TRP says that you should express feelings to your SO but also says to read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" that contrares it

vandaalen · 2017-11-06T21:20:34+00:00

The real world is not black and white.

WaterHound · 2017-11-07T00:25:10+00:00

There is a huge difference between sharing your feelings and being 'vulnerable' (which really just means dropping your 'mask').

I will talk about what's going on in my life, but I don't discuss my feelings about it because they are burdensome and unnecessary. Something crappy might happen, but I will not complain about it.

So I don't think the two are contradictory. Most men share their feelings like they're talking to their mother figure. Don't do that with the person you date. Sharing isn't venting to your mother. Its just brief sharing. After that, let the girl decide if she's going to shower you with empathy or not, but don't go looking for it.

youcantdenythat · 2017-11-07T00:49:06+00:00

NMMNG is not red pill. It is a very good book and gives you many good tools, but it isn't trp gospel.

If you want a woman to be attracted to you, you should not show her any weakness.

Also, positive emotions: excitement, passion, humor, happiness, etc are fine to share. Anger is good too in the right context (generally righteous anger, not butthurt anger.)

redhawkes · 2017-11-06T21:07:45+00:00

Women don't like emotional men. They want you to be their rock. It's weakness.

TheStumblingWolf · 2017-11-06T23:19:53+00:00

Trp is not one set philosophy. Consider it a buffet. Sometimes there'll be food you don't know you don't like before you try it. Other times there'll be food you already know you hate, even if other people like it.

It's up to you to figure out what to put on your plate. You can ask for advice and experiences, but don't let someone else choose what to put on your plate.

[deleted] · 2017-11-06T23:43:57+00:00

I've never seen anyone on here advocating full disclosure.

The more you express your feelings & disclose to her the more you lose your sense of mystery & thus attraction. Girls hate guys that are an open book.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-11-07T16:15:09+00:00

For nice-guys in the recovery process, no. Don't talk about your feelings to women. Ask your bros, or a professional therapist.

Nice-guys only have one mode of expressing their feelings, and it's ultimately driven by the frame of learned helplessness, victimhood, and begging for pity. These are traits women despise in themselves, but always resort to when shit hits the fan. So if you've been a Nice-Guy™ in the past, chances are your inner frame isn't

For other men, it's important to have no outcome expectations whatsoever. It's important to talk about feelings, when necessary, but you absolutely have to do it coming from a frame of inner capability and strength. "I don't like how things turned out, but I have a plan and I'm going to take care of it. I always have before."

Title	TRP says that you should express feelings to your SO but also says to read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" that contrares it
Author	TRPconverter
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Comments	13
Date	November 6, 2017 9:00 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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