Just hurt yourself bro

This is what I've learned from 15 years of marriage: a woman wants a man to pay attention to her.

Back when I would let my wife go to bed while I stayed up playing video games, I rarely got any. It was a subject of tension between us. We would fight all the time. Wherein I was told something along the lines, "I just want you to be nice to me."

But that's not what she wanted at all. Because I tried. I would say sweet things to her, do stuff around the house, whatever. I would do the things I thought she wanted me to do. Basically suck up to her. And it never worked.

She really didn't want a nice guy. She was trying to tell me something different but we were having a communication breakdown. What she really needed from me was to put down whatever I had going on and be interested in her. She wants to feel special.

Example, here's a guy hitting on some total babes by falling off his skateboard, using the line "I think I just fell for you". Even tho it's a ridiculously intentional stunt, it works nearly every time. Why? Because dude was willing to make a fool of himself busting his ass just to get to talk to her.

Then here's a cringe non-chad having himself some moderate success using the same technique. He's intentionally being weird AF yet some of the girls still seem interested afterward. Their immediate reaction is always positive.

So what's the point my dude? Stop trying to figure out what you're supposed to say in favor of listening to what she's saying. Do some active listening and you can pick up on what she needs even when she doesn't know how to say it. Most importantly, she knows you're interested in her not just the hole between her legs.