Areas of child support law that need to changed to make them more egalitarian - they are currently based on archiac gender role notions and have blatant areas of double standard

AAtvasshole · 2020-07-04T13:57:09+00:00

Calling feminist legislation archaic, love it

Diomil · 2020-07-04T15:25:27+00:00

But its deleted. What did it say?

mhandanna · 2020-07-05T14:52:52+00:00

This is one reason why feminist use toxic masculinty. Its nothing to do with actually caring about mens welfare. They use it as false flag so it looks like you care but avoids the real issues and money into mens issues or law change. For example, to reduce male suicide, doing proper research you'd realise a lot of it comes from divroces, that would mean you need to look at family law (look at the case below, is it any wonder why the man commmited suicide... just as any woman could do so to... if women were experiencing this in the rate that men were, female suicide would sky rocket, maybe even be higher if women couldnt see their children), or more resources for homeless men etc.... obviously feminsits dont want this to happen as it is a zero sum game. Hence something wishy washy

https://nationalpost.com/opinion/christie-blatchford-b-c-man-blamed-cruelty-of-family-court-battle-for-driving-him-to-suicide

Whaat a ludicrous system that has ""child" support at $10,000 dollars a month, REGARDLESS of your job? (So if something happens, he quits, loses job, changes job, fired, recession etc.) he still pays 10,000? And if he doesnt passport is taken and driving lisence taken.

“His bank accounts were locked, he lost his homes, his vehicle, his business. You emasculate a man and take away his ability to provide … he’s a human being. He has limits.”

The two had known one another as teenagers and reconnected in 2014; they married on Valentine’s Day the next year. Jeramey was completely honest with her: “He told me everything,” she said. “I knew what I was getting into.”

They were in court, for one thing or another, almost every month, Angie said. “Knowing you owe so much money, and they’re taking your passport and driver’s licence, your pension is ours … On top of that, seeing what it was doing to me, not seeing his daughters … he was in despair, an emasculated man in despair

He unsuccessfully had applied for an order varying the amount of child and spousal support he had to pay his former wife, a total of $6,500 a month. She in turn was seeking he be found in contempt of another order and fined an additional $10,000; the judge adjourned those issues.

Both those applications were successful, bringing his total child and spousal debt to about $8,000 a month, but then, in fairness, that woman is herself a family court lawyer.

Early on the morning of March 9, Jeramey apparently rigged his truck so that when he drove down an embankment at the end of Page Road in Abbotsford, B.C., his neck would break.

In a scrawled and bloody suicide note found in the truck, he wrote: “FAMILY LAW NEEDS REFORM. I recommend mandated lower costs and less reward for false claims of abuse. Parental Alienation is devastating. I loved my children as much as a husband and father could. I see no light. Recommend; an authority consistent during high conflict separations: It is exploited in family law.

“He had a hard life. He could not catch a break.”

Born into a Jehovah’s Witness family, he was kicked out when he was a teenager, lived with his grandmother and was basically cut off from everyone else in his family.

He was married the first time for almost eight years.

The woman accused him of assault, he was arrested, the charges eventually stayed. But, of course, he had to pay for a criminal lawyer to defend him.

Jeramey had a company that built cellphone towers and microwave dishes in B.C. and the north; the business dried up about the time of his divorce, when fibre optics took over.

In the end, he had declared bankruptcy, though the judge was sceptical that he really was bankrupt and imputed an income of $181,400 to him. He paid more than $330,000, Angela said, in legal fees.

He was in arrears, owed money to almost everyone.

B.C.’s Family Maintenance and Enforcement Program was chasing him, because while he always paid something in support, it wasn’t what the court had ordered, and FMEP was moving to take away his driver’s licence and passport for failing to meet his financial obligations, Angela said. His ex was going to get his pension, if and when he retired.

He hadn’t seen his daughters, now about eight and 10, for almost 11 months. They were, Angela said, completely alienated from him. He never got to see his son by the lawyer.

In October last year, he was jailed for non-payment of support and breaching court orders. This strapping man had never been in jail before and was terrified.

Angela knew he was in despair, but weeps that she didn’t realize the depths of it. “I just didn’t know,” she sobbed on the phone. “If he could have seen those girls, he could have handled all this …

Areas of child support law that need to changed to make them more egalitarian - they are currently based on archiac gender role notions and have blatant areas of double standard

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“His bank accounts were locked, he lost his homes, his vehicle, his business. You emasculate a man and take away his ability to provide … he’s a human being. He has limits.”

The two had known one another as teenagers and reconnected in 2014; they married on Valentine’s Day the next year. Jeramey was completely honest with her: “He told me everything,” she said. “I knew what I was getting into.”