I need some answers on how to deal with nonexclusivity

McVaghunter · 2017-12-05T11:22:01+00:00

Face it, you have no other options, rhus no abundance, now you're stuck here trying to find a way to make your only option work.
Also she fucks lots of guys and she does it without protection; she has STDs... Just so you know.

aguywholifts · 2017-12-05T10:53:30+00:00

Doesn't sound at all like oneitis to me. Oneitis is an obsession towards a woman and fantasy view of her being "the only one." You aren't obsessed with her. Sounds to me like you're just fed up with the hypocrisy of her comments regarding exclusivity.

I do think that you've probably "settled" in regards to being comfortable with this girl and you may feel that you don't need to be going out and having sex elsewhere. If this is something you're okay with, so be it. I don't really believe in advising you to find other sources of sex, because the way you frame the relationship and exclusivity to her. As far as she knows, you are seeing more women than just her.

While I agree that you should be focusing on her actions rather than her words, some of these are actions and I don't think they are things that should be ignored. She is seeking exclusive commitment from you. The fact that you aren't giving that to her is causing her to misbehave and challenge you in an effort to get you to behave in a way that you are exclusive to her.

quicklogaccount · 2017-12-05T11:23:16+00:00

The question is, what can be done about females and this lying behaviour? I mean shes obviously not LTR material and I already told her I wasnt looking for one. But is it best to just continue to ignore the whole situation? Of her pushing for more?

Usually the non exclusivity game is better for us, we're naturally polygamous while women are hypergamous, we enjoy it a lot more than them because we'll be happy fucking women beneath our "main" chick if they're still hot. But A-grade hoes see this game as having their cake and eating it too. So, basically brush it off and should she insist, hit her with "handling the talk". "I thought we had something nice going on but if it's not good for you..."
Always bear in mind:

1 - Remember she's hypergamous, you're either worst than her other guys for her, or she can easily ignore her bonds. TERRIBLE red flags for LTRs;
2 - If she's shaming you into commitment she sucks real, real bad. Women that might be LTR worthy act as such and ASK for it (in many fashions).

But do you think this could be some laziness/approach anxiety/fear of rejection or a partial oneitis for this girl?

It was like that to me. I wanted to enjoy gaming lots of different girls and fucking around but I just couldn't push myself into that mood having a pleasant and guaranteed lay on demand, in five months with this plate I banged only one chick besides her and approach anxiety was hell. I had to drop her to push myself and it was totally worth it man.
It's funny because there wasn't oneitis though. Just laziness and lack of will to tackle approach anxiety.

Son_of_Tzu · 2017-12-05T11:28:42+00:00

This should not come much as a surprise. Women push for commitment when they believe their charms are not enough to 'control' you.

At the end of the day, the sexual dynamic is a power dynamic. When the sex she offers does not make you submit, she changes strategy. Commitment makes her special, grants her more validation than her competitors. There really isnt much else to it.

You want my opinion ?

I always state that controlling behavior is a deal-breaker. You do you and i'll do the same. She can say whatever the hell she wants, hamsterd have to roll, but the moment she acts out of line is the time i'm out.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-12-05T09:46:41+00:00

Focus on her actions not her words. Let her trashtalk you know the truth. Good job on not giving commitment to lying bitches.

Pump n dump is what she deserves and nothing else.

The hunt is always on, resting and laziness is reserved for betas.

Imagine this, bitches are like groceries or Vitamines, consuming only one is unhealthy and will make you ill, a mix of many is healthy and makes you independent, if something is not available you still have the others to replace it.

MattyAnon · 2017-12-05T18:47:45+00:00

The question is, what can be done about females and this lying behaviour?

Nothing. Accept they are slutty and deal with it, no need to ask because they'll only lie.

Women POWER TALK. Accept it.

But is it best to just continue to ignore the whole situation? Of her pushing for more?

Read my sidebar article about handling "the talk". Let me know if it needs tweaking.

Is it just female nature, knowing all that ive learned about her, that all women will still push for more commitment in this situation and I should just accept that, brush it off?

It's female nature, but you should brush it off.

But do you think this could be some laziness/approach anxiety/fear of rejection or a partial oneitis for this girl?

yes

I tell myself I dont make moves on chicks often because I have this girl for that purpose (

self lie

but is this just laziness on my part? I do very much believe its because I dont need to work for it but maybe red pill can give me some insights and opinions.

lazy and fearful yes. you've already said you want more girls. then you say you don't bother "because I have one". so you're scared or lazy. Don't take it badly, we all fall into that trap.

Title	I need some answers on how to deal with nonexclusivity
Author	somethingrandom7465
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Date	December 5, 2017 9:36 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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