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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, I think that if you do meet up it will have set some expectations. Though, I don't ever sext and stuff before meeting with a guy on a date. I spend time online for fun and to relax at home. When I want to hookup or go on dates, I keep that in real life because it makes it more exciting. Also, it builds more anticipation. Just some thoughts. Thanks!
[–]bcool_returns 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Things sound promising to me. Why can't you meet sooner? In my experience, sexting before you've had sex before, particularly when there's a long gap before meeting, does not lead to good outcomes. Sure, in the moment she enjoys it. But you're giving away the game and creating a bunch of expectation where you can trigger buyer's remorse. Given the choice between talking about sex and actually having sex, I'll choose the latter all day every day. Here's an example of things going wrong when you go your route. (https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/xd0q99/met_with_intention_to_have_sex_now_she_lets_me/io9d3hw/).
So here's what I would do. First, I would try to meet tomorrow or Thursday instead of over the weekend. Too many things can go wrong before then. Secondly, I would not initiate any more overt sexting. You guys have made your point, sex is on the table. Nuff said. You likely don't even need to be texting her as often as you are. And if she initiates more sexy talk, I'd receive it but then move on from it. The best sexting actually isn't all about overt sexuality anyway. It's about mixing in sexuality with humor, off the wall roleplays and banter and so on. Just like sex itself, the guy who jackhammers 24/7 is a bad bed partner. A guy who mixes it up, knows how to apply pressure and then release it is unforgettable.
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[–]bcool_returns 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get it, man. Try to relax, though. Everyone was a virgin at some point. The only way you start changing your fate is getting out there, experimenting, taking Ls, getting Ws, and slowly but surely changing your mind about yourself.
As for nuts and bolts of this weekend, like I told the other guy, it's possible that the date could just start at your place, given all that's happened. But even if it starts at a bar, the key is to be fun and chill. Grab a drink. Have normal conversation mixed with some flirtation. Make sure you sit next to her and engage in some touch based on the vibe. Maybe from there you talk about watching a movie or grabbing a drink some place quieter. Then you close out and head out. It's that simple.
[–]Contango6969 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No it doesn’t really change anything. She has kind of tipped her hand that she’s dtf but you probably shouldn’t change your course of action
[–]Ambitious-Ice2357 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t overthink it. Let the date play out and see what happens.
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