The problem with this forum is that it is only advice on behaviour and a way of being.

But diet and physiology precede behaviour, so it is difficult to tell someone to be a certain way without the prerequisites. I don't believe I can tell someone to stop caring and relax and be alpha and they become this way. The problem is you end up faking it, trying to be someone you are not based on advice from a self help book.

Now where does the pharmaceutical drug memantine fit into this?

This drug works by shutting down certain receptors and upregulating certain other ones. It expands the mind fantastically, like LSD but in a more controlled way. It slows down time in a way, you stop caring, the fear goes away and you start to feel real empathy and thoughtfulness. It let's you become who really are without faking it.

There is another similar substance called Theanine - found in green tea - Monks drink it before meditating. This should give you a clue what it does to your brain.

However with memantine, you genuinely feel a warmth and empathy towards yourself and the world. It can make you reflect on your life and who you are. Things just are the way they are - you don't care about the world - but it's a genuine feeling, not like "I am pretending not to care to look cool", it's a feeling in your body that is difficult to describe.

I am not advocating drug use.

Obviously this is a controversial issue. Ignore this advice if you want.