I asked my wife for a divorce after 9 years because we have completely lost all shared interests. I love being active and adventurous and she does not. She is always tired and sad and won’t stay on any depression meds. She tells me I am selfish for wanting to leave.

I asked for a divorce 5 years ago for the same reason and we eventually got counseling and things got better for a while. But now we are right back to where we were.

She is very pretty and my friends and family tell me I am crazy, but she is very funny and upbeat in social situations. When we get home, she goes right to sad and tired.

I love her and want well for her but I am not in love with her anymore.

What do I do?