Hey ladies. I'm not new to this sub, I had another account but this is a throwaway I will specifically be using for this sub. Now, on to my post

A few days ago I was in the car with my long term boyfriend. We passed a pizza place I used to go to with my ex. Brought up some negative feelings which my current boyfriend noticed. He asked what was wrong and I basically went on a little mini rant talking about how angry I was with the way this asshole treated me. We've been dating for a while and are comfortable with eachothers past's. I didn't get to see Asshole often because "I work a lot" and he was the only one to have a car blah blah, the whole nine. I would text him and he would constantly leave me on read. Wouldn't respond until weeks later. I would cry myself to sleep thinking there was something wrong with me, that I should be more greatful, more understanding. Eventually it was too much and I dumped him. I had tried to end things with him before, but he'd asked me to bare with him and I agreed, but he needed to change. Of course, nothing changed. This time, Asshole proceeded to gaslight me, saying that I was breaking his heart and everything he did ("everything" being moving to a job closer to me; literally that's it) was for me, and I was his "everything". But I was done this time. I blocked him on everything

My boyfriend turned to me and said, "honey that was not a relationship, you were his booty call. If he really wanted you, he would have made time for you. I'm so sorry he treated you that way."

My current boyfriend is a dream. He has a roommate right now, but nearly every time I call him he's either cooking or cleaning. He makes good money and is graduating from his program in a few months. We frequently have deep intellectual conversations. He always has time for me, almost always pays for food (unless I tell him I want to pay), is amazing in bed, takes care of his body (as a teen he was obese, so body health us very important to him), and most importantly is childfree like I am. We're planning on moving in together so I can finish my program in peace away from my nutso abusive grandmother.

Never even settle! I can't imagine how my life would be if I had stayed with that other loser

Edit to say at one point I googled Assholes name and found out he'd been arrested. It was for weed possession, not the worst thing in the world but he actively hide it from me. Yuck!