Information overload, not sure where to begin. Looking to improve my luck with women

HighCaliberMale · 2017-08-30T16:18:56+00:00

Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? If you freeze up like that it probably means you put others' needs before your own.

refusewool · 2017-08-30T16:34:08+00:00

Seems like the next logical step for you is the Book of Pook

Edit: followed by Models by Manson

GlutenFreeVegan · 2017-08-30T17:17:47+00:00

take a deep breath and relax. This is life long marathon, not a race. You don't need to put a gun to your own head and force yourself to binge on everything. In a 20-30 year span, a week of learning is going to be insignificant so dont worry.

that being said, you're going to realize a few things: 1) taking actions will give you more feedback than books ever will 2) a lot of advice people give you on here and /r/trp should be taken with a grain of a salt.

things like: talk with a slow low voice, remember to keep eye contact, escalate, etc are all symptoms of being a high value individual. You can put all the pieces together and still be a person with low self esteem and low value, but the opposite won't be true.

If there's anything to take away from trp it's that you need to realize that no matter what anyone tells you, if you treat others with the same respect you expect them to treat you, then you as a human being should not be judged negatively. For all you know, that hb9 girl who thinks youre a creep could've spent her entire life judging others while contributing nothing to the world. Her looks which will fade could literally be the only redeem factor she has. And that goes for everyone, not just women. Learn to accept yourself and once you've done that, improve the things you want to improve. When you focus on you, your closest family members, and friends, you're going to naturally strip away a lot of that anxiety because you'll begin to see everyone else as fellow humans.

MattyAnon · 2017-08-30T17:37:36+00:00

The issue is that i always, without fail, freeze up when talking to girls in a one-on-one situation. My brain literally crashes to desktop.

This is a stress response (panic! freeze!) coupled with pressure to "DONT SAY THE WRONG THING", causing you to say nothing.

I'm just looking for the RIGHT literature of the 1000's of books out there that will hopefully help me get a handle on the situation

There is none, because what you need is practice and relaxation and to work up to this. It's standard (although bad) approach anxiety.

There's lots of info about this. Mostly though you need to work up to dealing with this. Find situations you CAN do... (can you ask a girl the time? can you ask how much a shirt is?)... then ease up gradually into harder things while trying to stay relaxed.

You'll get there.

Title	Information overload, not sure where to begin. Looking to improve my luck with women
Author	GucciMarxist
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	August 30, 2017 4:14 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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