I'm hoping for some insight on making better decisions. The divorce has been finalized for a couple months now and everything was split 50/50. No kids. I'm doing okay, moved to a new city, got a better job, and have been creating a social circle along with exercising regularly. I'm 29 and the marriage was only 3.5 years, 6 year relationship. My issue seems to be that I'm scared of intamacy now. Also I've been drinking too much socially so I'm trying to cut that out. I know that meditation and therepy along with rekindling my passions are things I should be doing but instead I'm seeking dopemine in other areas. I have a different work culture at a high end restaurant and live in a hippy compound so people tend to fraternize quite often in those scenes and it's easy to get sucked into the drama. I've been lucky enough to get a lot of attention from women lately. However when it comes to anything more I know I'm not ready. It's like I'm hungry for the attention and I feel like I'm using it as a means to repress the trauma from my failed marriage rather than better myself emotionally.