People use "incel" as an insult on social media to feel better about themselves.

Comrade9174 · 2023-01-01T02:14:14+00:00

I have ADHD, hypersexuality and a non-verbal learning disorder and I struggle with depression, fear of rejection, poor social skills and social anxiety. I've been labeled as an incel multiple times so they're not only being misandristic, they're being ableistic, too.

hehimCA · 2023-01-01T05:20:02+00:00

It is a gender slur and should be treated as such.

Motanul_Negru · 2023-01-02T00:24:01+00:00

"Incel" is just the mot du jour, and I don't think it's special. If people want to hurt, they'll use wods they think will hurt.

In the soup brains that seem to have gotten your goat, "incel" is pretty much synonymous with "socialist", "SJW", and the more common slurs for homosexuals and black and brown people.

If you live long enough to see them make sense, tell us how you did it and why it had to be as a Boltzmann brain, OK? Well, our great grandchildren of the n^th degree.

BloomingBrains · 2022-12-31T21:33:43+00:00

Attraction between men and women is biological. If a woman is attracted to a man, she will sleep with him regardless of his political views, race, looks, religion, or his character.

Not all women are like that. I understand your frustration but talking that way will not help anything except alienating the women who might otherwise agree with you and don't act that way. Imagine how you'd feel if a woman described all men as cold, brutish boors. Even if you shared her frustration with the men who are like that, and knew you weren't like that, wouldn't it piss you off that you're essentially invisible to her? Well, that's the same way a woman might feel this very moment by reading that comment.

Otherwise, I agree with you. Guy couldn't get laid? "Well he must be a bad person, because women are flawless beings who never reward bad behavior and always notice/punish it." And the irony is that a lot of the people saying this have no idea how hard it is to actually get laid; they are privileged, either because they are "gigachads" themselves or because they are women who have never had to live up to the unrealistic/unfair "male pursuer" role. I feel like many women would go insane if they had to deal with the constant anxiety, fear, rejection, longing, and invisibility the average man faces and/or have an epiphany regarding the quality of character the average man has to suffer all that and not come out the other side as a flaming misogynist.

vivawel · 2023-01-03T14:07:54+00:00

Incel is an overused and highly reductive term, not to mention hypocritical since it is primarily used by people who call themselves politically correct. Social media users who use incel as an insult do seem to lack critical thought and I believe they should not be taken seriously.

In several third-world and non-Western cultures, there is very little public attention payed towards highly personal topics such as sexual activity. The word incel is inconceivable in my country of origin, since there is no social value placed on someone's private life. It's illogical and disgusting to place a moral value or to define a large group of people based on things that are nobody's business.

blaizken_420 · 2022-12-31T21:38:29+00:00

It ironically loops back into being misogynistic because it implies you should only value women for sex.

Title	People use "incel" as an insult on social media to feel better about themselves.
Author	hotpotato138
Upvotes	89
Comments	41
Date	December 31, 2022 2:53 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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