Going on first ever date

jb_trp · 2017-12-08T00:52:17+00:00

First, I wouldn't go to a restaurant for a first date off of an app, but too late to change that now. I always would go out for drinks. It's cheaper, takes less time (so you can leave shortly if it's not going well), and alcohol is a social lubricant.

Don't just talk on the phone with this girl to talk, but to make plans to meet. Ideally you meet within a few days, so things don't go stale.

Just have fun. Ask her about her interests. Make jokes. You can literally talk about anything: Common interests, Game of Thrones, books you've both read, your hobbies, places you've recently travelled, etc. Ideally, it's topics you're both interested in.

If the date goes well, tell her you had a great time and that she should call you later. And then wait for her to contact you. And arrange another date. Rinse and repeat. She wonders about you, reaches out, and you make dated where romance/sex can happen.

redpilldick · 2017-12-08T03:42:29+00:00

Do NOT think about having sex, hooking up with her, or anything like that; It will only pressure you further. Instead, look at it this way. I want your goal for the night to be having a fun time and surviving through your first date. Anything extra is bonus points for you. I suggest going to a bar and sitting next to her, making sure your legs/thighs are touching throughout. Touch her a bit as well when making jokes or emphasizing points. If you already committed to a restaurant, try to spin it so you go to the bar there. Likewise if she is expecting dinner, maybe get a small appetizer. When leaving, escort her out using your hand on the small of her back. If you live within walking distance of her place, offer to walk her home and lock arms together and escort her there. Give her a hug when outside her building and tell her to have a good night. When walking together I like to pause and say her name and she usually has a "?" expression on; this is where I like to go in for the kiss. Best of luck

PotatoWatt · 2017-12-08T01:27:55+00:00

First of all, dont forget about logistics. Plan ahead of the date where the final goal is your place or something relatable, you ge the point.

Kino, kino, kino. I cant tell you how many pussies I didnt fuck because I was too beta to escalate. I always didnt move a muscle and just acted like a friend all night, then I got rejected and felt regret about not acting up. Its better to get rejected for moving too quickly than for not moving at all.

Remember, silence is good to build sexual tension, use it. Eye contact. You will most likely get shit tested, amused mastery is the way to go imo.

I am still on my way to learning the ways of the chad like you, I am no slayer in any way, heck I am still a virgin , but this is the most solid advice I ever found here in trp and by the wrath of the gods, please escalate. Dont pussy out like I did and just escalate.

erasercannon · 2017-12-08T03:18:27+00:00

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topothebellcurve · 2017-12-08T04:29:08+00:00

Congrats! Agree with previous posts. Enjoy yourself. Let go of all expectations, and then even if it goes horribly sideways, at least you'll have a funny story to tell us when it's over. Let us know how it goes.

Title	Going on first ever date
Author	rorb10
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	December 8, 2017 12:12 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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