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Allee_x · 2022-09-10T23:45:50+00:00

Dos and donts: - don't make your texts too long, - don't use to many emojis, - don't double text, - don't invest more than her, - do use statements rather than questions, - don't ask only about her, share parts of your life too (dhvs), - don't be her text buddy, instead escalate your messaging towards a date (follow formula below).

Formula: - if she answers positively to your messaging, escalate towards a date, - if she answers neutrally, give more value to the conversation (dhv), - if she answers negatively, back off (do not escalate), don't be butthurt, reframe it or make it light and simple, - if she doesn't respond, first wait for a while, then give more value to the conversation (dhv), and if it doesn't work - playfully call her out ("thinking too hard, I see" etc.).

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-11T03:18:45+00:00

Hey dude texting and phone calls are ONLY to set up dates and NOT for chatting. When calling, do it for less then 15 minutes. Set a date and hang up. If you text then ask to meet with in 3-5 text replies then stop. When in the date let her talk 80% or the time and you talk 20%. Just keep asking questions. The point is "Shut up and don't talk them out of liking you"

futuremo · 2022-09-10T22:48:26+00:00

I promise you don't need to have a "good chat" over text to get a first date. If you met in person, most of the legwork should already be done.

At that point you just need a couple texts to "re-break the ice", you can ask how their week's been, etc. Then you ask them out. The texts shouldn't need to be super interesting.

If you're talking about dating apps, that's a different ball game

blubbercup · 2022-09-10T18:35:55+00:00

Texting or online messaging should be to setup dates and that’s it. If you continue to go on dates and she starts messaging you throughout the day that’s a different story, but until then keep it simple and be straight forward with the date arrangements.

“Are you free Thursday night? I was thinking we could grab some drinks at _________ around 7pm” etc etc.

zapadz · 2022-09-10T19:25:01+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gANvvAD-3eM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OZebLs6v7o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oLNXJqSRyU

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-09-10T22:09:39+00:00

You should start by reading books on conversation skills. There are literally hundreds of ways of speaking and communicating with other people, like:

Using sarcasm, humor, exaggerations, misinterpretation, assumptions, absurd responses, open ended questions, provocations, observations, story telling, anecdote sharing, imitations, inside jokes, playful accusations, teasing, flirting, pick up lines, conversational role games, fallacies, emotional speech, logical speech,… etc

You can read about some of this in books like this one

2022-09-10T19:19:56+00:00

Lol. Still in the mindset of "I need to impress this girl to make her like me and give me her sex".

iceking123 · 2022-09-10T20:40:18+00:00

I usually tell them to come through to my house and watch TikTok compilations with me. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t. And I’m cool with that.

Maxx_Darkglare · 2022-09-10T21:35:12+00:00

Talk about music and shows. That works and it’s a hook to get an easy date

Inevitable_travai · 2022-09-11T08:52:24+00:00

I feel texting is so childish, I used to text a lot when I'm in university while living in mom's basement, not anymore, don't waste your time by giving her too much attention, if she expects to be a good texter, move on, someone who is serious wants you to be in person. Setup dates enjoy life. Your text should be plain and simple don't go extra miles to impress anyone.. Goodluck.

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