Did I do the right thing?

ChaddyMcChad · 2018-01-19T12:14:52+00:00

Yeah not everything is a test to test your frame in my opinion. If she’s sick, let her be, a simple « Alright, Hit me up when you feel better! » If she does you escalate, if not that’s not even an issue because you’re cultivating abundance with plate 2. Just don’t overthink it and live your life dude.

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-01-19T12:19:12+00:00

Confusion mean's it kind of hit you in the ego. If she's sick, she's sick. Not a reflection of you. Might have come off as butthurt to her so it's a turn off to contact you.

At the same time I feel like it was an excuse to test my frame and how I’d deal with sex refusal

Objectively, if you feel that way, it WAS a hit to your ego and I'd say she probably noticed.

At this point you have to lead. So it's your choice. Drop the plate. Check up on her as she's probably wondering if you even fucking care or whatever option C is for you.

That's probably why she isn't calling. You restricted comfort when she was ill; which is akin to abandonment to most women.

Ego's a bitch when you got to lead and need to see your actions and how they will play out with others. It's almost always going to screw you in the long run; but then that's how most women vet, giving you enough rope to hang yourself with.

FuckboyAWALT · 2018-01-19T13:44:42+00:00

You decide what’s right and wrong.

cappadocianhawk · 2018-01-19T12:20:39+00:00

Yeah if you've been nice to her and wished her a speedy recovery and got the fuck out it's fine. She's a plate, you don't owe her anything beyond basic human courtesy. Even though you're just using her for sex, she doesn't want to be reminded of that fact.

RAiderNat88 · 2018-01-19T18:23:06+00:00

can’t handle the mental drain of more than that at the minute being busy enough in my day to day life

How much time are you giving your plates? Word of advice, get more. You want an abundant mentality and you giving a shit about plate 1 being sick shows you do not. You don't have to hit them up all the time, dish out maintenance as needed and focus on bettering your life.

poochman · 2018-01-19T21:15:51+00:00

It's not a big deal. Ignore it and act like it didn't happen. Hit her up for sex when you want it (don't wait for her to text you), as you normally would.

McVaghunter · 2018-01-19T13:32:08+00:00

If you have any mental drain spinning only 2 plates then your SMV is not high enough. Your looks should be able to allow you to easily cold approach and get phone numbers every day, without wasting any extra time.

Title	Did I do the right thing?
Author	akara8
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	January 19, 2018 11:52 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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