Pity party for divorced women who let the father have the kids for a couple days? WTF?

Sasha_ · 2018-04-05T01:35:09+00:00

Translation: He took the girls to fucking ANTIGUA! He never took ME to the Caribbean! I wouldn't mind if it was a caravan in Cornwall, but they're swimming with fucking DOLPHINS. I wrote him a lovely note saying we could still do family holidays, although they're be no sex, I'd still be frosty and bitchy - obviously - and he'd have to pay (of course, as he should). He just laughed, told me to fuck-off, and took that young girl 'web-designer' he's been knocking-off with MY CHILDREN! I don't even know what webs need designing anyway?

BionicTransWomyn · 2018-04-05T00:30:29+00:00

Holy shit the possessiveness and paranoia is unreal.

Mythandros · 2018-04-04T22:29:08+00:00

I don't understand why it's a default that mother's love the kids more?

Like the father's are cold child killers?

thrway_1000 · 2018-04-05T00:18:55+00:00

Not the first article like this they've published. It's just basically pandering to women.

Archive -- https://archive.is/WY03w

doklaan · 2018-04-05T02:38:09+00:00

She sounds insufferable.

LazyEyeJones · 2018-04-05T07:48:12+00:00

Now they may see the heartache millions of men go through....they won't learn shit though

Bestoftherest222 · 2018-04-05T09:23:42+00:00

Women do not lament an empty house after the ex takes the kids for the weekend, women lament the lose of power over their kids. Every day she makes it clear to her kids the dad is a piece of shit and the kids are better with her. When those kids go with the ex that all gets undermined. Its a power play and these women despise having it undermined.

Dgprehec · 2018-04-05T04:36:14+00:00

That picture where she's holding teddy bears is creepy as fuck

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2018-04-05T13:54:07+00:00

But we're told being granted the majority of custody is oppressive to women as it forces them in to a maternal role...

shellbross · 2018-04-05T12:06:49+00:00

That's because men, and fathers, are monsters that don't feel love at all. They just take the kids to piss off the mother, in fact they hate children of course!

/s

DownvotedByShitters · 2018-04-05T17:08:35+00:00

That's a really long article and the more I read the more I was disgusted.

When you're recently divorced, the agony of your children's first holiday without you is overwhelming. This might sound over-the-top, but it really is like losing a limb.

And it's fine that you've taken the kids away from the father for the majority of the time? You want pity for your temporary pain but you inflict greater pain on the father.

But what of their first holiday without you? It seems we're just expected to button our lips on that score.

Because being a man doesn't come with a slew of "man up, shut up, pay the child support, you don't get to see your children" kind of talk.

But I worried he wouldn't know how to nurture them as I did.

Well it's already stated that you took the kids away from him for the most part.

But around the time Kei was born, things started to go wrong. We were two successful people who both worked full-time to afford our costly lifestyle. Deep down I castigated myself for not being around more for my girls: having to express milk during business trips abroad was a real low point.

Meanwhile, John travelled a lot, too and, I became paranoid about him flirting with other women. He always reassured me, but it lead to many arguments. Then there was the fact I always wanted to spend the one or two hours when I got home from work with the girls. John and I grew further and further apart. We tried marriage counselling for a couple of years, but it was hopeless.

So you then go and admit that you probably weren't the most present mother either, how does that make you better than John? And in the end it was your paranoia and unwillingness to trust that caused the divorce. But let me guess, John still foot the bill? We already know he lost the kids.

The fantastic side note:

Do children split loyalties after divorce?

Children's relationship with their mother stays the same or improves after divorce, whereas that with their father is likely to worsen, says research.

I wonder if this has anything to do with the fact that some women are petty and also have the majority of the time with the kids.

I have many divorced friends who've admitted to competing with their ex when it comes to holidays; trying to wow the children with ever more expensive destinations and activities in order to become the favourite parent.

I love this next bit.

And that first morning without them, I felt truly desperate. I certainly wasn't fit for work as a senior banker in the City. I sent an email to my boss in the early hours asking for time off. Giving absolutely no notice was hardly common practice in my line of work.

Doesn't that portray a negative quality for hiring women? That they take time off for non-physical issues? Stack that on the endless metoo allegations now and you have yourself a full package of overpaid affirmative action. Some women work side to side with men. I respect my boss and colleagues 100% for the work and quality they do. That being said, if you're going to paint 100% of men as rapists because <0.1% actually are rapists, then why do you claim women should be treated better than men in the workplace?

Their second holiday without me was not as terrible as the first. My ex took them skiing and they were really excited about the snow.

Three years since my divorce, I now feel entirely calm when the girls go on holiday with their daddy. I know I have nothing to fear and they always have a nice time.

So you had unfounded paranoia, the father treated them well as his own kids. Yet your paranoia probably seeped into the kids and they could sense your distress + the fact that they spent the most time with you.

Absolutely disgusting article trying to generate pity for the privileged group.

tehjdot · 2018-04-05T19:53:10+00:00

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Pseudonymble · 2018-04-09T19:59:45+00:00

Jesus. That headline. How about "The crippling heartache realized for 50 of 52 weeks when your partner is awarded custody.

Title	Pity party for divorced women who let the father have the kids for a couple days? WTF?
Author	spy9911
Upvotes	84
Comments	24
Date	April 4, 2018 10:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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