This subreddit is usually about activism, but I have a personal topic for those interested. Below, I sketch four situations (pick one you relate to) that all boil down to one common problem in our personal lives.

That problem is: we may be able to rationally convince people that just because we're men, doesn't mean we have to do the heavy job at hand, or take all the tough responsibilities of initiating, leading, providing, protecting, etc. But even reasonable people's feelings do not fall in line with that perfectly sound piece of logic. They still automatically like a woman better than a man unless he can show some convincing evidence of his worth. By insisting on our equal treatment, we undermine the one way through which we can earn the same respect, status, empathy and love that women get just for being female. (Some details here under "Earning Manhood")

So, how do you deal with these social and emotional consequences? Do you accept that you'll be respected less than your female coworker even though she also didn't carry any of those heavy boxes? Do you accept that being a stay-at-home dad will make it likely for your wife to lose attraction to you? Or do you sometimes decide to earn respect and love by performing, even though women don't have to? Or...

1) the box carrying Suppose you have an office job. Your female coworkers have the same position and earn the same wage you do, but every time that heavy stuff needs lifting, or machines need fixing, or annoying customers need to be escorted out, they call on you. Other than that, you like your job and the people there (so you're not just there for the money). How do you reply to these coworkers?

2) the stay-at-home-dad Suppose you and your wife have agreed that she brings home the bacon, you take care of the kids. You've convinced everyone rationally that this is just as fine as the other way around. But you notice that your wife sometimes resents you and that your family and friends treat you differently, even though they rationally agree it is nonsense. Then you get the opportunity to take a great job and turn the roles around. How would you feel about this?

3) the partner dance roles Suppose you're going to a partner dance class and as a man, you're expected to take the lead - which takes much more time and effort to learn.. Most girls may be willing to lead for variety's sake every once in a while, but that's not the experience they've come for and besides, it's not taught to them, so they're not good at it and nobody expects them to be. Would you try to find a partner who agrees that she'll learn to lead and you'll learn to follow? How would you feel about the teachers and students holding her to lower standards as a lead than a man would, praising her for basic performances that are just expected of male leads?

4) the bedroom roles Suppose you're getting kind of tired of always having to be the passionate guy, seducing and ravishing your girlfriend - but she really likes it when you take control. So you're going to /r/sex and you notice that there are many girls there asking how to get their guys to be more dominant (read: orchestrate and take responsibility for everything in the bedroom) but many of them describe it as a turnoff when a guy wants the same. Will you still bring up the topic to your girlfriend, and how?