Do you tell a potential fwb that you don't want a relationship or does it happen naturally?

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mischavand · 2022-09-05T13:48:13+00:00

Its a natural act .. for example,if you and her go out on dates and at the end of every date you guys end up having sex. Well. if you are a god in bed and she enjoys having sex with you after every date she may say “we’ve been dating and having sex for a couple months so does this make us a couple?” then thats your opportunity to say “well im not looking for anything serious right now, i prefer to keep things as it is now on a casual level if thats ok with you?” and its either gonna be yay or nay ..

Op the reason why she says she doesn’t know what she wants is because shes isn’t sure if she should fuck you or not .. because if she does the deed with you and your terrible at sex then she’ll have regrets .. but if she does has sex with you and you end up being a god in bed then it puts her in position to decide whether she’ll want you as a bf or a casual hook up .. thus she doesnt know what she wants ..

123throwaway56789fe · 2022-09-05T16:18:26+00:00

If you're asking because you have the impression she wants more than casual then ask her what she's looking for or tell her you're only available for something casual.

When having conversations like that, be direct. Don't assume implying you're really busy will tell her you don't want a relationship, for example, because if she likes you she won't get it.

Being transparent will help to prevent her from feeling used. That means be consistent with words and actions. Don't act like a boyfriend if you don't want to be one- so no dates where you're paying, don't offer emotional support, don't introduce her to your friends, don't say emotional things like you like or miss her etc (just keep the conversation shallow and sexual).

Basically, try not to give off signals that would indicate an investment. That shouldn't be too hard since you don't seem romantically interested in her anyway. If you couple that with a direct conversation you've done everything you can to avoid making her feeling used.

I think it's really great you've thought about the other person in this situation and I hope my comment helps!

Confidenceisbetter · 2022-09-05T16:48:00+00:00

I started dating a guy once and i really started liking him. Didn’t want to jump into anything because i’m not the type to rush but he only told he was absolutely not looking for anything serious right before we were about to have sex. By that time i was already kind of invested in him and i was still a bit naive so i went along with it anyway. Looking back i feel like it was a dick move on his part to meet me so often and not say anything. So if you’re set on being casual tell that person straight awayand don’t potentially waste each others time.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-09-05T16:23:09+00:00

There’s a blur between don’t tell and let it happen.

I believe the best word here is Communicate.

And you can tell it in many ways possible.

Bandit_Beamish · 2022-09-05T18:51:05+00:00

Bruh you don't do relationship speak, EVERRRR, even if you want to be her boyfriend. Your job is to pursue and her job is to ask for the relationship. Just keep having fun until she brings it up. Then you can say "I'm not too interested in a relationship right now but I'm open to the possibility"

2022-09-05T20:19:52+00:00

You guys get fwb?

Title	Do you tell a potential fwb that you don't want a relationship or does it happen naturally?
Author	mischavand
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	September 5, 2022 12:59 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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