How to act like a girl and not a guy because I used to be sucked in the feminist idea that women should chase careers and not love

FiveSleepingOwls · 2022-12-23T09:24:48+00:00

I can relate, because my personality is more disagreeable as well.

I know it sounds hard, but learn to "relax" and let things be. If you want to be taken care of, you have to give the guy a chance to solve the problem.

Jenneapolis · 2022-12-23T18:07:25+00:00

People on this group do not have one goal. You will see an array of different relationship styles and goals out of women who participate here. There are stay at home moms and there are career driven women here, there are various religions and non-religions, and even some folks into “alternative” lifestyles. This group discusses sexual strategy for women who believe male led relationships are the route they believe will help them reach their goals. What that means is that it’s still up to you to figure out what you want for your life, this group cannot dictate it for you.

Redlimetree · 2022-12-23T23:39:01+00:00

I use to be like that. I didn't think about the natural differences between men and women. I expected both parties in a relationship to do 50% of everything equally.

But I ended up finding out for myself a lot of the stuff RP theory mentions about gender differences.

I do think a lot of acting "manly" is trying to lead.

What has helped me is first the idea that everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses. In a relationship it makes sense for the person who has greater strength in and enjoys a particular task to be the one who does it. They can focus on their own responsibilities. They don't have to worry about the stuff that is the other person's responsibility, which is a HUGE benefit to reducing one's stress and workload. It's like a business, if you have 50 employees you don't have them all responsible for all the tasks. If you did they would just butt heads and it wouldn't be as efficient. You give people roles, and a good team accepts their team mates may do things slightly different then they would have done it. This idea isn't that radical.

The gender differences can be harder to accept. It definitely is a broad spectrum. And the whole nature vs nurture. Not every man is able to lead well. And to follow a man you need to believe it's the beneficial thing for you to do. I learnt this in a relationship where due to a huge life experience gap my partner naturally lead and I naturally followed, having given up that burden of trying to lead it made my life and relationship a lot easier and I could focus on the things I enjoyed.

What stopped me from career chasing was a highly demanding job that I was good at and paid really well but that I ultimately realised didn't bring me joy. I ended up relating to Jordan Peterson's example he uses of the highly paid female lawyers that the industry desperately wants to keep. These top lawyers rise to the top by competing with the other lawyers and working harder and harder which the women are definitely capable of doing. Eventually many of the women realise it doesn't bring them as much joy as other things in their life like being there for their kids.

I started to get in tune with what I actually enjoy in life. Surprise surprise it's the more feminine things. I started to notice men around me who enjoy doing the things that I don't enjoy, aka full on work weeks of solving problems after problems. I appreciate the differences now and I realised I don't need to "compete" with men especially in the feilds they have a natural advantage in. Learning about how testosterone affects dopamine and the drive to compete definitely helped me accept some gender differences. I also saw how being denied the opportunity to compete and succeed has a larger negative affect on many men.

HollyAcers · 2022-12-27T21:10:54+00:00

Men are easy creatures to be with but society has ingrained women's brains these days that women have to be men now which is a huge turnoff for men. If you were brainwashed into being a boss bitch Alpha girl by some overweight blue hair feminist, getting out of that should be your priority.

Men want a submissive (not a pushover), fit, feminine, wife material woman who is not going to bitch and whine at him. The easiest way to do this is give him a home he can be proud of, dress nice for him, ask him about his day and tell him that you are proud of him for doing XYZ, keep his stomach full with good home cooking and his balls empty with your inner slut that only he gets.

Most men are going through WAY more stress than women will ever know, our job is to do anything we can to make our men's lives easier and in turn they will give us the world. If you feel the need to be disagreeable or bitchy maybe you need to be alone and work on yourself first beforehand?

Ill-Ad7948 · 2022-12-25T05:55:57+00:00

How old are you?

I wasn’t into modern feminist ideology but my parents definitely projected their fears unto me.

As for what helped me to become more in tune with my femininity, it was learning about biblical femininity (Jasmine Theodora is one YouTuber). Then I stumbled across men talking about what it means to be a man/husband (Mark Driscoll, Dre Drexler, Hamza, The Dear Future Wifey Podcast, etc.). But once I started watching stuff like that I started seeing men talk about the problems their having with women and the male “self death” rate (Jordan Peterson). I decided to learn more about men from intelligent men.

1.) Learn about yourself, become the best version of you. 2.) Learn about men’s problems (what real men are, husband material men, what men want) 3.) Learn about biblical femininity and masculinity 4.) Learn to be objective (listen for facts that do not have holes, all information must make sense) 5.) APPLY YOUR KNOWLEDGE

Extension_Shake2725 · 2022-12-30T17:52:54+00:00

You can have both just don’t make one your personality 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Title: How to act like a girl and not a guy because I used to be sucked in the feminist idea that women should chase careers and not love

Full text: Is this group about women chasing love or going for love and their family? I really want to get some advice but I am actually confused by this group. I think part of my mental issues is I am a female acting manish. I feel that at times I want to look after both males and children like the provider, but I dont need to act like a man, since i am not even a man. Can you relate?

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Background_Local1685 · 2022-12-28T06:34:37+00:00

Acting like a guy what do you mean? Nothings wrong with career unless you legit have no time for ur husband/kids. I feel like the red pill gets extreme bc women that go for careers are more likely to be un agreeable rude and not wanting to help around house etc. If your rude aggressive most guys rather go for a nice simple submissive women bc it’s better. So if u only care about work then ur kids husband might not feel cared for but if you can figure it out figure it out. Theirs no answer and it’s not extreme like having career isn’t gonna make u bad wife /mom. But let’s say u chose to be a policewoman then well that might be bad bc how u gonna be their? So do whatever you want just be aware of the time it takes and ur attitude

Title	How to act like a girl and not a guy because I used to be sucked in the feminist idea that women should chase careers and not love
Author	Embarrassed_Cup2524
Upvotes	33
Comments	34
Date	December 23, 2022 9:02 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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