Hello everybody! First of all, I wanted to say thank you for all the advice I received on my previous post, I’m very grateful for those who took the time to respond. It helped me to recognize that despite our feelings, my boyfriend and I weren’t a good fit for each other, and we mutually and amicably broke things off. I’ve taken time to process our breakup, and while I want to take a little more time before I return to dating, I also want to start thinking about the future.

To be frank, I’m looking for any tips on finding guys to date. I have strongly liberal social views, but also strongly conservative personal views. For example, I consider myself a feminist (although I don’t go around announcing I’m a feminist), but I personally dream of being a part-time or full-time stay at home mom, because I want a family far more than a career. And of course, as I'm on RPW, I want a male-led relationship.

I am in the MMA club at my college which has a lot of guys, however as that’s where I met my (now ex)boyfriend, I don’t want to look there for options. I do want to be clear that despite my hobbies, I consider myself very feminine in all other areas. For example, my ex-boyfriend told me I wear dresses more than anybody our age he’s ever met, and that he appreciated my kindness and manners. I’ve considered online dating, but I dread the thought of Tinder or Hinge.

Essentially I’m starting to worry that I want to have my cake and eat it too, in a sense; trying to find a guy who has similar social values as me, but also believes in being masculine and leading in a relationship. If anybody has thoughts to share, I would greatly appreciate that. Thank you for your time!