Am I wrong to not want to have many girls on the go?

CopperFox3c · 2016-09-23T14:54:01+00:00

I generally never have more than 2 plates at one time. Even though I could. I will still date here and there on the side, and have old plates or FBs come back around sometimes.

Especially as you get older (I'm in my mid-30's), abundance mentality becomes about your limited time. You have to choose wisely what to spend it on. And the reality is if you are successful and have a full life, you only have so much time for women.

longschlong12 · 2016-09-23T13:06:35+00:00

I understand how you feel, that's why you tell these plates that you are not exclusive to them.

Remember this girls are also seeing other men and riding the CC. Nothing wrong with knowing what you want and if these bitches don't like that they can leave

killthehamster · 2016-09-23T13:05:58+00:00

I feel guilt about it

Because you're being a moralising faggot.

I know about abundance mentality

Good, keep that and you'll be fine

FrameWalker · 2016-09-23T15:22:19+00:00

Many prefer dating one girl at a time. Do it out of preference not out of "guilt."

Most girls are not LTR material - it's because they can't be faithful, weaponize sex, and rapidly lose desire. Spinning plates mitigates these risks - if you're horny there's always girl 2/3/4 on speed-dial if girl 1 is busy/bitchy/dumped you. You can go on without missing a beat.

monkey_typist · 2016-09-23T19:00:25+00:00

That's for you to answer. As long as you don't do anything illegal, there is no dating police, no one to throw you in dating jail, because there are no dating laws. You can be as nice or as much of an asshole as you want. The only thing you have to answer to, is your own conscience.

If you are on the overbearing conscience side, sorry bro, you are a good person, it's good for society to have people like you, but it will suck for you as an individual, because your conscience will be limiting many potential strategies that may make success a bit easier.

Like it or not, whether it's a good thing or not, whether it's moral or not, our current society benefits people with low conscience. This exists in politics, business world, not just the dating scene. This is the system. So from a personal success stand point, it's better to be a sociopath with no conscience.

But if there's anything that you cannot cheat, it's your conscience. It's with you at all times, looking at everything you do. The best you can do is to negotiate with your conscience to find some sort of acceptable middle ground. If you can't, then don't do it. Never piss off your own conscience, you will pay for it.

Ultimately unless you are trying to reach some sort of number goal, you only have one dick, and there are only so many women you can stick it in. As long as you are getting successes, and your conscience isn't starting a mutiny, there are more important things in life to worry about.

If you are one girl kind of guy, then do that. Just don't be all surprised when you are only one of three she's seeing. Remember, that's the system. Casual means casual.

Edit: One more thing. I've seen this line of thinking like yours more in women than in men. What some women do, is they will date multiple men, but only be sexually active with one. That may be sort of a "compromise" that your conscience may accept. Just because there are so many benefits to seeing multiple partners at the same time, it'd be great if you could navigate your conscience somehow. And just to state the obvious, my reply applies to casual dating only, which I assume is the situation you are in.

graffix13 · 2016-09-23T14:53:57+00:00

If you only have time for 2 plates, then you only have time for 2 plates. It's not rocket science. Personally for me, anything more than 3 plates is too much due to the time invested to keep them spinning. Some guys can spin 5+.

Do what works best for you.

Expectations1 · 2016-09-23T20:54:03+00:00

Depends if youre a beta cuck to that one girl. Even rollo is faithfully married.

adam_varg · 2016-09-23T17:11:59+00:00

You should be doing what is best for you.

Rule of thumb here is to have multiple plates, fwbs or whatever. If it doesnt suit you, why do it? Its not like you can get enough experience or abudance mentality while being serial monogamist.

Redpill is guidelines, toolbox if you want. What it is definetely not is dogma. Dont listen to knuckleheads who act like there is one twue way.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-09-23T17:16:43+00:00

I can't handle more than 3 plates a week and maybe one date, I need to sleep, train and tend to other shit in my life.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-09-23T19:55:12+00:00

Plates shouldn't be high maintenance. You should be able to go on about your life and not worry about them, maybe set up meeting times during the weekends when you want to have a little fun.

Take time for yourself. Space out your plate time, see them less frequently and focus on you more. For example, I see one plate once every two weeks to a month, and another maybe once a month when we feel like "catching up." Another's long distance for when I need to get away for the weekend, so even less frequently. Yeah they text me and tease me and I tease back, but I've set these healthy boundaries to help eliminate distractions, chances of oneitis, chances of them getting too attached.

Now if you're a one-girl man, hey you go for what you want, but chances are you're just looking for a unicorn. World doesn't work that way. Accept reality and mold yourself to it. Keep screwing, maybe you'll screw yourself out of that guilty mentality. Remember, we're all trying to screw a bunch of women, it's our nature as men.

Title	Am I wrong to not want to have many girls on the go?
Author	Temjin810
Upvotes	1
Comments	12
Date	September 23, 2016 12:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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