Going to be a long post. If you are going to read this, thanks; I'll be as thorough as possible.

I'm a 30yo male. I live in Europe. I'm an introvert (myers briggs-wise, I'm an INTJ, aka Architect). I had a shitty childhood, got bullied hard in mid and high school, was weak and played video games more than anything else. You can easily imagine how it shaped me into a massive loser.

At 20 I, could not speak to a girl (attractive or not) without becoming tomato-red and sweating sauna-like.

Got my first relationship and lost my virginity at 23. I still find that hard to believe as I was ridiculously beta at that time, and the girl was a solid 7 and quite popular. She dumped me a few weeks later.

23-26 are not interesting, worked some dead-end jobs, did fuck all with my life and didn't get any success with women.

At 27 I moved with my father to Vietnam. This year changed me a lot. It should be common knowledge but girls from SEA are ridiculously easy, good-looking and very feminine. I stayed there for seven months and got laid with 25-30 different girls. All were very attractive, one was a model I met on a film set (9/10), one was rich and payed for everything. Needless to say it was a huge confidence boost. The same year I also started my business (as I was tired of working shitty jobs for scraps) and started making good money, earning my independence.

28 years old, moved back to my home country to focus more on my business. Worked 15hours a day for 8 months, didn't give a shit about going out or meeting people. I payed for sex a lot with escorts as my time was way more valuable than my cash. Ended up dating one of them (as in, not paying for sex anymore and doing stuff with each other) for a few months. Bought plenty of useless stuff, got a motorcycle license, a cool motorcycle, and decided to move to Romania in December.

Arrived in Romania, got myself an awesome flat, business was blooming. I made more than 10 times what local made. Everything was aligned to really live an awesome life. Except that I never worked on my social skills. And my social skills are shit.

Hanged out with some foreign students, got some tinder dates and lays, fell in love with a super hot romanian lass but got rejected. Tried to kill myself one week after that by swallowing pills and ended up in the ER. I had to move back to my home country to get psychiatric counseling and so-on. I will not elaborate, but I'm much more stable now, although I'm still prone to the occasional depressive feelings.

Resumed my studies at 29 (last year), and met a really hot 19yo in college. Stayed together for 2-3 months but dumped her because I was tremendously bored with her. Never having experienced the whole college-romance stuff, it was really important for me to go through that, and in a way it filled some hole inside as I always had regrets of never having experienced it. So it was fulfilling.

And here I am now. Since my suicide attempt I've actively worked on myself. I started lifting. I lost fat, and learned how to eat. Ditched all the fast food shit, carbonated drinks and so on. I also worked on myself professionally, I got accepted into an amazing programming school and will be starting in November. I have learned code recently, it's super fun, so I'm beginning to build a career that I will really enjoy, and it's rewarding. I stopped my business recently because I was really bored doing it, but I have enough money left to go through my studies without needing to work.

So far, here are the good things I have going on:

  • I'm debt free, I have enough money to last 3 years without needing to work. I have a motorcycle with is convenient and cool.

  • Free time to study what I love, and spending on hobbies and things I like.

  • I'm handsome (not going to say attractive), I'm getting more and more in shape, and I dress well.

The not-so-good stuff:

  • I have terrible social skills, I still cannot approach people (all the dates and stuff I had all these years were from tinder and other dating websites). I'm, simply put, terrified to go say hi to a woman.

  • I have very low self-confidence; as I suck with women and feel like I'm not manly enough to make them want to fuck me, I still feel like that castrated wimpy kid I was in mid school.

  • My hobbies are nerdy. Programming, listening to metal and stuff, playing the occasional video game, reading about programming (sigh).

  • People think I'm boring. My temperament is kind of like Sherlock Holmes (without the godly intelligence, granted). I enjoy puzzles (programming or video games), anything else is boring. If I go outside, I need to take a rubik's cube or a book or simply code in my head otherwise it's a waste of time. However, unlike Sherlock Holmes who doesn't give two fucks about women, I need women in my life. I simply love women. I love sex, I love cuddling, I love feeling loved.

  • People bore me.

I kept that one for last to elaborate. I find social gatherings boring. I'm bored when I listen to people life stories. I'm just awfully bored with them. Two days ago I went for a drink with some chick from tinder, and I could not, for the life of me, pay attention to what she had to say. We talked for like 2 hours, and she shared her travel stories and stuff, and she talked 80% of the time, and my mind was just drifting away.

I don't have friends because I simply don't feel the need for it, and I can't find people I would enjoy spending time with. I feel like my time is better spent on improving myself (granted, video games doesn't apply) than doing stuff with people.

As you can imagine, it doesn't make the process of socializing or meeting new girls easy. I have obviously zero social status, I don't create opportunities for myself, my social skills suck (I'm a decent conversationalist on a 1-on-1 setting, but even then there is massive room for improvement).

If you lasted this long, have a cookie, you deserve it. Now, my question. I've tried to be as thorough as possible, so you can hopefully get a grasp of my flaws and I what I need to work on. From the look of it, people here have experience and should provide good advice, so I've tried to make it as easy as possible for you to do so.

What advice would you give me? What to improve, what to work on? How to stop being lonely and just getting what I want?

TL;DR: I suck with women, help plz!?