Im in a romatic realtionship with a girl...okay, you guessed that.

We saw each other couple of times, stayed at hers for netflix and sex. Shes texts me every day, does the borderline perverted stuff I want, offers to cook and clean and stuff...nothing to complain so far.

The only thing is, that she doesnt want me to stay the night and I always drove home middle of the night. Her reason is, that she is out of an longer relationship only recently and don't want to much "closeness"(?) and dont want to risk to fall in love because she need to do her own thing.

My approach was...well, I wasnt sure how to handle that in an alpha way, just demanding to stay or going "this or its the end for us" seemed a bit too bold to me. So my frist approach was to ask her to think about an compromise and that we should test it and she can then look how she feels. And let me add, of course I said that its the same for me, that I dont want a too much closeness(?), that I have things to accomplish and so on. (And this is actually the truth). We established to see each other max once a week.

Alright...I then got the my last and probably best idea to say "if you don't want the sleep over, come to my place and then you can drive home". Okay for her.

After thinking about it and considering that her actions count, not her words I strongly suspect that this is just a shit test and that the "I dont want a relationship" is also bs. Im afraid I did drift a bit in beta mode with the compromise and test how she feels thing. But I mean, how could I get her to let me stay without sounding like a faggot (even this sentence sounds so wrong)? It was hard, but I guess I managed it fine.

Today she texted me and I just couldnt keep my annoyance hidden.

Im a newb here, as you probably guessed. So let me tell you what I think to do now and feel free to make fun of me (no, help!)

I will/I need get back to the relaxed bantering texting style from before. How (in the fuck) should I do that when Im actually truly annoyed? I feel like I need to do it because I know I cant not afford to show her that Im annoyed by her shit test. I can also not not-text, she will know exactly what is up.

After like playing nothing has happend and Im so cool with her bs, I need to drop the comment "its only fair that you come to my place if you dont want to sleep over" to underline my last (I hope) alpha (enough) idea I had.

With her it appears to me it is extremly important to keep the frame, she is from russian decent, has a temper and what not. (What I aboslutely do not understand is how her beta ex boyfriends did this. I know them and her and it was always a riddle to me how they managed her and now its an even bigger riddle to me. Can it be that she likes both? A beta to kick around and a hard hand?)

Okay... Continue to text like nothing happend. Right? Underline the alpha-ish approach. Right?

Second thing is easy, I just drop the mentioned comment when the time comes.

First thing is hard. As I said, Im having a hard time hiding my annoyance. What do? I tried to devalue her in my head, I told me how good life can be w/o women in a sense of MGTOW, I tried...I dont remeber...this all helped a bit but what is the mindset here? What do you guys do to keep the cool? I read One Key Step to Not Giving a Fuck but I feel like I need something particulary for the woman Im engaging.