Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?

Noressa · 2024-01-04T20:31:29+00:00

Any time you implement changes, you should be prepared to fail. If you're noticing where you are struggling, try to see if you can put in a failsafe or gasket instead. Things like take a deep breath and then excuse yourself. Write it out instead, then review it, then figure the way you actually want to present it. This way you're working through the feelings beforehand and have a productive way to try to figure things out, especially if it was a prolonged buildup.

You're going to have points where you fall back. The thing to do is recognize where you were and figure out how to be better the next time. Change is hard, but if you aren't the person you want to be, it's worth it.

RedPillDad · 2024-01-04T23:46:41+00:00

OP, you're being hard on yourself for a brief lapse. 10 steps forward and 1 back is a pretty good start for a significant change. The good news is you recognized where you stumbled and why.

Seems you resorted to a passive-aggressive approach to bring hubby peace. How can you become the peace instead of making it an act for his benefit? What can he do for you to bring you more peace and contentment?

Early in our marriages I found myself annoyed when my wife would fish for compliments. It dawned on me that she was just telling me what she needed to hear from me to make her feel appreciated for her efforts. I felt honored instead of irritated, honored that my support meant so much to her.

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Title: Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?

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Full text: I've discovered RPW in the past couple of months and I've been working on implementing it with mixed results. I've done much better than I have before with it, but I am still having points where I'm a shrew like my mother was before I catch myself. It came to a head last night when I held in my feelings to long and blew up at him, disrespecting him.

I'm feeling discouraged and am wondering if it's normal to not succeed at implementing RPW tools at first.

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Hang_your_halo · 2024-01-07T16:13:33+00:00

If you’re already good at it, then you don’t need the tools. I think another tool is learning to apologize. Apologies show that you respect the other person and that’s what men want.

rightfullyso6744 · 2024-01-04T20:10:45+00:00

Are there certain tools that you’re struggling with more than others?

Title	Is it normal to struggle at implementing RPW tools?
Author	JustAnotherBoymoder
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	January 4, 2024 7:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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