Is the ball in my court with Ex Gf?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-09-27T10:21:27+00:00

Been apart for 3 months after 3 years together. A month of no contact and she reached out saying she misses me a lot and still cares.

Translation: "I'm in between pump-n-dumps and I want some attention."

She also said she does not feel like she made the right decision because as time goes on she really misses me.

Translation: "The outlaw bikers and escaped mental patients I give my pussy to don't want to take me to dinner. Or pay for abortions."

We had a phone call Conversation laying out all the flaws and the way I took her for granted and hurt her.

You entered her frame. "Sure...I cheated...but you MADE ME!"

This lead to me reaching out in text and we texted back and fourth until she stopped replying.

Tough to reply mid-gang bang, I suppose. Had to put her phone down.

2 days after she initiated contact and was curious about my day and she even sent a picture of her new hair to me.

You're one of her girlfriends.

It has been a week exactly.

She's off her period and out riding cocks.

I'm left to anticipate any meaning through these conversations and her doubting her choice at one point about 3 weeks ago. I know it could be nothing but after the phone call she added me back on Snapchat and within this last week she posted a story with a screenshot of the song "pinch me" by bare naked ladies. The caption said "the feels 😩". After I viewed it, she took it down. It wasn't even up for 20 minutes.

Dude. Stop. Life isn't a romantic comedy. Every time you think about her, go punch yourself in the dick.

Are these signs she is looking for me to initiate and show I still care? Do I wait for her to initiate again? Start NC? Reach out asking how she is? I'm so lost right now and my ultimate goal is to get her back slowly and start something new with the girl I still love.

You can't use Red Pill tools to fulfill your Blue Pill goals.

Please help. I don't believe it's all over.

It's all over. And has been for a long time. Longer than you were broken up for.

I think we are in a power struggle.

YOU are in a power struggle with your one-itis.

What do I do now?!!!

Stop being a faggot. Go game other girls.

vandaalen · 2017-09-27T07:15:40+00:00

Why isn't she blocked?

BPasFuck · 2017-09-27T07:50:30+00:00

Jesus Christ, kid.

This woman cheated on you. She dumped you, so she could go get some other dick.

She would still be on that other dick, except, surprise surprise, the other dick doesn't want a relationship. They pumped and dumped her.

So now, she's fumbling around looking for her plan b.

That is you. You are her plan b.

If you're okay with that, then fine-- keep talking with her, and trying to make things work again.

But, guess what happens the next time Mr. Plan A wants to get his dick wet again, and calls your girl?

That's right-- you're back out in the cold again, while she tries and tries to make Mr. Plan A treat her right.

Shit-- you'll be lucky if she breaks up with you, to chase that other dick again. Odds are, she'll just hide it from you the next time.

GG, sounds like a wonderful situation.

Block this bitch. Block her block her block her. She's just doing what women do-- you're the dumbfuck that's letting it affect your life.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2017-09-27T09:20:24+00:00

She's an attention whore and you are eating your own shit right now.

Radkin007 · 2017-09-27T06:41:37+00:00

She's your ex. Stop talking to her. Unless you want psychological pain of some other dude squirting his baby gravy inside her while you try to re-kindle an old flame.

zuhbooze · 2017-09-27T10:45:29+00:00

Is the ball in you're court, ha. Your balls are in her purse.

Most of the people who are telling you to leave this whore have been in your exact situation before.

Move on buddy.

TheDreadnought1 · 2017-09-27T10:59:56+00:00

IRON RULE OF TOMASSI #7:

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Dude, just stop. There is plenty of good women out there, better, smarter and hotter than her, and women which you can initiate contact with another frame, making the relationship dynamic much better for you.

Do you really proud yourself in being a cheated on, begging wretch? Do you call yourself a man? Let it fucking go, for God's sake.

McVaghunter · 2017-09-27T10:28:49+00:00

Now, should you get back with an ex or not is a different subject. Assuming you wanted to get back together, then your pointless conversations and non logistics related texting are what cock blocked you.

But this depends on your take on LTRs. Some people here will advice you against digging in the garbage, that you should hard next for ever, but not me. I'm not a moralfag and for me female companionship is a joke, I see them as talking fleshlights and nothing more, and if an "ex"implyingIwasntcheating reaches out for me, then all I see is a big bright "FREE PUSSY" sign, I cut the bullshit and get straight to the when and where. If I have a couple of free hours I may go get me some, but I ain't wasting time chitchatting pointlessly like you did.

All that poor girl ever wanted was some dick, and all she got was a long conversation about your stupid college homework... smh

tonyduc367 · 2017-09-27T06:34:50+00:00

I got to put u this way. She fucked you and dumped you for another alpha chad. You were her cuck.

[deleted] · 2017-09-27T10:40:03+00:00

Block her

walawalawa · 2017-09-27T12:56:53+00:00

A month of no contact and she reached out saying she misses me a lot and still cares.

Means that after she broke up, she didn't have another guy to go to immediately and is now at loose ends with a hole in her schedule that needs attention filling----you'll do for now.

She also said she does not feel like she made the right decision because as time goes on she really misses me.

See? No Contact Works! Now that you've broken it you can see first hand her hamster spinning out of control rationalizing what she did. Girls don't like being held accountable for their actions. She wants you to hang around for a while until someone better comes along.

Are these signs she is looking for me to initiate and show I still care?

Girls want attention and orbiters until they fully move on. They don't like the thought of being abandoned even if they're the ones who broke up. It "feels" too final...until it is final.

Do I wait for her to initiate again?

You've got oneitis. The fact she re-engaged means she's in control. If you had blocked her and showed you had moved on you would have achieved what would have been the ultimate: alpha widowing. She would be pining away wondering. You're no longer a mystery to her now. You'd just kinda...available and she knows it.

Start NC?

Just block and delete her. Yes, it's hard. But it's hard because you're addicted to the drama of her breaking up and then reaching out. You're being played.

I'm so lost right now and my ultimate goal is to get her back slowly and start something new with the girl I still love.

Oneitis. You're still stuck in the Blue Pill fantasy of the "the one".

If you don't leave, break contact and move on...don't post again because it's just going to be the same effort for Blue Pill dating advice instead of seeking Red Pill truths.

Yes, my advice sucks to hear. But if you're serious about the Red Pill you'll have to accept it's over. She ended it...now she's waffling about it until someone better comes along.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and move on.

SovereignSoul76 · 2017-09-27T11:54:22+00:00

Back to the drawing board with you, little puppy dog...

Occams_Stubble · 2017-09-27T13:10:41+00:00

She is NOT "The One". Man up, improve yourself, increase your self-confidence and find someone more compatible.

It might be possible to rebuild something with her. In a few years. After you have grown.

Weefilly · 2017-09-27T13:27:51+00:00

She broke up with you to ride the CC, got tired of being pumped and dumped, came back to you for emotional affection

max_peenor · 2017-09-27T13:51:23+00:00

the way I took her for granted and hurt her

Ah yes. The critical Assignment Of The Blame portion of the relationship.

I think we are in a power struggle.

Is this really want you want out of women? A power struggle? "Oh, sweetie, I know it would be keen if we spent all day fucking, but instead I think we should engage in some Realpolitik." The fuck? Delete her number now.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-28T00:30:47+00:00

Not gomna read. Move on with your life.

Title	Is the ball in my court with Ex Gf?
Author	Cchance11
Upvotes	2
Comments	24
Date	September 27, 2017 6:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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