I just finished watching two videos by Pop Culture Detective about sexual assault of men played for laughs in media - if you never seen it, I pretty much recommend it to you, as it touches some overlooked topics. Yet, I felt a little upset, when I watched the conclusion of the second video - the one that goes into scenes where male characters get sexually assaulted by female characters. This is sort of stretched trough entirety of it, but in the end guy says that (not quoting) jokes about men getting sexually assaulted by women are also jokes about women getting sexually assaulted by men. In other words, the way he puts to implies that... Assault of men and women are not getting treated seriously in equal measure.

Here is the punchline - what he doesn't even think to mention is that sexual assault of women by men is still treated much more seriously than sexual assault of men by women. It seems like he doesn't really acknowledge that.

Also, regarding the myth that "men always want to have sex" someone in the comment section wrote that this myth is actually more harmful for WOMEN than for men, because it justifies male rapists somehow.

And, of course, conclusion of 35 minutes long video essay looks like plain old "men can get raped by women, but it's still not that important", because the guy fails to provide any links to real life men's issues about being sexually assaulted, but doesn't fail to provide them for women... In the video that has a word "men" in it's headline.

Now I realize that this isn't the only case. I can't stress this enough - I understand that men's rights are human right's and I agree with it, but it hardly can be disputed that mainstream media is not able to discuss men's problems without mentioning women's -- it is able to do otherwise instead.

Men don't have their own gendered private spaces (excluding restrooms)? That's because women feel threated by them. Men are often victims of domestic abuse? Yeah, but women are victims of it nonetheless. Men tend to commit suicide more frequently? It only looks like that because there is a stigma for self-harm and suicide for women.

This is the picture. My problem is not that there are women's issues in this world - is that men's issues, unlike women's, are hardly ever exclusively addressed in mainstream media.

At least, you know, to my knowledge. Maybe I'm just yet another moron who doesn't understand it fully.