(Tried to post to Unpopular Opinion but those philistines blocked it. I don't think Incel ideology is very productive but I don't think it is opposed for reasons people really profess. I think they are easy targets that feed social Darwinist drive. I think attacking "incels" is anti-social behavior and people who attack "incels" need therapy.)

The "incel" is an easy target, like the nerd or special needs person in highschool. Many of them are volcels and quite openly voice that they are not pursuing women because they have standards. However, they become maligned, posthumously as "incels" because women and their male supporters have to have the final judgement on all things (in order to secure their social system, they must keep cognitive dissonance.)

Meanwhile, the reason "incels" are so attacked is that the man who can't or doesn't have sex is seen as a threat.

(a) because of bifurcated sexualization of men ie men must either be bad boys or emotional eunuchs, women are taught that it is okay to never grow up and deal with the fact that attraction MUST be a rational and not emotional/hormonal decision

(b) "incels" cannot be coerced to go along with a political agenda with the typical quid pro quo exchange

(c) "incels" are seen as having authentic, inner-directed beliefs and their lack of cynicism towards their standards is seen as a threat to egos of women and the men who debase their standards to get laid

(d) "incels" do not accept the present social mores of sexuality which tells us that sexual identity is one of the most central and important things to adult life. It scares people with modern sexual outlook that these people do not have "sexual choice." To the modern sexual outlook, to be deprived of sexual choice is a human rights violation. For some, they realized they were homosexual after they could not find a partner of opposite sex. So those with the modern sexual outlook must find ways to blame "incels" for their lack of choice. This is why the issue is so important to immediately bring up and shame someone for being an incel. If you have been deprived of "sexual choice" (ie a human right) you must be the most detestable kind of person that deserves it (so says the modern sexual outlook.)

(e) the people who attack "incels" are closet or open social Darwinians who believe that they must grab ahold of and outwardly profess agendas and mores that will advance their own positions. Under different circumstances they would probably be God-fearing, neighbor-fearing, fellow-parishioner fearing Christians (because that would advance their position in society) but because they were born into this century, they are "incel"-haters. They implicitly believe (many subconsciously) that like genetics, ideas adapt (as opposed to ideas being real, in the Platonic sense, ideas are rather linguistic biases) and the only the fittest ideas survive. Therefore, the "incel," earns hatred for both being a man who can neither procreate and in addition who has no sympathy culturally, who's existence cannot be justified with "old-fashioned", extinct ideas--ideas dominated by the triumphant modern sexual outlook "meme." The hatred of the "incel" on the social Darwinian basis is double-fold and that is the most important distinction. He is hated both in his incapacity to reproduce and for the entire associational concept map of incel ideology is deemed as the inferior, extinct, nonadaptive behavior/ideas which more left-leaning (supposedly genetically superior men) have shed and evolved from.

The issue is that "incel" focus only underlines that a man's worth is directly related to his reproductive capacity or his capacity to simulate the reproductive act. It shows that sexless men must be straw manned into an image of dehumanized oppressors in order to justify why there are so many sexless men today in a world where "sexual choice" and "sexual freedom" are now central to human rights discussions (people are now more "sexually free," but straight white men now have less sexual choice. Ergo, it must be their fault otherwise maybe we in the modern sexual outlook would feel bad.)