheaper to not have 2 incomes. Daycare, 2 cars, & gas for commutes can cost as much as what some women make. A family of 4 making 75k combined doesn’t qualify for public assistance or cheaper healthcare while a family of 4 making 50k from just the man does. When both partners work going out to eat is more common. A sahm can reduce costs by… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Marriage problemDoes she even want you in particular back or does she realize that she needs someone? And that life is easier with you around. She only appreciated you when you became successful and other women wanted you. And when she could no longer control you. The previous version of you wasn’t good enough for her. Would she still want you back this badly if you didn’t level up? You’re still young…do you want to spend the next 40 years with this woman? Or are you romanticizing things. Because you could star… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/22 06:35 AM |
| 8 | can you share with me your daily cleaning routine?Daily: tidy, make bed, dishes, kitchen, & trash Weekly: floors, laundry, bathroom, & reorganize where needed Monthly: deep clean if necessary I don’t do the weekly on a specific day it’s based on how much time and energy I have, which one I feel like doing, and what needs it the most. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/22 12:53 AM |
| 22 | Emotionally unstable mom with a major TCS wants something serious.That’s exactly what I was thinking. And these are her best photos or at least the ones she’s using to attract men. Kids, partying when younger, and taking care of herself poorly hit her hard and fast. I really doubt her ability to be a mom if she can’t even emotionally or physically take care of herself. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 13/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 13 | Dear fellow red pill women, I have a question! now there is an amazing man who I’m dating but I’m not sure how to tell him I want to be a traditional wife. My mom was a homemaker and possibly I’d love to be one as well. How did you fellow women told this to your partners?We discussed it before dating or at least before the 3rd date. I was 23 and looking for a husband/dating with intention. We made sure we had similar views, goals for the future, and basic compatibility. He was very forward that his preferred relationship was traditional. Since we don’t have kids yet I work pt (my choice-he doesn’t care). Have you guys gotten to the “what are you looking for” talk of the relationship? | /r/RedPillWives | 12/03/22 07:58 PM |
| 15 | Gee, I wonder why this fat, “demisexual” bod bréige is still single at 34 despite wanting a deep connection in relationships!It’s true most men don’t talk to feminine woman like that. But she’s overweight, older, crude, uses poor grammar, a little crazy, and is overall unappealing. Unfortunately for her, she’s going to need to make an effort instead of expecting men to court her. Being the bare minimum gets you the bare minimum treatment. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/03/22 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Long in the tooth lady leaves love of her life for long term loneliness.Happiness comes from within and is fleeting. The pursuit is more meaningful than obtaining it. Learning to be content is maturity. She could have everything she wanted in a man and still cause drama because the issue is her mind/emotions. Even euphoria isn’t enough as she’ll just crave a bigger high. It’s a druggie mindset towards life. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/03/22 04:01 PM |
| 6 | Long in the tooth lady leaves love of her life for long term loneliness.At her age changing it won’t fix anything. She’s realized it’s too late. Most people don’t get 3 chances to throw away like she did. Also she’s hasn’t really changed she’s just now self aware. Her standards are still ridiculously high since she wants the best traits from each man in a single man. She’s priced herself out of the marriage market. All or nothing is a dangerous mindset. She could’ve had a great life (better than 80% of people) but since she’s impossible to please she’s going to end … | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/03/22 03:57 PM |
| 7 | Advice NeededYes there’s red flags from all parties. Poor daughter. She needs therapy ASAP to turn out ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/22 06:20 AM |
| 8 | "Changes that women insisted on have made dating suck; women most effected." Oh, how my heart bleeds for them.It's when the power dynamic shifts out of a woman's favor into a more equal playing field. Men start having more resources and women's fertility/looks start their decline. It's not always a rapid wall hit (especially if one takes care of themselves) but geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. Waiting until 30 to start looking, finidng a guy, marrying him at 33-34, then having kids is on a very small time clock. There's a lot of pressure for a relationship to work out than at 20 which affects how women… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/03/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Enthusiasm before sexUsually a mix. Idk which are ok for pregnancy. Some work by increasing blood flow and promoting relaxation which can make it easier to get aroused. These should be taken in conjunction with exercise and a healthy diet. Being sedentary, not getting enough sleep, high stress levels, and eating poorly affect a woman's libido. Ginseng, maca, horny goat weed, ginger, Damiani, ginko baloba, Angelica, tribulus, blue lotus, kratom, kava, & l argine (I think matcha has some in it). These are good for oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/22 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Enthusiasm before sexThere's herbal supplements that can help with libido. But it just sounds to me that he needs to turn you on first. Foreplay can be very important here. There's also arousal creams you can put down there that bring blood flow. My fiance will sometimes put a clitoral suction type of vibrator on me. It can get me going from disinterested to enthusiastic fast. Is your husband giving you emotional intimacy first? Often women need to be warmed up all day with joking around, flirting, compliments, etc.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/22 06:06 PM |
| 3 | New job interview versus trip he's planning for usThat's amazing that it all worked out! He may have that as a goal but is he actively vetting you to be his wife and mother of his kids? Those 3 years from 26 to almost 30 are extremely important for you. Those 3 years are just 3 years for him. If he decides to not marry you what then? If he won't even give you the commitment/label of a gf after 6 months what makes you think in 3 years he'll give you the commitment/label of a wife? Sure likes you but that's not enough to inspire devotion. When I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/22 10:19 PM |
| 36 | In Part 4 of Carol's Bizarre Adventure, The Wall Is Unclimbable, these cadairní caisirníneach cope and seethe after hitting the Wall at FTL speeds. Make some popcorn, grab a drink, sit back, relax and enjoy the shitshow, boys, because there's some Olympic-level hamster wheeling going on here!If that's her competition she either needs to compensate somehow or lower her standards. That's how it's always worked for men and women. A 5'8 50 year old who makes 40k and is slightly overweight isn't getting attention from women in their 20s. Her competition will be less/lower value so she has a chance of securing one of these men if she puts effort. Since obviously neither are likely to happen complaining, getting a pet, and dying alone are a high probability. Also these younger women are us… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 03/03/22 06:54 PM |
| 8 | New job interview versus trip he's planning for usIf the employer is fine with moving the interview that would be the best option. If not that definitely puts you in a crossroads. But the job isn't guaranteed. You're 26 and have been dating 37 year old man for 6 months. 4 of which weren't exclusive. This is when you should see how his previous relationships went. If you're not dating with intention then you're wasting your time. Going on a trip with him when he hasn't established his goals and timeline is a bad idea. Men know by 6 months if the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on swingersIf married religiously it's committing adultery. You make a covenant with G-d not just your spouse. So even if both parties are open to it G-d isn't. It's a practice that is detrimental to society and relationships in the long term. Closed family units are the backbone of a healthy society. Now if someone is atheist or practices a religion that isn't against adultery eh idk that much as long as it's consensual and no one is pressured into opening the relationship. It should also remain private. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/22 05:22 PM |
| 20 | Oh no! Pageantry Princess can’t keep Chad interested. Must be anybody and everybody’s fault but her own. With so much to offer why can’t she just find a nice guy™️? Must be the patriarchy.She's UK hot not an American beauty. She's pretty when she's all done up but beauty fades. I'm guessing her personality is too dominant/alpha for the types of men she's into. Where I live (Miami) I've seen many women as attractive or higher but everyone has their own tastes. Standards are different in different places. A Cali 6 is a Midwest 8. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/03/22 10:36 PM |
| 24 | "Changes that women insisted on have made dating suck; women most effected." Oh, how my heart bleeds for them.Tbh men aren't usually reading these types of articles. Magazines and sites pander to their audience. Also women are complaining about dating issues more. Men are more used to having to work in their dating life vs everything just falling together with sparks and butterflies. In order to even get a date a man usually has to have worked on himself and gotten the confidence to ask a woman out. And women compare the top 40% of men's dating life to 80% of women's. They assume a 3/10 should be doing … | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/03/22 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Tips on dressing for conservative women who look better naked or in skin tight clothing?Find your kibbe type. It's makes a huge difference. The kibbe subreddit can help you find your type. You don't need to wear loose clothing to be conservative. A more form fitted outfit can still be ok if you don't show much skin and/or keep to a classy design/color. If you do show skin only show 1 area (legs, cleavage, or back). Also wearing something with waist emphasis like a waist belt or something nipped in might be flattering. You're probably an hourglass shape especially if your shoulder m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/22 02:51 PM |
| 1 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.Some do....marrying yourself would be laughed at 100 years ago. But now it's a thing. They also want all the attention on them. But it's also a social power/status thing too which can't be fulfilled by a self ceremony. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/03/22 02:39 PM |
| 2 | I wish I didn’t have to workFunny how her youth was career focused and now she wants to leave the workforce/be a sahm at 30 with another man's child....to a guy she's been with maybe 1 year (and married only a couple months). | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/22 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Being smarter and showing reverence at the same timeAh an autocorrect fail I didn't catch...is it just me or did it do a better job 5+ years ago? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/22 08:38 PM |
| 6 | Being smarter and showing reverence at the same timeHmm for someone calling me condescending and arrogant you seem to embody those traits. Nah he has no issue putting me or anyone else in their place. He brings so much to the table and I don't think intelligence or education is the most important thing in life or relationships. I respect him for that. I look up to him and have 0 desire to treat him like a child. Btw I'm not arrogant my tone is from my difficulties communicating my thoughts. Being on the spectrum makes things difficult. You've mad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 11:44 PM |
| 5 | Being smarter and showing reverence at the same timeYes that's why I just hold my tongue instead of giving my input/unsolicited advice. 2 people can't drive a car at the same time so I just submit and let him drive his way. Peace is more important than it being done my way. I'd rather have time/$/effort wasted over my fiance feeling disrespected. I can't do it myself after I've asked him and he does it a different way. That shows that I don't trust him to get it done. Submission when you want to is easy. Submitting when you don't is true submissi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Being smarter and showing reverence at the same timeThere might be multiple organizations but Mensa is what my family used (my brother is also a genius). I was tested using the WAIS-IV but there's also other iq tests. You can't look people up in any of the organizations as far as I'm aware. But being a genius isn't that rare or as special as it's made out to be. There's more mental illness and other dysfunction in that bracket. Someone with an iq in the top 20% who also has social skills, ambition, and common sense usually does better in life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 11:16 PM |
| 19 | What do you all think of open relationships?Absolutely not as it's adultery. If someone was married religiously they made a covenant with G-d not just each other. And sleeping outside that marriage (even if both husband and wife are ok with it) is so forbidden it was a capital punishment. In the Bible/Torah theres a whole lengthy piece on this. It's against our religion/beliefs and he's super against it (more than me). Sexual immortality is a slippery slope to other sins while marriages and families make society strong. A lot of people ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Fake flowers vs real flowersA well designed quality fake arrangement can look real and ried flowers can look lovely too. But I'm a huge fan of plants over cut flowers. Some pre potted flower plants are meant to be table decoration and suited for indoors. You could also use hydroponics like an aerogarden to grow flowers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 05:14 PM |
| 11 | Being smarter and showing reverence at the same timeI'm a registered genius with asd who is book smart, good at intellectual conversations, and emotionally smart (except when I get overwhelmed). It's made dating hard as I'm only compatible with extremely intelligent men. My fiance has adhd and is very mechanically inclined with social/street smarts. Our strengths are in different areas. So whenever he needs help in paperwork he delegates it to me and he takes care of anything I struggle with. It gets frustrating sometimes being smarter but I've l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/22 05:04 PM |
| 10 | Monogamy100%. Being attractive with dark triad traits makes a man desirable but not high value. Proper vetting is so important to make sure you don't marry a wolf in sheeps clothing. Hvm is about social circle/network, ability to provide, looks, personal traits (like leadership) and character. People look up to and respect hvm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 08:25 PM |
| 13 | MonogamyYeah he's not being truthful and not respecting boundaries. You can't have a healthy lasting marriage like this. He's been very manipulative and purposely misleading. The vasectomy part is the biggest red flag to me. He either wants monogamy or doesn't there's no maybe he'll change his mind in the future. He's not a HVM he just follows rp strategy to get what he wants. This kind of man isn't a good fit for someone who wants marriage. Unfortunately this is what happens when someone waits until th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 35 | MonogamyFrom a religious perspective casual sex still affects men. Adultery was a capital punishment for a reason. Polygamy was only allowed as a necessary evil in Judeo-christisan religious to protect women and kids as starving to death was pretty common (and there's more women than men). And back then marriage wasn't for love it was more of a financial and practical agreement. Men don't carry the same risks that women do (pregnancy, difficulty decompartmentalizing, and higher levels of bonding through… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/22 08:40 AM |
| 4 | Work from home?My friend who is a sahm does this too. She either has the kids come to her house or she goes to theirs and takes her baby with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/22 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Wait, you've played around how much??Seeing as the definition of slut is "someone with many casual partners" I'm going to say she has no idea what she's talking about lol. I'm religious so views on sex are from that. As long as a man doesn't ejaculate outside of the V he's allowed to use his wife as he pleases. Kinky frequent sex is still Biblically legitimate with marriage. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 23/02/22 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Should I take the lower paid job?If family and finding a husband is a priority then yes plan your future accordingly. Your time is very valuable and should be spent wisely. What beauty treatments do you do at 23 that are so expensive? If it's fillers, super long acyrlics, and unnatural lash extensions I suggest cutting back and adopting a more classic or natural beauty look. While the type of men you want will sleep with fake women they often don't view them as marriage material. Especially if they want to be a sahm and expect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/22 03:40 AM |
| 28 | Wait, you've played around how much??You can make love and also have fun meanless sex with your husband if you truly desire him....guys want a good girl who does nasty stuff with just him. Being prude after a promiscuous past is the exact opposite of what men want. And yet it's advertised as a selling point. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/02/22 04:21 AM |
| 35 | Wait, you've played around how much??Whatever you give the men before you should be given to your husband just as freely. I don't get how that's a hard concept. If a man wined and dined his ex his current gf expects the same treatment (or more). If a man posted on his profile he won't take you on any fancy dates until after sex bc he's been used for dinner dates by women who weren't even attracted to him he'd get hate messages. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/02/22 03:06 AM |
| 55 | Random rendezvous renders real relationship rough, royally relaxing rectitude . Romeo's romance reverts rapport regarding roommate; reassurance required.Those sparks and butterflies are the bodies way of saying red flags...it's adrenaline, danger, and anxiety. It's why romcoms where so much unnecessary drama are viewed as romantic. She has real love right now but it's not enough. She wants the perks/sparks of uncertainty and the comfort of familiarity...fried ice. If she leaves him for this fling bc tingles it'll end up being her biggest regret. He treats her too good and she resents him for that. She's the type to cheat after marriage/kids when… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 43 | Over 30 yr Old Thot Crying About Getting Pumped and Dumped (Again). Poor Girl Is Now Forced to Lie About Wanting Kids To Keep Her "Miss Independent" Image GoingWhy isn't she dating single/divorced dads then?!? I'm sure if she was realistic about her rmv, pleasant, and has domestic skills (or is helping out with bills) she wouldn't be struggling so much. So she's probably dating out of her league. LA is one of the most competitive markets for women and she's no longer in the top bracket. Lol so independent that she needs to beg for emotional validation on tiktok. That's probably why she can't find a good man. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 16/02/22 02:11 AM |
| 8 | Weird! Feimineacha mallintinneacha chanting “sex work is real work” ad nauseam didn’t make it fun, now did it?Yes the exploitation goes both ways. Even free porn addiction sexualizes men and women at a very ypung age. It's corrupt. A lot of men get pressured in the industry have to do gay scenes even if not gay. When you deal with the devil expect to get burned. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/02/22 05:27 PM |
| 12 | Weird! Feimineacha mallintinneacha chanting “sex work is real work” ad nauseam didn’t make it fun, now did it?Eh the taking topless photos of the bikini model unconsentually and then selling it is pretty bad. Who knew working in softcore porn would be so dangerous? Who knew making $ objectifying your body would let to being objectified? But the sex (and even normal modeling) industry is known to attracts exploiters and vulnerable people. It's a super sketchy industry that preys on men and women. If you aren't ok with the possibility of that don't sign up. This is why strong fathers are needed. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/02/22 03:53 PM |
| 15 | Who is Man Enough to spoil this treasure in the manner that she deserves? Not I, sadly. Not I.Maybe ones looking to marry and have kids with an older man. A fit 10/10 30 year old may still have some luck if she plays the right cards and isn't too delusional. This lady for sure has some mental illness since she believes the bachelorette is real and that shes in that level. No rich fit attractive man would chase her even if she was a hot 25 year old with kids. Successful men don't have time or energy for games. The men that are willing to put up with her bs aren't men she wants. At 45 idk … | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/02/22 03:14 PM |
| 15 | - Needing Advice -Toxic single women friends who regularly go out drinking and having casual sex may try to sabotage your relationship. You got lucky that they showed their character sooner rather than later. Real friends don't cut someone they've known for years over a small thing. Instead they communicate about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 31 | Gentlemen, line up for this absolute QueenShe's letting you know she'll be fighting every decision you make and unnecessarily challenging you. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/02/22 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How do I find married female friends like y’all in the wild?I don't have kids yet so I don't have mommy friends. Instead I met my friends through religious young adult events. And from there I met more through friends of friends at things like houseparties, girls nights, outings, etc. My fiance has a cousin around my age and his bfs wife is also my friend. At my aerial hammock class there's married women too but I'm a tad bit shy. Small sized fitness classes especially during normal working hours tend to be full of married women. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/02/22 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Lot of questions to askUgh...a lot of young women have those traits. Maybe not in the 18-21 range but by 25 they should. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/22 04:06 PM |
| 3 | The Wall really matters if you're a woman like this.Yeah that's a little creepy and not rp. It's some purity, easily manipulated, not knowing any better type thing. I've seen some girls peak at 17 though. They tend to look a little older than their peers already and then gaining weight/eating horribly, not sleeping enough, and partying hard does it's toll. At 15 I looked 12 so wasn't my peak at all either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/22 12:57 AM |
| 3 | The Wall really matters if you're a woman like this.Your personal experience/surviors bias isn't a good metric for others. It's very biased and influenced by a lot of factors. 35 is geriatric pregnancy and poses at lot of unnecessary risks. And fertility drops steeply. Waiting until the very last minute isn't a good idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/22 12:44 AM |
| 0 | The Wall really matters if you're a woman like this.Your personal experience/surviors bias isn't a good metric for others. It's very biased and influenced by a lot of factors. 35 is geriatric pregnancy and poses at lot of unnecessary risks. And fertility drops steeply. Waiting until the very last minute isn't a good idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/22 12:42 AM |
| 17 | Very confused in my relationship and where to go from here.Over 35 with a younger bf for 2 years with no talks about future plans = he has no intention of marrying you. This usually ends when he's ready to get married he'll find a younger girl and marry her in a year. This may not be the case for your relationship but he's actively avoiding the relationship progressing. He may just be the type to want a forever gf. But maybe marriage isn't a big deal to you . If a man wants you (marriage) you'll know if not you'll be confused. It doesn't really seem lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/22 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with how to proceed in my relationship.I think this is a you problem vs him being all wrong for you. You've already had 1 failed marriage. Either you aren't picking compatible men, you aren't treating them right, or your anxious attachment style/other issues are sabotaging things. Nothing is is going to be good enough if you focus on the bad. Don't throw away 80% of compatibility just because it's not 100%. You know you're worrying and over analyzing. Your hamster is running wild with hypergamous thoughts. You already found some poss… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 32 | Sometimes good men give bad gifts.My fiance sucks at gift giving. But it's neither of our love languages. At first I thought he wasn't thoughtful since it seemed like he grabbed random things as gifts. But then I realized how cute it is when he grabs things that remind him of me. He randomly suprises me with little catci or other plants when he goes to home depot. Sometimes he'll get me some things I really like when he asks his sister for advice lol. Thinking that gifts define a relationship is really shallow and assuming the w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 07:51 PM |
| 8 | Figuring out being a stay at home wife?Improving the quality of life for your family isn't something that should be looked down upon. Isn't the main reason people work is to be able to live a better lifestyle. You'll get some backlash but that's their problem not yours. Don't take advice from someone whose ls lifestyle isn't what you want or from someone who isn't happy. You have so much more to offer to the world then material gains. But even from a financial aspect sahms (and even just wives) can be an economical choice. Cooking de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/22 02:30 PM |
| 9 | Who you belong to - discussionI am his and he is mine. And everything we own and our (future) children are ours. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/22 08:26 PM |
| 22 | Traditional boyfriend wanting me to start paying on dates....Maybe if he was financially stable but he's 20 and she's 23. Asking 6 months in to help contribute more isn't breaking up. This is the downside of dating someone younger and not established yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/22 03:07 PM |
| 1 | How many men have you dated that actually wanted to pay and not split?No but I'll check him out. I'm a decently attractive woman so no doubt they wouldn't turn down sex lol. I could make a tinder and get 100 guys for a one night stand same day. Sex is easy. But I'm engaged and don't have male friends anymore. I'm rather hypergamous so it's best if I don't hang out with any other man than my fiance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/22 02:28 PM |
| 22 | Don't worry, her husband is almost deadImagine if the genders were reversed... If a guy was looking for hookups or a replacement wife bc his dying wife couldn't put out enough for him to be happy. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/01/22 11:41 PM |
| 8 | A good man will come eventually....It's very rare for someone to be in poverty if they're married, no bastards, & graduated high school. And their children usually end up better than children raised by single mothers. The bar is low. Lol you think her parents can make good decisions and raise a kid any better...I mean look at her. It's the marshmello test- immediate easy $, love from a child, feeling important bc a mother, and attention from men with a higher smv vs putting the effort to find and keep a good man to build a life w… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/01/22 11:39 PM |
| 4 | The “You’re not entitled to sex” attitudeI definitely agree there should be more conversations about it. I think I'm just being a tad pessimistic. Oh I'm sorry to hear that. Tradcon relationships are pretty close to healthy d/s dynamic so makes sense there's some overlapping advice (and why Im interested in both). Oh yeah lack of respect (which all those other things are too) is how to ruin a decent marriage. I don't even bother reading nonrp relationships stuff since I know I'll say something that offends someone. Who knew that respec… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 45 | A good man will come eventually....Too bad there isn't a cheap pill that could prevent pregnancy from causal sex /s If G-d didn't want her to get pregnant she wouldn't have conceived. He gave her a blessing. It's not like the Bible condemns sleeping around. But for real why was there such a fight for accessible & free birth control for no one to use it? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 2 | The “You’re not entitled to sex” attitudeAh I've never had a bad experience with bsdm being discussed (except irl) so far. Since you've had the opposite experience it makes sense not mentioning it. True, it can be in vanilla relationships (and should be) but communication is often a weak spot for people in general. Assumed consent is really close to being pushy (or worse) if done wrong and requires a high level of communication. I'm glad you guys are on that level. Lol based on all the relationship posts I see a lot of people are strug… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/01/22 06:56 PM |
| 13 | The “You’re not entitled to sex” attitudeOk but you guys are in a 24/7 bdsm relationship. Which is considered pretty intense. You should probably state that when giving advice. Not judging you (lol I'm in the community too). This type of assumed consent requires a higher level of communication, boundaries, trust, respect, and self control than most marriages have. And an established safe word for body autonomy. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/01/22 06:11 PM |
| 2 | I earn a bit of money for engagement and plan to spend it on myselfI don't know why you're getting down voted either me and my fiance have a similar set up. But they aren't married and possibly not even engaged (per ops post history). At least everyone here says this is a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/22 02:27 PM |
| 10 | These Japanese bábóga ghnéas are really getting out of hand! Now, they’re even starting to complain about not getting wifed up by their perfect Fergus Mac Róich!No not really. It makes you look easy which men like (not for anything serious though). It probably feels good during oral. Imo she looks like bad quality sex doll. Being a Playboy cover isn't impressive anymore as the brand has fallen. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/01/22 03:08 AM |
| 6 | I earn a bit of money for engagement and plan to spend it on myselfYes it screams insecurity on his part. He needs to feel better than her in any way possible. Best case scenario she needs to help build him up/make him feel good enough. Maybe her having such an important role plus other relationship behaviors emasculate him. But yeah something feels off here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/22 04:08 PM |
| 13 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.Fair enough. And I could be an outlier/have surviors bias. Yes lol I'm aware most modern women are delusional. I used to think that way too. Fairytales used to be warnings not these romantic Disney stories. A lot of women want the fairytale wedding not the daily life of a wife. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/22 07:59 PM |
| 7 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.It really should be a more common practice as modern dating isn't efficient/is unnecessarily messy. Arranged marriages often have healthier/realistic expectations. And you know you're compatible vs blinded by love. Love develops over time. Most people "in love" when datong are just infatuated. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/22 05:31 PM |
| 3 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.Immaturity is enabled and rewarded. Chads looking to p&d don't care about intelligence. If someone has never needed to display maturity and intelligence to get what they want why start now? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 16 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.Of course there's always exceptions but most wife material is still taken before 23. I've never had issues with men cold approaching me (my fiance did that). The key is you have to look approachable and warm. And put yourself in spots where eligible men are. Not knowing how to find men stops being an excuse after 21. It takes the smallest amount of thought and common sense to figure it out. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/22 05:24 PM |
| 43 | "Looking for someone to make my life way easier". And "where the men who has intentions on taking care of us beautiful women like myself". You can't make this stuff up.Those women are married or not on online dating. Online dating can work but mostly it validates women through attention and the illusion of abundance. Most traditional women who are relatively attractive don't have problems finding men to date irl. In general women want financial security and comfort. But spending $ is another way to fill the void instead of fulfilling yourself from within. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/01/22 01:49 PM |
| 8 | is lip filler aging?An overfilled or bad job is aging. But someone going from very small lips to a size & shape that suits their face probably not. Sometimes filler migrates and doesn't fully desolve which could also be aging. Lip flips using botox are more natural imo. The best plastic surgery is when you can't tell they've had any work done. I live in South Florida so I regularly see unflattering fillers and implants. Also a lot of women develop those folds to some degree from mid 20s on. After 25 collagen produc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 10:54 PM |
| 7 | How many men have you dated that actually wanted to pay and not split?Yes, that's a need for men regardless if he's paying 50/50 or 100%. Turning down a man too often is damaging to his ego. Dead bedrooms is a recipe for cheating or divorce. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | How many men have you dated that actually wanted to pay and not split?Not always. I've had men who were friends pay who also pay for their male friends. They're generous. They also get treated out a lot too. It's not a tally card for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 7 | How many men have you dated that actually wanted to pay and not split?Fair enough, you want to be respected and appreciated. Most provider men don't want to be used. If a man is paying all the bills he shouldn't be cooking & cleaning too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How many men have you dated that actually wanted to pay and not split?Most of the men I've dated paid for things. Even on tinder dates. I couldn't imagine a man asking me to split rent. And in different cities so its not just the area I'm in. I occasionally offer but I was only taken up on it <10% of the time. I don't expect fancy dates though. A walk in the park and some ice cream is just as nice as a restaurant. Now I'm engaged to a man who was very upfront about wanting a sahm and him being the provider. Right now while we don't have kids I work pt and cover th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/22 06:55 PM |
| 2 | 18 Male looking for adviceThe men's rp subreddits would be a better place to ask this. There's some youtube videos on this topic too. Work on yourself and be the best you can be. Women are attracted to men that have things going on for them. Get for or atleast have a somewhat healthy lifestyle, develop discipline, find hobbies you're interested in, have a plan for the future, have male friends/a social group, respect/trust yourself, etc are good places to start. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Someone the average person wouldn't say is extremely hot/beautiful or is objectively attractive but you find them that way. A person with very unique features is a good example of this. I saw a tiktok which explained it better using hot ugly (unconventionally attractive like Pete davidson) vs ugly hot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/22 03:23 PM |
| 3 | WhatsApp Group: LD Marriage AccountabilityI think a rp whatsapp group isn't a bad idea | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/22 08:26 PM |
| 4 | Hi, if you’re a woman who is not attracted to men don’t immediately get turned off by this sub!I agree, this place is great for self improvement and accountability regardless of sexuality. Being in a healthy feminine energy can benefit all women. RP tends to have a negative connotation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/22 08:19 PM |
| 19 | [deleted by user]I personally would not be ok dating out of my league. I'm attractive so I'm happy with the quality of men I attract (I'm also realistic with myself). So if you aren't attracted to the men in your league thats a sign you need to work on yourself/level up. I like people thinking we're a good fit and both lucky to have each other. I view smv & rmv combined- so a high rmv can be 1 point below me and I'd still consider him in my league. I wouldn't be interested in someone with high smv but low rmv as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | My wife lets me fuck her even if she isn’t in the mood.Duty sex. As long as it's consensual I don't see a problem. I took my fiance off the sexual market so I try to meet his needs even if I'm not feeling it. I don't do it if there's actually a valid reason but if I'm just tired or stuck in my head too much then yes I'd rather have temporary discomfort. Turning a man down too much effects him and the relationship. Men want to be desired and respected. If he was demanding it every day without providing any emotional intimacy then that might be a prob… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/01/22 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Black Lipstick?It's not very feminine. Probably don't wear it unless you're in the alt scene and date men who like alt women. Men have strong feelings towards it (some love it). I'm engaged and wear it since my fiance likes that I dress from girly to alt to classic to trendy. Maybe use it for an ombre look? I second the dark vampy colors instead. Or even a dark brown depending on your skin tone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 6 | All about houseworkI work p/t 20-25h a week with no kids but we have 2 cats & 2 dogs. I take about 20h week for housework. So basically I work a full time job if you count my domestic work. I hate mess but my fiance is messy so I do extra to clean to my standards. When we have kids I won't be working except maybe some babysitting. I can't imagine how stressful it is to do all of the housework, take care of children, and have a full time job. My friends who work full time and do the housework are extremely stressed… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/21 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Do you reject your man if he asks for a blowjob?My man doesn't ask. He appreciates when I do though. He knows I'll always please him sexually so he doesn't feel deprived but I get most of the say in how it's done. You still offered to take care of him and his needs. I don't view that as a rejection. Knowing how to negotiate is important in marriages. My fiance is perfectly fine if would rather please him in a different way than what he's craving at that exact moment. There's often a concerning lack of autonomy pushed as ideal here. It's not w… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/12/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend like ASMR, is this a problem?If he's not imaging being with someone else or sexualizing it I really dont see what the problem is. If he's fetishizing asian women on the other hand that's something to talk about. But ultimately you are responsible for how you feel. If it feels like cheating to you but is innocent on his end then what should he do? Give up something he enjoys and helps him in order to make you comfortable/secure? His word and validation should be enough to give you security. Is there other relationship proble… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/21 08:07 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend like ASMR, is this a problem?There are 100,000+ asmr videos (or even just audio clips) where the woman doesn't sexualize herself for views. A lot of videos are done by men or where you can only see the hands of a woman. Try watching some of the just tapping ones, you may like them too. If he's listening mostly to the ones with beautiful women whispering seductively with cleavage shown that's because he want to. Asmr itself isn't cheating nor a red flag. It reduces anxiety, improves focus, and provides a calming feeling. I u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/21 07:04 PM |
| 9 | Items every wife should have?Always!!! A good pot/pan and sharp knives make a huge difference. Invest in the appliances and items you use the most in the kitchen. If you don't bake much you may not need a kitchenaid. An instant pot, quality blender, or juicer may be more beneficial. A nice perfume (even a rollerball), comfortable heels you can walk in, and quality skincare products are my other must haves. It's better to take care of your beauty as you age instead of waiting until you're older. For Chanukah I invested in cu… | /r/RedPillWives | 30/11/21 09:41 PM |
| 12 | Christian woman's passion was her career for the past "several years". She's 38, and wants kids.She's attractive (for her age) and makes good $ so if she has realistic expectations (she doesn't- her preferred age range shows that) she wont die alone. If she's able to lower her standards and date men who make about half of what she does (aka an average Joe with a decent job) with similar smv/rmv she might have a chance. The problem is she's looking for a man who's Christian, attractive, and wants kids...but is over 35 and won't date older men. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 30/11/21 09:18 PM |
| 5 | For those of you who say women never ever marry men they're not sexually attracted to... I TOLD YOU SO.That was quite unfortunate but hopefully you'll find a better wife or enjoy exploring your options without having to give commitment. It was probably her friend's that encouraged her to "explore" while she's still young. Even if you marry a woman from abroad if she has feminist or blue pilled friends she's going to want the privileges of men while having the responsibility of a woman. Authority without any responsibility is tyranny. Women have soft power/feminine energy. Now they're given hard p… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/11/21 11:27 PM |
| 2 | She's failed investing in business and crypto. Now she needs you to be the providerI'm up 35% in my portfolio:) Just because a woman's personal life and personality is shit it doesn't mean she sucks at everything. Besides investing has been trendy the past 10 years so a lot more women have been getting into it. Most think it gives them access to high quality men. And that they're better than other women. Also using stocktwist she can just take the advice of men and make money without having to analyze the trends herself. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/11/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | She's failed investing in business and crypto. Now she needs you to be the providerShe may be successful at it. Women with money still want access to a man's money too. Rich or poor, women still prefer men with money. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/11/21 05:13 PM |
| 5 | Damn! This rabhdlamán gealtach is the one! I will indeed commit all my energy and resources to her!Yeah lol I'm kinda like that too. My bet is it's self diagnosed but maybe not as she lacks emotional and social skills. I'm guessing the bipolar is what's making her more bitchy but aspergers can sometimes make women aggressive too. I'm honestly suprised women don't know what men want and are attracted to. Or they do and purposely try to be the opposite and demand men change their attraction. Men wanting an attractive cooperative low drama woman who is domestically skilled isn't anything new. I … | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/11/21 03:20 AM |
| 4 | Damn! This rabhdlamán gealtach is the one! I will indeed commit all my energy and resources to her!Meds can stabilize it so it's not as intense of a rollarcoaster. Sure there's no cure but she can find ways to cope that don't involve making her husband's life miserable. I couldn't date someone with bipolar though. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/11/21 03:09 AM |
| 9 | Is it cool to talk about women with your husband?Yeah no...doing this will cause a lot of unnecessary insecurity. I'm really suprised your married friends said that. I wonder how their marriages are. You don't need to be a "cool" wife. He chose to want to marry you just how you are now. By doing that you're sexualizing other women. And encouraging him to view women that way. It's gonna be a pass from me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/21 12:35 AM |
| 17 | Damn! This rabhdlamán gealtach is the one! I will indeed commit all my energy and resources to her!I'm a high functioning autistic woman and this is adding more stigma to autism/making us look bad. She should be getting therapy and not dating anyone. Unmanaged/poorly managed mental health is not a positive thing. She's attracting predatory men this way. And yet she wonders why guys treat her poorly. For all means tell a guy in date 3 so he knows what he's signing up for but broadcasting it is a MAJOR red flag. She will probably blame her toxic behavior and cheating on mental health problems i… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 22/11/21 12:06 AM |
| 24 | Dating is tiresome, let's get straight to a "mutually understood arrangement." One guess on how much money she's looking forThat all depends on how attractive you are. Anything below 8/10? has to pay. Whether that's an expensive night out or straight cash. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/11/21 08:20 PM |
| 28 | In case you wanted to know what happens to those feminist types from college.Maybe not. Short guys deserve loving relationships too. Hopefully he found someone less shallow. He dodged a bullet here. Sometimes the trash takes itself out. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/11/21 10:28 PM |
| 20 | In case you wanted to know what happens to those feminist types from college.Lol she could always get a boob job while he can't magically grow. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/11/21 10:25 PM |
| 5 | Wanting to get back into cooking after a 2 1/2 year hiatus. All advice appreciated.Food subscription boxes can be a fun way to introduce new recipes. You can sign up with a coupon then leave after so it's not too expensive. You can also check out their recipes and buy everything yourself. I get my inspiration from tiktoks, online recipes, and cookbooks. I usually google recipes using " " or the exact dish I want to learn. These are my favorite recipe sites. Although there's a couple more I like I just can't find them rn. I eat mostly vegetarian though. Www.cookieswithkate.com … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/21 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Any ladies found marriage past 30?You can but you need to be realistic and broaden your standards. Know your smv and rmv. If you're stuck on a man being tall, super fit, rich, etc then you may not find a husband. Those traits don't make a good husband they're nice luxuries on top. Work on your baggage so you don't bring it into your next relationship. Learn to vette better. Did you try counseling or therapy with your ex or did you just toss him out after 10 years. Yeah that's the dating pool for women in their 30s. The men most … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/21 02:00 AM |
| 1 | How do you stay fit?Home workouts are great! YouTube has a lot of great videos. Classes are good if you need help with your form or like external motivation. Imo you should add a conditioning workout instead of purely yoga. Even 20 mins a week of at home body strength training will help your bones. For women as we age bone strength is very important. I prefer to work out at home unless I'm doing a specialized class like aerial lyra. There's something so relieving about not needing to drive to workout and not having… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/21 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, would you enter a serious relationship with a man you didn't feel genuine desire for?I dated men I wasn't into when I was 16-21. I didn't think those relationships would ever lead to engagement though. I had low self esteem and was wanting to give the guy a chance. I thought feelings would develop. They never did. But I learned from it and became better at vetting men. It's pretty common especially in unmarried women in their 30s+. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Am I just stupid?My mom's a covert narcissist so I'm a little biased here. Sometimes parents are too toxic where a relationship isn't possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 04:40 PM |
| 2 | He won’t date me because he’s saving himself for marriage?Oof I was like that when I was younger :(. I was naive about "the one" when in reality "the one" isn't some magical thing. It's the person you choose to growth with and support. That sounds frustrating since you didn't even do the actions that are preventing him from wanting to marry you. Yeah at this point it's up to G-d. Work on yourself while he works on himself. And hopefully he'll realize you're a good fit. But if not don't take it personal you seem quite lovely. If this doesn't work out th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Help with finding the right kind of men?Imo hair, skin, and nails are what makes someone look put together. Someone dressed up with makeup but has unkempt hair, chipped nails, and neglected skin looks worse than a fresh face with clean/trimmed nails and a basic hairdo. At least you'll attract classier men this way. I'm just letting you know how most men think. Sorry if it was crude. Since you're reserved I probably could've phrased things more politely. As a woman I find it a bit gross too. Being intimate too early has negative side e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 04:28 PM |
| 9 | He won’t date me because he’s saving himself for marriage?That's definitely an odd and immature thought process for a 23 year old. Wanting marriage and being ready for it are very separate things. Does he have any close male role models he can talk about what to look for in a spouse with? Maybe a pastor/priest/etc can give hime some guidance. Edit: the phrase "if a man wants you you'll know if not you'll be confused" tends to be true more often than not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Early Identifiable Traits of RP Aware Women?Rp women vary a lot. Some are more tradcon, some are very modern. I'm more traditional than modern so my advice is going to be for that type of woman. Self respect (not trying to get validation using her body), respect for you/others, kindness, and femininity-looks and behavior are easy ways to spot rp women. Tradcon women are more often religious so church can be a great way to find them if you're still young. Avoid church women 35+ who refound G-d after partying, career, and casual sex. Tradco… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 03:07 AM |
| 12 | He won’t date me because he’s saving himself for marriage?He might not see you as his future wife. Or he's just not ready. Men tend to look for a marriage partner only when they're ready for marriage. Right person wrong time type of thing. I've heard many men say how a woman they dated in their early 20s was wife material/would've worked out but they just weren't emotionally ready. He seems a bit insecure and lost (common at that age). You can try to draw out his natural instincts to lead and see if that helps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 02:44 AM |
| 6 | Friend told me the "days of having long hair are over"Can't someone just put it in a bun? Those can look very professional. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/21 02:36 AM |
| 6 | Am I just stupid?Mmm no this isn't ok. Mothers shouldn't drag their daughters down. If it was a legitimate concern she would've pull you aside to have a thoughtful discussion about it. She's either jealous/insecure or can't handle that you aren't an extension of herself. You have your own thoughts, dreams, and desires. She shouldn't be dragging you down to make herself feel better. It's not stupid at all. You know what you want and have a plan to get a backup degree. If that's stupid then I can't imagine what mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/21 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Help with finding the right kind of men?100% sometimes the harsh truth is necessary. While you don't need to put out on the 3rd date if you're not doing more than a couple kisses don't be suprised men aren't interested in sticking around. So don't accept a date from someone you wouldn't want to go farther with. Vette for compatiblilty on the first date so by the 3rd you know if he's the type of man you'd like to marry. I find it a bit hypocritical that she's not wanting to do anything sexual (even just a handjob) with these men. If sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | What do y'all think about a guy who wouldn't let his wife stay home until she has children, and would make her go to work once they're in school?Needing to always provide isn't typically asked of women. When has that ever been a thing until recently. He's not paying you to do nothing. You are still contributing your labor in the form of emotional labor and household management. That is a red flag right there if you are looking for a traditional marriage. If you want to be a full time house wife make sure don't act like a modern woman but want all the benefits of a traditional one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | What do y'all think about a guy who wouldn't let his wife stay home until she has children, and would make her go to work once they're in school?That wouldn't be compatible with me. The first week I met my fiance we were already discussing topics like this. He takes pride in being able to support his family. Most masculine men have this mindset. Forcing a woman to be even a partial provider is forcing her out of her feminine energy. I do work pt since I don't have kids and might do things like babysitting/pt gig work for extra income when I do. But I do it to help out and contribute but because I'm not allowed to stay home. Now days this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/21 04:29 PM |
| 0 | How do I stay slim in this household? Has anyone had problems with compulsive eating?I completely agree it's just now days the word diet usually refers to a fad/restrictive diet. There's just so much bad info out there. Downside of having basically unlimited health advice online is there's a lot of really bad advice out there. That's why I call it a sustainable lifestyle change vs "diet" bc mainstream views of a diet is wack. Although idk why people trust someone on tiktok or influences for health advice over their dr. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 06:44 PM |
| -1 | How do I stay slim in this household? Has anyone had problems with compulsive eating?While diets are great to kickstart weight loss I don't think dieting is a healthy mindset. I believe in sustainable lifestyle changes. A lot of people yoyo during diets because they're not designed to last 10+ years. Lite keto is 10x better than the "Standard American Diet" but a lot of people can't stick to very restrictive diet. I mean we have an obesity crisis bc people regularly eat "food" that is devoid of any benefits so I usually just recommend people eating regualar food instead of anyth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 06:22 PM |
| 7 | How do I peel myself off the wall?Yeah chemical peels are risky on people with sensitive skin or skin conditions like rosacea. I can't believe the esthetician didn't ask about skin history to see if there's any contradictions. Fixing thst level of damage is harder than preventative care so I definitely second going to a dermatologist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 04:27 PM |
| 5 | How do I stay slim in this household? Has anyone had problems with compulsive eating?Ok but that isn't sustainable long term and will likely lead to burnout in most people. Carbs aren't the enemy. Although not all carbs are the same. But yeah ideally minimize empty processed carbs in favor of healthier ones. Carbs with higher fiber content will keep you fuller. Even potatoes aren't bad for you as long as you don't drench them in oil. 80/20 rule: 80% whole foods 20% whatever you want. As long as your junk food fits in the 20% it shouldn't be an issue. On a 1200 cal diet that woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/21 04:17 PM |
| 8 | Young Kween asks the big question.And if you do these and are halfway decent you'll most likely be set up. You never know who has an eligible cousin/brother/nephew/etc. In traditional societies the community usually tries to find compatible matches. But that's only if you're deemed relationship worthy. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/10/21 08:58 PM |
| 11 | "Where to start" indeed.. first time matching with one in the wild..I think the shower comment was her wanting you to talk about sex, ask for nudes, or get your hopes up. Baking isn't a bad hobby as long as she isn't eating everything she bakes lol. But I suppose some women put that to try to lure men in with their "domestic skills". Women don't like being told that men want them for domestic skill and sex/her body yet when asked about her hobbies that's all she wrote. So deep down she knows that's important to men or maybe that's all she offers? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/10/21 07:04 PM |
| 1 | womp womp: Boyfriend of 34F former drug addict found out that she was also a prostitute. Bonus comments from some trampsThe key is if they respect you. Women don't respect men now days. Especially not in relationships. Even I have to remind myself to stfu in conflicts when I feel like doing that. It's hard but with a little bit of self awareness I realize that type of behavior ends up hurting me in the end. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/10/21 04:28 PM |
| 4 | Article on Psychology Today: Narcissistic Women May Use Pregnancy as PowerWow if her dad says things like that RUN! Yeah at this point he's made his bed and now has to lie in it. Too bad a kid is going to suffer from the consequences of this decision. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 64 | womp womp: Boyfriend of 34F former drug addict found out that she was also a prostitute. Bonus comments from some tramps~But that was different then. I was intoxicated and didn't even like it (even though I kept coming back for more and still fantasize about the past). You wanting me to let you try that is literally rape since you want me to feel used/uncomfortable /s | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/10/21 09:43 PM |
| 23 | womp womp: Boyfriend of 34F former drug addict found out that she was also a prostitute. Bonus comments from some trampsWomen will be understanding of your past if she respects you. They have no right to hold it against you. If you banging strippers when in a dark place is enough for her to not be with you, you dodged a bullet by her leaving. If you marry a woman like that when you show weakness or go through tough times she will make it 10x worse. She should just deal with it and accept that it made you who you are today. Rough seas make good sailors. Owning your stuff and getting back up is admirable. And besid… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/10/21 09:35 PM |
| 8 | I don’t know if I’m crazy or if I have a reason to be with my exYou keep asking the same questions here. Are you expecting different answers or be emotionally validated? You sound really immature for your age. I get that you're insecure and jealous but pick your battles. This isn't healthy. Yes you're being crazy. This is what happens when you take relationship breaks. Sure she might be back up (he's keeping her in touch for a reason/warming her up) and you don't like that he has options. Be his best option and you won't have to worry. If he feels he needs t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/21 09:08 PM |
| 4 | Question/Help! Married to RPMI usually don't unless something seems really off like this in hopes to get more context | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/21 11:21 PM |
| 6 | Question/Help! Married to RPMIt's in her previous post before marriage | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/21 11:18 PM |
| 13 | Question/Help! Married to RPMThis isn't a rp marriage this is a forced poly d/s situation pretending to be traditional. For poly or d/s dynamics to be healthy there needs to be good communication, trust, respect, and consent. A true alpha doesn't need to manipulate to get submission. Also they're able to pick up women easy for 3somes without needing the woman's help. He doesn't sound "alpha" he sounds macho. Besides 100% alpha isn't a good fot for a ltr. A blend of alpha/beta is key. Also most quality men don't listen to F&… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/21 10:26 PM |
| 9 | Post-wall divorcee can't go a month without getting pumped & dumped. Wonders where all the men without problems who want a used up hot mess are. Bonus: Chronic health disorder & gingivitis.This behavior is not too uncommon during early 20s while your brain is still developing but making such bad decisions in your 30s is dangerous. Sounds like mental illness imo. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/10/21 12:44 AM |
| 31 | Post-wall divorcee can't go a month without getting pumped & dumped. Wonders where all the men without problems who want a used up hot mess are. Bonus: Chronic health disorder & gingivitis.In Judaism you're not allowed to remarry your ex-wife if she slept with even 1 other man. And even then a man has to give his wife a get (divorce document) before she is allowed to divorce him. It's a great concept but boy do feminists hate it. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | "Not your average southern barbie. I'm pregnant" - Strong Independent Woman, 2021.Yeah, most of these edits aren't anatomically correct which bothers me more than the catfishing. I can respect a nice professional edit to tidy things up though. Do badly edited women's social media pictures annoy you too? Good news though is excessive photoshopping/face app is a rather fast way to find 🚩🚩🚩 | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/10/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | How do I stop being insane and still wanting tingles from him despite the bad treatment?Only if your hawt. If not it's abuse even if she liked it when other men did it to her or mentioned she likes it. It's a risky game out there for men. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/10/21 12:13 AM |
| 2 | What happens when you wait too long and ignore men in your 20s.Honestly that phrase is what convinced me to work on my personality, home/wife skills, and get fit instead of getting a degree (I have a cert but I'm debt free). It was life changing and really made me think about what men want. I met my fiance at 23 while waitressing. I keep trying to tell my friends who are mid/late 20s to take marriage seriously instead of their "careers" and traveling but it just falls on deaf ears. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/10/21 12:08 AM |
| 3 | What happens when you wait too long and ignore men in your 20s.Or she's really just that insufferable. A 7/10+ bitchy older woman isn't worth the energy since men value their time. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/10/21 11:51 PM |
| 7 | "Not your average southern barbie. I'm pregnant" - Strong Independent Woman, 2021.There's apps that can do this in less than 5 mins. Some even do all the work for you automatically. One red flag for edited pics is picture quality/blurriness. It's definitely tapered in on her right side (left in pic). Although now days just expect every social media pic to be heavily edited. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/10/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Do men tend to care more about you when you're thinner, and more attractive?Male attention isn't the same as high value male commitment. Men give a lot more attention to fake/cheap/easy looking women but they rarely marry them. Large women have a reputation for being easier. I'm guessing since being obese shows you have poor impulse control they assume that but idk I'm not a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/21 12:55 AM |
| 5 | Should I stay or leave vetting questions?You aren't his wife though. It's not good to treat bfs like husbands. Theres a huge reason cohabitation before marriage isn't good. Not judging you I lived with my fiance way too soon. And I acted the same trying to play house. It added a lot of unnecessary issues. It caused me resentment. It put a lot of pressure on the relationship before it was ready. Instead of just vetting him and enjoying the relationship I put way too much focus on settling down. He may be resisting your efforts to contro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/21 07:44 PM |
| 1 | [39-F] I'm really tired of trying to make Chad love me. He says love doesn't exist. I can't be the only one on the planet who believes that it does existIts probably the teeth. Losing teeth will do that to you at any age. It immediately ages you 20 years. She goes from a 2 to a 8 no joke. https://nypost.com/2021/06/16/tiktok-mom-slams-trolls-hating-on-her-dentures-and-makeovers/amp/ | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/10/21 01:46 AM |
| 6 | “My baby-daddy just left me, and I’m clueless as to what I should do.” Translation: “I desperately need airgead, NOW!!!”Yeah I chuckled at that too. Being able to walk a 5k low elevation hike is normal but I guess people are so lazy now that it's somehow an accomplishment. If she actually was obsessed with walking/fitness she wouldn't be thick. Either that's there to lure men in thinking she won't balloon up, hinting she wants a fit man, or she genuinely believes in fried ice. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/10/21 06:56 PM |
| 42 | I was unaware this season existed! Hope you guys are filling out your applications for such prestigious positions!It's amazing how fast eating poorly, partying hard, stress, not taking care of yourself, and having a kid(s) can age someone. Some people are just unlucky too. I've seen some 21 year olds look late 20s & some 21 year olds look late teens. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 03/10/21 08:01 PM |
| 8 | It seems like as soon as I set my age preferences to anything over 22 I get hit with this kind of filthYes, less cognitive dissonance. They know the arrangement and are upfront with it. They tend to understand men and gender dynamics better. Whether it's in the form of attention (casual sex), $ (whore), or both (a date/relationship) men still pay for sex. Whores just value their time more and skip the dinner formalities. Idk if it's better adjusted unless it's an escort or high end hooker (a bj for $20 of drugs imo isn't well adjusted) but it's certainly a more business and logical mindset. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 03/10/21 05:38 AM |
| 17 | "I am a strong, independent womyn in law school and I am sad because my boyfriend doesn't want to guarantee me a lifetime income."If she plans to stay married to him why is she afraid of a prenup? He's just protecting his assets if something goes wrong. And the likelyhood of things going wrong is high. Hoping for the best but preparing for the worst is wise. Why take that unnecessary risk? It seems she's projecting about going into the marriage expecting it to fail. If she's so worried about her bf leaving her in 20 years then she's only marrying him for his money because she doesn't respect or trust him. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/10/21 09:19 PM |
| 23 | It seems like as soon as I set my age preferences to anything over 22 I get hit with this kind of filthYeah tinder isn't where quality women are found. Attractive, realistic, and pleasant women are usually set up or find husbands irl. Women who are around the early 20s (mid 20s in larger cities) and not in a ltr heading toward marriage aren't wife material. Being a wife isn't a priority for those women so you can't expect them to act like it. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. It's a shame being a hoe is socially acceptable/encouraged now. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/10/21 08:19 PM |
| 39 | Single mom wants "a life w/ someone" after having already started a family with someone else... (x-post from alternate forum)I'm guessing she got clean from drugs during pregnancy but still drinks sometimes. Otherwise yeah a sober alcoholic doesn't drink...that's like the whole point of being sober. But words now days are being used to mean whatever the person feels due to post modernism. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 30/09/21 01:21 PM |
| 3 | my quality of life is better when I weigh less…if youre thinking of losing weight DO ITYes, I know bmi 24 is the largest I've been. I'm currently underweight and trying to gain muscle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 32 | my quality of life is better when I weigh less…if youre thinking of losing weight DO ITYes, weight is a very important aspect of attraction. It signals fertility and health. Men with options are going to choose the best one. Women who lack self discipline are unlikely to get much attention. People who prioritize health want someone else who does too. Long term lifestyle compatability is just as important as looks. A lot of men are afraid that their wife will just stop putting effort into looking good once she feels comfortable in the relationship. If you can't make much of an effo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/21 05:43 PM |
| 5 | He won’t unfollow his ex flingHe is keeping an option open since he doesn't trust you. Instead of forcing him help him trust you again. It takes time. Help him feel secure and comfortable. You broke up with him after 6 years together instead of working on the problems. This is a consequence. Honey does a better job than vinegar. A lot of men wouldn't take you back after all of this. If I was in his shoes I'd have issues trusting you too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/21 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Carol offering less in a relationship than ever before, realizes she may be single foreverAll my married friends and family complain about this. It's a man thing. Women are the ones who care about nesting and image so much. Men just want to feel comfortable in their house according to their (not yours) standards. If their level of cleaning bothers you and not them that's your problem. If you want it to your standards you'll have to put in that extra work. My solution is I work pt and take care of all of the housework. It's about 1h a day plus cooking. We have things easy nowadays wit… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 15/09/21 07:21 PM |
| 12 | Heartbroken & Untrusting - Need AdviceThis will not go as planned and is soooo unhealthy. You might as well break up if you do this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/21 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Heartbroken & Untrusting - Need AdviceHe made a mistake months ago. Either forgive him and move on or break up. Holding it over him is toxic. Forgiving him doesn't mean it doesn't hurt or that it didn't happen. It means that you value the relationship over your ego. It would be different if you had to worry about him cheating. While he should've blocked her sooner he did block her once she crossed his boundaries. Talk about your boundaries and communicate if he keeps crossing them that no matter how much you love him you'll have to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/21 08:40 PM |
| 10 | What is the appeal of casual sex?Why would you be downvoted? N3 isn't enough to inhibit pair bonding unless maybe of alpha widowed or traumatic experiences. No one is perfect and has a perfect past. But n3 at 30 is really rare now days. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 8 | What is the appeal of casual sex?Insecurity, wanting to fit in with peers, and validation. Emotional validation is a hell of a drug. With Instagram and other platforms women get used to being sexualized. Women have learned to objectify themselves at a young age for attention. Its everywhere since sex sell. Under the guise of female empowerment women disrespect themselves. Feminism has taught women they need to act like men. Tv and media encourage finding yourself and exploring before settling down. If men want casual sex we sho… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 6 | How do I express my need for sexual pleasure in my relationship?Would he be into trying toys out? That could be a fun way to bring up the bedroom life. Exploring things together often bring couples closer. You or him can use a clit vibrator during sex. Let him know a lot of women can't orgasm from just penetration so toys like this will help you enjoy it more. Also suction clit one are the best imo. There are cock rings that also stimulate you. You should be able to be open and communicate with your partner about intimacy issues. Having them so early from hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/21 10:17 PM |
| 9 | Should I be ashamed of losing weight and looking nicer if it isn’t for myself?Why be ashamed of external motivation to reach your goals? Becoming healthier is a great goal and I'm glad you have a support system to encourage you along the way. And it's 100% an investment in your future. Being fat is expensive. Being curvy many not be as bad when you're young but it increases health problems as you age. Also losing weight now vs later on will reduce stretch marks and loose skin because youth is on your side. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/21 12:42 AM |
| 1 | 138 dates of a high powered, 30 something, plain Jane, struhng induypyndunt career wymyns with mile high standards.... 🤣I figured the main guest bedroom was taken by her parents. I'd expect someone like her to spend a ridiculous amount on a bed vs sleeping on a fold out couch every night. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/08/21 06:24 PM |
| 4 | 138 dates of a high powered, 30 something, plain Jane, struhng induypyndunt career wymyns with mile high standards.... 🤣Hmm I figured she was sleeping in the guest bed after a Christmas party/trip out of town with family wishing that she was at a top ski resort with a hot guy instead. You know cause that's what all the hallmark movies says she deserves. But tbf she found a husband since she set reasonable standards. The article is garbage though and her book is probably full of feel good surviors bias that justified waiting until the last moment possible to have kids...it's not like that could ever go wrong. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/08/21 03:49 AM |
| 2 | At a crossroad with fianceAh yeah this is a very difficult situation then. While I'm sure they want to relate and don't mean to invalidate you it may be too hard for them to figure out why this is a big deal to you. A lot of people struggle relating to others religious beliefs. Your views are 100% valid though whether your family shares them or not. I try not too worry too much about hypothetical what if situations since those are liquid gasoline to most women's hamsters. If you have a kid before you're 35 and dont have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/21 09:09 PM |
| 5 | At a crossroad with fianceShe can be religious with a less/non religious family. I agree these type of values typically come from family but she may be an outlier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/21 11:44 PM |
| 5 | At a crossroad with fianceIs your abortion objection from a religious perspective? If so I 100% understand being stuck on this value collision. Maybe have him talk to a pastor. If not why do you feel strongly about this. This is a very uncomfortable topic for most. It comes down to different values and compatibility. Raising a disabled child isn't something that's easy. It can destroy an otherwise healthy marriage. It's a huge burden emotionally, physically, and financially often FOR LIFE. Ages ago disabled children were… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/21 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Expectations vs. Reality: What We Think the Opposite Gender WantsYeah I read an article about this too. A 7-8/10 is usually a 7-8/10 to most people. I'm in that group and people always think I look like another person or confuse me for someone else. The women they mistake me for are beautiful but it's a basic beauty vs an intriguing one. Women who are pretty with unique features can be rated anywhere from a 6 to 10 depending on a man's preference. Some men find those features ugly while some men find those features interesting/adds character. It makes them mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Expectations vs. Reality: What We Think the Opposite Gender WantsTrue. I've definitely been attracted to some unconventional guys. Sometimes even more than classically beautiful ones. I read somewhere that women rate other womens beauty based on #2 while men focus more on #1 when they look at women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 05:11 PM |
| 6 | Expectations vs. Reality: What We Think the Opposite Gender WantsTrue those traits make a man an alpha bucks vs just attractive which is what most women want. Unfortunately those are rare so women usually go for attractive vs a more successful capable beta. Alpha fuxks beta bucks is pretty true. Imo a mix of traits is the best instead of a dual mating strategy. I want a loyal quality man I can depend on to provide, protect, lead, & care for me. I'd much rather be exclusive with a well balanced average man than be with a top 1% man and have to share. The worst… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 04:20 AM |
| 15 | Expectations vs. Reality: What We Think the Opposite Gender WantsRules revised has some quality content. Especially the post about attractiveness and controllability. agree minus the hairless part and the attractive part. While he doesn't have to be a 10/10 looks wise most women don't give average looking men a chance. Very attractive men are usually are confident, hard to get because they have options, and get better opportunities/more successful due to the halo effect. Maybe in the past attractiveness was less of a thing but online dating/social media has c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/21 01:47 AM |
| 16 | I’m (25f) like this guy (19m), I am unsure if he likes me back, what should I do about it?You're the only one being rp not just doing the woo girl go for it follow your heart bs. I agree too. It sounds like she's desperate and not vetting properly. I've wasted too much time on poorly vetted men too. It's just seeking emotional support/validation and being lonely. But at 25 she needs to get serious. Having a crush and realizing that it's not realistic is maturity. She sounds really emotionally troubled. She's going to be in school until 29. She should really take dating for marriage s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/21 01:42 PM |
| 35 | A lot of women can't accept the fact that they are not as interesting as they thought they were.Yes, but it's also a red flag. Unless she rents one at a stable or has a ranch they tend to be time consuming money pits. But then again a lot of hobbies are. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 03/08/21 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Should I bother continuing to date until I've lost all the weight I need to?I've had an ed since 13 and am back in recovery again. I'm still underweight but I'm trying to gain muscle. Now I focus on my fitness goals as I'm getting into aerial. My fiance loves me and is super attracted to me at all the weights I been. He's the greatest :) and yeah as long as men get hard they still think you're healthy enough... It's kinda messed up but underweight actresses are normalized so I don't blame them. Well I've never looked boney since I have a petite bone structure and men al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 23 | Should I bother continuing to date until I've lost all the weight I need to?You have a lot of potential but yes you do need to work on yourself first. If a heavy set low income man wanted to date and was having issues he'd be told to get a better job and get fit. Or to lower his standards significantly. While you could also be realistic and lower your standards you don't need to if you raise your svm. Just take a couple months to do nun mode and work on self improvement. Telling people that you are trying to get fit sounds like a cope or excuse. Don't tell people about … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 07:05 PM |
| 4 | How do I find/date men who actually care about me?She would need to do strength training along with that protein to minimize muscle loss. Yeah she's young so loose skin may or may not be that extreme. Honestly it depends how fat she is. If bmi 35 or below 1200 with 30 mins cardio and she could be at her gw in months. That's 2lbs weight loss a week. True its gonna take time and time is precious. What good is if she extreme diets for a man and then gains it all back once she feels secure in the relationship? That's a very common scenario for fad/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Wives, how did you meet your husband or bf?I worked as a waitress at his friends company. He was initially shy but friendly. He came back the next day to get my number and asked me out on a date. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/07/21 04:45 AM |
| 5 | How do I find/date men who actually care about me?I'm guessing it's how you make these men feel. You're attractive enough for basic interest but personality and behavior get a man to stay. Fascinating Womanhood and surrendered singles are an excellent books to read (I have a copy if you want just dm me). Also most men are probably attracted to you might just pick men that don't care. Whether because they have game or psychological reasons it's still something to explore more. And eating 1000 a day is super unhealthy. You'll lose a lot of lean m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/21 04:27 AM |
| 17 | My boyfriend says the craziest things sometimes, yet it’s usually funny... Very conflicted.Can you accept this is how he's going to be in 20+ years? Yes, he's fun now in your 20s without kids but dating a man expecting him to change is setting yourself up for disappointment. But I don't think this is inherently toxic or an unhealthy relationship. He just has a more boyish laid back and open view of life. How long have you been dating? These traits will probably end up causing some issues but everyone has their own set of bad traits. Pick your hard and know what you're signing up for. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/21 02:01 AM |
| 0 | When should I marry and how big should the age gap be?Late 20s to early 30s is a gamble especially if you want multiple children. Why wait? If you start looking at 28-29 usually your first kid won't be until early 30s. Also that's when a majority of women are looking for husbands so there's more competition includingyounger women. While you can find someone when older fertility goes down as you age. There's not a perfect age but ideally young to mid 20s to someone a couple years older. I wouldn't do a huge age gap (unless you find someone you are r… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/07/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | I feel that my parents destroyed a lot of my valueI'm sorry that you went through all that. As someone who's been through similar I highly recommend therapy. Emdr is great for reprocessing trauma. You'll need to overcome or at least manage your issues so they don't affect your relationships. It's going to be a lot of hard work but the effort you put in learning to love and forgive yourself will be worth it. You're going to need to show a potential partner that you've grown from the past. Time will show how you've changed. It will always be a pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/21 05:41 AM |
| 5 | Sexy ish loungewear that’s roommate appropriate?True I live in south florida so this is normal here. But in more conservative areas there's sets with pants. Or short sets with button up tops (for larger chested ladies modesty). | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 06:42 PM |
| 14 | Sexy ish loungewear that’s roommate appropriate?Satin shorts and a lacy tank. Matching or coordinated sets look the best. Some sets come with a robe for more modesty. Rompers are cute too. Examples below. https://m.shein.com/us/Floral-Lace-Satin-Cami-Pajama-Set-p-700262-cat-2343.html?scici=sidecat_Women~~LINGERIE%20LOUNGEWEAR~~1_7_22~~itemPicking_00815399~~~~0 https://m.shein.com/us/Notched-Tank-Top-Tie-Front-Teddy-Shorts-Lounge-Set-p-1785966-cat-2338.html https://m.shein.com/us/3pcs-Lace-Cami-Top-Satin-Shorts-Belted-Robe-p-2625997-cat-2343.h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | I caught a live one!Not all of us want equality lol. I certainly don't want to be drafted or be expected to financially provide. I'm quite happy with the privileges and responsibilities of being a lady. Most women just want the privileges of man and the privileges of a woman without the responsibility of either. They never wanted equality in the first place. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/07/21 09:27 PM |
| 18 | Sex on commandI guess that can work for some couples as long as there's a lot of trust and communication. And that you can say no of you want, don't feel pressured to, and aren't overly objectified. You should take care of your husband's needs but not at your emotional expense. Body autonomy is important. Some people even if rp trad will feel uncomfortable with this dynamic. My fiance has a pretty high sex drive but I try to accommodate his needs with variety. If I say no I usually let him know when I'll be m… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/07/21 08:54 PM |
| 25 | How much does your SO being "objectively" attractive matter to you?As long as you find him attractive that's what matters. Your friends are the ones dating him. A good man is more valuable than a trophy husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/21 10:44 PM |
| 1 | A recent discovery on RPW subWell I agree and I'm a woman so 🤷. Advice giving and marriage existed before degrees. I agree you should be using your time to help yourself. Lol I'm sorry that you think women who respect men are larping. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | A recent discovery on RPW subOP didn't specify ladies so his advice was warranted. While you may not agree with rp that sub is rp so rp advice is the advice that is given. She came there and asked for rp advice and got it. Men taking the lead in a relationship is standard rp. If you can't submit to your husband you didn't do a good job vetting/picking him. Submission isn't about being a doormat, it's about picking long term happiness by being pleasant/agreeable instead of making small things into battles. Idk what the issue… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/21 08:52 PM |
| 2 | A recent discovery on RPW subI read that reply on rpw and nowhere did he say or even imply he was a women. You made an assumption about gender and got upset based off of what? A man trying to give a young lady some well written thoughtful advice? Men are allowed to post on rpw as long as they stay within the subs rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/21 08:33 PM |
| 1 | “I do not believe in ‘hook ups’ anymore” is a weird way to say “I already played the game, and I lost”My apologies I didn't read the whole conversation between you guys | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 1 | “I do not believe in ‘hook ups’ anymore” is a weird way to say “I already played the game, and I lost”Speaking for any woman-sex is natural, enjoyable, and a moral obligation in the right circumstances (married). She could just get an abortion or not open her legs to someone she didn't vet for marriage properly. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 1 | “I do not believe in ‘hook ups’ anymore” is a weird way to say “I already played the game, and I lost”I have a feeling you're being sarcastic and I'm just interpreting this incorrectly but if not....As a woman this is FALSE! Women say they don't want sex because they don't want sex with the bottom 80% of men. If a tall 8-10/10 appears women fight for his attention. It's more emotional/hormonal/tingles based. Also right before a woman's cycle most women become really horny. It's evolutionary. Side note: Studies show women prefer more alpha traits when most fertile (right before cycle/ovulation) a… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 27/06/21 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Follow Up on Need A Perspective Because I screwed upI'd take some time to get better at vetting so you don't waste even more. Getting yourself emotionally together is important to be able to have a healthy relationship. A 6 year relationship ending like this must be tough. I'm glad you are working on healing instead of carrying this emotional weight everywhere. I met my fiance at 23 when I was waitressing at his friends kosher restaurant. I specifically worked there to find a good Jewish man lol. Try to be more friendly and bubbly to everyone you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/21 11:45 PM |
| 22 | I wanted a husband since I was SIXTEEN! It's not my fault I don't have one, it's all God's fault, honest!It's almost like planning and then taking the steps towards the future you want works more than just letting life happen. It's nice to want to be a wife but you actually have to date for marriage. I really don't get why this is a hard concept for some. If you want be a a lawyer you get good grades in undergrad then go to law school not complain you can't be one because you only have a ba in psychology. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/06/21 09:25 PM |
| 34 | I wanted a husband since I was SIXTEEN! It's not my fault I don't have one, it's all God's fault, honest!She probably wanted a husband as a teen but didn't know what it takes to be a wife. She wants the title and wedding but doesn't want to put the work into learning how to be a wife. If instead of sleeping around for validation she learned what men wanted in a wife (and then acted like one) she'd be one. She's really clueless. Men won't marry a woman because she give them gifts. She's single at 40 because she isn't wife material. Men just don't want a promiscuous insecure lvw with no wife skills w… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 21/06/21 08:29 PM |
| 18 | Meet the 35 year old ex-sex worker who now wants the white picket-fence life!! And also wants to recalibrate who she's attracted to because the guys she finds attractive don't find her attractive, and wants a "professional, clean cut" guy unlike the "lazy assholes" her friends ended up with.It's because she sees the <10% of sex workers that get a family and think she deserves it too. If they were able to then I can too. Unfortunately that's not how life works. What she doesn't realize is they were lucky. Some gamblers win but the majority lose. Plus married ex sex workers love to say you can have both because they have survivor bias. Usually they don't wait until 30 to settle down though. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/06/21 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Who's the incel now? (A warning to white knights)Why not try bdsm with your husband (or future husband)? I get to be dominated and used but still have a loving family oriented man (and he gets frequent kinky sex). Win-win. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/06/21 02:16 AM |
| 0 | What updo hairstyles do men like on women?I'd say the sexualization of minors is a worldwide issue that has been going on for a while/forever and is very different than joking around as a sexy adult star schoolgirl. We engage in a fair amount of kink so I often forget what's normal or not lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/21 01:34 PM |
| 4 | What updo hairstyles do men like on women?Lol it works with my style but it's definitely not for everyone. I've been trying to put more effort in my hair as well. I usually stick to messier less complex styles bc thin hair problems :(. Barrettes, clips, pins, and headbands can elevate even a simple low pony. You seem to be doing well styling and taking care of it. Healthy hair is sexy to men. Doesn't hurt to want to improve though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 07:41 PM |
| 4 | What updo hairstyles do men like on women?Most men prefer hair down as long healthy hair signals fertility. Women tend to focus more on small details like fancy updos or different styles than men. Men usually look at the whole picture so if it's presentable and flattering you're good. So whatever makes you feel good and confident is what really matters. I have thin longish wavy hair and usually put it in a messy bun or a beachy low bun since I sick at styling it. My fiance loves the tousled hair look since it reminds him of sex hair. He… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/21 05:51 PM |
| 9 | How do men consider your family background when evaluating you as a potential partner?Yes some do. Usually only super religious or upper class old money families. They're extremely critical even if you come from a good upbringing. In most cases it's not a big deal as long as you work on your issues. You don't want it to become a problem in a relationship. Also you deserve to be able to heal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/21 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some advicehttps://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/ This one is better for adults, but that's a great link for mothers of young children to read. The first couple years in child development are crucial! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/21 12:53 AM |
| 3 | 40yo with a kid and a poor attitude wonders why men only want her for sex.Yeah settling/being realistic | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/06/21 10:02 PM |
| 17 | 40yo with a kid and a poor attitude wonders why men only want her for sex.No man is looking for a 40 year old single mom lol. He'll be satisfied with what he can get unlike her. But yeah that's what her league is now. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 19 | 40yo with a kid and a poor attitude wonders why men only want her for sex.If she moved to a liberal city or at least a larger town in her early 20s and took looking for a "soul mate" seriously she wouldn't have this problem. She just wants to complain and get sympathy/validation for her bad choices. She knows she fucked up good. Even if she moved to a big city now she'd come up with other excuses why the average man isn't good enough for her. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 08/06/21 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some adviceSsd thing is I don't think that would affect him in a normal way. He can see how it hurts her but still does it. You can't use logic with people like this. It's mind games/control issues. He may not even be fully aware of how messed up he's acting and may get defensive/double down. I think that would just make him resent her or possibly say somethings that can't be unsaid. I just don't want her to throw coal into the fire if she want to work this out. I think he needs to discuss or sort out his … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/21 01:10 AM |
| 4 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some adviceNo that's petty and doesn't help things. 2 wrongs don't make a right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Husband sends me pictures of Instagram models daily, need some adviceYou aren't overreacting. This is completely heartbreaking. It's a lack of respect and boundaries. Unfortunately this type of behavior is becoming more normalized but it's toxic. Especially since you told him how it makes you feel yet he continues to do it. I don't know the exact way to deal with this so sorry if my advice isn't the best. Are you religious? You can ask a pastor for help/to talk to him. Is there someone he looks up to that can talk to him? This may be too difficult but maybe play … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 09:40 PM |
| 5 | What does your housekeeping look like?Before work: make bed, take dogs out, feed cats & tidy place up After work: take dogs out x2, feed dogs, dishes, kitchen, general cleaning/organizing, cat box, take trash out, and one bigger chore (bathrooms, floors, grocery shopping, deep cleaning/organizing, or laundry) I work 5h day, 1h total commute, and spend 2h cooking and cleaning so it's quite manageable for me. Although we don't have kids yet. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/06/21 02:24 PM |
| 36 | How does “birthing person” make you think?I find it incredibly cringey and misogynistic. Men and women are different. Biology exists. You can express your sexuality in many ways but there's only 2 types of genitals (aside from medical issues like intersex). You can't recreate a womb in a man. I don't particularly care if people want to be called a certain pronoun, consentually sleep with anyone, get elective surgeries, or identify however they like. But there seems to be an anti "cis" women movement going on. It's ok to be a woman. Why … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/21 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Husband hates the fact that I have body hair; I'm struggling to deal with thisRemoved. Sorry I didnt realize at first how that may not be a helpful thing to say. She should always give her husband the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/06/21 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Husband hates the fact that I have body hair; I'm struggling to deal with thisI agree this is quite wierd and unnatural. If he can't stand to have sex with a young pretty woman because of peach fuzz how is he going to make love to you when you're 50+. It could also be a mild form of ocd or another mental illness. If so an ssri could help out a lot. He should talk to a therapist to figure out where this stems from. Get some razorburn gel/cream to prevent irritation if you are set on shaving. Exfoliate before to get a more close shave. Learning how to wax yourself is anothe… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/06/21 03:50 PM |
| 23 | She ain’t here for any funny business!Lol I wouldn't say jaded, I just removed my rose colored glasses. I've been exposed to women's (and men's) true nature/bad traits since middle school but I would have never guessed this is how things would turn out. I have plenty friends who act differently but in this age society encourages degeneracy in women at men's expense. I wonder how things will be in 10+ years. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/06/21 03:40 AM |
| 34 | She ain’t here for any funny business!And your reward for all of this is nothing! Other than the privilege of being "real man". | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 6 | She ain’t here for any funny business!Yeah I lose my appetite there. People are almost fighting for food pushing up against each other and the glass. It's unlimited so I don't get why they can't just wait a minute or two. I highly recommend going to one in the South on a Sunday afternoon. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/06/21 12:12 AM |
| 134 | She ain’t here for any funny business!Being a single mom at 22 shows she is in fact down for just fun/funny business. She just doesn't want to face the consequences of this fun. That's the job of any unfortunate soul who dates her. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/06/21 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Wow I just can’t figure out why this woman is having trouble attracting a man. It’s a mystery.Sad thing is she really thinks that (especially if they are cis and white). In reality fat women have more privilege than short ugly guys. People don't assume she's a creep by just existing. She even has an easier time getting a job and dating. She should try dating a 5'6 4/10 to see exactly what they go through. But she wouldn't date a 6/10 in a wheelchair she just is saying bs for woke points. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/06/21 07:05 PM |
| 3 | The eldest is 5 so do the mathShe could pop all those out in 4 years or less if she just got pregnant while still nursing/Irish twins. With regular unprotected sex it's quite doable. She's very fertile so it wouldn't even take 6 months even if she waited until after nursing. After 1 kid out of wedlock you'd think she'd take birth control. You don't get pregnant 4 times on accident so I have zero sympathy for her poor choices. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 30/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | How to be less reactive/sensitive?No worries lol yeah it's quite easy to assume things on reddit. And 80% of the advice posts on here would be fixed with good vetting and being more submissive so it's still great advice :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/21 03:39 AM |
| 1 | I’m 30 and I don’t know how to apply make up.Or if you're on a budget you can do the same at sephora. I think it's free if you spend a certain amount on makeup. While sephora has some expensive makeup they also have some quality finds from more affordable brands. They have a device that can scan your face to find the exact match. And they have virtual makeup so you can pick what style you like first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 11:48 PM |
| 2 | How to be less reactive/sensitive?True, I think having more private space would help me. We live in a very small space so are cooped up together too much. He tries to give me my space though. Lol he raises his voice with every and any emotion. Figuring out what is a discussion and what is fighting is difficult when they sound the same. So even "normal" discussions to him make me feel like he's instigating because he gets too worked up for no reason. He's very passionate about his opinions even when they're wrong. But that passio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 11:44 PM |
| 2 | How to be less reactive/sensitive?Yeah pretty much. Spot on, feeling disrespected is a huge trigger and when I'm exposed to unfiltered negativity too much it triggers me. His intention isn't to disrespect he just complains/vents a lot which is why Im hoping to learn how to not take it personally. He's aware that he's like this when he's not upset but in the heat of the moment he struggles to realize it. He has add so it's very difficult for him which frustrates both of us. He accepts me for my flaws but it's hard for me to do th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 11:27 PM |
| 1 | How to be less reactive/sensitive?He's like that with everyone not just me. He's gotten better at taking space when he needs it. A lot of it is cultural (his family and friends are the same way). But yeah when I end up being disrespectful or not 100% trusting him it does make things much worse. I've been working on that because I prefer a more traditional relationship. Our dynamic is based on trad gender roles so I'm on the more submissive side naturally. I try to be feminine but when I feel attacked then I go more into my mascu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend deleted all pictures of meAnd op is the backup. If a man wants something serious you'll know. If he doesn't you'll be confused. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/21 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Should a women ever wear trousers?As long as you don't wear them daily there should be no issue. Especially if you are wearing them during an activity like gardening or a more active day that leggings aren't appropriate. You can always cut and hem them yourself into shorts. No sewing needed with some iron on hemming. A more masculine element combined with mostly feminine style is still overall feminine. French and vintage inspired styles often have trousers. You can find cute outfits using them on pinterest too. Men don't care m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/21 11:28 PM |
| 5 | Wives, how did you meet your husband?I was a waitress at his friends restaurant (local kosher pizza place) while taking some college courses online. Although I applied for the job at this specific place (I was waitressing at fancy sushi place before) because I knew I'd be around relationship minded men. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/05/21 03:41 AM |
| 12 | ShoesSince it's a trait you can't change just embrace it. Keep your toenails painted and maybe wear an anklet. Most men don't care about the size of your feet or really even look at them. We as women tend to be insecure about the small little things while men see a more overall beauty. But for a real answer heeled black boots (thigh highs are super sexy). Boots are bulky already and black minimzes so a wider foot isn't as noticeable. Theyre also pretty basic so not attention grabbing.. For heels a nu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/21 03:43 PM |
| 41 | The Wall has no equal. 30's F had no problem going on dates years ago. Now she wants to settle down and every guy is focused on sex. Why didn't they get their fill in their 20's like she did?Yes, most men are focused on sex. That's just how they're wired. It's a biological trait not something wrong or that needs to be changed. It's also one of of reasons men are driven to date or marry. You'd think after 10+ years of dating she'd figure that out. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 16/05/21 01:25 AM |
| 20 | Line up guys....When will she figure out guys who are smart & attractive aren't looking for a single mom to marry. There might not even be a single guy who fits these requirements much less one that wants her. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 14/05/21 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Fake lashesI use strip lashes occasionally. Usually a natural looking pair but the Ardelle wispies aren't bad. I always trim them down usuallly angled and cut them in half (or take at least 25% off). It gives more of a natural cat eye look. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/21 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Man is only good enough because of his salary. I’m out if you take a pay cut due to the pandemic, even if it’s temporary.Yeah I didn't even know that a $350k "middle class wage" was ever a standard because it's highly illogical to exclude most of the potential dating pool. A man making $350k+ who is also somewhat attractive, average height or taller, single, wanting to get married, & straight is what like 1-3% of the population? Those aren't good odds to gamble on. There's nothing wrong with either wages as long as bills get paid plus there's some extra for fun and savings. At the end of the day a job is a job. Ed… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/05/21 11:16 PM |
| 5 | Man is only good enough because of his salary. I’m out if you take a pay cut due to the pandemic, even if it’s temporary.You can't use logic here...her hamster is just running wild. I'm guessing is she only liked the idea of him ($, status, etc) so when he temporarily lost those she felt insulted. She feels she deserves a guy who has those and won't settle for less. How dare she be forced to associate herself with gasp a broke man (aka middle class wage). I bet she'll be on FDS eventually. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/05/21 10:37 PM |
| 12 | Imagine being this old and trying to seduce men and while also claiming to want a "serious forever kind of relationship". That boat has long since sailed.(she hid her age on the app).She's probably not as old as she looks sadly. This looks more like meth (plus other drugs). I've seen 70 year old grandmothers with less jowls than her. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 21 | Man is only good enough because of his salary. I’m out if you take a pay cut due to the pandemic, even if it’s temporary.Dating for 5 years and not even living together (or even close)? That was doomed from the start. He dodged a bullet. What a bitch! Emasculating a man is the worst thing you can do to him (minus divorce rape, taking the kids, or false accusations). She really kicked him while he was low when she was supposed to be the one giving him emotional support. Well if she was wifey material she would. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/05/21 07:06 PM |
| 6 | Taking applications for a backup and a boyfriendWho looks for a male best friend on tinder (a dating/hookup app)? Men don't swipe on hot women to just be friends. The only "friends" she'll get are fwb or guys hoping she'll eventually date/fuck them. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 26/04/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | An eloquent message appealing for partnership from a 45-year old homemaker for your dignified perusalYou can tell she was hot when she was young and yet she wasted it. Too bad she hasn't learned men won't put up with a bitchy attitude when you're old & ugly. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 26/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 4 | The existence of all red pill ideology highlights one big issue: Why do we tell people looks/money/personality type doesn't matter when it does?Sure you can question and wish the world was different in a healthy way. That's why I said not to hate the game vs not to be upset that it's rigged. Most people end up downward spiraling into though once they start focusing on the negative though. Negativity is addictive. Imo changing the world starts with changing yourself. I'm a huge fan of J. Peterson's 12 rules to chaos since it goes into details about this. I highly recommend reading it. Edit: yeah in the general sense people should treat e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 13 | The existence of all red pill ideology highlights one big issue: Why do we tell people looks/money/personality type doesn't matter when it does?Hating things takes more energy than accepting that that's the way things are. Complaining and negativity begets more complaining. Instead of criticizing that life isn't fair put that energy in the things you can control. I don't really think it's society but more of biology. Even animals mate based off looks (healthier offspring) and ability to protect/provide ($ for humans). A lot of looks for women is about fertility and health. And men's attractiveness is based off good genes like strength t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 04:13 PM |
| 15 | The existence of all red pill ideology highlights one big issue: Why do we tell people looks/money/personality type doesn't matter when it does?Yeah don't hate the game because you were deal a bad hand, improve your strategy. You can also fumble a good hand by bad choices. You've got to make the most and being satisfied with what you have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/21 02:34 PM |
| 37 | Why do women insist that every single other woman is stunning?If she wasn't morbidly obese and 30+ she'd actually be attractive. If she put the work in to be healthy (or the bare minimum to not be obese) and married young she wouldn't wonder why she's still single. I mean it's quite obvious to everyone else (including the author) but it's not pc to say you're single because you're fat and old. Women love to give bad advice and false validations. It's cruel really because if she was told the truth instead of encouraged/enabled when younger maybe it wouldn't… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/04/21 06:35 PM |
| 12 | “I want two boyfriends”Imagine fds reaction if a guy posted he wants two girlfriends. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 12 | 31 year old derelict, delusional mother of 2 seeks laundry list of unrealistic expectations/qualifications.True, but if they aren't from Chad Thundercock she doesn't care. Even for a p&d chad is going to need two bags and a lot of liquor. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/04/21 05:43 PM |
| 29 | 31 year old derelict, delusional mother of 2 seeks laundry list of unrealistic expectations/qualifications.Are these really the pictures she thinks will attract a man like that? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 12/04/21 04:36 PM |
| 13 | [50-F] leftover wants you to buy her favorite perfume and other "silly" women stuff and feel great about it because you're deeply beautifulIf you put beautiful is in the heart and an attitude you know you aren't pretty at all. At least she's honest with herself and knows she's not physically beautiful. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/04/21 05:09 PM |
| 2 | What to read / listen / podcast recommendations for when you’ve gone totally off track as a red pill Wife and need to win back your husband ?Fascinating womanhood by Helen Andelin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/21 01:59 PM |
| 9 | I'm in a complicated relationship but please send me at least $20A bmi of 16 is medically underweight no matter what country you're in. Medical facts don't care about what Americans imagine what is healthy is or aesthetics. Bmi doesn't care about your feelings either. Maybe be knowledgeable about the topic first. Edit: btw this girl doesn't look underweight | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/04/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a low libido husband?It's very common side effects of ssris and it's a biochemical problem. It's not about you or what you're doing. But it also can't just be fixed by respecting him more or the usual tips for dead bedrooms. This side effect is why a lot of people stop taking meds. Is he open to switching? Or reducing the med he's on plus taking another? Wellbutrin is an antidepressant that's usually prescribed for people who get low libido on other antidepressants. It actually increases above baseline for some. I h… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/04/21 03:47 PM |
| 43 | I'm in a complicated relationship but please send me at least $20I was about to post the same thing. At 101 she'd be severely underweight. She also said she has an "average" body so which is it? Maybe it's a test to find someone dumb enough to believe her. Or for someone to indulge her long enough for a couple hookups. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 05/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 13 | Quarantine recipes?R/eatcheapandhealthy has some great ideas. Also check out supercook. It's an app where you put what food you have at home and it pulls up recipes for them. Customizable basics are a good option if you are having stores run out of things. Rotisserie chicken is great for lazy days. You can make a soup out of the leftover bones/fat. Buddha bowls- rice, protein, veggies, sauce Teriyaki sauce is super easy and cheap to make Omelettes (veggies, cheese, and meat can be added) with bread/biscuit/french … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/21 11:04 PM |
| 18 | Learning to cook - tips?Youtube videos, following recipes, and practice is how I got pretty good at cooking. Then I got comfortable enough in the kitchen to start experimenting. With basic flavor combos and cooking techniques you can alter recipes without worrying how they'll come out. Although I cook 3x day. Look up microwave & no cook recipes. While not fancy being able to actually use a microwave properly (not just use timed 100% power) is a good intro to cooking. You can get a cheap crockpot on sale for $10-20. Or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/21 03:54 AM |
| 2 | No nice feminine clothing at the mallThere's plenty of all types of clothing at the mall you're just going to the wrong stores/not looking close enough. Sure not everything will fit your exact style but stores from f21 to Macy's to botiques to higher end stores have feminine clothing. During spring/summer maxi skirts, long flowy dresses, floral prints, light weight blouses, ruffled skirts, prairie style, and other feminine items are in almost everywhere. If you're looking for a particular "feminine" look aka vintage style I recomme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/21 10:23 PM |
| 9 | 🤡 "I broke up with the one guy that would contribute all the effort and money in the relationship and now I can't find another one?That's smart. If she complains you can call her out because it's "romantic" to take a garden stroll. Plus the good ones will appreciate something different than a dinner date. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 01/04/21 02:09 PM |
| 157 | 🤡 "I broke up with the one guy that would contribute all the effort and money in the relationship and now I can't find another one?Wow entitled much?!? You aren't owed dinner. Dates like these are great to weed out toxic women. Men are now accustomed to being used as a walking atm/free meal ticket so unless you're a gf don't expect fancy dates. You should like a man for who he is not what he buys you. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 01/04/21 01:57 AM |
| 4 | Thinking of moving out of a blue state for a more traditional life, 21FIt's not unrealistic especially if it's very important to you. I moved across the country at the same age to find a good religious conservative traditional man and am now engaged. If you're going to do it do it soon bc people get married younger out of the city & in more conservative areas. Find a larger Catholic community that you're interested in. Maybe your church/parish can help recommend a good place. Save as much $$$ as you can. Make sure you have a job before you move too.. You can save $… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/21 02:53 AM |
| 6 | Does your body actually heal faster from pregnancy the younger you are?Yes. Your body heals from everything faster when you're younger. It's why surgeries like wisdom teeth removal, tonsil removal, and some elective surgeries are recommended at a younger age. There's a higher rate of cell turnover and regenerative ability. There's a reason the ideal age to get pregnant is the early to mid 20 other than fertility level. Around 25 collagen production decreases and continues to every year. What that means is the older you have a child the higher risk of skin sagging a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/21 04:40 PM |
| 1 | How to be more feminineAh yeah I meant progestins. But progesterone is often used along birth control for pms which is why I got them confused. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/21 04:18 PM |
| 6 | How to be more feminineMen and menopausal women (like early onset from a hysterectomy) do with hrt but for a healthy women it's not a good idea to mess with hormones like that. Progestin & estrogen actually make it harder to get pregnant ("the pill" uses both). Mood swings and weight gain are a very common side effect of hormones. Plus there's some research that a side effect of hormones is reduced attraction to masculine males and an increase to beta males. So sure it could work but not in a good way. It won't increa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/21 09:46 PM |
| 2 | What is be feminine?If you haven't checked laura doyle out she has some good books too. More for married women though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/21 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Ladies is it redpoll behaviour to threaten to destroy your mans shoes and clothes?It shows a complete lack of respect and is toxic af (no matter if it's the woman or man doing this). It's basically throwing a temper tantrum. Lack of emotional control & threats to destroy property are serious flashing bright red flags. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/21 04:36 PM |
| 10 | What is be feminine?Read fascinating womanhood for the timeless woman or fascinating girl: vintage edition by Dixis Forsyth. They're great books that goes into the details of not only feminine energy but also how to have a happy marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/21 04:24 PM |
| 11 | Not all men want overly feminine womenYou can be feminine and a professional academic. You can be feminine and an athlete. You can be feminine and any label you want. Feminine traits aren't necessarily overly girly ones. It's about mindset, how you carry yourself, and interact with the world. Hvm don't want a brash & bossy woman who doesn't need them. It's a major red flag if a man looks down upon femininity. Most men don't care about career and would pick a nurse over doctor if the nurse was more nurturing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Why do people here recommend therapy for everything?True, and sometimes experts are biased and make mistakes. A therapist is human and may suck at their job so blind faith can be misleading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/21 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do people here recommend therapy for everything?Sometimes things are above our expertise. We are like pcp/family doctors. We can give general advice about a lot of thing but need to refer to a specialist sometimes. Usually people aren't posting for help here over small tiny issues so suggesting therapy is appropriate. Especially when it comes to mental illness, abuse, severe self esteem issues, infidelity, extreme martial problems and other complicated matters. We don't know their history we just read a couple paragraphs about their situation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/21 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Need housekeeping advice - air freshenerI use sneaker balls and a diffuser with essential oils. https://www.amazon.com/Sof-Sole-Sneaker-Deodorizer-Rainbow/dp/B08JPFFNLB/ref=asc_df_B08JPFFNLB/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=475740418078&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5522795075987318974&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011851&hvtargid=pla-1018669997170&psc=1 Something that also absorbs scent like mundo bamboo charcoal air purifier bags (on amazon) could be a good option. Or a small air purifier. Also for reduced … | /r/RedPillWives | 22/03/21 06:17 PM |
| 5 | Feminine role models with glasses?Hmm not really. Maybe you haven't found a type and size that suits your face shape. Although a cat eye is probably considered the most feminine. Any shape can be feminine enough if it's in a girly color/has rhinestones. I personally love zenni optical. Super cheap and they offer a virtual try on. And they give you free upgrades to thinner lenses if you have bad vision. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/03/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | How do you style your hair?It was a lifesaver when I learned it. I didn't realize how horrible I was treating my hair. It's probably jealousy lol bc people want what they don't have. Are you in the usa? Sephora has it and so does amazon. Spacenk has it for uk. You're outside of that myus or something similar is a shipping website that can send it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/21 12:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you style your hair?I'm in Florida so the weather here has definitely helped my hair/scalp be less dry. You seem like you're doing pretty well with your routine. Honestly I'm pretty bad at consistency. I do good for a while, then stop putting as much effort, and then realize I'm slacking which motivates me, and then the cycle begins again. So usually when I think of it, have free time, self care day, or I can tell it needs it I'll do treatments. I have a hair mask in the shower I use 1x week. I just started taking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/21 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you style your hair?Also it really depends on your style. Pick things that'll match with what you have already. Dry shampoo works great with me bc I have thin hair. I also don't put conditioner on the top of my head. And I only shampoo my scalp. It takes a while to hair/scalp to adjust to washing less. I use it depending on how dry my hair feels. Sometimes only once a week sometimes more. Using a boat bristle brush helps me distribute hair oil better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/21 01:14 AM |
| 16 | How do you style your hair?Mines thin wavy chest length so I usually just let it do it's thing. Most of my hair effort is in highlights, regular cuts, quality products, curly girl method, and treatments. Healthy taken care of hair looks way better than damaged even if unstyled. If I want to spice it up when it's down I use hair clips or headbands. If I put it up I do braids, high/low pony, half up/half down, front pieces out & buns. I keep it simple. My fiance loves it when I curl my hair so I do that on date nights. And … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/21 06:06 PM |
| 2 | I don’t know what’s going on anymore I don’t know how to handle it please help meThis is a grown ass man. Being abusive isn't something you just grow up from. If anything it's something that gets worse without intervention/tons of therapy. Yes it's her choice but she's here asking for advice in what to do. It's our obligation to give her the best advice for her safety and future. How can you with a clear conscious even recommend her staying? This isn't a situation that "needs to be handled" it's a dangerous situation that puts her at risk. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/03/21 04:40 AM |
| 9 | I don’t know what’s going on anymore I don’t know how to handle it please help meNo offense this is horrible advice. She's not married to him and he's abusive. I believe most issues can be worked out but rpw doesn't advocate staying with an abusive bf when you're a childless young woman with plenty of options. Honestly I'm appalled you would even recommend working this out. If she was married with kids sure, but staying in this situation with someone like this will ruin her life. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/21 08:24 PM |
| 4 | I don’t know what’s going on anymore I don’t know how to handle it please help meI thought you were trolling at first because wow is this bad. You're young don't waste your valuable years on him. Go for someone a couple years older who is emotionally available for a healthy relationship. You seem like a great catch why are you with someone who not only doesn't respect you but all women. Imagine having a daughter with him and what he'll say to her. A major part of rpw is vetting your potential spouse well. It's why fathers played a role in courting-to make sure it's a decent … | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/21 08:18 PM |
| 3 | My husband doesn’t earn “enough” money and I’m kind of freaking out about it.Where is your $$$ going then? Honestly I don't think this is really a problem that he needs to work himself up about. Men are problem solvers and don't think as much about the emotional aspects of an issue as much. He's doing the steps he can to get where he needs to be so from a man's point of view why worry. Maybe your stress is making you think you're not doing as well as you are. Or your expectations of what is doing well is skewed by financially insecurities. The coming from money and not w… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/03/21 06:01 PM |
| 7 | My husband doesn’t earn “enough” money and I’m kind of freaking out about it.45k for a family may seem rough but it's not that bad. You've got a couple years to save up too. Why can't you guys move to the suburbs/a little farther away to save some $? Since he'll be the primary one using the car a 45 min commute each way is reasonable. With a lower income taxes and health care should be cheaper. Especially if you qualify for earned income credit for health insurance. Don't feel ashamed if you need help for a year or two. That's what things like food stamps and medicaid ar… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 1 | I’ve slept with 13 men in my life time. I’m only 25. Whenever I think about it, I feel suicidal.My apologies took it out of context because I thought you were referring to op. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.Wow you're black pilled not rp. Or maybe just trying to collect downvotes based on comment history. Either way I'm sorry you have such a negative view of men and relationships. I hope you have better experiences in the future so you aren't as cynical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 04:00 AM |
| 2 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.I'd argue that a man like that is low value. Men who lie, manipulate, break their word, never uphold their marriage agreement, and have an addiction aren't the top rung. The men I listed aren't low value they're average. Plenty of average men settle for worse and would love a woman who actually appreciates them. And average is a great deal for her and she can cherish them for accepting her and her kid. The best man for a woman has a mix of alpha and beta traits. He knew he could lose her and the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 03:14 AM |
| 2 | I’ve slept with 13 men in my life time. I’m only 25. Whenever I think about it, I feel suicidal.Red pill is a view of relationships and life. Doesn't mean she wants a red pill guy. Rpw uses rp logic to help women have a happy home life and improve themselves. Usually the best partner for a woman has a mix of alpha and beta traits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.People divorce and remarry all the time. It's not recommended for most marriage problems but this is an extreme case. Sure she'll have to compromise and set realistic standards. Even with 1 kid if she's young, fit, attractive, pleasant to be around, & 1 n count there's plenty of options. Not the hot 33 year old 100k guy but some middle class divorced men, single fathers, widowers, and older men would give her a chance. Especially of she's willing to give them kids if their own. A lot of attracti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 02:52 AM |
| 4 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.When you have an addiction this strong the addiction is the only thing you really love. You're willing to hurt others to get your fix. He never even tried to get help for it. He put her at risk of getting a serious std. How is this a special connection? I really worry for your relationship/dating history if this is your view on love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/21 02:40 AM |
| 4 | Should i divorce my serial cheating husband who is my first sexual partner and start over? I am so scared of the thoughts of me sleeping with other men.Yes!!! Rpw is not about being a doormat or allowing yourself to be abused. What would you tell your daughter (if you had one) if she was in this situation. Repeated infidelity is a deal breaker for most. You already know you need to leave. It's hard now but when you look back it'll be for the best. The longer you stay the harder it'll be to leave so just leave now. You have a low n count plus divorced for legitimate reasons so there's plenty of men who won't have an issue with that. Divorced men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 08:24 PM |
| 27 | I’ve slept with 13 men in my life time. I’m only 25. Whenever I think about it, I feel suicidal.The issue isn't that you've slept with 13 men it's why and how that effects you (plus your potential spouse). I highly recommend therapy especially emdr. Before you date you need to go in nun mode and work on your issues. These mental health problems will highly effect finding a good man and keeping him (plus you don't deserve to suffer). If you're bitter, angry, hurt, negative, etc you may not be as pleasant to be around. There's a reason why a smile is one of the most attractive things to men.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/21 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Should i break up with a blue pilled boyfriend?That's great. I wish I could say the same lol. Healthy communication is a great green flag. You're in your prime so if this is the relationship you want there's nothing wrong with staying but you won't have the same opportunities you have now. So be honest with yourself about why you want him and if it's worth giving him the most valuable years of your life. Relationships are an investment and you can't get that time back. Write down a list of all the traits you want in a husband. Then circle th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 11 | Should i break up with a blue pilled boyfriend?He seems a little too young to be 100% commitment/marriage minded. He's still wanting to experiment sexually and is in the early college/finding himself phase which isn't good for a long term prospect. It's one thing if he wants a threesome while single/hooking up with girls at a party vs him not wanting a monogamous relationship. I don't think he views you as a potential wife. Once a relationship is opened it's hard to close that door. I agree with finding someone your age or a little older. 22… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 05:27 PM |
| 1 | I’m really heavy and need to figure out how to lose weight as quickly as possible. Tips?Tdee-500 calories plus some light to moderate exercise. Even fun exercise like dancing while you clean or going in a nightly walk helps. You can calculate that online with a tdee calculator. Don't eat below bmr though. Try to mix up cardio and strength training (even body weight exercises). Don't lose too fast or you risk stretch marks, muscle loss, emotional instability/brain fog, & physical issues. R/1500isplenty or r/1200isplenty are great subs to get you started. Upping lean protein and 50% … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/21 05:38 PM |
| 2 | How to become more “into” cooking.Try some food subscription boxes. You can get great deals on the first box so sign up, cancel, then try new ones until you found your favorite. Also emeals. That way you can try new things and it makes things super easy. Maybe modify each meal slightly for the kid with sensory issues. Or have a quick to make special meals for him. Meal prepping multiple meals then freezing them might be an option for dinners he doesn't like. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/01/21 04:50 AM |
| 5 | How do you determine your SMV?/rateme /amiattractive /amiugly /truerateme | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/21 03:19 AM |
| 21 | How do you determine your SMV?Possibly lower smv but it could also be how you present yourself. Smile and be more carefree. Be more comfortable with yourself. Dress and act more feminine/pleasant. Do you look like you want to be approached or are you very serious/aloof? A lot of being approached is your energy and vibe. RBF doesn't help the prettiest of women. Less attractive women can be in relationships with men higher than them. Attractiveness just help get you noticed. If you want an honest opinion on your attractiveness… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/21 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Can y’all tell me your engagement stories while I patiently await for my turn?Well we did brilliant earth which I highly recommend for rings. He was able to propose with a temporary setting then I was able to pick my real setting after. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 11 | Can y’all tell me your engagement stories while I patiently await for my turn?My man was super obvious about it and did it on our vacation (I found the ring right before but didn't tell him). He was so nervous it was cute. He proposed while we were in a private hot springs resort in colorado. Beautiful spot but I wish my engagement photos weren't me in a bikini. But that's what professional engagement photos are for. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/12/20 04:11 PM |
| 9 | Is this BAD gift giving?Yeah that's a toxic relationship. Sure you could've put more effort into the thought but that's not a reason to start a fight. You can't read his mind of what gifts to give him. You tried to give him a practical gift. I think he was trying to use the less than perfect gift as a way to manipulate you. Holding things over someone to control them is unhealthy. It's not normal to guilt and throw a temper tantrum over Xmas gifts as an adult. These behaviors will get worse unless he seriously wants to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/20 07:14 PM |
| 2 | At what weight do get the most attention?5'3 so when I'm heavier it overwhelms my frame | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 07:39 PM |
| 8 | At what weight do get the most attention?Healthy and fertile/youthful (yet shapely/slim) is the most attractive to men. It's why men like longer shiny hair other and feminine traits. This can vary per person by body and muscle composition. Usually it tend to be around bmi 19-21 that is the most desirable (by various studies). I have very fine bones and look the best at bmi 18.5-19.5. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/20 05:32 PM |
| 5 | How do you stay on top of your groceries?We spend $200 for 2 (& 4 small animals) a month. I go shopping 2x month. That includes cleaning supplies and paper goods. I keep my pantry stocked with the basics which tend to be cheap. I look for deals and relatively keep to a list. I have potential meal ideas for at least a week stocked up. We keep kosher which is more expensive so we don't eat as much meat. Most Americans eat way too much meat. Pantry basics: bread products, beans, other carbs/grains (bulgur, barley, polenta), lentils, pasta… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/12/20 02:41 AM |
| 8 | Domestic DisciplineI'm into bdsm/kink so this type of "negative" reinforcement is hot to me but they're definitely not for everyone or normal. Both partners need to feel respected/loved and physical discipline may overstep a lot of boundaries. And that's ok. Most people respond better to positive reinforcement. Bdsm concepts need a lot of trust, respect, and communication (which is also ideal in rp relationships) and can be unhealthy if gone about in an inappropriate way (toxic or in even power dynamic). | /r/RedPillWives | 10/12/20 05:02 AM |
| 29 | Do you believe everyone has a soulmate?I used to. But now I understand it's about compatibility and willingness to grow with the person. There's multiple potential ones and plenty of bad choices. Unfortunately the bad choices can seem like the one for the first couple of months due to hormones and emotions. "The one" is the one that you choose to commit to. People grow and change. It's about long term compatibility, values, goals and respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/20 01:28 AM |
| 3 | I have an honest question about a kink.Maybe figure out what is causing this desire to be humiliated. Sissy kinks don't usually come out of nowhere. I agree if it makes you uncomfortable don't force yourself to do it. Not every sexual fantasy comes true. Although if he's really into it maybe look for a compromise. I don't see why you have to lose respect for him over this kink as there's honestly much worse out there. What about as sexy talk make fun of him for his kinks/kink shame? That make be a middle ground that doesn't make you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 7 | I’m not sure if this topic is encouraged here but I’m hoping it is..This is definitely something you need to communicate with him so you don't end up resenting him. Especially since you have a high libido. Sex is something that is supposed to bring a husband and wife closer together instead of cause issues. What about incorporating sex toys? He can get you to where you're about to finish and then make you cum during sex. I find it very odd that he doesn't make as much effort to keep playing with you after and just leaves you sexually unfulfilled. What about intr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/20 06:22 AM |
| 12 | My favorite color is green— how do I embrace this in the way I dress without looking masculine? Purple is also my most-suited color, how do I combine these without looking like Barney or “off”?Rich dark colors can be feminine. If eggplant really suits you you're probably warm toned. You can find other warm colors that'll suit you as well. Color is only a small part of dressing feminine. Fabric texture, prints, silhouette, details and accessories add to an outfits overall look. Classic delicate jewelry, silk, heels, flowy fabric, lace, florals, and figure hugging dresses are an example. Purple and green together is going to be a more complex look to pull off bc they're contrasting. A d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/20 10:01 PM |
| 3 | How to afford being a SAHM?Yes it's a requirement but https://www.unitedrefuahhs.org/ is a Jewish one. And you can get a cheap catastrophic insurance on top. I currently use a direct primary care which is a good option too. You pay a low monthly fee direct to the doctor and it covers doctors visits, some testing, huge discounts on labs/psych/mri/etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 09:45 PM |
| 20 | Guy I've been talking with for 3 months isn't talking much after we met for the first time and almost did it.He is mad he couldn't take full advantage of you. Run! Major red flags. No means no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/20 09:49 PM |
| 10 | Pheromone spray?I'm curious about pheromones but haven't tried them. What about a desensitizing lube? That will help him last longer without blocking skin to skin contact. Is this a recent thing? Maybe find some other ways to boost his ego and make him feel more masculine outside of the bedroom too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/20 08:24 PM |
| 9 | Today I realized that being hot is a full time job.Great job! It can be hard when you fall into a slump. Just follow a good routine and it's not much effort. Getting yourself back on track can be the hardest part. Eat healthy, workout 2-4x week (best to mix cardio and strength training), have a skincare regimen (there's plenty of affordable high quality options), basic hygiene, know what clothing is flattering on you, nails done, basic makeup techniques & hairstyle that suit your face shape, good posture, a smile, and work on how you present you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 6 | Are men with tattoos a red flag for a rpw lifestyle?Not necessarily as tattoos are more socially acceptable even popular and trendy now. Although I'm not interested in men who need to be loud and express themself in that way. Ink is a huge turn off for me as I prefer more traditional men. I've met plenty of quality men with ink when I worked in a more artsy part of the city. If you're into ink and subcultures that heavy tattoos are a part of there's nothing wrong with that. If you're not maybe examine why you aren't attracting more traditional me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Paying for first dateI definitely agree on the commitment. I don't mind paying for 1 meal occasionally as it makes me feel not obligated/guilty to keep seeing him. But imo less than 10% of the time I'd pay even if I offered to split. Since there's a lot of dates to find someone thats compatible for ltr (for me at least) I like to keep things more casual at first. I also just personally hate dinner/expensive first dates. Yeah if a man wanted me to keep doing dutch after the first date that an immediate flag for me. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/20 12:59 AM |
| 8 | Paying for first dateMost of that is them venting because they've been burned and used as a free meal ticket too many times. Men naturally want to provide but that doesn't mean they'll tolerate being financially used. That being said men paying for cheap coffee date is a great way to weed out women who are just looking for a free meal. Paying for fancy dinners is a better investment after dating/not the first date. I don't get why many women have a entitlement complex about dinners. If he invited you out and the che… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/20 12:10 AM |
| 5 | Not even an unpopular opinion, just one that consistently brushed under the rugI've dated younger and much older. My fiance is 2.5 years older and it's a good difference. I never liked much older men as a teen I but after 25 I've noticed my tastes maturing a little bit. I've had the opposite experience about age. Most women I knew in my late teens-early 20s liked older men but not the average "older man". Usually the "older" men women find attractive are successful, fit, educated, cultured, well dressed, and charming men in their 30s who could date most women his age not s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | The Issue with Dating ManletsI'm 26F engaged to a wonderful man as per my pretty long comment history verifies. I'm familiar with the terms since rp uses incel/black pill terminology. I used these terms to relate to the RP/incel views you were discussing. Although R/PPD (or R/FDS lol) might be a better subreddit for it. Lol even rp thinks a man can make up for being short. No need to attack I didn't call you an incel I'm just trying to have an in-depth conversation about this topic. Rpw has a much different approach to thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/20 06:56 PM |
| 3 | The Issue with Dating Manlets90% of men are shorter than 6'. Women are naturally hypergamous. Yes most women will prefer to get knocked up by some 6'2 Chad who doesn't commit than some loyal hard-working man. That's why grandmothers, the community, religion, and family taught traditional wisdom. To teach women that long term happiness (and for society to function) was found by proper vetting of a husband not just sleeping around with some hot tall guy who you get tingles for. I agree men who are obsessed/overly insecure abo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/20 06:16 PM |
| 3 | The Issue with Dating ManletsA derogatory term for a short man. It used to mean a buff short man but now it's used for any shorter guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/20 05:48 PM |
| 9 | The Issue with Dating ManletsThis post comes off as disrespectful to men and seems like a way to make yourself feel better/humble brag. It's a toxic mindset and not attractive to be this judgemental. There's short and tall men/women with height complexes. A shorter man could be a great captain to a less superficial woman. Short men that are so insecure about themselves and have complexes aren't ideal but not all short men are manlets. Some are chirismatic, successful, attractive, and confident. That being said I'm not attra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 5 | I’m looking to upgrade our bath towels to something super nice, luxurious and fluffy. What brands do y’all suggest? I figured if anybody, you domestic goddesses would know the answer!I just do for towels but I heard you can add up to 1/2c baking soda to clothes as well. Yes just use a bit less of the detergent. Or you can do a monthly process of running the towels through 2 hot washes and through out the month just wash them normally. Skip the detergent on both loads, run them through once with hot water and a cup of vinegar and then again with hot water and a half cup of baking soda. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 08:55 PM |
| 10 | I’m looking to upgrade our bath towels to something super nice, luxurious and fluffy. What brands do y’all suggest? I figured if anybody, you domestic goddesses would know the answer!I don't have a favorite brand yet but with towels it's important how you take care of them. Even fluffy towels become gross if you wash with a lot of detergent and use fabric softener. Use some baking soda to cut done on detergent. Detergent can cause towels to become stiff because of residue. Instead add some vinegar to the washer every once in a while. Look up how to fluff towels for more towel care :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Let’s talk about fragrances!Sephora has some great kits with samplers and a coupon for a bottle that occasionally goes on sale. I haven't found my signature fragrance yet but NEST I've been really liking. Perfume smells different on you after an hour vs just smelling it in store. Before you buy always try it on. I've had too many fragrances I've loved but didn't work well with by body chemistry and ended up smelling too sweet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/20 06:04 AM |
| 3 | How to stop being jealous when you’re in a one sided open relationship?Why are you still posting about him?!? After almost a year you think you'd learn from everyone's advice. Stop lying to yourself, you aren't in a relationship you're a plate. You breakup all the time and he doesn't even want to have sex with you regularly. If a man likes you, you'll know. If not you'll be confused. Please get some help. Have some self respect girl. He's an abusive pedophile who can't get it up for you (he admits to being attracted to 13 year olds) and is never going to change. Ac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/20 04:43 AM |
| 8 | Is it ever worth it to wait for a married man?No lol. This is the type of man who will leave you when you're old/sick/etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Desperate for help - I don't want any intimacy with my husband anymoreAh sorry this just seemed unrealistic bc covid, fast marriage, and this many red flags already. No offense but it's just going to go downhill from here. Are you sure he's not more gay than he's admitting to (maybe even to himself)? I'm not bi-phobic but there are higher risks when your partner prefers genetalia you don't have. What about when you've had kids or get older. Will he still remain attracted to you and loyal? Bodies change. If he's not really attracted to you and is forcing it bc he l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Desperate for help - I don't want any intimacy with my husband anymoreAre you a troll?!? Your post history says he was your bf only 3 months ago. And that he prefers male genetalia plus you'd be open to mmf threesomes. If not a troll and you've been married a month why are you with a guy that's barely settling for you (and acts like a major porn addict)? Part of rpw us proper vetting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Question regarding useful majors for more socially conservative women?If you are in the usa you can qualify for pell grants which will cover a lot of the schooling. Look into job corps as well. Other medical certificates other than nursing are occupational therapy aide/assistant (can work with children with disabilities) & pt aide/assistant. I ended up going to beauty school but being a med tech was next on my list of skills to develop. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 12:36 AM |
| 7 | Question regarding useful majors for more socially conservative women?You can be a nurse in a mental facility, school, or pediatric. You'll deal more with psychology that way. Are you more interesting in abnormal psych, developmental or just psych in general? Bc there's polysomnatic techs that deal with sleep related disorders. Also branches that deal with the elderly or the disabled will have more emphasis on psychology. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Question regarding useful majors for more socially conservative women?Sound like you enjoy helping people. What about 2 year degrees like medical techs or nursing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Can you look feminine wearing jeans, shorts, t-shits and hoodies?While those aren't feminine you can still look feminine in them by adding some feminine elements elsewhere. Don't underestimate the power of accessories like jewelry, hats, silk scarves, bags, and shoes. Wear some makeup, style your hair, skincare routine, keep fit, and maintain a pleasant attitude. If I'm wearing jeans I like to cuff the bottoms and french tuck or crop the shirt to empathize my waist. You don't even need to go too crazy on the makeup and hair even 5-10 minutes can really make a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 03:50 AM |
| 3 | getting it together... maybe?Bc and stress can make it harder to lose weight but at the end of the day it's cico. Move a little more and eat a little healthier. You'd be surprised how small consistent lifestyle changes add up. Eat more fruit/veg/lean protein/whole grains and less processed foods or simple carbohydrates. Fat, fiber, and protein are satiating. Find out what's holding you back. Are you an emotional eater, boredom eater, snacker/grazer, late night munchies, large portions, etc? Drink more water (infuse it if yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/20 08:14 PM |
| 7 | How to go from the breadwinner to not working at all?While I haven't gone through what you've gone through you seem very hard on yourself. Your value isn't based off kids or bringing money in. You've contributed to your best ability and more. Maybe look into redefining success and happiness. Be gentle with yourself. If you have issues with feeling unproductive what about putting your extra time into hobbies? And volunteer work on days that you have the extra energy. Both can bring self satisfaction and feelings of accomplishment. Hobbies don't hav… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 47 | Already acting like a wife when I'm only a girlfriend... Can I change without damaging my relationship?If you're doing 100% of the chores and paying 50% of the bills that's not fair. He should either help out a bit, pay for help (going out to eat/maid), or pay 70/30. Getting married doesn't necessarily turn a relationship traditional. I've seen this happen to most of my married friends. They work full time and come home for a second shift. Playing house when a man doesn't have plans to marry you/already married is usually not a good idea. Also if a traditional relationship is important to you, yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 4 | Social group woes.Women can be very cliquey. Don't bother with them, these aren't the type of women you want to associate with. I think your fiance handled this very respectfully. He stood up for you and put you first. A lot of men don't notice when women act like this. Keep to your own friends and be friendly with your fiance's friends. No need to stoop to their level and be rude. Besides being kind despite how they treat you shows them that you won't let them tear you down. Is there a difference in smv? Or is y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/20 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.He'll pick around it or it's a a completely plant based thing/unable to do that he'll make himself a grilled cheese, cereal, or something similar. He's not demanding about it. It doesn't take much effort or time to make the same dish with no veggies for him, it's more of a health concern. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/08/20 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Hes been wanting to when he gets better health care benefits. He does try new veggies at least once and will eat some if I badger him but I'd rather not since I'm not his mom. | /r/RedPillWives | 01/08/20 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Luckily he'll eat beans no problem. I've never thought of adding cauliflower to beshamel. I like that it'll make the dish less calories as cream based dishes are super heavy. I think pureed veggies might be my best bet. Thanks these are great tips. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission over small things for his benefit?Yeah I try not to infantilize him because then I lose respect. I encourage him to eat healthy and he's gone from processed/fast food 1-3x day to mostly homemade. He definitely has an unhealthy relationship with food bc he used to skip meals and binge. It's definitely a mental blockage as he has food texture issues too. I did as well but I've pushed myself to where it's minimal/I can eat a large variety of foods. I still have an unhealthy relationship with food so I find it hard to judge him hars… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/20 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Oh I like the carrot gravy thickener idea. Any other useful way to increase veg in meals? | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Nobody's perfect. He's hard working, spiritual, affectionate, adventurous, generous, loyal, friendly, etc. He's pushes himself past his comfort zone to improve himself. And that's what matters to me. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Absolutely. I've asked him that question and he agrees too and would be very upset if his child did eat them. That's one of the reasons he pushes himself to try new foods. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.He has add so I wouldn't be surprised if that's plays a part. Especially because he has texture issues too. It's a legitimate fear that he's trying to overcome that's been enabled his whole life. 100% some vegetables if he ate a whole portion it'd come right up from being sick. He legit gags at carrots (yet is fine with marinara sauce that contains them). | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.Yeah it's a turn off for me too and we've discussed it greatly. It's something he works on and tries to improve. I prefer to cook a variety of dishes not just the standard American diet. Lol he actually hates most middle eastern food. He's first gen and proud. Yeah maybe I'll give him a choice between two vegetables. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:32 PM |
| 6 | Is it ever okay to lie by omission? Especially for his benefit in something small.No and he's grateful I look out for his health but since he's healthy on the outside and in his 20s he doesn't think it's that big of an issue. Health is something a lot take for granted in their youth. He's gone from eating fast/processed food 1-3x a day to mostly homemade meals. He admits it's a problem and an irrational fear. Thanks I really like the don't ask/tell for certain dishes. I want him to be able to enjoy something he likes instead of ruin it for him. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/07/20 02:28 PM |
| 2 | How do you take care of hair ‘down there’?There’s a couple tender spots but it hurts much less than the underarms. Yes it’s kinda like a rubber band but the outer bikini spot isn’t too sensitive. There’s a cool feeling first which helps numb it. Plus it’s over with in less than a minute and doesn’t hurt after. Just take some pain meds before. Hurts like waxing and is over with just as fast. They’re used to people moving a bit. I’ve never used those home machines but you can check online whether it’ll work down there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/20 05:13 AM |
| 47 | How do you take care of hair ‘down there’?Get laser hair removal! I got my bikini line done and it’s so worth it. Full bikini is another option if you want a more groomed look. Groupon has laser hair for an affordable price. Then you’ll need touch ups 1-2x year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/20 05:04 AM |
| 24 | How do you ladies deal with anxiety around knowing men almost unanimously prefer women in their early twentiesWife goggles are also a thing. As long as you take care of yourself- dress well, skincare, eat right, workout, not get fat, etc- and take care of him you should have no reason to be anxious. If you don’t want your man watching porn you have to establish that boundary and communicate your views on it. Some men are addicted some men won’t care giving it up. I’m in my mid 20s but look much younger. I worry about the same but my man is religious, doesn’t watch porn, female friends, or have social me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/20 02:23 AM |
| 15 | Smv for women of color?People may have racial preferences which can lower/raise your smv but on average it should be similar. Beauty/high sexual value is found in every race. Individual features make up a part of smv while there’s some things within your control too (hair, nails, skin, fitness, clothes, etc). Work on what you can control and don’t stress what you can’t. Edit: I lurked your profile and yes you are very pretty :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/20 02:35 AM |
| 0 | I honestly believe that most brunette women lose out by not dyeing their hair blond or red...Blondes are seen as more youthful and fun but also dumber and easier. Brunettes are viewed as more attractive yet cold and standoffish. Not all attention is good attention. Especially since a bad dye job gives off the impression of being low value. Finding the right color (and hue) to flatter your coloring isn’t the easiest so most who box dye their hair end up with something unnatural. Professional blonde jobs look nice but then if you don’t take care of the roots and toning it fake blonde look… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/20 10:50 PM |
| 3 | Dress and skirt recommendations?Shein has a maternity line. They have many feminine styles with decent quality for cheap. Just look at reviews and the sizing first. That way you can invest in better pieces after the baby weight comes off. It’s especially important to feel beautiful after a child. I’m huge into thrifting and local community clothing swaps. Many places are still doing their Memorial Day sales so I’d try to take advantage of that. Asos, boohoo, h&m, and target have trendy maternity lines too. Feminine details, fl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/20 06:07 PM |
| 4 | Views on Comestic surgery?I do agree you’re a little young too. Cosmetic surgery can be a slippery slope when you don’t work on your insecurities. Fixating on personal appearance excessively isn’t healthy. When I was younger I wanted a boob job but my breasts are my fiancé’s favorite shape and size so I would’ve regretted such a rash decision when younger (he hates fake too). Your man finds you attractive so it seems pointless to him for you to change but if it’s causing you extreme emotional distress minor temporary cos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 07:00 PM |
| 3 | Hello?You ok? Edit: lol post history indicates troll. I’m ngl this would be quite funny if original and could be a copy pasta but doesn’t apply to the subs rules so it’ll probably be removed soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 06:33 PM |
| 10 | Translation. I have an over inflated ego, I fuck anything that piques my interest. I don't have a job, so down for last minute Dubai trips, I have some money in my bank account from the last guy to but in me. I need a bailout because I have a vagina. Also. If you're a LVM, I will be mean to youNot even just poorly done facetune. How else will she try to trick you she’s curvy not fat? And if she blesses you with a date (paid 100% by you being the goddess she is) and you say anything about why she looks 30+ lbs heavier with caked makeup on, you just aren’t man enough to handle a strong independent woman. Who wants to bet she’ll be posting again in a year with 1 child who is her world and no baby daddy to be found? | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/05/20 06:06 AM |
| 12 | I’m leaving my husbandIf you knew he cheated on all those other women why did you stay and have 3 kids with him? Vetting is part of rpw philosophy. It shows insecurity by not respecting yourself enough. Edit; typo/grammar | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 03:01 AM |
| 14 | I’m leaving my husbandI’m sorry you had to go through this experience I can’t imagine how heartbreaking this is. This will probably be downvoted because it’s harsh. The chances of you finding a successful, attractive, kind, mature, and family oriented man who doesn’t mind a large multiple fathers premade biracial family is slim. A quality man isn’t going to want to save you from your baggage, financial burdens, and bad decisions. This is why venting is one of the most important tasks of young women nowadays. Vetting … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Not sure about this kinkThanks for this perspective:) yeah I guess I was kink shaming. Good point I didn’t look at it that way about how it would hurt or offend him. It would’ve been better if I said it’s a bit too kinky for her/most people instead. Normal is too subjective to each persons experiences anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 06:28 PM |
| 15 | Not sure about this kinkAh I figured it was porn. Some things are sexier when they’re off limits or imagination. I’ve definitely tried some kinky things that were only enjoyable in my head and not when doing them. Explain to him it makes you feel really uncomfortable and that it’s not ok to pressure you. It’s not a normal kink it’s a trend rn. He can’t expect you to fulfill all his fantasies. What about using this as a tease by using it for sex talk but no touching? Maybe he likes the taboo/dirty aspect of it and this … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 07:37 AM |
| 26 | Not sure about this kinkThats a no from me too. If it would make you lose respect for him don’t do it. But if you’ve done it in the past I could understand him being hurt. What about a compromise like using sex toy/finger around the rim with lube or in the shower. That way he can enjoy it while you don’t have to degrade yourself either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 04:01 AM |
| 8 | OrbitersThat’s not an orbiter. An orbiter is someone who is in the friend/acquaintance zone who is obsessive, needy, and pathetic (simps) in order to try to date you/get in your pants. Either way don’t waste your time with this guy. You are worth so much more. Quite frankly, he sees you as a last resort/option when convenient for him. That’s not the basis of a caring, loving relationship. You need someone who is mature enough to not string you along for his ego or physical desires. Edit: if you have to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 06:11 AM |
| 2 | How to please your husband in the bedroom.Literally an hour ago you posted you’ll never love another man bc you’re obsessed with TheodorePeterJames yet you claim to have lots of emotional intimacy. It’s easy to please the same man the first 1000 times. You learn his body and what he likes. Keeping the spark and sexual desire when routine and life sets in is the harder part. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/03/20 04:09 AM |
| 5 | How to please your husband in the bedroom.You’re 20, single, and creepily obsessed with some actor yet giving advice redpill advice on how to please your husband in bed?!? Please don’t! This subreddit gets fetishized enough. Btw sex shouldn’t hurt after the first couple times (unless you want it to/bdsm). If your husband enjoys causing discomfort that’s an issue that should be addressed. Most men find it sexy when their girl is enjoys sex. Faking pleasure when in pain is a huge disrespect to their masculine ego imo. Foreplay and lube he… | /r/RedPillWives | 31/03/20 03:59 AM |
| 0 | How do you get rid of black heads?I’m not arguing that I’m just saying I’m professionally educated with additional education that I spent years on and following standard procedure for facials. Let’s agree to disagree :) I understand you disagree with modern protocols for facials and I know I won’t change your mind on it. A google search on professional sites will work. Although I do admit I prefer chemical exfoliation myself but it tends to intimidate people new to skincare. And yeah people do over manual exfoliate way too much.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | How do you get rid of black heads?Where did you get this info from? Online? No need to be so aggressive. Yes, I’m a licensed professional who has great skin by up-keeping it myself. 1. I meant optional as tone after cleaning. I agree toner is not a cleansing solution. 2. Proven false. Literally there’s many studies and lawsuits about how a gentle manual exfoliation does not cause micro tears. And in spas manual exfoliation is regularly used. 3. Sorry for my in-concise language. While it doesn’t literally open up the pore it make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 12:32 AM |
| 9 | How do you get rid of black heads?Personally I’d recommend getting a facial every season. If you can’t you can do your own facial at home to remove some as long as your skin isn’t too congested. Facial steps: Cleanse face (opt: toner) Exfoliate (manual with a scrub or chemical with an enzyme). Steam for 10-15 mins IMPORTANT!!! This opens up the pores. You can put your face and a towel over a large bowl of hot water if you don’t want to purchase a steamer. Use a blackhead removal tool ($5 on amazon) or your fingers to remove blac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/20 04:12 AM |
| 10 | [Advice] Mean girl at work, also how not to become the older bitter woman?What a bitch! She’s gonna have a major fall from grace when she gets older and can’t use her looks like this. She has major issues and probably won’t work on them until it’s too late for her. My best advice is just be overly feminine and sweet. Do the whole kill them with kindness southern style. It’ll make you seem more likable and it’ll bother her too. Maybe then she’ll back off because she won’t be getting the reaction she wants. You’re playing into her games. Just stop playing. You can’t do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 07:56 PM |
| 9 | These Guy's only date women who are dress size 8, are spawn of Satan according to the newspaper reporting.A size 8 uk is a size 4 US. Which for a lot of women is a good ideal size. US 8 is already a bit chubby for most even with vanity sizing (unless she is tall/larger boned). | /r/MGTOW | 06/01/20 04:38 PM |
| 213 | Trad-thot thinks that she will scoop up all the trad-cucks by speaking a language that is music to their ears. She thinks she can pretend to be a 50’s housewife while John Tradcuck works hard and make money, while the neighborhood Chad’s run trains on her conservative pussy. Aren’t you gonna man up?When did 1950s housewives have 2 bastard children?!? The whole chivalry concept wasn’t given to the town prostitutes only to women with class and dignity. Besides those prostitutes got paid and knew their value she’s just delusional. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 23/12/19 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Any other Jewish women here?I think orthodox Judaism/Christianity/Catholicism teachings are red pill so it just helps me learn to live a more religious lifestyle. Mostly learning to stfu, let my captain lead, embracing my feminine side, and learning why I do things. I’ve caused a lot of my own emotional distress and while a serial monogamist I have serious hypergamous tendencies. It’s definitely hard for me to completely let go of controlling things and trust but I’m much happier than in any of my previous relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Any other Jewish women here?Spot on with mostly Sephardic. That probably makes a big cultural difference. I was initially looking to marry ashkenazim but ended up with an Israeli. You really aren’t missing much. Wynwood, my fave spot, is even starting to become touristy and they have major development plans this upcoming year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Any other Jewish women here?Definitely true. Most women my age who are religious may not be fully feminist but are very progress and liberal. I agree it’s not as much as their peers but I shy away from talking about red pill in front of a lot of religious women because it’s offensive to submit to your husband apparently. Although I live in the Miami area which is probably a lot different from ny or Israel. Many of the religious here aren’t getting married young, very disrespectful to their husbands, high divorce rate, affa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 12:03 AM |
| 9 | Any other Jewish women here?With how things are going lately I 100% understand why people are becoming more religious. We have more luxuries and the ability to FaceTime someone across the world but we’re more disconnected as a society. It’s a simpler life with focus on what’s important instead of all these unnecessary distractions and hedonistic ways. I like my tv and good out too much but I see the appeal. One of the things that drew me to my fiancé is he was very forward with wanting a SAHM and traditional gender roles. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 11:39 PM |
| 17 | Any other Jewish women here?👋🏻I hope you had a good shabbos:) I’m not completely religious yet but me and my fiancé are trying to be orthodox in 2020. Baby steps so we don’t burn out. Yeah being Jewish is quite a minority since most Jews are hardcore feminists (except for orthodox and even then). If you like being ultra orthodox I don’t get why people are so against it. Honestly secular culture is more harmful and dangerous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Housewives/SAHMs and domestic tasksI’m recently engaged but have been off/on being domestic and waitressing. Now Im about to work pt at his family’s company to help out. I met him while waitressing full time and taking college course at night. My fiancé was very forward with that goal and expectation when he first asked me out. He’s the youngest of 4 and his parents are much older which I think plays a huge part in his want for a more traditional relationship. Also his mother is a sahm who occasionally worked as an elementary tea… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/12/19 04:34 PM |
| 20 | How do you keep yourself looking presentable?Makeup-microbladed brows & light natural makeup unless going out Clothes- fits, matched with shoes/accessories, usually a dress or skirt but around the house I’ll wear shorts, dressed for the occasion, also I always have to wear matching bra/panties bc it makes me feel put together Body-workout 2h week, eat decent, spritz of perfume Nails- painted or clean/trimmed Hair- easy low maintenance style, hair masks & good shampoo/conditioner 3x week, haircuts 2x year, self toning as needed. If going ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Help me reconcile lifting with my goal aesthetics please!Yeah :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 11:04 PM |
| 11 | Help me reconcile lifting with my goal aesthetics please!First of all the pics are photoshopped. Look at the blurriness around the waist. She doesn’t even looks like this. A lot of this is also posing. Plus she’s taking these pics on morning skinny. Once you drink water this definition goes away. Being tan like she is helps a lot too for muscle definition. There’s tons of tips and tricks like lighting and eating no carb for a couple days to get picture ready. Everyone has a different body composition so where you lose/gain weight will be different and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:17 PM |
| 10 | Can a RPW be single forever?lol you aren’t doomed to be a bitter spinster if you don’t find a guy. However, a huge part of emotional satisfaction for women is finding a suitable partner to share life and raise children with. Especially when older when looks fade and life is about emotional connections. You can still live a happy emotionally fulfilling life without it by focusing on yourself, friends, family, the community, hobbies, pets, volunteering, etc. Don’t be so hard on yourself most women get married and have childr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 09:24 PM |
| 8 | ConendrumI converted to Judaism too (conservative working on orthodox). My fiancé’s family is all orthodox and I live in an orthodox community. I say this with many years of experience that there is 100% certainty that you will not be allowed to marry him under Orthodox supervision. As a convert you need proof that he’s not a Cohen before you can get married. Even conservative probably won’t. Reform might. The Orthodox Beit Din may not even allow you to convert under the circumstances right now. You’ll h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 06:36 PM |
| 16 | Partner read my dream journal and now wants to date other women?I’d be hurt and frustrated too. His reaction was not acceptable. It’s hard to admit even your best may not be what he’s looking for long term. If a guy wants you he’ll let you know. When a guy is into you seriously he doesn’t ignore you for days on end and just abruptly break up like this. The fact he’s able to move on without a second thought, hasn’t asked you to clarify things, & did this over text just doesn’t seem like he wants this relationship to work. He might’ve been looking for an out/a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Let's talk about nails!I love gel especially for more delicate shapes like oval. I can’t keep regular polish on my for more than 3 days without chipping because I’m very active. I have lean fingers so I do a shorter squoval usually since it’s a flattering shape. Square is nice but the corners snag. Get a lighter or nude color if you want to go 3 weeks without getting it off since those don’t show the grow out lines as much. Groupon usually has great deals on gel manis. Small luxuries like this are a nice way to treat … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 05:20 PM |
| 2 | New wardrobeCheck out r/frugalfemalefashion and they have links to great deals and coupons. I’ve used thredup a couple times but prefer in person thrift stores in the richer part of town. Or clothing swaps/hand me downs from friends. H&M, Zara, Marshall’s, TJ Maxx, F21, & Abercrombie are my go tos but I’m a little younger. I know most hate on f21 for quality but I’ve had 0 issues with them (I wash on delicate cycle and hang dry). Edit: tj maxx has a lot of Calvin Klein for about $20-25 per dress and is supe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Would you engage in a one sided open relationship and if not why? [serious question - think about it and do not lie]I could have an occasional fun flings with women and be fine as I’m not romantically attracted to women. That would be a compromise I could make if he was into sharing me. It’s too beta and unattractive to me for him to want to share me with men. Maybe going to bdsm partys and having fun but I’d feel too much guilt sleeping with men. I’d just end up wishing whatever guy I’m with is him and being resentful it isn’t. I’d end up losing my respect for him and end up falling out of love if I was slee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Is preselection (and the opposite) true?I agree, I want my man more when other girls check him out or desire him. It’s a reason I like to dress up and have fancy nights on the town to keep the spark going. It’s reminds me not take him for granted and what a catch he is. I like the fact that he still chooses me and it validates that we are both desirable (we both get hit on a lot). As for the opposite I used to think that way when I was younger and more immature but now I think it reflects more on the character of the cheater. But mayb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalIf you strongly identify with goth subculture you don’t have to change it 100% to become feminine it just narrows your dating pool. A goth light look where you can clean up nicely can be popular with men they might just be intimidated by you. That’s where you need to work on developing charm and being approachable. I’ve met plenty of cute girly goths who wear black knee length lacy dresses, tights, matching accessories and Mary Jane heels. Being feminine is also how you act and carry yourself. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 02:03 AM |
| 2 | How did you meet your boyfriend/husband?I worked at his friends restaurant as a waitress. His family has their business meeting there so I was familiar with his whole family before I met him funny enough. He fell in love at first sight but was too afraid to ask me out at first. He kept coming back to talk to me until he gave me his number and asked if I wanted to go bowling with him. I didn’t view him as a potential partner at first bc I was too out of his league and initially friend zoned him. But before our date he cut his way too l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 03:20 AM |
| 9 | What are your favorite physical appearance pro tips?microblading (I had a scar on one brow and this made a huge difference), eyebrow pencilling, or eyebrow tint. dress for your body shape make sure your clothes are well kept, wrinkle free, and clean get plenty of sleep & water perfume: an underrated accessory that men do notice reduce stress! Seriously being stressed all the time ages you and is bad for health. I like to exercise for my stress but there’s plenty of creative outlets or mindfulness apps make sure your nails are nice. They don’t nee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Yes, men do prefer blondesThere’s multiple studies that contradict it too. Maybe don’t take what tinder guys find attractive as what is most attractive for ltr. Blonde hair girls are considered more fun, youthful, and easier but are considered dumber and worse mothers. Brunettes are seen as more beautiful yet colder/more unapproachable while redheads are fiery. Color theory is important. Nothing looks as bad as unnatural blonde or not taken care of (toning and root touch up).And on some features/skin color/eye color blon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 01:20 AM |
| 5 | How much does physical appearance matter?A lot! Otherwise it’s just friendship. They don’t have to be the hottest you’ve seen but this is going to be the person you commit yourself to sexually so choose wisely. I wasn’t as sexually attracted to my man at first (he let himself go a bit and I just got out of a relationship and other issues that I should’ve gone back into nun mode for) but objectively I could tell that he had good features and was wanting to work on himself. Before the first date he shaved and got a haircut. If he hadn’t … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Any ideas for healthy and quick-to-prepare breakfasts and lunches?I pack my bf lunches daily (he used to eat fast food daily). I often make lunches more snacky but portion controlled and healthier options. He’s not ready to give up chips and heavily processed foods so I buy a big bag and baggies. I always add a piece of fruit and beverage. Lunch ideas- sandwiches, hummus w/veggies and pita chips, bagel w/cc (can add lox), cottage cheese w/pretzels, wraps, salads, pasta salads, ants on a log, parfaits (yogurt, granola, & fruit), charcuterie style board (cheese,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Feminine style on a budget?Thred up or thrift stores! Thred up has a coupon for your first time too (30-40% off) and thrift stores will have deal days. Thrift doesn’t mean bad condition I frequently find nwt and barely worn dresses. For $20 you can get yourself 2 outfits with some accessories. My favorite thing about dresses is some can fit whether you gain or lose 4 sizes. Just wear with a cute thin belt/waist belt as you lose weight. For skincare I recommend the ordinary and maybe get a subscription box like allure for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Oof or what about the I drank too many beers stomach bloat. Or the I ate a normal restaurant meal food baby. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/19 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Yeah sometimes I wish I was 5’7 just so I can eat more. Our tdee is lower bc we don’t need as much food 😭 being very thin and short makes me look much younger so I’d say it increases my smv. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/19 04:18 PM |
| 4 | Going to the salon?I’m a full specialist (nail tech & esthetician) so I do a lot myself. Doing it on yourself is just practice and putting the effort to learn. It’s usually cheaper to get the salon services once a month or two and just do the upkeep yourself. You deserve to be spoiled 💕 if price is an issue check Groupon or other discounts. You could totally do things at home and look great just increase what you do. I’ve had salons mess my stuff up too. My beauty maintenance $415/year $35 month: Brows: microblade… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/19 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Fun Date Night Ideas• paint nights at home with yt classes • cook a fancy meal or dessert from scratch together • movies and popcorn • board/card game night (invite another couple over or do with a beer flight) • wine tasting with a paper for notes and complimentary foods • online dance class/yt • spa night- pamper and massage each other | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/19 09:47 PM |
| 10 | Feminine Nail ColorsThe right nude can be quite feminine, pinks are a classic, ombres, white is best for summer, etc. My absolute favorite is a gel gold or silver since I can match it with jewelry and it stays for weeks. For regular nail polish a simple glitter can look lasts long plus can be either really soft feminine subtle with one coat or dramatic girly with 3. Also it’s not just the nail color but the length and shape. I have petite long thin finger so a square, squoval, almond and oval are my go to. Someone … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 11:31 PM |
| 4 | How do I deal with my lingering anger?Aren’t you in a poly relationship with multiple partners? The advice here is usually for monogamous long term relationship strategies. Being married to someone with multiple partners can have its unique sets of challenges. Communicating is very important in poly and any relationships so this is definitely some red flags. Maybe focus on yourself and give him some space to miss you. Be extra nice despite his rudeness. If after a month of you being nicer, dressing more feminine, taking care of him … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Do you try to get friends to take the RP?Not particularly since I don’t have any female friends that are BP. More traditional views are common among semi religious circles. I’m not talking about the church every Sunday crowd either but early/mid 20s partying professionals too. If I did idk maybe slowly if they’re having issues with finding someone but wrp can be controversial and I’d rather not lose a friendship on unsolicited advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Since many of you men proved they want a skinny girl who fasts herself to stay skinny, who would you consider for LTR among these 2?Are you measuring your food? Sometimes people may think they’re only eating 1200 but the calories sneak in. A little tan of butter, 15g larger serving size than listed, a drink, an uncounted handful of snacks, etc add up. I’m a size 0 5’3 105 and my tdee is 1600 with light exercises 2-3x weekly. To not be losing at 1200 you are not eating 1200. You don’t defy physics. Your tdee is around 1600-1900. Weightloss is slow and gradual. You don’t need to skip meals but start tracking better. Your math … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 04:39 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffShop sales! Both of us but we eat vegetarian in the house for religious reasons. But when I did eat meat I spent the same but included bulk buys of sale ground beef, lunch meats, and chicken. I think eating meat can actually be a hint cheaper to eat healthy. I have the basics at home from other sales (dry pasta, rice, herbs/spices, flour, sugar, potatoes, onion, oil, butter, ice cream, pb, granola, flax, almond flour, salsa, frozen pizza, frozen cheese, hummus, snacks, etc) so I just stock up du… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 06:08 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffHaving a therapist is a great luxury. Most successful people have one. Having someone to vent to and help processs things is not only great for relieving stress from your partner but it can also help your self esteem/self worth. Find a good therapist. I was going to one for emdr for some past trauma and while it did help me my therapist was super hardcore liberal. She left her husband after 40 years to marry a woman. She would make me slightly uncomfortable with too many political discussions. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 03:23 AM |
| – | Own Your StuffOopsies: •being too argumentative/dominant/easily upset/fighting w/bf •emotional connection issues •need to tidy up more Monthly goals: •cheaper date nights- we just bought Groupon dance classes for Tuesday & free art gallery/museums visits with library card •healthy/cheap meal planning-I have the whole week meals planned out & grocery shopping tomorrow under $40/w. Per bfs request a smoothie a day too. •keep fit- I’ve gone to the gym/ballet class/biking 3x week this month be more social with hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 03:17 AM |
| 1 | [Advice] What's your hair routine like? Any secrets, tips, etc?I don’t put much effort into my hair (fine past shoulder) so I make sure it gets a low maintenance style every 6-12 months by a professional. At least cut the dead ends off every 6 months. I refresh the color with temporary hair dyes when wanting to have a more in trend color. Hair should be fun. Be realistic with yourself. Some styles look good but if you don’t take the time and effort to style it daily then a lower maintenance hairstyle would be more flattering. And find a style/color that sui… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 01:49 AM |
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