At what point is oneitis acceptable?

zndas92 · 2017-10-04T04:36:25+00:00

I have a gf I really like alot she's awesome in alot of regards. That being said I've said that many times in life. There will be another after this one and so on. I also flirt with women to the point where I know I "could" but keep it at that. Never cheated. I wouldn't be heart broken if she cheated left me or it ended. I'd be at a a bar with my friends loving life and joking around. Every thing has a life span including you realise nothing is permanent and you'll reach acceptance then transcendence

BobbyPeru · 2017-10-04T04:08:26+00:00

Oneitis is a frame of mind, and it's never acceptable. You should always be gaming even if you're married for 20 years

eccentricrealist · 2017-10-04T04:07:41+00:00

None whatsoever

DamnDirtyApe87 · 2017-10-04T13:56:17+00:00

It's ok to love a woman you know, but 'oneitis' is never acceptable. Catch it early and kill it with fire. Keep flirting with other women, keep dating if you're not exclusive. Stop dating others if you don't care anymore, fall in love if you want, but never before you're 100% sure she loves you back and you've banged plenty of times. I've made this mistake a couple of times, I think every man has made this mistake.

I try and go drinking with a good friend of mine at least once a week to keep up my game, knowing your options and having abundance is key for a healthy relationship. I've never felt better with my current LTR, she gives me almost zero shit and knows I will walk if she does. Having that feeling is a must. I love her, I want her, but I don't NEED her. Oneitus = needyness.

jefferson_ · 2017-10-04T04:34:23+00:00

As someone who just made this mistake: do NOT lose frame or abundance.

As soon as you exhibit these BP tendencies, that girls pussy will dry up quick. It happened to me, and I'm slowly recovering while still having her as a plate; however, I've definitely almost fucked up things by focusing too much on her.

Do what I did, take a few steps back, calculate your options, and resume proper frame and game others as much as possible. After this, you'll find that the girl your fucking actually puts in more effort and wants you more which is exactly what you want anyway. If you focus on her, she will get bored and her validation is at maximum.

In other words, oneitis is a huge weakness that tends to fuck over most who have it. Do yourself the favor, no.

Title	At what point is oneitis acceptable?
Author	Alexander-The-Weight
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	October 4, 2017 3:46 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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