Is this reasonable for me to say no to a sexual act? It was for my own well-being

burner4567890 · 2023-10-15T22:35:51+00:00

i believe you had a normal reaction to being lied to. it erodes trust and you didn’t trust him enough in that moment to be intimate. also his feelings towards you saying no are his own to deal with. i know RPW advocates for not turning our men down but this context is different imo. i also think you upheld your boundaries pretty well and stayed true to yourself by not being intimate with him at that moment bc you mentally couldn’t within good reason, that’s admirable. my advice would be try to figure out why you feel guilty for putting you first?

christinaaamariaaa · 2023-10-15T22:25:27+00:00

You did nothing wrong. The guy sounds like a real jerk. You’re not going to be in the mood all the time, specifically after being lied to. He should have respected that.

AutoModerator · 2023-10-15T22:18:51+00:00

Title: Is this reasonable for me to say no to a sexual act? It was for my own well-being

Full text: I said no to doing a sexual act because I was not prepared emotionally/mentally to take it on, and if I did I would have been upset with myself

My partner at the time lied to me about something then apologised (he didn't delete a dating app when I specifically said that needs to be done in order to be together)

He wanted a hand job and I didn't want to, I wasn't prepared mentally after being lied to I have satisfied him 98% of the time and have made him feel special, and this was one of the few times I didn't want to for my own well-being and safety

He said that I was punishing him but I wasn't at all! I wasn't up for it emotionally and prepared to be doing that

He then left and I was in tears thinking why was this happening?

(We are no longer together)

How do I gain my self respect? How should one look at this situation? What advice can you give me?

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Direct-Ad-5394 · 2023-10-16T00:09:21+00:00

He leave you because you don't want to masturbate him??

Title	Is this reasonable for me to say no to a sexual act? It was for my own well-being
Author	Mother_Jury_4890
Upvotes	8
Comments	5
Date	October 15, 2023 10:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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