Need some perspective

MightBusiness7231 · 2023-03-21T07:12:39+00:00

I know the feeling. You can’t rewind time and time that has passed probably wasn’t as good as you thought it was. You have to avoid bars. Alcohol is a depressant and won’t help. Go on really long walks, hit the gym, listen to audiobooks or music when you’re walking or working out. Pray, meditate. Focus on some hobbies. I’ve found woodworking and fixing things makes me feel whole. Also gardening. I just adopted a dog about 3 days ago and that’s helping. Therapy is critical.

Gattsama · 2023-03-19T05:00:14+00:00

Sorry you are going through the drama and BS man. You need to focus on being physically fit, emotionally fit, mentally fit and financially fit. Of not already start working out, and regularly. Even if you don't feel like it make it part of your new normal / routine. Exercise is helpful for fitness, but also a good mood stabilizer. As good as SSRI's (anti depressants).

Fins something that has a lot of depth and breath to embrace. Chess, motorcycle, stoic philosophy, wood working, martial arts, etc. Something that you truly enjoy, but the key is it has a LOT to learn and master. Personally I study chess, aviation and BJJ.

Do NOT use alcohol, drugs or another woman as a support. These are all externals, and you can't solve internal issues with external solutions. At best they are band-aids, but can easily become crutches or lead to dependence (especially women).

upvotersfortruth · 2023-03-19T03:28:48+00:00

I just feel broken, toxic and defective.

Only because we are. This shit is not easy. But as sure as you're sitting on that bar stool, you can be fixed, you can detoxify and - well - everyone's defective so you just got to accept that.

2023-03-19T02:05:39+00:00

Focus on your grind, your fitness, your knowledge and self improvement.

Build yourself an awesome life.

Go MGTOW.

Title	Need some perspective
Author	Khancap123
Upvotes	7
Comments	5
Date	March 19, 2023 2:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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