A great article about identifying if your girlfriend/wife is a abusive narcissist. It could save you a lot of grief and pain. It's rare to find articles that speak to men about mental disorders.

Lance_lake · 2013-09-26T05:25:16+00:00

I read half of those and had to stop. My ex was a clear cut case of that list.

automatedresponse · 2013-09-26T01:39:18+00:00

After watching a lot of lectures and reading as much information that I could find, I think the girl that I've been in love with for the last 3 years has NPD, or at least is very far along on the spectrum.

You can have Narcissistic traits without having NPD, but an individual with true NPD can be very dangerous to your mental and physical health. It's not just a vain person who takes too long in the bathroom... they actually have no ability to feel or empathize and see you as a tool.

Most of the things I've read tend to be written in the perspective of a victimized woman and the pro-nouns are He and Him. Finding this article was like a breath of fresh air.

I think if more men recognize that their SO could be a Narcissist they could avoid a lot of the social traps that are out there, like family, children, jail, ect.

socklessmoejohnson · 2013-09-26T03:35:40+00:00

If you recognize these traits in a partner or family member you may find help and understanding in /r/raisedbynarcissists. Thankfully my life has been free of people like this but it's a very illuminating and interesting sub that's worth checking out.

pizen992 · 2013-09-26T05:41:53+00:00

My ex wife in a nutshell...

nigglereddit · 2013-09-26T06:37:39+00:00

The way that society and mental health professionals approach this is bad for women too - this thread represents a straw poll but I think we all know that these behaviors are very common.

Yet because of society's prevailing attitude that women should be allowed to 'express their feelings' freely, mst wouldn't even recognize these as symptoms of a difficult but very real condition. As a society we don't even see a need to treat it.

anonlymouse · 2013-09-26T06:18:11+00:00

I've found a great way to identify abusive girlfriends is to read a guide for women to identify abusive boyfriends, and swap the genders.

kakaoochklibbigtomat · 2013-09-26T06:31:46+00:00

Top lel. Just reading that made me shake and my back go stiff. I guess you could say I'm still stuck in the shadow of a person quite like that, things might get better now, but I've already lost all my friends because of it along with a year of my life.

2013-09-26T09:57:46+00:00

Very well-written article. Good discussion in the comments, too.

Noticed one of the blog tags is "crazy bitch" lol, nice SEO.

emperorhirohito · 2014-01-19T23:26:00+00:00

Me and the author must have gone out with the same woman

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