tl;dr: I agree with the notion that men nowadays are struggling hard, however I pin the blame on 13th century civilric code. Also I have an extremely androgynous view of the world.

I've always been fascinated by the redpill community and for a while I've lurked around red-pilled spaces and have taken a lot of lessons from there.

So I'm going to first estalish: As an arab who was raised by primarially by other woman arabs and as a result has a feministic view of the world. I would be lying if I said that this community is getting the effects wrong. All of you are getting the effects of something bigger causing them (i.e something in society is making sex harder to get for those who aren't hyper attractive, making men lonelier, causing men to harm themselves more, etc.)

But this is where my views differ from this community and why I believe that there could be some discussion here from someone who's had a unique view on life. I don't particularly think it's the fault of any one group of people. A lot of red-pillers point the blame towards woman but in my eyes... there really isn't a single demographic that can cause all of these issues. I mean look at the banning of abortion in southern states, this isn't something that just men supported there it had support from both men and women.

In my perspective, the struggles the modern-day man has was laid by chivalric code some 1000 years ago that everybody just sorta started working towards. Now this particular theory wasn't really instilled in me by my family (to be frank, I really don't interact with them all that often to begin with) but I think that had the chivilric codes of Great Britain and France never existed, modern society would look very different and probably have a lot more balance between men and women.

As a result, the general thing that someone of my background believes is that men today have a hard time succeeding in relational aspects of life because of how the ideal of knights never really went away and still permiates society as a whole. I do think men definitely struggle a lot (although, I would be lying if I said I think that the average man struggles more than the average woman. I mean I am an arab after all lol.) in today, certainly a lot more than in the past.

What's the solution to this? I don't know man, I don't particularly care too much about this sort of thing. One of the really nice benefits of my upbringing is I have a suuuuuuper androgynous view of the world. This is even reflected in my speech (just about all of my friends notice how I rarely use "he" or "she" and always use "they", it's not because I'm trying to be respectful or something, it's just what I prefer using probably because of how I view shit). I don't really think of masculine traits as being something discernable because there's definitely a lot of overlap between the traits and I think that traits on both sides work.

For example, being submissive is viewed as a feminine trait but in my eyes can very quickly become a masculine one. Like a submissive knight is considered to be the most honorable kind of knight. Or a soldier who submits to the requirements of their regimine to serve and protect their company and country is also masculine.

Another example might be how muscularity is viewed as a masculine trait. Thing is, girls who are muscular are also really fucking attractive. Like in my eyes, being really skinny just shows that you're unhealthy rather than feminine (granted, this could be caused by the fact that I myself struggle with being underweight at times).

This androgynous view of mine I think causes me to get closer to girls than a lot of other dudes because... well from my experiences women tend to like the same things that dudes do as long as you introduce them properly and vice versa. Like one of the girls I dated for a little bit I introduced to paintball because they saw my salt-gun and got them into paintball, likewise she got me into makeup for a bit and I still find that world fascinating (although I don't have enough time to get into the nitty gritty nor am I willing to spend all that money lol).

But yeah, feel free to discuss some things about this viewpoint, whether you agree, disagree, why, if you think that more people should be raised this way, shouldn't be, etc.