Would Apperciate Hearing Your Opinion on Dating in the MeToo Era

azazelcrowley · 2018-07-18T19:02:21+00:00

Avoid people who are openly feminists. Most women are not feminists. They often can't help themselves.

Feminists who can manage to keep that shit to themselves for a few weeks or whatever are more borderline and some of them are probably just passively feminist and haven't thought much about it.

If possible, drop some hint about a mens issue and see how they react. I have one built into my history so I just gauge their reaction to getting to know me. If they're receptive to mens issues without going off on a rant about how it secretly revolves around how everybody hates women and your personal problems are down to misogyny (A sign of being a self-absorbed narcissist), they're probably less likely to pull some bullshit, but you can also catch out traditionalists this way who may be gynocentrist in a different sense.

I'm currently dating someone pretty good. Last one was a bio-truthy traditionalist that I naively assumed would be okay and at least a step up from feminists, nope.

TL;DR

Give them a fairly simple empathy for men test that a person should be able to pass if they aren't a raging bigot or a self-absorbed narcissist. The overwhelming majority of feminists will fail it, so will traditionalists, and so will a sizeable amount of other women. Some won't, those are the keepers.

whackPanther · 2018-07-18T16:59:35+00:00

The biggest danger I think is retrospective "rape". Because of MeToo a woman you dated 10 - 15 years ago could try to blackmail or extort you if she finds out you're famous and/or rich.

I deleted my Facebook and don't keep in contact with many friends back home so I would be surprised if any ex girlfriends or FWBs find out that I have money now.

1LegendaryWombat · 2018-07-21T01:53:01+00:00

Well, i'm a lot more timid because of it, thats for sure.

Something i don't like, but there is always there is the fear i may be accused of something. Finding someone who i don't have such a fear with is difficult, but should things end badly and they are vindictive, it could be a real problem.

antilopes · 2018-07-21T05:00:03+00:00

MeToo makes exactly zero difference to how I'd conduct dating.

I didn't do creepy stuff before.

At work I don't worry about "don't shit where you eat" because my interactions with women are not comparable to shit. Work requires non-consensual long term association so I'm a lot more reserved there, but that is not a change. Two of my partners started as customers, and one GF was a workmate.

I am not concerned about claims from the past because I always part on good terms. OK we might be hurt but we will still choose to do stuff together afterwards and be respectful and probably friends.

I can think of a few things I did wrong and there may well be more I was not aware of but there is zero chance of those being brought up in public rather than as a private discussion. There is not a single ex sexual contact I would not be pleased to bump into again.

TheMythof_Feminism · 2018-07-18T17:35:53+00:00

One thing that I can not stand is when someone expresses themselves and others criticizes them for their word choice

Oh ho ho, there are many SJWs/feminists that love doing that here. Taking something wildly out of context and pretending it meant something else.

would very much appreciate hearing your thoughts, opinions and perspectives.

I walked away from dating earlier this year, but had lost hope a long time ago. More and more I don't see myself ever going back. Bigger risk + worse reward = No thanks.

SJW/feminism is the norm today, and I'd rather let these people grow old with their 100 cats.

red_philosopher · 2018-07-19T06:46:08+00:00

1) Never commit.

2) Record your sexual interludes. Even if you live in a two-party consent state. Put a notice on your front door that says all activity is being recorded. It's better than going to prison for rape when nothing of the sort happened.

3) Never trust a woman to take care of her birth control. You're asking to get ruined.

4) Be pleasant at all times, and never lose your cool. Ever.

5) Don't shit where you eat.

So far, I have let slip that I'm RP via a discussion on society. I've had the rudest Feminists shrug it off and fuck my brains out anyway. I've had women call me an emotionally abusive monster. I've had women who said they didn't like that I was RP, but they stick around anyway and eventually became RP aware themselves. Even had some women agree with me. (Shocking)

In every instance, I recorded everything. I leave nothing to chance.

Edit:

6) Don't engage with women at work. Professional conversation only.

7) Do not argue with women. Ignore them if they start something. It can only end badly for you.

8) You know the crazy ones. You choose to ignore it because you want your dick wet. Don't. There's a reason men say NEVER STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY.

jace81 · 2018-07-18T16:55:37+00:00

Don’t stick your dick in crazy and don’t rape.

Title	Would Apperciate Hearing Your Opinion on Dating in the MeToo Era
Author	bigbangcat
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Date	July 18, 2018 4:26 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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