So this past week I dropped the bomb that I am unhappy in my marriage. Understandably the fallout has been intense. Sobbing, misunderstanding, anger, etc. There has been no infidelity, just a deterioration over the last couple years and it sucks and it hurts but I am comfortable with it after months of soul searching. There is no joy in us as a couple and ultimately no counseling will help the poor communication, constant fighting, and different life outlook.

She asked to see a counselor, which I have agreed to but I fear it is because I’d prefer to try for the kids not for her and me. I am yet to seek mediation, or file paperwork, so wondering what should be the next step.

Should I go through the motions of counseling in hopes I’m pleasantly surprised? Ultimately my children 6,3, are my concern.