History- Wife and I married for 20 years with five kids. She has been a SAHM but was planning on working this last year but does not need to as I make enough to support the family. Now realize wife has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. About 2 years ago I started trying to have more of a voice in the relationship especially involved with the kids and things she was doing. She did not like this and switched me from being her hero to the devil. She could not control her emotions and raged at me in front of the kids constantly last year. My wife started confiding in one of our daughters and saying all kinds of bad things about me to her and turned her against me. They started working together in trying to get me out of the house but I said I would not leave. I thought we where working on repairing things and fixing things. Then towards the end of last year my wife and daughter filed a false charge. I was arrested and an order of protection was put in place. I still had a false hope that this was all a missunderstanding and that my wife would work with me to clear this up. I could not have been more wrong and my foolish hope did nothing but make things worse for me. My criminal attorney said early on that my wife was setting me up and it took me way to long to finally believe him, but I finally see it.

So as of today the criminal charges are still pending, things got put on hold as my wife has filed additional criminal charges against me. My wife now gets majority of my paycheck. She filed for full custody of the kids and has it temporarily because of the pending criminal charges. She had done a very effective smear campaign to the court, CPS, and old friends of ours about how horrible of a person I am. To this day I have not been able to go back to the home, I just started being able to have supervised visitation with the kids after not being allowed to see or communicate with them for half a year.

Out of the blue I got a call from a realtor that I need to sign the listing so my wife can list the house, it was an awkward conversation since I had no idea my wife was looking to sell our house. I am in shock that she is going to rip the kids from our home and their community right now.

My attorney keep telling me that I just need to clear my name of the criminal charges first before I can really start fighting her on everything else, but it seems she is doing all the right things to keep that process going. The only thing I really want to fight her on is making sure I get at least 50/50 custody of our kids. She is not emotionally there for them and I hear word from people that they are hurting through all of this.

Thanks for reading, I needed to vent this, I am feeling a bit hopeless today.