Threatened to go and ended up crying in front of my girlfriend. How bad is it?

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-10-18T07:19:59+00:00

It matters if youre being a complete faggot who can't stand not getting enough external validation and feelz...

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2017-10-18T17:43:44+00:00

This girl has zero respect for you. Even less, now that you cried in front of her. When’s the last time you had worthwhile sex or blowjobs? I’m betting it hasn’t been recently and will dry up now, if it’s not already.

refusewool · 2017-10-18T07:31:21+00:00

Please tell me this is a troll. Are you a girl? If this was a lesbian relationship I might understand...

Just in case you're not trolling, key points suggesting you are a girl are:

you require attention and validation from your ltr (or anyone for that matter)
you discussed your feelings with your ltr
you cried in front of your ltr

Stay with her by all means if you don't mind her having zero respect for you. Maybe she is into cucks, who knows, it might work.

Or end things, try and salvage what little dignity you may (or more likely, may not) still have and read the sidebar. Grow a pair of balls.

Docbear64 · 2017-10-18T07:39:04+00:00

You need to learn how to be a man of your word, don't make threats that you're too much of a pussy to deliver on . IF oyu play the " bitch I'll leave you if you don't straighten up card" and she acts like an asshole the next day you should have been gone and made her work her ass off to maybe possibly hopefully get you back ( and then I still couldn't recommend you do it) .

the thing is you just managed to put a band-aid on your relationship congrats, she's going to behave for now and then she's going to do what women do and start testing your boundaries once things get too comfortable and then what are you going to do ? cry like a bitch again ?

If you're happy with this chick or whatever fine but I need you to grab your balls and have some self respect, if someone takes you for granted while claiming to love you then you don't need them around . I don't care how long they've been around , I don't care about the memories you've shared, I don't care what your relationship looked like in the past . if TODAY they are being a cunt to you then you need to consider who they are TODAY and plot your life and outlook around that information .

AstuteBlackMan · 2017-10-18T07:42:13+00:00

Men, do not. Should not. Shouldn't ever.

"Seek Validation from women"

You more than likely grew up with a single mother or a lot of sisters. I'm gonna assume this isn't a troll and give advice anyways.

Read the sidebar(3 times over) Start lifting. Read more

For your girlfriend Stop caring so much. Focus on your own goals. You shouldn't be trying to please each other that heavily.

[deleted] · 2017-10-18T11:11:39+00:00

Hard next

JustDoMeee · 2017-10-18T11:31:58+00:00

Loool despite what everyone's saying, next time she does anything like that again, DON'T tell her shit and just leave, she's disrespectful and doesn't deserve it.

In the mean time enjoy the ride.

ReaperOfSouls_ · 2017-10-18T12:10:21+00:00

You fucked up

quicklogaccount · 2017-10-18T12:26:36+00:00

It's pretty bad. Not the crying but the whole thing.

Your relationship was imbalanced, you needed her a lot more than she needed you and therefore you invested a lot more in the relationship than she did, which made things frustrating for you and allowed her to act like an entitled bitch.
Now the right thing to do to fix things there was fixing yourself. Get your shit in order so you lower your demands of her attention. You didn't, you gave her an ultimatum and it worked as dread.
What you'll get now is her forcefully investing in the relationship because she's insecure and giving more to it than she thinks it's worth, and experiencing some frustration as well. It'll suck for her.

That's pretty common for sex starved guys man. Guys that never got laid at all believe sex is worth a life of devotion, but it's not and they get frustrated. When you couple that with an insecure chick that believes that commitment is worth a life of devotion, you have a bomb.

Anyway, that put, trust me on this one. Your relationship is over. This:

I felt like breaking up with her, and that she makes my life more complicated while not giving enough back. (...) I really wanted to leave her and started packing my shit.

Is a point of no return for nearly every person, but its special for former incels.
Relationships have a mystical veil, a fake aura of "love", that adds to the bonding and falsely make them worth the hassle they are. While the veil is there, you have willingness to work on it.
Once this veil falls you see the relationship for what it is worth, and you're bound to realize it's worth nothing. It's always unenthusiastic sex with a chick that failed on the role you gave her once (she probably begged for it though), you're not stupid to give her the role again and this role and these expectations are what used to make the LTR worth for you.

Kommanderdude · 2017-10-18T13:29:27+00:00

This is self termination bad. Op you are to far gone. Do the world a favor and self terminate.

Title	Threatened to go and ended up crying in front of my girlfriend. How bad is it?
Author	Backfrominceldom
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	October 18, 2017 7:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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