Hey there, first of all thank you for reading this. I made a throwaway account since I don‘t want this to be linked to my main one.

Around June my ex of almost 3 years betrayed me after 2 years of distance relationship. We meet while she was still living in my same town and fell in love with each other. For her College she had to move away for 3 years and we decided to give it a try anyway since we would be only 3 hours apart. Everything was going well, we never fighted and managed to see each other almost every second week. Around a year ago she started implying that she wanted to give it a try and have an open relationship. Being a more „traditional“ kind of guy i didn‘t want to go through with it.

At the beginning of the relationship we had a huge amount of sex, sometimes also 5/6 times a day, but by the end it was only 1/2 times a day. She started complaining that it was not enough for her and she wanted more. Since I work full time to pay my bills and finance my study, I had days where I really wasn‘t in the mood, and everytime something like that happened she made a scene or started crying. That is where I started feeling obligated to have sex everyday. So even if sometimes I didn‘t want to I had sex anyway, but after I while I started loosing interest in it cause it felt more like a job than pleasure evertime I was not in the mood after a long day at work. I started doubting of my self, as if I was not good enough and I was doing something wrong.

I always commitv 100% of my self to the relationship, I am a super chilled dude and I always like to be there for my partner. This relationship made me become like this. Before that I was kind of a jerk, lying to get women in bed and ghosting them after I had enough. I had my fair share of sex but this relationship made me doubt of my self and my sexual performance.

After she betrayed me and we broke up I started again going on Tinder and had like 3/4 dates a week to kinda distract my self. Most of them were good but the problem is that I somehow can‘t have sex anymore.

We get to my place, everything is right but I can‘t get a boner. Since June I had 5 women spend the night here, but I could not have sex with any of them. Sometimes I would get a boner but as soon as we start having sex it would become flaccid again after 2/3 min.

This is destroying me. I am a good guy, even though I wasn‘t up to a couple of years ago I would just like to fall in love and have a normal relationship again.

I am a good dancer, and when I am clubbing I usually get attention from girls on the dancefloor, but now I am afraid to even speak with them because I know that if things would work out and I would be able to get one to my place, I wouldn‘t be able to have sex and I would disappoint her.

I don‘t know what to do, I hope some of you might have a good tip or two for me

Thank you for reading this