Don Jon: how porn is rewiring men's brains. "The usual bollocks but the cooment section is awsome".

nigglereddit · 2013-11-15T17:17:46+00:00

This will no doubt be controversial but....

I LIKE PORN.

There I said it, I feel better.

But seriously, I really really like porn. I like looking at naked men and women. And do you know what? That's normal. Enjoying looking at naked men and women is normal.

You know what else is normal? Enjoying being a naked man or woman. And enjoying the things that men and women do when one or more of them is more or less naked.

But porn exposes one of the biggest problems in our society. It's a problem that's serious and prevalent and one we all need to address. That problem is staying the fuck out of other people's private business.

See, I look at porn of my own free will, freely and frequently. And the men and women who pose for the photos and videos I enjoy also do it freely and frequently. So they're working out, staying fit, doing their makeup, making sure their hair looks good, waxing, trimming and generally putting a hell of a lot of hard work into looking amazing. And they're doing it because they want to be seen naked and want to get paid for it.

And I want to see them naked. I want to see that beautiful fit body with its exquisite curves. I want to imagine what it would be like to touch and kiss and everything else.

It's a partnership. Freely undertaken for mutual enjoyment.

And then right in the middle of this wonderful give and take, some fucking cunt walks in shouting, "NO NO NO NO, YOU HAVE TO STOP THAT RIGHT NOW, I DON'T LIKE IT AND I WON'T ALLOW IT".

What do you mean you don't like it? Nobody fucking invited you! I didn't ask your opinion, which by the way is worth less to me than a wet fart. It has nothing at all to do with you. It's an exchange which is none of your fucking business. So could you step aside? You're in the way.

HolySchmoly · 2013-11-15T16:03:57+00:00

"I have been turned into a monster unable to relate to real women due to vast over-consumption of misogynistic porn. Help me."

Where should I post this just for a bit of fun?

JohnnyDrama68 · 2013-11-15T18:21:06+00:00

The only thing I found true about the article is that porn desensitizes you and you need weirder and more out of the ordinary stuff to keep the juices flowing.

Hell the only thing that gets me fired up anymore is 6 women, a hovercraft, 2 thousand strands of used Mardi Gras beads, a gallon of Nutella, a wild bobcat, Little Einsteins DVD playing for background noise, 3 bananas, 1 of them sliced, a midget , 1 double headed dildo and a jack o-lantern carved to look like George Takei.

On a side note, I saw the trailer for that flick like a dozen times and had no idea what it was supposed to be about. But Scarlett makes me want to see it.

humanityisavirus · 2013-11-15T14:48:16+00:00

The comments section is equally trash.

...It is icky and the direct result of lowered expectations of women. If we refused to allow this kind of objectification, men would put it back into the mens' rooms where it belongs. Instead, our women try to emulate a porn identity. As a society, we have allowed ourselves to devalue our sexuality and lowered ourselves to the level of animals with no discernment or free will.

There is a reason for keeping sex inside marriage (and I consider using porn as extra-marital).

That's because it's far more satisfying in every way, and in a good marriage it gets better with time.

Porn can only offer an experience that gets worse with time.

Porn is evil...and has evil consequences in this world and the next. Thanks for this article saying what I was saying some time ago.

Some quality comments right there.

Grailums · 2013-11-15T18:32:36+00:00

Joseph Gordon-Levitt is awesome and I cannot wait to actually see this movie when it comes out on DVD or whatever. Though there is one thing about it that falls victim to every single movie like it: The main character is a well built-attractive male and the female is a very attractive female.

I would say if porn has done anything it has forced people to have a much higher standard than they normally would have or would be much more picky about who they are with. This goes for both sides of the sexes.

The thing that this article completely and utterly becomes irrelevant is the simple fact that the woman who wrote this demonizes men for wanting "money shots" which is a common fetish and promotes the "dominant male, submissive female" idea, yet she praises a woman who will only date men in their twenties, where they are more physically fit, their sexual appetite is on the rise/there constantly, and she is fulfilling her own fetish for being a "cougar".

The only thing that woman is trying to do is what she seemingly cannot do with men her age: tame a young man into being her personal pet.

The only promotion of women being "doormats" are women themselves. I cannot speak for the entire male population because I am an individual but in my relationships sex seems to be about 10% of what is about and not 50%. Which is fine, but it is important to realize that if you are doing what SHE wants all the time, and she never reciprocates to what you enjoy then clearly she does not accept who you are and you do not have to put up with that.

On the other hand if you have a guy who does nothing for you and does whatever he wants all the time a woman does not have to put up with that either. Then again there are men and women who truly enjoy that.

TLDR: Stop telling us how to have sex and what we should enjoy.

burntoast101 · 2013-11-15T18:13:04+00:00

70% of men between 18 and 24 watch porn at least once a month? TIL that 25-30% of men between 18 and 24 are liars.

chavelah · 2013-11-15T23:01:19+00:00

I think that article makes some really great points, actually. It is certainly possible (and certainly common!) to write anti-porn articles that are anti-male, but this isn't one of them.

Ultimately, says Gallop, “the issue isn’t porn. The issue is the complete absence of a counterpoint to porn.” Nina Hartley agrees.“Young people are going to find information wherever they can get it,” she tells me. “But watching porn to learn to have sex is like watching Vin Diesel movies to learn how to drive. I'm paid to give this performance. It's not the kind of sex that I have at home.”

Title	Don Jon: how porn is rewiring men's brains. "The usual bollocks but the cooment section is awsome".
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Date	November 15, 2013 2:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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